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LinkPizza posted...

I remember you were saying how her mom was trying to keep her away from you or something. Especially during the wedding, which was probably a couple months ago, by now...

People have issues with me not responding to this. But yeah, her sister was getting married and her mom wanted my gf to be around for every little thing, include pajama shopping and would make a big deal out of it. She missed pajama shopping to hang out with me and her mom made her cry and come home.

Have good hygiene and wear a button up shirt. Talk a bit and its okay if youre shy or nervous. just assume no kiss this date, and have a kiss next date. Dont try to sleep with her, assume sex isnt on the table until a few dates in, because I know youre not trying to just bang chicks who may leave you.

I have a new account. You don't need to be a prime member, right? You can do this repeatedly and keep making new amazon accounts?

SirPikachu posted...

Wait, I'm confused, the bigger place is $200 LESS? And what part of the money do you feel bad about? And I also read this as "Garfield moved in with me" a couple times and was confused by that too

Because shes paying for 3/8th of the expenses.

wwinterj25 posted...

Your GF moved in but doesn't live with you on most days? I don't think you know what moved in means.

I know what moved in means. She just doesnt. I tell her she is only living here on paper.

I mean, the purpose of moving in was to escape her mom. She just feels bad leaving the narcissist, which will cause me to leave her in like a year (Im leaving the state in a year). Ive mentioned it already that I cant deal with her being as strong of a people pleaser as she is (or less nicely a doormat). Too many canceled events for silly reasons.

Kinda bugs me. Goal was for her to not hang around her abusive home, her mom makes her sleep in the same bed as her.

But, I now am in an apartment twice as big in my old one that she mostly furnished and am spending $200 less a month than the old place, which was already inexpensive.

Feel like Im a bad person, as I really dont need the money and she does, but its also her choice. She believes shes spending 5-6 days a week here. Im paying 5/8th of total expenses.

Where's the page that consolidates them all?

They have this mobile game Disney heroes.

As you progress in pvp, you get premium currency rewards.

When you made an account, Disney randomly assigned you to earn premium currency rewards with a multiplier of 50, 175, or 500 without telling you. I assume so they can research what level causes people to spend the most money on the game.

So some players are getting 10x more rewards than others. Based on nothing than what group they were assigned to.

This translates to about $200 more per month of premium currency given for freee to some players than others. On the same server on the same ranking board.

Ugh, fuck Disney. I was loving this game tooand ranked in top 25 in pvp while only spending $3 per month, but this makes me sick to keep playing. No wonder my power rank is so low.

Shes great to me. Ill never find someone who is as nice to me as she is when were together.

But... her mother treats her like Cinderella. Its pretty bad between the name calling and the ridiculous chores and errands. A month ago she moved in with me and pays 3/8 of the monthly expenses (I make more so decided a split it this way was fair and it still saves me money) but that is just staying over 3-4 nights a week because shes too scared to tell her mom shes moving out (and abling her to get away from her mom was basically why I asked her to move in). And shes scared her mom wouldnt let her see the family dogs afterwards.

She needs to please everyone. Random aquaintances. She freaked out she might have to join a church choir because her moms friend asked her to.

Its obnoxious. But, Im moving away in a year anyway. I can ride it out and enjoy my time with her, which is awesome. Or end it now. I know I should be supportive, but its getting harder to care when she wont do anything to help herself. Shes been in therapy for 10 years for this and even took her mom, but really if 10 years of therapy isnt helping then Im not sure what will.

I bought these series in the past couple months:

Naruto -> Monster -> Gon -> Buddha -> Fullmetal Alchemist

Its hard to be competitive when youre alone in your year and I miss get togehters of many people studying the same thing. Constantly grttig to know more people and their friends.

Especially if youre at a place where seniors slack off and youre leaving in two years. You have to just say youll work so many hours a week and do your best during those.

DoYouLikeMayo posted...

Reminds me of @Blu

Wut

SunWuKung420 posted...

The only manga I ever purchased was "Mushishi".

Such a great manga.

Do you like American comics? Theres some Vertigo and Image titles Im really into.

Hypothetical.

Revelation34 posted...

TheCyborgNinja posted...

No, but if he really wants it, one purchase is hardly going nuts.

It is in this case.

blu posted...

I skipped my brag of I got lucky and got it for $140. So under $2/volume

You are going to regret this so much once you hit the end.

