Board 8 > Chris Hardwick (Nerdist)'s career might be finished.

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https://medium.com/@skydart/rose-colored-glasses-6be0594970ca

What a fucking creep. Holy shit.
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yep. indefensible.

I assume we know it's Chris Hardwick from context (namely people knowing who the author dated), correct? I don't think saw a name mentioned in the article.
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He's the only person Chloe Dykstra has both dated and worked for.
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He did nothing wrong
Besides she sounds super mental and I take everything she said with a grain of salt
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Nanis23 posted...

He did nothing wrong
Besides she sounds super mental and I take everything she said with a grain of salt

Gr8 b8 m8
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Not a bait, the only thing wrong he did was the blacklisting thing (assuming it really happened)
The rest are her being weak-minded and unstable
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Nanis23 posted...

He did nothing wrong
Besides she sounds super mental and I take everything she said with a grain of salt

I've always wondered what it felt like to be a complete imbecile. Maybe you could enlighten me?
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Do we even have to acknowledge Nanis here, like is it worth the effort
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Just a matter of time before someone more respectable here agrees with me
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Good on Chloe. That takes some strength and courage, and I'm glad she got some of that back.
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scumbag of a human for sure.

it's a weird article since it refers to the rose-colored glasses, but literally the only thing in this article is how much of a controlling shit the guy is. so it actually makes it harder to sympathize with the writer.

Panthera posted...

Nanis23 posted...

He did nothing wrong
Besides she sounds super mental and I take everything she said with a grain of salt

I've always wondered what it felt like to be a complete imbecile. Maybe you could enlighten me?

it feels good and you feel empowered. you have less self-doubt and are more confident about your own intelligence.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dunning%E2%80%93Kruger_effect
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imbecile is far too kind of a word for nanis
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I dont know Nanis well. Is he a joke account like Behindthecurve or something?
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He is not
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Nanis's gimmick is that all of his opinions are opposite of what a sane person would think.
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skullbone posted...

Nanis's gimmick is that all of his opinions are opposite of what a sane person would think.

Wow I dont agree with him
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Man, that gimmick sucks even more than LJAs.
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VeryInsane posted...

skullbone posted...

Nanis's gimmick is that all of his opinions are opposite of what a sane person would think.

Wow I dont agree with him

I see what you did there
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SeabassDebeste posted...

it feels good and you feel empowered. you have less self-doubt and are more confident about your own intelligence.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dunning%E2%80%93Kruger_effect

Nothing like me at all, I am not considering myself superior to anyone
This is just a matter of me not believing that "taking advantage of a mental weaked person" is the fault of the "strong person" and is not considered a abuse
And let me just clarify - mentally weak does not equal mentally ill
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Fuck, this is the first one of these where the person is someone I really liked.

Still doesn't make it okay, but damn.
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What exactly do you think taking advantage of someone means? How would you arrive at a meaning for that phrase without implicitly assigning fault to the person who does it?
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Nanis upset that redsox is starting to creep into his bottom 5 user position. Gotta defend his title.
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Cybat posted...

What exactly do you think taking advantage of someone means? How would you arrive at a meaning for that phrase without implicitly assigning fault to the person who does it?

Because it isn't entirely his fault
She could have stopped dating him at any point. She could not accept his rules from the very beginning
Everything was her decision
There was no threat to her life, he didn't hurt her or rape her or anything. She was just in love with someone succesful, and she didn't want to lose him, fully willing to give him everything just to fulfil her dream
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Yeah, shoulda gotten outta that one ASAP

Nerdist sucks anyway
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tl;dr: Do not stay in abusive relationships hoping for the impossible.

But yes, while he's obviously a bad person, it's not the guy's fault. One makes one's own decisions, and she stayed with him for as long out of her free will.
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God, the mindset of you people is just so....disturbing.
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Thank you Nanis and Vlado being such strong people.

I now understand abuse does not exist. I hope one day everyone can just walk away from something that gives them any anxiety.
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it's interesting because her exact story shows up on r/relationships every day. complete with the age gap.
it's super common. It's easy to look at it and everything she says and say "well just leave him then? he was clearly a controlling asshole so just don't put up with it?" but the cycle of abuse is very effective at controlling a person, especially when they have very little self worth.
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Let's also not kid ourselves
I am absolutely sure EVERYONE here knows at LEAST one person her that his girlfriend/wife forbids him from interacting with other females
It isn't right, but it's not like "you need to be my one and only" is so rare in relationships
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CoolCly posted...

it's interesting because her exact story shows up on r/relationships every day. complete with the age gap.

Seems like daddy issues are pretty common
It's just that most woman are not willing to admit it
Now is everyone that takes advantage of it is a creep and should be shamed?
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the weird thing is, i can understand victim-blaming here and i'm almost inclined to do it in this scenario (the writer jokes about her daddy issues, but she obviously needed to policeh er own decisions better)

but to absolve an abuser of blame because essentially, they can get away with it, is so fucking warped
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Nanis23 posted...

I am absolutely sure EVERYONE here knows at LEAST one person her that his girlfriend/wife forbids him from interacting with other females

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jEbl-umsFOM" data-time="
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Are you really asking if someone taking advantage of someone else should be shamed or not
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seems like men who went through their 20ies and 30ies that were unable to keep a woman because of their controlling bullshit so now that they are in their 40ies and no woman near their age will put up with it at all, they target young insecure women in their 20ies, just beginning their adult lives, who will implicitly trust them due to the difference in life experience. and then abuse that trust.
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Id say it depends on if he was actively taking advantage of it. He could just be a crappy insecure guy who had some person give him too much power over her. I mean, he is totally abusive. But a little sympathy for the devil here, he might just have his own set of relationship issues that need help and not just people hunting for justice.
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Nanis23 posted...

