Current Events > Woman calls men in their late 30s/40s who date women in 20s gross

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I assume older women like her are just jealous because they know they can no longer compete with the younger sect. She should have settled down with a good man when she was younger instead of serial dating older men.

MyBirthRight posted...

So if a man is homeless, he's maintaining a relationship with someone who has options?

Thats wrong

You don't think there are any broke men that depend on their partner for a place to live?

RiKuToTheMiGhtY posted...

Not saying to give up but know your talking to a wall of people who hate the red pill, and see men like Fresh&Fit as losers.

The 'red pill' is the gateway to a whole world of nasty misogyny and right wing extremism. I should hope most people hold it, and the YouTube grifters who peddle it, in contempt.

Fresh And Fit, Just Pearly Things, and whatever podcast are not grifters

MyBirthRight posted...

Fresh And Fit, Just Pearly Things, and whatever podcast are not grifters

Just Pearly Things? Are you being serious?

She's a joke.

I didn't read all of the responses, but I started dating my fiance when I was 43/44 and she was 28. Anyone who has an issue likely has some level of envy or jealousy.

Edit: I see that @RISEofCHRISTIAN has an issue! Lol

sounds like a jelly woman to me

It's not "gross" but a lot of men just see women as masculine status and sexual release, and a lot of women are equally shallow and look for a man to provide resources and social status in a different way.

The age difference thing when dealing with consenting adults is more about how we are socialized and divided by culture, religion, politics, economic class, etc...

These topics always make me feel weird for actually dating while in my 20s

Trying to get caught up here is like paddling a canoe through a creek of eyeroll

Not reading this whole thing but yes F&F are sad men. Rich, maybe. But they'll never have a healthy relationship with a woman if they believe half the things they say.

Actually, writing it out sort of made me realize how screwed up our "normal schedule / roadmap" is for professional women. Had a few younger preceptors that had given up on starting a family because they were too old by the time they completed their training.

Every time I see someone posting red pill my first thought is "oh, this is someone that talks about what men and women want but never actually dated themselves."

This topic needs this video:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KNIZofPB8ZM

Xenogears15 posted...

An age gap of that magnitude bothers me too, and I'm a dude. Anything in the double digits is just gross to me.

If 30 and 40 is gross to you, you got issues dude. Let alone 50 and 60 etc.

MyBirthRight posted...

If a man is good looking but is broke, he won't maintain any relationship

if a man has a good personality, that wont matter if he doesn't fit certain physical requirements

Men are judged on a multi layer set of things

you types make it super obvious you have never had a relationship or even talked to women before smh

andel posted...

you types make it super obvious you have never had a relationship or even talked to women before smh

These red pill losers are never in actual relationships. It's painfully obvious that if they do somehow find a woman that woman will very quickly leave once she realizes what a loser the guy is.

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Damn I'm only 5'5, my fiance must be stepping out on me every night!

Im 29 and I wouldnt even date a 21 year old. Its pretty weird to me. Once you meet a certain age you shouldnt be pursuing women that young IMO.

CanuckCowboy posted...

If 30 and 40 is gross to you, you got issues dude. Let alone 50 and 60 etc.

Very disingenuous take. Nobody is saying 30 and 40 is weird. People are saying 30 and 20 is weird. You should not be 30+ and dating a chick that cant even get into a bar.

MrDrMan posted...

Im 29 and I wouldnt even date a 21 year old. Its pretty weird to me. Once you meet a certain age you shouldnt be pursuing women that young IMO.

What makes you think that somebody who ends up with a younger partner was necessarily pursuing that scenario?

Glob posted...

What makes you think that somebody who ends up with a younger partner was necessarily pursuing that scenario?

Romantic partnerships dont just happen on accident. There is no other way for it to happen. Even if the younger party approaches first, once you are reciprocating interest then you are pursuing.

Red pill loser grifters like Fresh and Fit really broke a lot of loser dudes brains.

MrDrMan posted...

Romantic partnerships dont just happen on accident. There is no other way for it to happen. Even if the younger party approaches first, once you are reciprocating interest then you are pursuing.

Or just letting it happen. I get approached by younger women all the time. I feel like youre misusing pursuing here.

I also still dont see whats wrong with my being with a 24 year old at the age of 36. It works for both of us. Why should it bother anybody else?

I would understand it creeping people out if I was only ever interested in women who were much younger, but thats not the case. Most of my partners have been more or less the same age as me. This is the first time theres been a sizeable age gap but its also the most healthy relationship Ive ever had.

Glob posted...

Or just letting it happen. I get approached by younger women all the time. I feel like youre misusing pursuing here.

I also still dont see whats wrong with my being with a 24 year old at the age of 36. It works for both of us. Why should it bother anybody else?

I would understand it creeping people out if I was only ever interested in women who were much younger, but thats not the case. Most of my partners have been more or less the same age as me. This is the first time theres been a sizeable age gap but its also the most healthy relationship Ive ever had.

Its not inherently wrong, but the potential for abuse can be much greater and extra care needs to be taken to avoid problematic dynamics in the relationship (financial, emotional, psychological, etc)

CSCA33 posted...

Its not inherently wrong, but the potential for abuse can be much greater and extra care needs to be taken to avoid problematic dynamics in the relationship (financial, emotional, psychological, etc)

You know what? That I can agree with.

I think part of the reason that it works well in my case is because theres not a massive imbalance of power. While there are obviously situations which I have more experience and knowledge of by virtue of being older, there are also a number of situations in which she has more experience and knowledge because she is a native and I am a foreigner living in her country and come from a very different culture.

It more or less balances out.

