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I calculate dose to cancer patients getting radiation therapy, test machines to see if they work, quality assurance on the entire treatment process, optimization of each treatment.

Andromicus posted...

What happened to Indian girl?

She got married in court to Florida Guy in February. Her wedding is in May. Im invited to come with my girlfriend, but I have to work that weekend. They live about five hours apart, but he will move into her place in May most likely. We talk most days. My girlfriend is slightly bothered by it, but Im very open and honest about it.

shadowSEXil posted...

imo this happened before your relationship even started and you shouldn't be sweating it too much. nonetheless if it's bothering you, it's best to be open and communicative and get it resolved in a healthy manner.

Its more the dishonesty that bothers me.

I was fine with how it was presented before. Im going to bring it up tomorrow.

wwinterj25 posted...

Real or not I'd just sit her down, talk about it, ask her to be 100% honest and take whatever she says as the truth until proven otherwise if it ever does get proven to be false. Don't go out of your way to "investigate" a issue that's not even worth investigating.

I do remember liking your posts.

Yeah, I feel this is a good idea. It's not something that matters, but it's been clogging my head since I found out yesterday. I'm on vacation now and she's flying in tomorrow to meet me. I think I'll bring it up while on a walk, take her word, and call it good. It's the best thing for the relationship.

She's been very honest about me with everything else, I feel there was just an entire story here and none of it was true.

Thanks for letting me vent PotD. You guys are great for that. Dont really need to read my posts.

We matched on Tinder in November. I asked her out and she soft rejected me: sounds fun! Soon! She contacts me in late December on Snapchat and we talk. I ask her out again and she accepts. Things have been good, we spend every day with each other. She tells her friends she plans on moving away with me and getting married.

When she rejected me, there was this super buff college football player she was talking to and went out with, though I didnt know at the time. They went on one date, then a month late hooked up in his car. Not after a date, just hooking up. He rejects her, she goes out with me a week later, sleeps with me a couple days after. She tells me he was in October, lasted 20 seconds and he didnt text her back for three weeks and she felt bad about someone hooking up with her and not texting back which is why she rejected me initially. Later she says it was a week before seeing me in December, and she genuinely thought it was October.

It doesnt bug me she slept with him so close to me. I get it. It bugs me I feel she lied to me about the date it happens (because I did ask her about an STD test before we slept together), about why she initially rejected me, and about the reason for meeting up. I wouldve been okay with all of these if she told the truth, Ive met up with someone on Tinder for sex too.

She also says she just misremembered the dates and shell go get an STD test. I believe she feels terrible, but she hasnt said she lied yet. All shes told me is the updated dates it happened and met up to make out in car with no intention of having sex, wouldnt have done it but felt awkward for not making out on first date and didnt because it was daylight. But they kept talking about choosing the car with the most tinted windows before hand. I just want her to be honest.

Don't know what to get.

Debating on a Switch, old things, or a PS4, or a gaming PC.

I'm thinking retro gaming for a while, but idk. My girlfriend hasn't played a lot of the old crap and I'd like to share it with her but I don't know what's really 2 player besides donkey kong.

SunWuKung420 posted...

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DeltaBladeX posted...

Thank you delta. I need to save this and send it to her when I get the chance.

I think it's hilarious that you had time to make this post but not the time save the photo to your phone and text it to her.

Im waiting to send until good context happens.

PS4 Pro
Xbox One Slim
Nintendo Switch
3DS XL Pro or whatever it was that played the xsnoblade game

Are there next gen consoles in the news or are we just upgrading the old ones like the PS4 and 3DS? Or is PS4 VR the new PS4 iteration?

Sold mine.

Buting another on Craigslist for $100 with a couple games. Gonna sell this tomorrow. Get a PS4 Pro or something around Black Friday.

I wish we had a better Craigslist here. It kinda sucks, but whatever.

DeltaBladeX posted...

Thank you delta. I need to save this and send it to her when I get the chance.

She's still Disney obsessive.

BigOlePappy posted...

Grad School is perpetual essay writing. YMMV

I love essay writing.

My grad school had none. #medicalphysics

As in how the founding fathers and authors used to write important essays on their thoughts. I dont see a modern equivalent.

In my residency, I just need to put in the time and Ill for sure hit a high paying job with direct involvement into helping a small number of patients. But, Ill hit my ceiling quickly. Im placated until I pass my final ABR exam, but I dont know where Ill find meaning or what Ill have drive for after this.

My girlfriend is great. Things are progressing well. Im not looking for anyone else.

Im physically fit. Nothing great, but Im happy with my fitness level and I dont think the advantage of improving more will be well correlated with life-satisfaction.