Let's also not kid ourselves
I am absolutely sure EVERYONE here knows at LEAST one person her that his girlfriend/wife forbids him from interacting with other females
It isn't right, but it's not like "you need to be my one and only" is so rare in relationships

Nope.

Thise people are called abusers and you should call those people out.
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Taking advantage of someone, emotionally manipulating them to get what you want, regardless of "legality," sure as hell is an immoral, scummy, just plain bad thing for someone to do. Do you disagree with even that nanis? Do you truly think that the powerful have a right to take what they want from the weak, at the expense of the weak, with no repercussions because they're powerful?

I will say that yes, she absolutely should have left when she saw the red flags. She admits as much, admits that she made a mistake. It's easier for her to see in hindsight. That, therefore, means we should absolve the man here of ALL wrongdoing, rather than call him out on scummy behavior? Just because she made a mistake, means the burden of the man's more numerous and more ****ty mistakes are shifted onto her?
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Also it's always easy to say "Well you should just leave the relationship" just like we can say "well it's easy to not be abusive and shitty in a relationship" but hey look at what happens there
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neonreaper posted...

Id say it depends on if he was actively taking advantage of it. He could just be a crappy insecure guy who had some person give him too much power over her. I mean, he is totally abusive. But a little sympathy for the devil here, he might just have his own set of relationship issues that need help and not just people hunting for justice.

he forced her to work for him, lol
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I do agree that saying lack of sex is why past relationships didn't work and her choosing to have sex despite not wanting to is not sexual assault. He didn't make that decision for her. And what he said is not putting her under reasonable duress.
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PrivateBiscuit1 posted...

Thank you Nanis and Vlado being such strong people.

I now understand abuse does not exist. I hope one day everyone can just walk away from something that gives them any anxiety.

In this case, the only one stopping the girl was herself! People have free will. Believing someone else must take responsibility for your own fuckups is immature. But this is a general fault of many people and I am not surprised to see lots of that mentality in this topic, too.

You just refuse to accept how much of a person's strength (or weakness) comes from nowhere else but within.
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SeabassDebeste posted...

neonreaper posted...

Id say it depends on if he was actively taking advantage of it. He could just be a crappy insecure guy who had some person give him too much power over her. I mean, he is totally abusive. But a little sympathy for the devil here, he might just have his own set of relationship issues that need help and not just people hunting for justice.

he forced her to work for him, lol

Tbf I skipped that paragraph because of the bold text right after that
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i figured you did if you were defending him!
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"Our relationship started out poorly. Within 2 weeks, rules were quickly established."

I stopped reading there. I'm sorry I'm not going to feel sorry for someone who gets themselves in a bad relationship FROM THE START and wonders why things got so bad down the road.
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trentpac posted...

"Our relationship started out poorly. Within 2 weeks, rules were quickly established."

I stopped reading there. I'm sorry I'm not going to feel sorry for someone who gets themselves in a bad relationship FROM THE START and wonders why things got so bad down the road.

She's not asking that you feel sorry for her, she's trying to bring awareness for other people who have or may in the future run into this, to learn from her mistakes.
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Emeraldegg posted...

Taking advantage of someone, emotionally manipulating them to get what you want, regardless of "legality," sure as hell is an immoral, scummy, just plain bad thing for someone to do. Do you disagree with even that nanis? Do you truly think that the powerful have a right to take what they want from the weak, at the expense of the weak, with no repercussions because they're powerful?

I will say that yes, she absolutely should have left when she saw the red flags. She admits as much, admits that she made a mistake. It's easier for her to see in hindsight. That, therefore, means we should absolve the man here of ALL wrongdoing, rather than call him out on scummy behavior? Just because she made a mistake, means the burden of the man's more numerous and more ****ty mistakes are shifted onto her?

I just hate those double standards
People can't go around saying "he is an adult being, he is responsible for his actions" all the time, and on the other hand claiming someone else taking advantage of someone is wrong
And yes you do see it all the time
Someone spending thousands of dollars on microtranscations? he is a adult being, it's his fault
Someone spending ALL HIS MONEY on the casino? adult being, his fault
Someone driving under influence? adult being, his fault

I have no idea how to express it, but trust me, and I swear it - I do not like victim blaming
I do not enjoy it, and I don't do it just because the victim came out
I just honestly want to say this - I do not understand "emotional abuse"
Again, we are talking about 20 years old I believe? isn't she responsible for her actions, for her emotions, isn't she in clear mind to see what is right and what is wrong?

I wouldn't defend that Chris dude if violence or threats were involved, but "emotional abuse" is something I can't take seriously because emotions are the "victim's" "fault"
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Sometimes it's nice to not follow the news on the internet.
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Emeraldegg posted...

trentpac posted...

"Our relationship started out poorly. Within 2 weeks, rules were quickly established."

I stopped reading there. I'm sorry I'm not going to feel sorry for someone who gets themselves in a bad relationship FROM THE START and wonders why things got so bad down the road.

She's not asking that you feel sorry for her, she's trying to bring awareness for other people who have or may in the future run into this, to learn from her mistakes.

That's fine
But if his career get hurt in any way because of this, this is uncalled for

I have no problem with the article itself as a warning for other women with the same problem, it's a
very welcome piece
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Did everyone who is saying she should just leave even finish the article? She did leave and then he and a cohort conspired to sabotage her life and career. I mean fuck.
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