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Where are da pics?

DreadedWave posted...

Cleo_II posted...

*streaks through topic naked*

Me too;

Hawt

*streaks through topic naked*

People who purposely speed up and block me when I want to change lanes

People who drive slower than the speed limit

When the car in front of me on the freeway randomly hits their breaks every so often, when there's no one in front of them

Most people are raised in it and it's a cult that does a good job of keeping its members uneducated and segregated from society. They also shun anyone who leaves the cult, even their own family members. It's pretty much brainwashing 101.

They're insecure and unhappy with themselves.

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Are these student loans or CC debt?

30K is a lot. Definitely a good idea to clear debt before marriage. And if she has bad spending habits, then you're better off not marrying at all. Have you worked out a plan with her to pay off the debt?

It was a very long time ago, but about $900 for a pair of Louboutins.

Drink. Eat cake. Get laid.

Not necessarily in that order.

"Sometime soon" means she's blowing you off. Sorry.

I think it's disgusting.

MM is one of the best games of all times. The time limit is what made the game so unique.

I think your reaction was immature TC. Best thing would have been to say you weren't interested and block him.

Guys make advances at girls, way more than the other way around. They aren't always good at it but at least they try and put themselves out there. No need to make them feel like shit when you aren't into them.

Obviously his reaction after was trash so he's not some victim. I just think you should try handling these things better moving forward.

Surprised they got leaked but I'd shrug it off. I'm not ashamed of my body.

My nose has a hump and I hate it. Pretty sure it's not natural either. I plan on having surgery in a year or two to correct it.

I always laugh when Muslims complain about intolerance in western countries, when Muslim majority countries are the most intolerant in the world and they don't do shit about it. They have no interest in fighting for the rights of others, but expect others to fight for theirs.

I love the positivity hubs. Need more of that around here :)

Good luck vegy.

Vegy posted...

Cleo_II posted...

Well our flight was delayed several hours but we finally got out of Miami. Unfortunately our connecting flight was canceled and we're stuck in NYC for the night. A bunch of flights got canceled. Our airline said it was Irma related.

But I'm glad we got out. Hope Irma never hits Florida for your sake vegs.

you forgot me ;(



i hope it misses us too doe, like mathew

But vegy, I waited for hours for you. You must have been too busy PMing other CEgals :(

When we were checking in to our Delta flights out of Miami, they were asking for volunteers because of overbooking. I'm guessing they didn't manage to get any volunteers though, because then the flight was delayed for hours due to "bad weather". Even though the weather was perfect and there was another airline leaving at the exact time and going to the same destination, and there was no delay for them. A lot of people had to find different flights to make their connections and then suddenly the delay was shortened. No more volunteer issue and they don't have to pay squat to people who are inconvenienced.

Airlines are scum.

Well our flight was delayed several hours but we finally got out of Miami. Unfortunately our connecting flight was canceled and we're stuck in NYC for the night. A bunch of flights got canceled. Our airline said it was Irma related.

But I'm glad we got out. Hope Irma never hits Florida for your sake vegs.

MegaTech posted...

Cleo and I are already Gfaqs hitched

Yup. MegaTech is my CEhubs <3

I already do. I have zero reason not to.

ssj3vegeta2 posted...

Yes save me

I'm coming to get you! I'll poke some holes in the carry on. You should be good.

Do you live in FL vegy??

I'll smuggle you in my carry on.

I'm really glad we leave Miami today...

Boring movie with a boring twist (which I figured out). I love sci-fi movies but that one was very disappointing.

Bullet_Wing posted...

Cleo_II posted...

Pitbuller_26 posted...

Cleo_II posted...

Let's say someone steals a car who then gives it to their kid, without telling them it was stolen. The kid drives it around unknowingly. Would the car not get repossessed once discovered it's stolen? Or would the kid be given a break because their parent was the thief, and get to keep the car?

The law is the law.

This is a ridiculous analogy.

Except, it's not.

It is, because they stole a car, hurting the owner. These kids did nothing except maybe make a life for themselves. Some are highly skilled and making great contributions to America.

They have taken work and education opportunities from rightful citizens and residents though.

