Poll of the Day > I was lectured about relationships by my two female coworkers today.

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LeetCheet 08/30/21 12:43:10 PM #1:	I told one of them about my relationship issues and how it all ended. Well long story short she didn't like how my ex treated me and she especially took issue with the fact that my ex made me wait six years to do the thing with her while this new guy managed to do it in a few weeks if that. She even told that younger woman(which she's best friends with) about it all and she was also angered by it. Jeez now that really cute woman knows that I was c-blocked for half a decade. I don't quite know if I should be embarrassed or flattered about the fact that these two women actually cared about my wellbeing. What the heck? What did I do to make these two really nice women to do this for me? Not that I mind, I'm just so surprised that this is even happening. --- https://imgur.com/eQrRxik https://imgur.com/NC8itow <cite>LeetCheet posted [p:957577647] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>I told one of them about my relationship issues and how it all ended. Well long story short she didn't like how my ex treated me and she especially took issue with the fact that my ex made me wait six years to do the thing with her while this new guy managed to do it in a few weeks if that. She even told that younger woman(which she's best friends with) about it all and she was also angered by it. Jeez now that really cute woman knows that I was c-blocked for half a decade. I don't quite know if I should be embarrassed or flattered about the fact that these two women actually cared about my wellbeing. What the heck? What did I do to make these two really nice women to do this for me? Not that I mind, I'm just so surprised that this is even happening.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Mead 08/30/21 12:51:09 PM #2:	Yeah it sounds like your relationship was strange in a lot of ways and I think it gave you some skewed notions about men and women --- my resting temp can easily be in the 90's -Krazy_Kirby <cite>Mead posted [p:957577863] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>Yeah it sounds like your relationship was strange in a lot of ways and I think it gave you some skewed notions about men and women </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
wwinterj25 08/30/21 1:19:33 PM #3:	Anyone would think that when you had to wait six years for sex in a relationship but chad gets it right away when you split is weird. Still it does show that you're respectful of others wishes. --- One who knows nothing can understand nothing. http://psnprofiles.com/wwinterj - https://imgur.com/guXxsmA <cite>wwinterj25 posted [p:957578634] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>Anyone would think that when you had to wait six years for sex in a relationship but chad gets it right away when you split is weird. Still it does show that you're respectful of others wishes. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
LeetCheet 08/30/21 1:19:40 PM #4:	Mead posted... Yeah it sounds like your relationship was strange in a lot of ways and I think it gave you some skewed notions about men and women Yes I know that our relationship was really... unique. I can only hope my next relationship is more normal. I also just want to say that life can be unfair for guys too despite how so many people yapping about how many privileges guys have. We don't. It's the rich people who are the truly privileged. And my ex's mother was a sexist shitbag and I hope I never get to meet someone like her ever again. wwinterj25 posted... Anyone would think that when you had to wait six years for sex in a relationship but chad gets it right away when you split is weird. Still it does show that you're respectful of others wishes. Yeah they both told me that I'm respectful to a fault even to someone who clearly showed me a lack of respect. --- https://imgur.com/eQrRxik https://imgur.com/NC8itow <cite>LeetCheet posted [p:957578638] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>Mead posted...</cite> <quote> Yeah it sounds like your relationship was strange in a lot of ways and I think it gave you some skewed notions about men and women </quote> Yes I know that our relationship was really... unique. I can only hope my next relationship is more normal. I also just want to say that life can be unfair for guys too despite how so many people yapping about how many privileges guys have. We don't. It's the rich people who are the truly privileged. And my ex's mother was a sexist shitbag and I hope I never get to meet someone like her ever again. wwinterj25 posted...</cite> <quote>Anyone would think that when you had to wait six years for sex in a relationship but chad gets it right away when you split is weird. Still it does show that you're respectful of others wishes. </quote> Yeah they both told me that I'm respectful to a fault even to someone who clearly showed me a lack of respect.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
adjl 08/30/21 1:33:02 PM #5:	LeetCheet posted... What the heck? What did I do to make these two really nice women to do this for me? In a nutshell, you're a nice guy and they're upset that you were treated so poorly. I doubt you did anything specific, you're just a person that they genuinely like and they don't want to see bad things happen to you. LeetCheet posted... Yeah they both told me that I'm respectful to a fault even to someone who clearly showed me a lack of respect. Try not to let this experience drive you to lose that. Being respectful is generally a good thing; becoming less respectful because of this would be bad. Instead, make sure you direct some of that respect toward yourself and try to recognize when people are taking advantage of it, then distance yourself from them. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. <cite>adjl posted [p:957578983] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>LeetCheet posted... </cite> <quote>What the heck? What did I do to make these two really nice women to do this for me?</quote> In a nutshell, you're a nice guy and they're upset that you were treated so poorly. I doubt you did anything specific, you're just a person that they genuinely like and they don't want to see bad things happen to you. LeetCheet posted... </cite> <quote>Yeah they both told me that I'm respectful to a fault even to someone who clearly showed me a lack of respect.