Ehhh, maybe. I can sell it then or keep it and let it collect dust on my shelf.

SunWuKung420 posted...

Why do you make fake bragging topics?

I skipped my brag of I got lucky and got it for $140. So under $2/volume

Zeus posted...

tbh, I have the shadow box with the first 27 volumes (I think I paid $40 or $50, including shipping) which I never bothered opening and have been used as a stand for over a decade now. >_> As such, I'd probably just say skip.

I did start rewatching the anime (after watching parts of Shippuden recently and rewatching some of the show's earlier fights) and the beginning of the series was far, far worse than I had remembered.

FinalFantasyVII posted...

Naruto Part 2 is trash so just pay half for half of the series

If you mean Shippuden, it's better than the first series.

Whered you get it for that price? Thats a good deal.

Zeus posted...

TheCyborgNinja posted...

If you have $1k left at the end of each month, do it. You won't miss $200. Anyone who voted "no" must have not read that.

That doesn't really matter. Being able to afford it isn't by itself a good reason to buy anything.

Yeah, I have a lot of struggle with this now that I have a job. Its hard for me to spend money because nothing is super worth it.

Went to Barnes and Noble to decide and read a random volume from chunin exams. Decided to get the whole series, not from Barnes and Noble.

I can't decide! I want to finish the story, I don't own any and would restart if I bought them all. Hmmm, I feel this is a good deal but at the same time of all the things I could spend $200 on, Naruto may not be what would be best. Idk, I have an extra $1000/month after all my expenses I usually just save.

This going from a student with low income to a resident income thing is hard to adjust to. I still feel bad spending money, even if I have it. I also want a PS4, but can't decide on a slim or a Pro. Probs a pro and a 4k TV eventually. Maybe black friday they'll be cheap?

Grendel posted...

A common opinion that too many people take as absolute fact despite it being built on a lot of unproven assumptions.

Which assumptions?

Humans are the outcome of blind evolutionary process without a goal or purpose.

Hence any reason that we ascribe to our lives is a delusion.

Therefore, happiness is about synchronisings our delusions with our actions.

Thoughts?

Mead posted...

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SunWuKung420 posted...

blu posted...

If couple: Still figuring this out. We found a cute girl down for a threesome. Not sure how to optimize this though.

Blu is a swinger now. That's an awesome plot twist.

It hasn't happened yet. And I'm not sure if it this girl will go through. But in a few weeks we should know. My girlfriend is debating on how far we can go with her. My girlfriend thinks the limit of what she'll be comfortable with is hands/fingers and making out.

But overall I went out with about a dozen Tinder girls. They all seemed like good people looking for love, but were a bit too busy with school or residency. Just go out with people you think you'd be friends with and separate your mind from sex.

Well this topic got gross

The only one I did more than making out with was my girlfriend.

She was a bit looser but only went out with two guys, but Im not going to judge her for it. Shes had a hard life. Especially since I get to do a lot of fun things I never thought I would, with a rather beautiful girl whos awesome.

joemodda posted...

Life satisfaction doesn't improve once you make more than 120k according to studies. As JP said, once you have enough money to stave off misery and the debt collectors, money doesn't make you any happier

I haven't heard that one before. I've heard 70k and 180k before. Probably same study looking at different endpoints...since I also heard happiness on a scale of 1 to 10 increases by 0.5 every time you double your income once you hit numbers like that.

SunWuKung420 posted...

blu posted...

If couple: Still figuring this out. We found a cute girl down for a threesome. Not sure how to optimize this though.

Blu is a swinger now. That's an awesome plot twist.

It hasn't happened yet. And I'm not sure if it this girl will go through. But in a few weeks we should know. My girlfriend is debating on how far we can go with her. My girlfriend thinks the limit of what she'll be comfortable with is hands/fingers and making out.

But overall I went out with about a dozen Tinder girls. They all seemed like good people looking for love, but were a bit too busy with school or residency. Just go out with people you think you'd be friends with and separate your mind from sex.

If guy: Swipe right on everyone. Message attractive girls with good profiles. Ignore all else.

If girl: Buy premium and pick out of guys who already swiped you.

If couple: Still figuring this out. We found a cute girl down for a threesome. Not sure how to optimize this though.

time I ready Naruto (finishing part 1) I found characters to have less personality and fight scenes definitely weren't as good as the anime. I've just been getting into comics lately, and prefer them to shows in general.

adjl posted...