Pitbuller_26 posted...

Cleo_II posted...

Let's say someone steals a car who then gives it to their kid, without telling them it was stolen. The kid drives it around unknowingly. Would the car not get repossessed once discovered it's stolen? Or would the kid be given a break because their parent was the thief, and get to keep the car?

The law is the law.

This is a ridiculous analogy.

Except, it's not.

Let's say someone steals a car who then gives it to their kid, without telling them it was stolen. The kid drives it around unknowingly. Would the car not get repossessed once discovered it's stolen? Or would the kid be given a break because their parent was the thief, and get to keep the car?

The law is the law.

KILBOTz posted...

I wasn't reading this as the financial stress is the biggest issue, more that her husband isn't putting in the effort in his career or his relationship as the biggest issue, that the financial stress is a result in that and she feels like she is the one fighting for both of them.

Thank you for understanding :)

TommyG663513 posted...

EyeWontBeFooled posted...

I have no ability to empathize with you in any way, as you make at least six times more than I do, just by yourself. All I can say is: Best of luck, and I hope things get better for you two.

I agree with this, but to a lesser degree.

Be thankful you make six figures and are able to afford your mortgage payments. A lot of us are in significantly worse financial positions than you are, but manage to worry less.

Sometimes the problem is people just lacking gratitude about their situations.

I mean, there is certainly more to it than that and you've done a good job outlining the various issues you are dealing with, but it is very hard to hear someone who makes six figures complaining about financial issues.

Gotcha, losing half your income only matters when you make less money.

Where we're from, a 100k salary is not that much. Median house prices are over 600k.

Anyway, I'm not asking for anyone's sympathy. Just needed to vent about stuff.

DreadedWave posted...

I live in the middle of nowhere. There's like religious and anti-abortion signs everywhere it's kind of intimidating

Wow. I've never seen anything like that. It's really hard for me to imagine.

You should probably stop getting in the car with her.

JustMyOpinion posted...

Cleo_II posted...

leverageblargh posted...

Do you think your marriage is likely to end in a divorce

I dunno. Honestly, we were already sort of on the verge of divorce before this, because of some other stuff. He was supposed to focus on repairing our marriage and hasn't at all. I've asked him to just schedule a marriage counseling session just to prove he wants to work on us. That was months ago. I remind him every now and then and he says he'll do it and never does. I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt it's because of the job situation.

It doesn't take months to schedule the appointment. I think that tells you where his priorities are.

Yeah... I realize :(

leverageblargh posted...

Do you think your marriage is likely to end in a divorce

I dunno. Honestly, we were already sort of on the verge of divorce before this, because of some other stuff. He was supposed to focus on repairing our marriage and hasn't at all. I've asked him to just schedule a marriage counseling session just to prove he wants to work on us. That was months ago. I remind him every now and then and he says he'll do it and never does. I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt it's because of the job situation.

Ruvan22 posted...

Cleo_II posted...

leverageblargh posted...

Is he the kind of person that likes honest conversations about how both you and him feel about stuff

Not really. He will typically just ignore me and stare at his computer screen when I try to talk to him.

About this topic? Or any serious/difficult topic?

About anything related to my feels in general.

But with this he's been more open. Just very defensive whenever I point out how he's making the situation worse by not being more agreeable with them.

leverageblargh posted...

Is he the kind of person that likes honest conversations about how both you and him feel about stuff

Not really. He will typically just ignore me and stare at his computer screen when I try to talk to him.

Well, we are leaving for vacation tomorrow and he left work without getting fired. Good enough for now lol. We were very worried it would happen today so they'd avoid paying for the time off.

Borrow someone's book or find a group doing the assignment together.

DreadedWave posted...

Cleo_II posted...

Only if it was MMF. I'd never do FFM.

Any particular reason?

I don't have any sexual attraction to women and wouldn't like seeing my guy with another girl.

I admit it's hypocritical :)

Only if it was MMF. I'd never do FFM.

TommyG663513 posted...

Bad jobs can be downright traumatic. It doesn't sound like your SO did everything he could do to make it work, but that stuff can be pretty difficult.

