Board 8 > Online dating sucks

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CassandraCain 03/02/23 7:17:02 PM #1:	But so does regular dating lol so I might as well give it a try. I've heard enough stories about people finding their "soulmate" on a dating site by now that I'm thinking it might be my best option. Especially considering that I don't care for most people... I'm not at all comfortable with it which is why I'm making this topic against my better judgement. I'd rather not have to ask board 8 for dating advice, but I don't know what else to do anymore. Anyway my main issue right now is that I tried out eharmony and their basic plan is ~$50 a month, and it's a six month plan? Should I be expecting it to take that long to find someone? It just seems weird to me. Granted I'm sure I could cancel but I would just prefer something that has a monthly plan I guess. I dunno I'm dumb and don't know how to approach this at all halp --- I don't kill... but I don't lose either. <cite>CassandraCain posted [p:971915162] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>But so does regular dating lol so I might as well give it a try. I've heard enough stories about people finding their "soulmate" on a dating site by now that I'm thinking it might be my best option. Especially considering that I don't care for most people...I'm not at all comfortable with it which is why I'm making this topic against my better judgement. I'd rather not have to ask board 8 for dating advice, but I don't know what else to do anymore. Anyway my main issue right now is that I tried out eharmony and their basic plan is ~$50 a month, and it's a six month plan? Should I be expecting it to take that long to find someone? It just seems weird to me. Granted I'm sure I could cancel but I would just prefer something that has a monthly plan I guess. I dunno I'm dumb and don't know how to approach this at all halp</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
changmas 03/02/23 7:20:37 PM #2:	not sure how old you are, but if you're under 35ish i'd say use hinge for sure, it's by far the most popular app (that isn't completely riddled with bots like tinder) and it's free. if you're outside of that age range, idk, sorry, hopefully somebody else can help! --- The Artist Formerly Known as Hannyabal <cite>changmas posted [p:971915228] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>not sure how old you are, but if you're under 35ish i'd say use hinge for sure, it's by far the most popular app (that isn't completely riddled with bots like tinder) and it's free.if you're outside of that age range, idk, sorry, hopefully somebody else can help!</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
GTM 03/02/23 7:25:04 PM #3:	I'm in toronto, I'm 33, found my current partner a year ago on bumble --- GTM - Boko United survivor and dillos and nintendo and you are awesome <cite>GTM posted [p:971915313] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>I'm in toronto, I'm 33, found my current partner a year ago on bumble</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Uglyface2 03/02/23 7:27:52 PM #4:	I didn't have much luck on eHarmony, and I tried it on two different occasions. I managed a couple of conversations, but they led nowhere. Also, there are apparently bots and scammers despite the paywall. Maybe you'll have better luck. <cite>Uglyface2 posted [p:971915369] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>I didn't have much luck on eHarmony, and I tried it on two different occasions. I managed a couple of conversations, but they led nowhere. Also, there are apparently bots and scammers despite the paywall. Maybe you'll have better luck.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
RaidenGarai 03/02/23 7:33:33 PM #5:	I met my wife of 11 years on match.com, and my cousin met her husband of 12 years there as well. Best of luck to you! It does work. --- https://www.twitch.tv/zerothe14th <cite>RaidenGarai posted [p:971915469] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>I met my wife of 11 years on match.com, and my cousin met her husband of 12 years there as well. Best of luck to you! It does work.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Corrik7 03/02/23 7:42:58 PM #6:	Eharmony and match got me some dates but both apps are becoming worse and worse especially lately. Tinder is a shit show. Bumble is becoming bad. If you want the scum of the earth, try pof. Hinge is okay but honestly use facebook dating too. --- Xbox Live User Name - Corrik PSN User Name - Corrik7 Currently playing: Control (X1) <cite>Corrik7 posted [p:971915643] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>Eharmony and match got me some dates but both apps are becoming worse and worse especially lately. Tinder is a shit show. Bumble is becoming bad. If you want the scum of the earth, try pof. Hinge is okay but honestly use facebook dating too.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Underleveled 03/02/23 7:48:05 PM #7:	I haven't had an incredible amount of luck on any of them, much like offline dating, but I've actually managed to get dates off of Match and OKCupid and a summer thing from Bumble. Tinder is dreadful and my God, how are people recommending Hinge? It's the worst one of all, IMO. Frankly I'm over it. Maybe I just live in a bad pool, but I've heard from multiple sources that it's becoming near-impossible to get matches on these things, especially for men, unless you're a borderline supermodel. --- darkx Twitch - MattyDsCorner Games beaten in 2023 - 2; Most recent - Pokemon Legends: Arceus <cite>Underleveled posted [p:971915748] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>I haven't had an incredible amount of luck on any of them, much like offline dating, but I've actually managed to get dates off of Match and OKCupid and a summer thing from Bumble. Tinder is dreadful and my God, how are people recommending Hinge? It's the worst one of all, IMO.Frankly I'm over it. Maybe I just live in a bad pool, but I've heard from multiple sources that it's becoming near-impossible to get matches on these things, especially for men, unless you're a borderline supermodel.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
