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DeepFriedSquid posted...

Thank you I appreciate that!

It's okay, it's not like I hate her for it, I don't think it's intentional. It just makes me feel less like wanting to share, which leads to me feeling lonely

Yeah same here.

Which is dangerous, I'm reading a relationship book and it specifically calls out this behavior. It's not being content in your situation, it's avoiding/retreating. That kind of mentality can spread like a virus.

That being said, some negative behavior from your partner is fine, sometimes you do have to accept that your expectations are unreasonable. If I asked my partner to organize the items in the fridge in alphabetical order that would be ridiculous. However sharing your feelings and expecting genuine support is totally justified

Yeah sorry youre dealing with that. I think you should talk to her about it and nip it in the bud.

Pretty much my husband every time. I just stopped trying to share

I dont love it but I dont hate it and I make enough money that I can deal with that just fine.

The video is dumb and this topic is dumber

Kakapo posted...

Boundaries are important for kids, socially as much as to make your own lives easier. My kids are very bright and have ridiculous amounts of energy. If we didnt establish firm, consistent boundaries and logical, proportionate consequences with them, it would be doing them a disservice later in life.

Absolutely. Its crazy to see so many parents that let their kids walk all over them. The whole gentle parenting fad is very harmful as it usually just means they never say no or ever establish boundaries. Its not that kids are less intelligent, just more lazy parents.

Kamen_Rider_Blade posted...

@Cleo_II
Any thoughts on this Netflix documentary?

It is inaccurate and the history of my country is often misappropriated, dramatized or sensationalized. Usually as a cash grab but also rooted in racism.

I dont know what you mean by coherent sentences but toddlers do speak in a funny way and thats very normal

My daughter turns 2 in a little over a week. We actually think she might be more intelligent than both of us. Shes very advanced.

• Can speak 4-5 word sentences. Yesterday said her first 6 word sentence
• Can say over 300 words (I stopped counting)
• Knows all colors including black, brown and white
• Can count to 20
• Knows basic and complex shapes: circle, triangle, square, star, heart, oval and even octagon
• Hit all her physical milestones early, leading to her walking at 10 months
• Is learning to count objects. She can do 2-3 objects but for more will always be a number off or so (like shell count 10 when there are 9, etc)

We dont really limit screen time because we think thats overblown. But we do take time to sit with her and read books and teach her stuff all the time. Her mind is a little sponge. And we dont let her walk over us. A lot of people do gentle parenting which is just passive parenting. We are more authoritative (but or course never tell and no spanking)

I was a few weeks away from 36 when I had my daughter

Some of you need to take vacations, wtf.

I have unlimited PTO and can take off whenever I want. I took this Thursday and Friday off with almost no notice and no one batted an eye

Thank you!!

Its so nice to get recognition here. Ive built a bit of a name for myself over the years so I ended up knowing a lot of people at this company who all messaged me to say they were so excited I joined. And others I didnt know but they have been following me and welcomed me. Ive worked on my brand for a long time and its starting to pay off. I still have hopes that I can go independent one day. But the market right now is too terrible.

TheGoldenEel posted...

Congrats! Glad it worked for you

Ive been at my new job for two weeks and its better in every way from my previous one which, while not a start-up, was a small 75 person place that was kind of insular and didnt seem to have a positive outlook

Im so glad youre enjoying your new job as well! Yeah smaller companies mean less layers. If you have any issues with someone or any particular policy, you will feel very exposed to bring anything up. At the startup I was at, my boss was toxic but my boss was the VP and the only people above her were the company co-founders. The company I joined is a much larger company, around 10k.

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Nah Im not to worried about it. Maybe help sourcing candidates but it cant negotiate salary for someone, or pick up on social behaviors in an interview, etc. It wont replace the initial call with a human.

And thanks everyone. It is really nice to work somewhere Im excited about for a change. Its been a few years since I felt this way. Ive been getting a lot of recognition too.

Only thing is Im flooded by messages every day from people who are laid off. Its depressing. There is little I can do to help like 99% of them.

Started a few months ago after having a horrible experience at a startup. I have been really loving my role and team. Its seriously a miracle that I even got the job in this market. Thousands of recruiters have been laid off in the last few months. A friend of mine has been unemployed for 2 months and jobs are so scarce and get thousands of applicants. Its all about who you know who can get you an interview. The job I got had over 1000 applicants but I was lucky enough to have former colleagues who referred me. I still had to do like 6 hours of interviews to get it though.

