Poll of the Day > My girlfriend is supposed to be moving in with me soon.

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Whatre your thoughts on these? I dont know what to make of them other than they all bug me. The purpose of me asking her to move in was more to get her out of an abusive home situation, not necessarily to play house.

1. Im moving June 15th. Shes waiting until July 5th to move in so we could have 6 full months first.

2. She's planning on sleeping over 2 nights a week at her parents house, 15 minutes away.

3. Shes planning on going back to her parents place to do their laundry and clean and cook and do dishes and everything else twice a week.

4. She got on the waitlist to dental hygiene school which she's been trying to get into for a couple years. Historically everyone who gets on the waitlist gets in. She chose to not submit her letter to get on the waitlist. Reasoning: Not knowing if shell get in or not would stress her out too much.

blu posted...

Whatre your thoughts on these? I dont know what to make of them other than they all bug me.

If you ever make it to 70 years old. You will have lived through 10 years of Mondays.
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Sounds like you made the wrong choice.
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Sounds like your relationship sucks.
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Sounds like tc is a joke account

It sounds like you should offer to move in with her parents so she doesn't have to drive there.
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My thoughts are that you should express your concerns to her, and decide if you want to continue this relationship based on how she feels in response.
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so when are you putting security cameras on your fridge to monitor her?
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Jen0125 posted...

Sounds like your relationship sucks.

She's awesome, just has a really bad case of being a people pleaser.

SunWuKung420 posted...

It sounds like you should offer to move in with her parents so she doesn't have to drive there.

I laughed at how true this is :/

Mead posted...

My thoughts are that you should express your concerns to her, and decide if you want to continue this relationship based on how she feels in response.

I'm hoping it changes after she moves in. It's gotten a lot better, originally she wasn't even allowed to spend the night so would drive home at 3 AM so her mom wouldn't get mad. She's now up to staying 3 or 4 nights a week.

edededdy posted...

so when are you putting security cameras on your fridge to monitor her?

We have our locations shared on Find My Friends and she thinks it's super cute and kind of wants me to check up on her :/

blu posted...

originally she wasn't even allowed to spend the night

W a t
Her parents sound pretty fucking miserable, tbh. You have a kid because you love the idea of a family and raising something that can give back to the world someday, not so you can control them after they're no longer a minor. Jesus, dude, that's a red flag and a half right there.

Why don't her parents like you?
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MY best friend has been trying to go to Dental hygiene schooo as well. She's waiting... Also, this is the one who wasn't able to see you for a while because of a wedding, right?
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GanglyKhan posted...

blu posted...

originally she wasn't even allowed to spend the night

W a t
Her parents sound pretty fucking miserable, tbh. You have a kid because you love the idea of a family and raising something that can give back to the world someday, not so you can control them after they're no longer a minor. Jesus, dude, that's a red flag and a half right there.

Yeah, it is :/

I rationalize it myself by saying I'm moving away in a year anyway, and if it gets better it gets better. If it doesn't, she'll stay here and will at least have her own place.

SunWuKung420 posted...

Why don't her parents like you?

They really like me. She's only had a couple crappy boyfriends who would constantly cheat on her or drunkenly curse her out. Her dad and I get along well.

blu posted...

I rationalize it myself by saying I'm moving away in a year anyway, and if it gets better it gets better. If it doesn't, she'll stay here and will at least have her own place.

I commend you for having a positive outlook on it either way it goes, that's an awesome mindset to have. Really hope it pans out well for the two of you.

I'm hoping it changes after she moves in. It's gotten a lot better, originally she wasn't even allowed to spend the night so would drive home at 3 AM so her mom wouldn't get mad. She's now up to staying 3 or 4 nights a week.

Thats okay to hope for. This is a big decision though and the smartest thing might be to ask yourself if you will want to be with her if things do not get better, because they might not.
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Are we pretending you're real, feels unhealthy, ok?
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blu posted...

Whatre your thoughts on these? I dont know what to make of them other than they all bug me. The purpose of me asking her to move in was more to get her out of an abusive home situation, not necessarily to play house.

1. Im moving June 15th. Shes waiting until July 5th to move in so we could have 6 full months first.

2. She's planning on sleeping over 2 nights a week at her parents house, 15 minutes away.

3. Shes planning on going back to her parents place to do their laundry and clean and cook and do dishes and everything else twice a week.

4. She got on the waitlist to dental hygiene school which she's been trying to get into for a couple years. Historically everyone who gets on the waitlist gets in. She chose to not submit her letter to get on the waitlist. Reasoning: Not knowing if shell get in or not would stress her out too much.

I'd probably be ok with 2 but not fucking 3.
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lmao classic blu
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