CassandraCain 03/02/23 7:50:55 PM #8:	I'm going on 33 so I guess I can give Hinge a try. I will never touch Tinder or pof. Bumble seems sketchy to me. And I got rid of facebook a long time ago. So other than hinge, it looks like eharmony or match is the best bet? edit: so no hinge? My topic title seems accurate... --- I don't kill... but I don't lose either. <cite>CassandraCain posted [p:971915809] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>I'm going on 33 so I guess I can give Hinge a try.I will never touch Tinder or pof. Bumble seems sketchy to me. And I got rid of facebook a long time ago.So other than hinge, it looks like eharmony or match is the best bet?edit: so no hinge? My topic title seems accurate...</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Underleveled 03/02/23 7:53:52 PM #9:	CassandraCain posted... it looks like eharmony or match is the best bet? In terms of finding real people and getting matches, Match is probably the best, but it's also very expensive and unless things have changed from when I was on it, you basically have to pay for each feature separately, and the total package was some absolutely asinine price that nobody should ever be desperate enough to pay. --- darkx Twitch - MattyDsCorner Games beaten in 2023 - 2; Most recent - Pokemon Legends: Arceus <cite>Underleveled posted [p:971915851] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>CassandraCain posted... </cite><quote>it looks like eharmony or match is the best bet?</quote>In terms of finding real people and getting matches, Match is probably the best, but it's also very expensive and unless things have changed from when I was on it, you basically have to pay for each feature separately, and the total package was some absolutely asinine price that nobody should ever be desperate enough to pay.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Corrik7 03/02/23 7:58:24 PM #10:	Underleveled posted... In terms of finding real people and getting matches, Match is probably the best, but it's also very expensive and unless things have changed from when I was on it, you basically have to pay for each feature separately, and the total package was some absolutely asinine price that nobody should ever be desperate enough to pay. That's actually what makes match and eharmony the most attractive apps because people who paid the price are more likely to be serious and actually date. Just watch about falling into the trap of people who just want pen pals and don't actually want to ever meet. And ofc misleading pictures. --- Xbox Live User Name - Corrik PSN User Name - Corrik7 Currently playing: Control (X1) <cite>Corrik7 posted [p:971915930] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>Underleveled posted... </cite><quote>In terms of finding real people and getting matches, Match is probably the best, but it's also very expensive and unless things have changed from when I was on it, you basically have to pay for each feature separately, and the total package was some absolutely asinine price that nobody should ever be desperate enough to pay.</quote>That's actually what makes match and eharmony the most attractive apps because people who paid the price are more likely to be serious and actually date. Just watch about falling into the trap of people who just want pen pals and don't actually want to ever meet. And ofc misleading pictures. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
masterplum 03/02/23 8:11:35 PM #11:	I liked OkCupid because it let you see compatibility ratings based on questions. It was easy to weed out people who didn't try Having said that OkCupid has gone downhill a bit since I used it to meet my spouse... shoot 4 years ago? Its still ok but now its swipey like the rest of them. Still way better than blind swipes but not as great. Still free though. For absolutely most serious match is probably the way to go because nobody is paying money unless they are extremely serious --- https://pbs.twimg.com/media/BdWiElvIQAAQpBt.jpg <cite>masterplum posted [p:971916217] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>I liked OkCupid because it let you see compatibility ratings based on questions. It was easy to weed out people who didn't tryHaving said that OkCupid has gone downhill a bit since I used it to meet my spouse... shoot 4 years ago? Its still ok but now its swipey like the rest of them. Still way better than blind swipes but not as great. Still free though.For absolutely most serious match is probably the way to go because nobody is paying money unless they are extremely serious</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
CassandraCain 03/02/23 8:12:22 PM #12:	Corrik7 posted... That's actually what makes match and eharmony the most attractive apps because people who paid the price are more likely to be serious and actually date. This is along the lines of my own thought process, I figured a site that people paid for would yield better results since I want someone who's actually serious about a long term relationship. Whereas the free apps just seem like a way to get a quick fling, which is not at all what I want. --- I don't kill... but I don't lose either. <cite>CassandraCain posted [p:971916227] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>Corrik7 posted... </cite><quote>That's actually what makes match and eharmony the most attractive apps because people who paid the price are more likely to be serious and actually date.</quote>This is along the lines of my own thought process, I figured a site that people paid for would yield better results since I want someone who's actually serious about a long term relationship. Whereas the free apps just seem like a way to get a quick fling, which is not at all what I want.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Underleveled 03/02/23 8:13:12 PM #13:	Yeah OKCupid is probably the best current happy medium between being free and not totally sucking. It's definitely not as great as it used to be but it's still reasonably possible to find and match with real people without paying up the wazoo. --- darkx Twitch - MattyDsCorner Games beaten in 2023 - 2; Most recent - Pokemon Legends: Arceus <cite>Underleveled posted [p:971916246] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>Yeah OKCupid is probably the best current happy medium between being free and not totally sucking. It's definitely not as great as it used to be but it's still reasonably possible to find and match with real people without paying up the wazoo.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