Holy shit at this topic

bsp77 posted...

I started dating my fiance when I was 43/44 and she was 28. Anyone who has an issue likely has some level of envy or jealousy.

lmao

Lol. The same people here who get creeped out by older men dating younger women have no issue with the military targeting 17 year olds.

Wtf

Glob posted...

Or just letting it happen. I get approached by younger women all the time. I feel like youre misusing pursuing here.

Exactly. Letting it happen. That is a choice my friend. I get approached by younger women too and Im simply not interested. Doesnt make you a bad person but as I said before these things do not happen by accident.

I also still dont see whats wrong with my being with a 24 year old at the age of 36. It works for both of us. Why should it bother anybody else?

I would understand it creeping people out if I was only ever interested in women who were much younger, but thats not the case. Most of my partners have been more or less the same age as me. This is the first time theres been a sizeable age gap but its also the most healthy relationship Ive ever had.

Im not saying its wrong but it strikes me as odd just based on my own life experiences. Most people I know date within a few years of each other. It doesnt make people who dont do this bad, its just outside of the norm for me and to be honest I dont see the appeal but that is just my personal opinion.

It all comes down to intention. Its not bad by itself but it definitely raises and eyebrow as something to watch.

Aloc posted...

Lol. The same people here who get creeped out by older men dating younger women have no issue with the military targeting 17 year olds.

Wtf

Nice strawman

MrDrMan posted...

Exactly. Letting it happen. That is a choice my friend. I get approached by younger women too and Im simply not interested. Doesnt make you a bad person but as I said before these things do not happen by accident.

Im not denying that its a choice. Just saying that it can be a fairly passive one, and in those cases, pursuing feels like the wrong word.

Im not saying its wrong but it strikes me as odd just based on my own life experiences. Most people I know date within a few years of each other. It doesnt make people who dont do this bad, its just outside of the norm for me and to be honest I dont see the appeal but that is just my personal opinion.

Like I said, this is the only time Ive been in a relationship with a large age gap. But shes got her shit together to a degree that most people her age havent. Im not saying that Id want to be in a relationship with most people her age.

MrDrMan posted...

It all comes down to intention. Its not bad by itself but it definitely raises and eyebrow as something to watch.

There are definitely people who its dodgy motivations out there. This is particularly true if people who deliberately seek somebody with an age gap. However, my main motivation was that I liked her.

Glob posted...

Im not denying that its a choice. Just saying that it can be a fairly passive one, and in those cases, pursuing feels like the wrong word.

Like I said, this is the only time Ive been in a relationship with a large age gap. But shes got her shit together to a degree that most people her age havent. Im not saying that Id want to be in a relationship with most people her age.

Im not talking about you specifically. I just mean in general. A 20 year old really has no idea who they even are as an adult yet. 24-25 is nowhere near as bad. I think there is a massive jump in maturity for most from 21>25 and even again from 25 to 30. Thats just my experience though. Everyone matures at their own pace.

Do you man its really not anyone elses business as long as yall are both cool with it.

The problem with discussing this topic online is that its incredibly situational. Someone in their mid 20s dating someone in their 30s isnt automatically wild, especially in this day and age.

The "life experience" angle can be super gray in these hypotheticals, as they're plenty of places those 2 age groups could reasonably socialize and form relationships.

Its not exactly the 30+ year old going to frat parties

I'm 35. My wife is 24, turns 25 this year. I reckon I clung to my youth by getting married and having a baby

MrDrMan posted...

Nice strawman

It's not a strawman. It literally happens.

I would add in my agreement with the majority of you all but it's just kind of echo chambery. What we really need is this kind of talk in more normal spaces.

Vermander posted...

Someone who is 21 is not fully mentally mature, where someone in their 40s is a fully developed adult. Unless it is predatory or they are some celebrity I dont see why theyd go after a partner this young.

You're infantilizing an adult woman, robbing her of her agency and something tells me you would never do if the genders were swapped.

VeesMcGees posted...

Idk about then, but I was always sus of that age gap among the people I knew who dated like that. That, and it wasn't common. I think I only knew like maybe half-a-dozen at most who dated or were otherwise in a relationship with an age gap like while in their 20s. There could be normal relationships with that age gap, and almost certainly are, I just haven't seen them.

Ive seen quite a few More guy/guy relationships, though

RISEofCHRISTIAN posted...

There should be a law that that makes it illegal to have more than a 7 year age gap between the man and woman.

This is just asinine I hope youre joking

MrDrMan posted...

Im 29 and I wouldnt even date a 21 year old. Its pretty weird to me. Once you meet a certain age you shouldnt be pursuing women that young IMO.

I dont think its weird As long as everything is legal and everybody is happy, who cares? Then again, Im gay, so I think the rules are different Either way, its not always the same person pursuing it Who says the younger one isnt the one pursuing? The older party might just be like, Sure.

CSCA33 posted...

Its not inherently wrong, but the potential for abuse can be much greater and extra care needs to be taken to avoid problematic dynamics in the relationship (financial, emotional, psychological, etc)

Probably Though, either partner can abuse each other Ans in different ways

consenting adults in relationships are CANCELLED

My stand is: As long as it's legal it ain't my problem or anybody else's but the two people in that relation.

I have to say I do find it hilarious how people use legality as a defense when people get bashed on this site for things that are legal ALL the time.

Tell CE you cheated on someone and you will be absolutely crucified. Now as long as its legal who am I to judge?. Its truly comical.

Legality and morality arent the same. Ill say anyone that ever pulls the age of consent card is for sure a creep.

If I had the money I would never ever date my age lol