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Greenfox111 posted...

Mead posted...

5am everyday time for yall to wake the fuck up

This, youre adults, you need to learn to have a big boy sleep schedule

Read: A schedule normalized by people who comfortably wake up early that disregards natural variations in sleep timing as merely being lazy.

Its not natural, because light bulbs and devices are unnatural. Natural is to wake up at sunrise and get ready for sleep sometime after at sunset.

Artificial lighting interferes with circadian rhythms, yes, but independent of that, some people just aren't morning people, and no amount of calling them lazy is going to change that.

Yeah, this is true. I feel the lazy-label happens because not lazy people see achievable rewards and desires which can be filled where lazy people dont.

eating4fun posted...

Explore the world, partake in any conceivable human activity that may or may not interest you.

Yeah, its going to happen. I think traveling will get dull after a couple dozen trips, but well see.

Im hoping to invest a bunch and hit financial independence mid 40s or late 30s. It is one of my big goals now, but I feel that mainly involves waiting.

adjl posted...

Greenfox111 posted...

Mead posted...

5am everyday time for yall to wake the fuck up

This, youre adults, you need to learn to have a big boy sleep schedule

Read: A schedule normalized by people who comfortably wake up early that disregards natural variations in sleep timing as merely being lazy.

Its not natural, because light bulbs and devices are unnatural. Natural is to wake up at sunrise and get ready for sleep sometime after at sunset.

joemodda posted...

You have a family?

Have a girlfriend.

Parents dont live nearby, low chance a job will open by then.

Other family is scattered.

I hang out with friends, theyr finally graduating and a few are staying here (for better or worse) so theyll have more free time again finally, since theyve been super busy with interviews and thesis defenses while Ive been busy with a newish girlfriend.

WastelandCowboy posted...

Wasn't there one PotDer who got pissed at his neighbor for making noise in the morning?

You got pissed off about people who mow at 6-7.

Whenever the legal time is. Otherwise when sunrise occurs.

TaKun782 posted...

What do you do for a living to make that freaking much?

Clinical radiation physics

Jen0125 posted...

Haven't you "been on the rails" to being rich for about 8 years now? Is it ever going to happen for you?

On rails has been about a year and a half. Likely to happen if I work hard has started three years ago.

Chewster posted...

Don't forget that he worked 80 hour weeks while in a medical program and he's also a total whiz at every programming language, guitar and piano

80 hour weeks for the first 9 months then got burnt out and it went down to 40-50. The 80 included the number of hours a week for school and work which were basically combined. Its common for grad students to work that much, though unnecessary. And have you met medical people? So many can play an instrument because we had families with lessons. Not a whiz, just best in class or fastest progressing student. I mean, in college you have so much free time, use it to learn something.

VixYW posted...

Sometimes I wish I didn't had to worry about money. I mean, I don't want to be super rich just to be able to spend a lot, it's just that having a lot of money gets rid of the constant fear of messing up and having to say goodbye to my current lifestyle... which is kinda simple tbh. But then again I wonder... would I feel empty without that risk? Would life get boring (or rather, even more boring then what it is now)? For the sake of my own sanity, I like to think that's no the case. If I ever got to that point, I would enjoy the freedom of choice. I would put into practice all those projects that I don't have time to do now because of other obligations that wouldn't be there anymore. It doesn't need to be a big goal, just anything that looked like fun. Heck, even if it's just spending more time with my siblings - or even my whole family - would be enough.

Money indeed don't bring happiness. But in turn, it gives you the freedom to seek it without having to worry about stuff that gets in your way.

Yeah, I lost the risk and it feels empty. I had the same initial feelings. Once I pass my boards I hope I dont completely fall out emotionally. Im sure Ill find other things by then and Im just adjusting now. Never thought itd happen.

My entire goal for my life was to get a high paying job where I wouldnt have to work a lot. Now that Im on rails to earning $90 an hour, I just dont know what to do with my life.

Pursue academia? Its the only thing I can think of that may make me happy. But all I hear is that academia mostly is shit to work in.

I feel somethings wrong here and there will be some large negative affects for society, but I cant decide what. Somethings looming.

Another topic though. On one hand, I love my stories and knowledge. On the other, it make me question what Im really doing with my non-working life. Also, where do I draw the line and really choose what I should and shouldnt consume? Time is limited. Whats the purpose of it?