CassandraCain 03/02/23 8:18:32 PM #14:	It's strange to me that these sites "aren't as good as they used to be" since I figured online dating would get better with time, not worse. Apparently there was a sweet spot that I missed. Silly ass world! --- I don't kill... but I don't lose either. <cite>CassandraCain posted [p:971916359] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>It's strange to me that these sites "aren't as good as they used to be" since I figured online dating would get better with time, not worse. Apparently there was a sweet spot that I missed.Silly ass world!</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
PrivateBiscuit1 03/02/23 8:20:15 PM #15:	I've had success with OKCupid. Not sure how it is post-pandemic now though. --- I stream sometimes. Check it out! www.twitch.tv/heroicbiz/ <cite>PrivateBiscuit1 posted [p:971916410] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>I've had success with OKCupid. Not sure how it is post-pandemic now though.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
masterplum 03/02/23 8:21:37 PM #16:	CassandraCain posted... It's strange to me that these sites "aren't as good as they used to be" since I figured online dating would get better with time, not worse. Apparently there was a sweet spot that I missed. Silly ass world! They worked too well and companies wanted more money --- https://pbs.twimg.com/media/BdWiElvIQAAQpBt.jpg <cite>masterplum posted [p:971916440] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>CassandraCain posted... </cite><quote>It's strange to me that these sites "aren't as good as they used to be" since I figured online dating would get better with time, not worse. Apparently there was a sweet spot that I missed.Silly ass world!</quote>They worked too well and companies wanted more money</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Underleveled 03/02/23 8:21:37 PM #17:	CassandraCain posted... It's strange to me that these sites "aren't as good as they used to be" since I figured online dating would get better with time, not worse. Apparently there was a sweet spot. Silly ass world! Really? Considering most online services have gotten worse over the years (the result of corporate greed) and as you get older the dating pool close to your own age gets smaller, I see no reason to believe online dating would have done anything but go down the shitter. --- darkx Twitch - MattyDsCorner Games beaten in 2023 - 2; Most recent - Pokemon Legends: Arceus <cite>Underleveled posted [p:971916442] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>CassandraCain posted... </cite><quote>It's strange to me that these sites "aren't as good as they used to be" since I figured online dating would get better with time, not worse. Apparently there was a sweet spot.Silly ass world!</quote>Really? Considering most online services have gotten worse over the years (the result of corporate greed) and as you get older the dating pool close to your own age gets smaller, I see no reason to believe online dating would have done anything but go down the shitter.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
TomNook 03/02/23 8:22:18 PM #18:	Don't fall into the trap that you have to date or be in a relationship to be happy. That life isn't for everyone, but many people think their life success is measured in things like that, and they get depressed when they don't accomplish something they feel they are supposed to. If you are really craving companionship, then go for it. But if you just feel like you aren't "where you are supposed to be at this point in your life", re-evaluate why you care in the first place, and don't let the lifestyle that others have chosen for themselves influence you. --- Bells, bells, bells! <cite>TomNook posted [p:971916464] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>Don't fall into the trap that you have to date or be in a relationship to be happy. That life isn't for everyone, but many people think their life success is measured in things like that, and they get depressed when they don't accomplish something they feel they are supposed to. If you are really craving companionship, then go for it. But if you just feel like you aren't "where you are supposed to be at this point in your life", re-evaluate why you care in the first place, and don't let the lifestyle that others have chosen for themselves influence you.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
NBIceman 03/02/23 8:24:48 PM #19:	I just got engaged last month to a woman I met on Hinge so there's my success story. I was on Bumble and OKCupid at the same time but Hinge was the only one that led to any matches at all, let alone a date. --- Chilly McFreeze https://i.imgur.com/UYamul2.gif <cite>NBIceman posted [p:971916514] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>I just got engaged last month to a woman I met on Hinge so there's my success story.I was on Bumble and OKCupid at the same time but Hinge was the only one that led to any matches at all, let alone a date.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
MoogleKupo141 03/02/23 8:32:09 PM #20:	CassandraCain posted... It's strange to me that these sites "aren't as good as they used to be" since I figured online dating would get better with time, not worse. Apparently there was a sweet spot that I missed. Silly ass world! i think with OKCupid specifically, the popularity of Tinder led to them Tinderifying it in a way that was detrimental to the user experience is Eharmony not like a Christian thing? I always had the impression it was a Christian thing. --- For your Azuarc* .* At least Kupo has class and doesn't MESSAGE the people -Dr Pizza <cite>MoogleKupo141 posted [p:971916686] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>CassandraCain posted... </cite><quote>It's strange to me that these sites "aren't as good as they used to be" since I figured online dating would get better with time, not worse. Apparently there was a sweet spot that I missed.Silly ass world!</quote>i think with OKCupid specifically, the popularity of Tinder led to them Tinderifying it in a way that was detrimental to the user experienceis Eharmony not like a Christian thing? I always had the impression it was a Christian thing.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