I dont know what to do to improve my life anymore. I have no projects, and Im definitely not solving any important problem to the world while at work. I have my hobbies of programming and piano, but they dont have any impact.

Also,

https://cdn.80000hours.org/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/supermansqaure.png

Does he have another account? I loved ziggi :/

I also seem to attract girls who are controlled by their parents. It's always been an issue.

First girlfriend never wanted to move from her parents house, and planned on getting married and living with them.

Second girlfriend broke off her previous relationship after 4 years over her mom saying "no" to his caste, the we were secret for a while knowing it would end, and she's recently married to a guy her mother mostly approves of but she's only seen a handful of times.

And third girlfriend has these parental issues, but realizes their issues, spends a good amount of time swearing about it when over here, and is considering never talking to her mom again.

SusanGreenEyes posted...

blu posted...

SusanGreenEyes posted...

Does she have a job?
At 25 you don't need permission to move out.
You crash at a friend's place until you figure shit out.

Her dad is rich. She works for her dad. Her dad loves me, and strongly disagrees with the mom's behavior. Her mom does nothing to a point she called my girlfriend to come home from work during her lunch break to make her a cup of tea.

This sounds fictional.
If her dad's rich she would be living with her dad.

She lives with both of them >_<

They aren't divorced or anything.

Her dad does make her make his breakfast/lunch/dinner, but doesn't control her otherwise.

SusanGreenEyes posted...

Does she have a job?
At 25 you don't need permission to move out.
You crash at a friend's place until you figure shit out.

Her dad is rich. She works for her dad. Her dad loves me, and strongly disagrees with the mom's behavior. Her mom does nothing to a point she called my girlfriend to come home from work during her lunch break to make her a cup of tea.

RCtheWSBC posted...

So many red flags. Jesus.

Yeah, there's a lot of issues with her mother. I can be more understanding about it because I lived with my parents until I was almost 24, and where I previously lived it was normal to live with parents until older like that.

GRTooCool posted...

She needs to settle her **** with her mom first.

Yeah, she does. She plans on moving out within a year, and I'll see how it changes. If it does, it's fine. If not, I'm moving to another state in a bit over a year anyway.

Nade Duck posted...

RCtheWSBC posted...

So many red flags. Jesus.

yeah, but her mom apparently won't let her out much so it's not like she can meet someone else very easily.

She gets out most days/nights of the week, but this randomly happens once or twice a week and her mom demeans her for going out.

She just canceled our date tonight so she could pack her mom's bag for a trip her mom is going on. Her mom does crap like this all the time, and I find it frustrating. Though I'm very calm about all of it. Background: She lives with her parents and is 25, her mom won't let her move out.

If I didn't know my girlfriend was serious about me and her mother was like this, I'd be more annoyed. I really like her, but this relationship with her mother is something that makes me wonder how things would work long-term. If things don't change when she moves out, it's not something I could deal with.

I'm so excited to see this next month! Tell us how it is.

My first bottle was Nautica Voyage. I tried many and wanted something cheap. If any guys here don't own any bottles, I recommend grabbing a 3.4 oz bottle for under $20.

My second bottle was Sauvage Dior, entirely because my girlfriend (and like every girl) likes it. It was about $100. It gets a lot of compliments, but it's super popular and you need to be careful not to spray too much.

I've been trying a ton of decants in the past few months looking for something good and not necessarily popular. I found a few I like, but I have to be careful because many burn my eyes.

Well?

adjl posted...

SusanGreenEyes posted...

blu posted...

As a very related note, I just bought some red sheets to throw over my comforter for fun times at monthly times. You know, get more space to move around than a towel.

Are you also planning on buying a red mattress?

Could also add a waterproof layer.

Thats definitely overkill

ClarkDuke posted...

blu posted...

As a very related note, I just bought some red sheets to throw over my comforter for fun times at monthly times. You know, get more space to move around than a towel.

Gross, ok?

I dont see why. I dont think most girls have problems with it, or most guys.

As a very related note, I just bought some red sheets to throw over my comforter for fun times at monthly times. You know, get more space to move around than a towel.

Blighboy posted...

blu posted...

Shes awesome, but way too controlled by her family and it frustrates me so much. She lives with them and is 25, and ugh. She hopes to move out by 30.

Lmfao I can think of a few posters here she'd get along with.

Is this that fake Indian girl or someone else.

The Nepali girl moved away. Im taking this new girl down the Nepali girls wedding with Florida Guy in a few months.

SusanGreenEyes posted...

Does she have a job?

Yes. But really, shes going to just move in with me at some point in the next year most likely.

Shes awesome, but way too controlled by her family and it frustrates me so much. She lives with them and is 25, and ugh. She hopes to move out by 30.