I still have a lot of anxiety around job security. Every day my feed just has more posts from recruiters that have been let go. Which means more people applying to a small amount of jobs. I look at job postings to help my friend out (Ill message anyone I know at companies that are hiring) and there are so few or they pay a fraction of what I make. So Im just making sure I stay on top of my game just in case. But its been scary.

electricbugs2 posted...

The latter Like I said I am aggressively on Tinder here. First time Ive ran out of matches. Im going to make it permanent ASAP though. Lifes too short to not live in paradise.

Haha good luck! I moved to Cali over 11 years ago and never looked back.

You finally made it! Congrats. Are you there permanently? Or do you need to snatch up a wifey?

That is so inappropriate and unprofessional. I dont even message people at their work email. Cant imagine trying to call them using their work number.

I love oysters and muscles. Topic delivers.

Not fully cooked but prepped. Veggies chopped, meat marinading, etc. Ive batched cooked on Sundays for the week as well.

I had a blast playing as a sorceress. I feel like gamers just like to be overly picky about everything these days. I never played D1 or D2 though. Only D3.

No theyre pretty pointless. You either got the job or you didnt.

I actually just completed it 100% since I hadnt played it since launch, it was like playing it for the first time. My thoughts were it was meh. I didnt enjoy all the backtracking for kinstones and the awful figurine collection. I know it was a GBA game but the constant need to item switch was painful. I did like that the switch VC lets you save instances so if I didnt get the figurine I wanted it was easy to reset. Needed more dungeons. They were fun at least.

Not a bad game. But I feel like LttP, LA, Oracle games were much better.

I played like half of it and got bored. Story is so boring.

Yes they gave me secretary work. Also allowed me to be sexually harassed by clients and laughed about it. Someone pulled me aside to warn me that he overheard them talking about how they can get away with it all because I was on a work visa and they can make me do any crap work. He told me to be careful around them. Confirmed all my suspicions.

Yeah, it was a used car from an auction for $700. Used to break down on me all the time.

In contrast, they bought my brother a brand new convertible mustang as his first car. Because first born son

I feel like it was a big missed opportunity not to have multiplayer. That killed my interest in it. Ill pick it up some day when its on sale.

Doom_Art posted...

Cover letters are garbage I agree, but they asked for one so eh

Whenever a hiring manager asks me to put it as a requirement I flat out tell them no lol

I only look at resume and all that other crap is pointless. Cover letters are also obsolete.

Sariana21 posted...

If I lost my phone, I wouldnt have anyones phone number, especially someone I had met only recently. But Im old, and Im not on social media.

I wouldnt remember their number either but this was in the context of having SM like this girl does, since she was posting on Sunday. She could have logged on to her friends account to message him or on a computer. I dont use much SM myself but she does. And if I were in that kind of situation I know Id do everything I could to reach someone I cared about to let them know.

Move on. Someone who cares about you doesnt take a week to respond. Losing phone is a dumb excuse in the world of social media. If it were me and I liked someone and my phone was actually stolen, I would have asked a friend to let me borrow their phone immediately. Or logged into my computer to ping you on SM. Shes full of shit.

Ive had severe back pain the last two weeks. Can barely walk or stand much. The pain has been generally bad the last few months but it reached a peak I guess. I went to urgent care and was diagnosed with sacrioilitis. Went to my regular pain care doctor last week who said the same thing (before I told him what the urgent care doctor said). Apparently this is common postpartum in women. The joint loosens during pregnancy and doesnt quite snap back. Over time it can get severely inflamed and become debilitating.

I got an injection in the joint yesterday. It was under X-ray and pretty painful. It takes a few days to take effect. I am in so much pain. My husband has taken over everything the last two weeks and is basically constantly guilting me over it. Its making me so depressed. Its not like I have control over this. I will be out next week for a work trip as well. Im hoping Ill be back to normal soon.