CassandraCain 03/02/23 8:39:57 PM #21:	Underleveled posted... Really? Considering most online services have gotten worse over the years (the result of corporate greed) and as you get older the dating pool close to your own age gets smaller, I see no reason to believe online dating would have done anything but go down the shitter. No it's just because I remember when it was a new thing, and it was a stigmatism. Then suddenly it was a real and true way to find the love of your life. But apparently that was a short lived window bc corporate greed (ruining the world two steps at a time mirite). TomNook posted... Don't fall into the trap that you have to date or be in a relationship to be happy. That life isn't for everyone, but many people think their life success is measured in things like that, and they get depressed when they don't accomplish something they feel they are supposed to. If you are really craving companionship, then go for it. But if you just feel like you aren't "where you are supposed to be at this point in your life", re-evaluate why you care in the first place, and don't let the lifestyle that others have chosen for themselves influence you. This is a great post. It doesn't apply to me specifically but more people need to realize this fact. I would much rather die alone than end up with someone I don't belong with and I feel most people have that backwards. MoogleKupo141 posted... is Eharmony not like a Christian thing? I always had the impression it was a Christian thing I thought that was ChristianMingle? Eharmony does sound like a christian thing though tbf --- I don't kill... but I don't lose either. <cite>CassandraCain posted [p:971916871] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>Underleveled posted... </cite><quote>Really? Considering most online services have gotten worse over the years (the result of corporate greed) and as you get older the dating pool close to your own age gets smaller, I see no reason to believe online dating would have done anything but go down the shitter.</quote>No it's just because I remember when it was a new thing, and it was a stigmatism. Then suddenly it was a real and true way to find the love of your life. But apparently that was a short lived window bc corporate greed (ruining the world two steps at a time mirite).TomNook posted... </cite><quote>Don't fall into the trap that you have to date or be in a relationship to be happy. That life isn't for everyone, but many people think their life success is measured in things like that, and they get depressed when they don't accomplish something they feel they are supposed to. If you are really craving companionship, then go for it. But if you just feel like you aren't "where you are supposed to be at this point in your life", re-evaluate why you care in the first place, and don't let the lifestyle that others have chosen for themselves influence you.</quote>This is a great post. It doesn't apply to me specifically but more people need to realize this fact. I would much rather die alone than end up with someone I don't belong with and I feel most people have that backwards.MoogleKupo141 posted... </cite><quote>is Eharmony not like a Christian thing? I always had the impression it was a Christian thing</quote>I thought that was ChristianMingle? Eharmony does sound like a christian thing though tbf</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
MoogleKupo141 03/02/23 8:52:36 PM #22:	ChristianMingle is obviously explicitly Christian. EHarmony is more subtly Christian, but the founder is a big time Jesus guy https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Neil_Clark_Warren its possible that the Jesus guy influence has been basically removed at this point though, sites been around a long time they did finally allow same-sex matches on their main site in 2019 (they had a separate gay service for some years before that) --- For your Azuarc* .* At least Kupo has class and doesn't MESSAGE the people -Dr Pizza <cite>MoogleKupo141 posted [p:971917115] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>ChristianMingle is obviously explicitly Christian. EHarmony is more subtly Christian, but the founder is a big time Jesus guyhttps://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Neil_Clark_Warrenits possible that the Jesus guy influence has been basically removed at this point though, sites been around a long timethey did finally allow same-sex matches on their main site in 2019 (they had a separate gay service for some years before that)</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Corrik7 03/02/23 9:14:09 PM #23:	CassandraCain posted... It's strange to me that these sites "aren't as good as they used to be" since I figured online dating would get better with time, not worse. Apparently there was a sweet spot that I missed. Silly ass world! Speed dating is coming back now because of how far online dating has degenerated. --- Xbox Live User Name - Corrik PSN User Name - Corrik7 Currently playing: Control (X1) <cite>Corrik7 posted [p:971917570] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>CassandraCain posted... </cite><quote>It's strange to me that these sites "aren't as good as they used to be" since I figured online dating would get better with time, not worse. Apparently there was a sweet spot that I missed.Silly ass world!</quote>Speed dating is coming back now because of how far online dating has degenerated.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
CassandraCain 03/02/23 9:29:12 PM #24:	That makes me feel like there's no hope. Dying alone it is then let's goooo --- I don't kill... but I don't lose either. <cite>CassandraCain posted [p:971917877] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>That makes me feel like there's no hope.Dying alone it is then let's goooo</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
redrocket 03/02/23 9:59:12 PM #25:	Theres always hope. I met my wife when I was 34 and I wasnt even actively looking. --- It's like paying for bubble wrap. -transience on Final Fantasy: All the Bravest <cite>redrocket posted [p:971918575] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>Theres always hope. I met my wife when I was 34 and I wasnt even actively looking. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