A year off from finishing my residency, realizing Im almost at my career potential, I dont know whats happening with my life. I dont know where the struggle will come, or what parts can improve. Which isnt me. I could try to go into academia for research or continually switch career paths, Im just not sure what Im working towards. Financial independence is on my mind, but even then I dont know where Im going from there.

I say just the meal.

****This topic isnt about if you should be tipping in general*****

GanglyKhan posted...

blu posted...

originally she wasn't even allowed to spend the night

W a t
Her parents sound pretty fucking miserable, tbh. You have a kid because you love the idea of a family and raising something that can give back to the world someday, not so you can control them after they're no longer a minor. Jesus, dude, that's a red flag and a half right there.

Yeah, it is :/

I rationalize it myself by saying I'm moving away in a year anyway, and if it gets better it gets better. If it doesn't, she'll stay here and will at least have her own place.

SunWuKung420 posted...

Why don't her parents like you?

They really like me. She's only had a couple crappy boyfriends who would constantly cheat on her or drunkenly curse her out. Her dad and I get along well.

edededdy posted...

so when are you putting security cameras on your fridge to monitor her?

We have our locations shared on Find My Friends and she thinks it's super cute and kind of wants me to check up on her :/

Jen0125 posted...

Sounds like your relationship sucks.

She's awesome, just has a really bad case of being a people pleaser.

SunWuKung420 posted...

It sounds like you should offer to move in with her parents so she doesn't have to drive there.

I laughed at how true this is :/

Mead posted...

My thoughts are that you should express your concerns to her, and decide if you want to continue this relationship based on how she feels in response.

I'm hoping it changes after she moves in. It's gotten a lot better, originally she wasn't even allowed to spend the night so would drive home at 3 AM so her mom wouldn't get mad. She's now up to staying 3 or 4 nights a week.

Whatre your thoughts on these? I dont know what to make of them other than they all bug me. The purpose of me asking her to move in was more to get her out of an abusive home situation, not necessarily to play house.

1. Im moving June 15th. Shes waiting until July 5th to move in so we could have 6 full months first.

2. She's planning on sleeping over 2 nights a week at her parents house, 15 minutes away.

3. Shes planning on going back to her parents place to do their laundry and clean and cook and do dishes and everything else twice a week.

4. She got on the waitlist to dental hygiene school which she's been trying to get into for a couple years. Historically everyone who gets on the waitlist gets in. She chose to not submit her letter to get on the waitlist. Reasoning: Not knowing if shell get in or not would stress her out too much.

Moonjay posted...

Toxic masculinity absolutely exists. From telling boys they're not allowed to cry to treating gentle boys like wussies... To the incredibly toxic ideas of using violence to solve problems and feeling entitled to slave women.

Good post. It's not just about violence. It's about walking into a room and saying "video games are a waste of time" when they know there's a gamer in there. Guys who are toxic don't tend to know just how toxic they are.

EclairReturns posted...

I thought you were a physics major.

I did physics in undergrad. Did medical physics in grad school.

https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B0186JAEWK/

My job is going to be taken over soon by computers, who will do it better than me.

I don't know how society can last through the machine learning revolution.

Maybe it's not too late. Go get a PhD at 40 >.<

Smarkil posted...

Come on bro, you can't go back to using the controlling mom angle again. That's just lazy writing.

I tend to date girls with overly controlling parents. idk why

by her mom so much. She sent me this.

Tomorrow will probably be our last full day together till the wedding. Mom is giving me a ton of shit :/

And *** is acting all sad. Evidently I told her I was hers after we got back from Utah like a few weeks ago. I have no memory of this but she and mom insist I said it. And I'm thinking if I did it was just in reference to not being gone all weekend

The wedding is in two months. Its her sisters wedding. All thats left is random things like new shoes for her sister for every different shower that happens.

But, I know her feelings towards me, and I know she wants to see me. She just is controlled by her mom and has s difficult time saying no to people. She plans on moving in with me right after the wedding.

Am I justified in being annoyed with her?

If only I had a 4K monitor to view this on.

Dont be overweight, idk if you are.

Dress better. Reddits MFA basic bastard will do.

Just go out. Youll get the opportunity to meet girls.

I was hopeless at some point. Im awesome now.

Or are they not worth getting? I have all the Hayao Miyazaki ones.