IDK, you just come off like you are filled with resentment towards him over the worry you are going through. You sure have some justification to be worried and have some resentment, but I would think you care more about your relationship than money though of course you can't entirely separate the two.

I'm just saying, but I've been in positions where it's hard to find a job where you are respected and appreciated. I've also had to swallow my pride and accept crappy jobs for years. I mean, yeah you do need the money to survive and all that, but there is very much a personal cost to it.

I also don't think your SOs job would have been secured nor lost by his response to an offer for a beer. If that was really that big of a deal to his employer then that says a lot more about them. I understand office politics are real, but it gets to a point where that just becomes downright petty.

I do resent him to an extent. But it's not only because of this. There's more that's unrelated, but I'd rather not post it here.

Sad_Face posted...

KhlavicLanguage posted...

KiwiTerraRizing posted...

If you can't make it work on 6 figures you spend too much money.

not everyone lives in boomerville, ohio

TC already admitted to making a number of big investments; the house and cars. She's worried specifically about maintaining the house.

The cars weren't big investments. The first is a 2002 that he bought new and paid off years ago. It has 200k miles and it still drives great. The other is a used car he paid for in cash. As a backup for when the other eventually falls apart. It was great value when he bought it.

The house was a big purchase. We saved for years to buy it. Other than that, we're pretty frugal with spending. We pay credit cards in full every month. We have savings.

Anyway, we talked more about our options yesterday and we should be fine it just won't be easy. It's really the thought of him being unemployed for another year that worries me. He was super depressed then too.

NonDairyMiltank posted...

stand by your man

being angry at him won't help him get another job
if there's tension between you two...during the worst possible times...it's going to push him to make worse decisions
you mad, but he needs support right now not another person dumpin on him
that's what you would want him to do if roles were switched, i don't even have to ask, i know you do
he's half your income right? then helpin him find another job is a sound investment for both of you

you sound like you don't wanna be the breadwinner
well then honey you gotta help his ass cause that can often be a tough expectation to meet in this decade
little things like reviewing his resumes, applications, references
offer to do mock interviews with him or find someone familiar with the position to do it
don't you do stuff like that when you applying some place?
why not help or find someone to help him with it? even if he doesn't want it

if you just cross your arms and say "that's all his responsibility", then you're not maximizing your odds of him finding a better employment (an investment that affects both of you)

you said you been in this situation before with him
okay then look at what did NOT work and do things different
resentment ain't gonna pay them bills

What's with all the weird assumptions?

I've been the bread winner before and I'm prepared to do it again. I'm worried about how long it will take to find something else. We won't be able to keep our house on just my salary alone. I live in a city where it's extremely difficult to own a home on one income alone.

And I've already helped with his resume. Several times. As well as interview prepping. I've sent him several links to open positions he could apply to as well. He interviews very well (I've listened to phone interviews). Things don't work out for some reason or another.

Lmao. So true.

That's when you know I've had a really shit day.

What about you all?

PiOverlord posted...

Hey, I am sorry to hear. If you ever need to let your emotions out, but don't trust CE, just shoot me a pm.

I get it, life can be great with periods of just great, but life can pile up one bad thing with another at other periods too.

Thanks that's very kind of you.

MegaTech posted...

Depending on the certs they will definitely be worth it. Getting in a company that will help you improve is the right idea too. I need to make the same moves as he does tbh.

There isn't a way to call the insurance company to possibly, i don't know what you'd say, but at least some kind of compromise? Maybe see how long you'd have to wait.

I know you offered to take me out for a steak but I think you two are due for a couple. My treat : )

Well it should be about 5-6 physical therapy sessions. If I do 2 a week, then we're looking at 3 weeks there. I'm out of town next week, so it's more like another month before I get relief. It sucks because I'm basically struggling to get out of bed every morning.

And you are too sweet ;)

As if things couldn't get worse. I got a call from the dr. I was supposed to get a nerve block for an extremely painful condition I have but my insurance blocked it. I've been in chronic pain for months and I was looking forward to relief. They want me to try additional physical therapy first.

I'm gonna go home and cry now.