SeabassDebeste 03/02/23 10:06:29 PM #26:	i had some success with tinder, hinge, and okcupid. met my wife on tinder. having good photos is super super helpful. --- yet all azuarc of all sorts are more or less capricious and unreliable - they live in the varying outer weather, and they inhale its fickleness <cite>SeabassDebeste posted [p:971918750] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>i had some success with tinder, hinge, and okcupid. met my wife on tinder.having good photos is super super helpful.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
CassandraCain 03/02/23 10:16:41 PM #27:	What constitutes as a good photo? Like I'm not ugly but I'm not super attractive either (prob goes without saying). --- I don't kill... but I don't lose either. <cite>CassandraCain posted [p:971918985] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>What constitutes as a good photo?Like I'm not ugly but I'm not super attractive either (prob goes without saying).</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Peace___Frog 03/02/23 10:22:12 PM #28:	I'm in Pittsburgh, I'm 30, found my current partner a year and a half ago on bumble --- ~Peaf~ <cite>Peace___Frog posted [p:971919116] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote><quote>I'm in Pittsburgh, I'm 30, found my current partner a year and a half ago on bumble</quote></quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
guffguy89 03/02/23 10:24:03 PM #29:	TomNook posted... Don't fall into the trap that you have to date or be in a relationship to be happy. That life isn't for everyone, but many people think their life success is measured in things like that, and they get depressed when they don't accomplish something they feel they are supposed to. If you are really craving companionship, then go for it. But if you just feel like you aren't "where you are supposed to be at this point in your life", re-evaluate why you care in the first place, and don't let the lifestyle that others have chosen for themselves influence you. Thanks for this. After dating in my HS/college/and briefly during post-college years, I have gone about 7 or so years being single...and I've absolutely loved it. I love being single and I don't really have a desire to be in a relationship. Thing is, I get constant pressure from family and friends to start dating again. It's really frustrating. All the time they suggest dating apps and such. It has sometimes gotten to me, making me think "well...is this what I'm supposed to be doing? Should I just go ahead and do it even though I don't particularly want to right now?" So yeah, do what makes you happy, that's what's most important. And good luck to you TC on your quest. A buddy of mine (who was trying to get me to start online dating) mentioned he knew two people in long term relationships that met through Tinder and that its less hook-upy now than it was in its early days. Personally, I think match or eharmony are the safer bets though. --- Don't mind me. I'm just here for the contest. <cite>guffguy89 posted [p:971919155] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>TomNook posted... </cite><quote>Don't fall into the trap that you have to date or be in a relationship to be happy. That life isn't for everyone, but many people think their life success is measured in things like that, and they get depressed when they don't accomplish something they feel they are supposed to. If you are really craving companionship, then go for it. But if you just feel like you aren't "where you are supposed to be at this point in your life", re-evaluate why you care in the first place, and don't let the lifestyle that others have chosen for themselves influence you.</quote>Thanks for this. After dating in my HS/college/and briefly during post-college years, I have gone about 7 or so years being single...and I've absolutely loved it. I love being single and I don't really have a desire to be in a relationship. Thing is, I get constant pressure from family and friends to start dating again. It's really frustrating. All the time they suggest dating apps and such. It has sometimes gotten to me, making me think "well...is this what I'm supposed to be doing? Should I just go ahead and do it even though I don't particularly want to right now?"So yeah, do what makes you happy, that's what's most important.And good luck to you TC on your quest. A buddy of mine (who was trying to get me to start online dating) mentioned he knew two people in long term relationships that met through Tinder and that its less hook-upy now than it was in its early days. Personally, I think match or eharmony are the safer bets though.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
colliding 03/02/23 10:34:15 PM #30:	they're all fine to varying degrees in your 20's and if you live in a city if you're 30 in the burbs... it's rough --- while you slept, the world changed <cite>colliding posted [p:971919380] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>they're all fine to varying degrees in your 20's and if you live in a cityif you're 30 in the burbs... it's rough</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Shattered 03/02/23 11:31:20 PM #31:	I met my wife on tinder and we have been together nearly 7 years now but it's definitely an outlier. I literally signed up when out drinking on a Friday night and spent one weekend on there. Spoke to her and one other girl. I gave my wife my number (didn't with the other girl) and told her I was deleting the app and she could text me if she still wanted to talk. She said she had been on and off for 2-3 years and it was hellish and she had long given up on actually meeting someone worthwhile on there. <cite>Shattered posted [p:971920415] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>I met my wife on tinder and we have been together nearly 7 years now but it's definitely an outlier. I literally signed up when out drinking on a Friday night and spent one weekend on there. Spoke to her and one other girl. I gave my wife my number (didn't with the other girl) and told her I was deleting the app and she could text me if she still wanted to talk. She said she had been on and off for 2-3 years and it was hellish and she had long given up on actually meeting someone worthwhile on there. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