TheGoldenEel posted...

baby did well in his first night in his bedroom alone, but also Im not sure how well our monitor works for this

i woke up at like 9 and I have no idea how long he was awake in his crib waiting for me. The monitor was on but Im not sure if its loud enough to wake me up

My girl can be awake up to an hour before she fusses and wants out. She talks to her squishmallow and reads the book we put in the crib with her (she asks for one every night). Sometimes I see her playing with her hands and feet lol. Very possible he was awake but just chilling. I wait until she calls for me. One time I went early before she called for me and she kept saying asleep! and looked mad. I strongly got the impression from how she was saying it that she didnt appreciate the interruption lol

Puglia77 posted...

My parents tried to help apply for some jobs too but nothing's worked out yet.

I just stopped working at the local supermarket as the part time job in college but since I moved I couldn't work there anymore. My resume has been looked over dozens of times by college counselors, parents, peer reviewed by friends, it's as good as I can get it.

Yeah it can be very hard to get into IT if thats been your most recent role. Recruiters will automatically pass. My advice to you would be to engage with a staffing firm that does contract placements and get a customer service job. Its a crappy job but it allows you to get in with a company and move your way up on the inside. Then you can internally move to a help desk job and go up from there.

VeggetaX posted...

Why would you go after someone who is already employed? Your chances of stealing them away would be lower than someone who is looking for a job from what I see.

The roles I work on tend to be very senior and highly specialized. For example, I have a search going for a Senior Cloud Infrastructure Engineer who needs to be an expert at AWS, Terraform and Kubernetes. 8 years of experience at least. But it can pay $250-300k. Most applicants arent qualified.

Im currently a technical sourcer so my job is to create passive leads to help with getting more qualified candidates in the process. The recruiter handles inbound applicants. Its much harder to try and poach other people, but the better candidates tend to be employed. I might get like 20-30% response rate to my messages. Its a numbers game really.

Yeah my husband is an SRE and Ive seen all the messages he gets. He doesnt even open them. Im a recruiter so Im on the other end and I always ask him what would get his attention enough to open a message and I try tailoring my emails accordingly.

Puglia77 posted...

You think so? I've been applying to IT jobs for the past 3 years with an IT degree and I've been getting rejected from every single job I've applied to, including the help desk ones.

What is your current role? If you havent been in IT in 3 years but are trying to get in, it can be very hard as there are tons of candidates that apply that do have current IT experience. As a recruiter, I will value experience more than a degree. The other issue might just be your resume. Ive seen so many terrible resumes.

Fever is down today. Shes still very congested and coughing. But her mood is better and shes eating again.

I hope shes ok too! I remember shes due soon. I figured she took a break from here to reduce any negativity and stress. I wouldnt blame her.

She woke up with a 102.6 fever. We just gave her Tylenol and are giving her fluids but she doesnt want much of them and wont eat. Well keep and eye on it but if it wont go down will go to the hospital.

Ive been so drained. Toddler is having more tantrums. Work has been insane. I think Im just tired as my industry is so toxic. Its a niche part of tech thats known for toxicity and its been a lot to constantly overcome. I dont have the energy anymore. I thought my last startup gig was bad but Ive actually never been this poorly treated before. Im running on no sleep as shes been sick and Ive been cosleeping to keep her comfy. I dont know how working parents do this or maybe I'm just over my industry. But there are no jobs for recruiters now, so at least Im getting a pay check.

TheGoldenEel posted...

Were sort of at the anxious for him to start using words stage. He has his 15 month appointment next week and they say he should use 5 different words, which maybe he does? At least different sounds. But hes getting good at communicating things, he does a lot of pointing at something then pointing at himself when he wants something, and he clearly recognizes certain words like upstairs and downstairs

exciting seeing his communication develop

I feel like this pressure to see toddlers speak is recent. My pediatrician freaked me out because she was saying less than 10 words at 18 months. Shes 22 months now and at over 200 words and 3-4 word sentences. Colors, numbers and shapes. My niece didnt speak much at all until over 3 but now shes 5 and wont stop. But when I look at parenting subreddits everyone is freaked out and getting speech therapists as soon as they can. I wonder why we all feel this pressure now. It wasnt a thing when we were kids.

emblem-man posted...

Did dark roast have her baby? I haven't seen her in a while

emblem-man posted...

Did dark roast have her baby? I haven't seen her in a while

I think she said she was due in April. Hope shes ok!

I was planned but my younger sister wasnt. She was the third kid. My dad tried hard to get my mom to abort her, threatening divorce. But she refused to.