SeabassDebeste 03/02/23 11:53:22 PM #32:	CassandraCain posted... What constitutes as a good photo? Like I'm not ugly but I'm not super attractive either (prob goes without saying). - not a selfie - taken with good lighting, preferably natural - taken with a good quality camera - you are easily identifiable (the primary photos should have you as the only person) - you look pretty good (for yourself) many, many guys won't have this sort of pic. you could ask your friends to help you with them and slowly build up a few. --- yet all azuarc of all sorts are more or less capricious and unreliable - they live in the varying outer weather, and they inhale its fickleness <cite>SeabassDebeste posted [p:971920773] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>CassandraCain posted...</cite><quote>What constitutes as a good photo?Like I'm not ugly but I'm not super attractive either (prob goes without saying).</quote>- not a selfie- taken with good lighting, preferably natural- taken with a good quality camera- you are easily identifiable (the primary photos should have you as the only person)- you look pretty good (for yourself)many, many guys won't have this sort of pic. you could ask your friends to help you with them and slowly build up a few.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Underleveled 03/03/23 12:04:53 AM #33:	Yep, it's really, REALLY tough for me to get good pics. People just don't take pics of me unless I ask them to. I assume I'm not alone in that boat. The easily identifiable thing is a big problem for everyone though. You have no idea how many women I've swiped left on because I'm at their third or fourth pic and still don't know which person they are. I also once matched with someone who had their profile pic set as one where they were not the prime subject and were off to the side, almost sneaking into the pic, and, yeah. --- darkx Twitch - MattyDsCorner Games beaten in 2023 - 2; Most recent - Pokemon Legends: Arceus <cite>Underleveled posted [p:971920955] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>Yep, it's really, REALLY tough for me to get good pics. People just don't take pics of me unless I ask them to. I assume I'm not alone in that boat.The easily identifiable thing is a big problem for everyone though. You have no idea how many women I've swiped left on because I'm at their third or fourth pic and still don't know which person they are. I also once matched with someone who had their profile pic set as one where they were not the prime subject and were off to the side, almost sneaking into the pic, and, yeah.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Underleveled 03/03/23 12:16:24 AM #34:	CassandraCain posted... Like I'm not ugly but I'm not super attractive either (prob goes without saying). This struggle is real. My self-assessment is that I don't have good features but I'm reasonably fit, dress and groom well, and practice impeccable personal hygiene. A few times I've told female friends just how little I've dated and they've come back with "I don't know why, it's not like you're a bad-looking guy," and they seemed sincere about it and not just saying it because they're my friends. So I dunno. --- darkx Twitch - MattyDsCorner Games beaten in 2023 - 2; Most recent - Pokemon Legends: Arceus <cite>Underleveled posted [p:971921113] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>CassandraCain posted... </cite><quote>Like I'm not ugly but I'm not super attractive either (prob goes without saying).</quote>This struggle is real. My self-assessment is that I don't have good features but I'm reasonably fit, dress and groom well, and practice impeccable personal hygiene. A few times I've told female friends just how little I've dated and they've come back with "I don't know why, it's not like you're a bad-looking guy," and they seemed sincere about it and not just saying it because they're my friends. So I dunno.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
MZero 03/03/23 1:01:28 AM #35:	Underleveled posted... Yep, it's really, REALLY tough for me to get good pics. People just don't take pics of me unless I ask them to. I assume I'm not alone in that boat. My problem is that I somehow manage to look like a complete doofus in every candid picture ever taken --- MZero, to the extreme https://www.twitch.tv/kabazame <cite>MZero posted [p:971921624] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>Underleveled posted... </cite><quote>Yep, it's really, REALLY tough for me to get good pics. People just don't take pics of me unless I ask them to. I assume I'm not alone in that boat.</quote>My problem is that I somehow manage to look like a complete doofus in every candid picture ever taken</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
SeabassDebeste 03/03/23 6:52:22 AM #36:	Underleveled posted... This struggle is real. My self-assessment is that I don't have good features but I'm reasonably fit, dress and groom well, and practice impeccable personal hygiene. A few times I've told female friends just how little I've dated and they've come back with "I don't know why, it's not like you're a bad-looking guy," and they seemed sincere about it and not just saying it because they're my friends. So I dunno. if you have female friends who you're close enough with to comment about stuff like that, you can ask them for help with pics. not kidding! --- yet all azuarc of all sorts are more or less capricious and unreliable - they live in the varying outer weather, and they inhale its fickleness <cite>SeabassDebeste posted [p:971924388] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>Underleveled posted...</cite><quote>This struggle is real. My self-assessment is that I don't have good features but I'm reasonably fit, dress and groom well, and practice impeccable personal hygiene. A few times I've told female friends just how little I've dated and they've come back with "I don't know why, it's not like you're a bad-looking guy," and they seemed sincere about it and not just saying it because they're my friends. So I dunno.</quote>if you have female friends who you're close enough with to comment about stuff like that, you can ask them for help with pics. not kidding!</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
_stingers_ 03/06/23 10:46:29 PM #37:	I just had an awesome first date on Saturday and we hit off, talked for 5 hours, made out in my car for like 30 mins, made plans for a second date and then she texts me 2 hours ago and says she's not feeling a match and wants to break it off. Like what the fuck? I swear that people just get off on messing with my head cuz idk how you can just 180 like that in 2 days. I hate online dating too man this shit is hell --- Congrats Black Turtle! <cite>_stingers_ posted [p:972005052] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>I just had an awesome first date on Saturday and we hit off, talked for 5 hours, made out in my car for like 30 mins, made plans for a second date and then she texts me 2 hours ago and says she's not feeling a match and wants to break it off. Like what the fuck? I swear that people just get off on messing with my head cuz idk how you can just 180 like that in 2 days. I hate online dating too man this shit is hell</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
MZero 03/06/23 11:07:14 PM #38:	_stingers_ posted... I just had an awesome first date on Saturday and we hit off, talked for 5 hours, made out in my car for like 30 mins, made plans for a second date and then she texts me 2 hours ago and says she's not feeling a match and wants to break it off. Like what the fuck? I swear that people just get off on messing with my head cuz idk how you can just 180 like that in 2 days. I hate online dating too man this shit is hell sounds like she found someone else --- MZero, to the extreme https://www.twitch.tv/kabazame <cite>MZero posted [p:972005456] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>_stingers_ posted... </cite><quote>I just had an awesome first date on Saturday and we hit off, talked for 5 hours, made out in my car for like 30 mins, made plans for a second date and then she texts me 2 hours ago and says she's not feeling a match and wants to break it off. Like what the fuck? I swear that people just get off on messing with my head cuz idk how you can just 180 like that in 2 days. I hate online dating too man this shit is hell</quote>sounds like she found someone else</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
_stingers_ 03/06/23 11:29:22 PM #39:	Yeah no shit --- Congrats Black Turtle! <cite>_stingers_ posted [p:972005757] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>Yeah no shit</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
masterplum 03/07/23 6:45:42 AM #40:	Then its not you --- https://pbs.twimg.com/media/BdWiElvIQAAQpBt.jpg <cite>masterplum posted [p:972009385] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>Then its not you</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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masterplum 03/07/23 7:23:02 AM #42:	UltimaterializerX posted... No one worth dating is using a dating app, and they are in no way designed to help you find a partner. Theyre meant to keep men addicted and to drain men of their resources, and not much else. Get off the dating apps and look for people in person. Doing just that puts you in the top 20% of men just because youll stand out so much. That percentage can be cut down even more if you have money, youre good looking, tall, etc. Ok well this isnt true at all. The most obvious rebuttal to this is there are executive dating apps for C-suite managers who dont have time to date the hard way. If someone making millions of dollars a year isnt worth dating I dont know what to tell you. While that example is a bit extreme, the principle is the same wherein the more specific type of person you are looking for, the better the chance searching specifically is going to be better than finding a random person out in the wild. Tinder sucks though --- https://pbs.twimg.com/media/BdWiElvIQAAQpBt.jpg <cite>masterplum posted [p:972009698] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>UltimaterializerX posted... </cite><quote>No one worth dating is using a dating app, and they are in no way designed to help you find a partner. Theyre meant to keep men addicted and to drain men of their resources, and not much else.Get off the dating apps and look for people in person. Doing just that puts you in the top 20% of men just because youll stand out so much. That percentage can be cut down even more if you have money, youre good looking, tall, etc.</quote>Ok well this isnt true at all.The most obvious rebuttal to this is there are executive dating apps for C-suite managers who dont have time to date the hard way.If someone making millions of dollars a year isnt worth dating I dont know what to tell you. While that example is a bit extreme, the principle is the same wherein the more specific type of person you are looking for, the better the chance searching specifically is going to be better than finding a random person out in the wild.Tinder sucks though </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
HanOfTheNekos 03/07/23 7:35:06 AM #43:	_stingers_ posted... I just had an awesome first date on Saturday and we hit off, talked for 5 hours, made out in my car for like 30 mins, made plans for a second date and then she texts me 2 hours ago and says she's not feeling a match and wants to break it off. Like what the fuck? I swear that people just get off on messing with my head cuz idk how you can just 180 like that in 2 days. I hate online dating too man this shit is hell Dude, I had one of these a year and a half ago. Dynamite girl, we had a great time, made specific plans. Then she was cancelling... Didn't have the guts to full-on cut things off, so she ghosted me after I tried to reschedule. She's a big fan of Rent so I rubbed it in her face that I saw Adam Pascal live a couple months later. UltimaterializerX posted... No one worth dating is using a dating app, and they are in no way designed to help you find a partner. Theyre meant to keep men addicted and to drain men of their resources, and not much else. Get off the dating apps and look for people in person. Doing just that puts you in the top 20% of men just because youll stand out so much. That percentage can be cut down even more if you have money, youre good looking, tall, etc. Ok boomer --- "Bordate is a pretty shady place, what with the gangs, casinos, evil corporations and water park." - FAHtastic <cite>HanOfTheNekos posted [p:972009789] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>_stingers_ posted... </cite><quote>I just had an awesome first date on Saturday and we hit off, talked for 5 hours, made out in my car for like 30 mins, made plans for a second date and then she texts me 2 hours ago and says she's not feeling a match and wants to break it off. Like what the fuck? I swear that people just get off on messing with my head cuz idk how you can just 180 like that in 2 days. I hate online dating too man this shit is hell</quote>Dude, I had one of these a year and a half ago. Dynamite girl, we had a great time, made specific plans. Then she was cancelling... Didn't have the guts to full-on cut things off, so she ghosted me after I tried to reschedule.She's a big fan of Rent so I rubbed it in her face that I saw Adam Pascal live a couple months later.UltimaterializerX posted... </cite><quote>No one worth dating is using a dating app, and they are in no way designed to help you find a partner. Theyre meant to keep men addicted and to drain men of their resources, and not much else.Get off the dating apps and look for people in person. Doing just that puts you in the top 20% of men just because youll stand out so much. That percentage can be cut down even more if you have money, youre good looking, tall, etc.</quote>Ok boomer</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
colliding 03/07/23 10:05:07 AM #44:	_stingers_ posted... I just had an awesome first date on Saturday and we hit off, talked for 5 hours, made out in my car for like 30 mins, made plans for a second date and then she texts me 2 hours ago and says she's not feeling a match and wants to break it off. Like what the fuck? I swear that people just get off on messing with my head cuz idk how you can just 180 like that in 2 days. I hate online dating too man this shit is hell this is just the nature of it. women are far more likely to have multiple matches at the same time, and therefore going out on first /second dates with multiple people. also it's far easier to just say "i'm not feeling it" via text rather than in person. it sucks but it is what it is. --- while you slept, the world changed <cite>colliding posted [p:972011626] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>_stingers_ posted... </cite><quote>I just had an awesome first date on Saturday and we hit off, talked for 5 hours, made out in my car for like 30 mins, made plans for a second date and then she texts me 2 hours ago and says she's not feeling a match and wants to break it off. Like what the fuck? I swear that people just get off on messing with my head cuz idk how you can just 180 like that in 2 days. I hate online dating too man this shit is hell</quote>this is just the nature of it. women are far more likely to have multiple matches at the same time, and therefore going out on first /second dates with multiple people. also it's far easier to just say "i'm not feeling it" via text rather than in person. it sucks but it is what it is.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
_stingers_ 03/07/23 10:58:15 AM #45:	It feels so much worse than just being alone man I hate this soul crushing shit --- Congrats Black Turtle! <cite>_stingers_ posted [p:972012568] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>It feels so much worse than just being alone man I hate this soul crushing shit</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
masterplum 03/07/23 11:13:09 AM #46:	_stingers_ posted... It feels so much worse than just being alone man I hate this soul crushing shit Are you out of your house doing hobbies? After I was divorced I religiously attended a weekly board game meet up. Was great for my mental health --- https://pbs.twimg.com/media/BdWiElvIQAAQpBt.jpg <cite>masterplum posted [p:972012862] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>_stingers_ posted... </cite><quote>It feels so much worse than just being alone man I hate this soul crushing shit</quote>Are you out of your house doing hobbies? After I was divorced I religiously attended a weekly board game meet up. Was great for my mental health </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
_stingers_ 03/07/23 11:23:03 AM #47:	Yeah I hang out with friends pretty often and I have a group thing I go to every other Wednesday. But there's a difference between that and this --- Congrats Black Turtle! <cite>_stingers_ posted [p:972013072] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>Yeah I hang out with friends pretty often and I have a group thing I go to every other Wednesday. But there's a difference between that and this </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Underleveled 03/07/23 11:51:53 AM #48:	I have mixed feelings on Ulti's post. On the one hand, having the confidence to put yourself out there in person is attractive, and not just to potential romantic/sexual partners, but also to new friends, employers, pretty much anyone that you'd want to make a good first impression for. But as bad as online dating has gotten, the idea that nobody worth dating is doing it and refusal to participate automatically makes you more desirable is bullshit. And if nothing else, it increases the odds that two shy people are going to find each other. --- darkx Twitch - MattyDsCorner Games beaten in 2023 - 2; Most recent - Pokemon Legends: Arceus <cite>Underleveled posted [p:972013751] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>I have mixed feelings on Ulti's post. On the one hand, having the confidence to put yourself out there in person is attractive, and not just to potential romantic/sexual partners, but also to new friends, employers, pretty much anyone that you'd want to make a good first impression for. But as bad as online dating has gotten, the idea that nobody worth dating is doing it and refusal to participate automatically makes you more desirable is bullshit.And if nothing else, it increases the odds that two shy people are going to find each other.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
NBIceman 03/07/23 11:55:08 AM #49:	It's nice to know having Ulti blocked is still a good idea since based on that summation he apparently thinks that both me and my soon-to-be-wife are worthless people for having met on a dating app. --- Chilly McFreeze https://i.imgur.com/UYamul2.gif <cite>NBIceman posted [p:972013835] in Online dat... [t:80366489]...</cite> <quote>It's nice to know having Ulti blocked is still a good idea since based on that summation he apparently thinks that both me and my soon-to-be-wife are worthless people for having met on a dating app.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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