</quote> Try not to let this experience drive you to lose that. Being respectful is generally a good thing; becoming less respectful because of this would be bad. Instead, make sure you direct some of that respect toward yourself and try to recognize when people are taking advantage of it, then distance yourself from them. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Mead 08/30/21 2:22:03 PM #6:	LeetCheet posted... I also just want to say that life can be unfair for guys too despite how so many people yapping about how many privileges guys have. everyone has their own struggles and their own privileges in life, thats true of people from all backgrounds you seem to routinely decide to feel attacked regarding this though, which I dont think is a healthy mindset to maintain --- my resting temp can easily be in the 90's -Krazy_Kirby <cite>Mead posted [p:957580448] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>LeetCheet posted... </cite> <quote>I also just want to say that life can be unfair for guys too despite how so many people yapping about how many privileges guys have.</quote> everyone has their own struggles and their own privileges in life, thats true of people from all backgrounds you seem to routinely decide to feel attacked regarding this though, which I dont think is a healthy mindset to maintain </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
adjl 08/30/21 3:36:41 PM #7:	Reminder: Having privilege doesn't mean you never have problems. It just means you don't have the problems that somebody else has in whatever the current context is. --- This is my signature. It exists to keep people from skipping the last line of my posts. <cite>adjl posted [p:957582689] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>Reminder: Having privilege doesn't mean you never have problems. It just means you don't have the problems that somebody else has in whatever the current context is. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
FrozenBananas 08/30/21 7:26:08 PM #8:	LeetCheet posted... she especially took issue with the fact that my ex made me wait six years to do the thing with her while this new guy managed to do it in a few weeks if that. bro what the fuck --- now this is podracing <cite>FrozenBananas posted [p:957589569] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>LeetCheet posted... </cite> <quote>she especially took issue with the fact that my ex made me wait six years to do the thing with her while this new guy managed to do it in a few weeks if that.</quote> bro what the fuck </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Metalsonic66 08/30/21 7:33:43 PM #9:	Incoming threesome --- PSN/Steam ID: Metalsonic_69 Big bombs go kabang. <cite>Metalsonic66 posted [p:957589790] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>Incoming threesome </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Zeus 08/30/21 8:07:31 PM #10:	LeetCheet posted... Well long story short she didn't like how my ex treated me and she especially took issue with the fact that my ex made me wait six years to do the thing with her while this new guy managed to do it in a few weeks if that. If that was the first time she'd done "the thing" with anybody, she might have been more open to it after you. That or the other guy was better at talking her into... idk, whatever hardcore kink you're probably referring to. LeetCheet posted... She even told that younger woman(which she's best friends with) about it all and she was also angered by it. Jeez now that really cute woman knows that I was c-blocked for half a decade. What did you expect? If two women are best friends, you can't tell one something without it going to the other. And if it was just sex, you should have broken up with her that first year. At a certain point, a lot of that is on you. adjl posted... Reminder: Having privilege doesn't mean you never have problems. It just means you don't have the problems that somebody else has in whatever the current context is. I don't think he has privilege. And most "privilege" is largely imagined or anecdotal, or carries tradeoffs. --- (\/)(\/)\|-\| There are precious few at ease / With moral ambiguities / So we act as though they don't exist. <cite>Zeus posted [p:957590773] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>LeetCheet posted... </cite> <quote>Well long story short she didn't like how my ex treated me and she especially took issue with the fact that my ex made me wait six years to do the thing with her while this new guy managed to do it in a few weeks if that.</quote> If that was the first time she'd done "the thing" with anybody, she might have been more open to it after you. That or the other guy was better at talking her into... idk, whatever hardcore kink you're probably referring to. LeetCheet posted... </cite> <quote>She even told that younger woman(which she's best friends with) about it all and she was also angered by it. Jeez now that really cute woman knows that I was c-blocked for half a decade.</quote> What did you expect? If two women are best friends, you can't tell one something without it going to the other. And if it was just sex, you should have broken up with her that first year. At a certain point, a lot of that is on you. adjl posted... </cite> <quote>Reminder: Having privilege doesn't mean you never have problems. It just means you don't have the problems that somebody else has in whatever the current context is.</quote> I don't think he has privilege. And most "privilege" is largely imagined or anecdotal, or carries tradeoffs. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
LeetCheet 08/30/21 11:44:07 PM #11:	adjl posted... In a nutshell, you're a nice guy and they're upset that you were treated so poorly. I doubt you did anything specific, you're just a person that they genuinely like and they don't want to see bad things happen to you. Yeah they seemed to be quite insistent for me to just break off completely from her. The thing is that when I visited her the other day(to bring home more of my stuff from her), she seemed genuinely happy to see me and she straight up cried when I told her how disappointed my parents was with her. It really feels like she still wants to be friends with me(she constantly tells me this as well) but my female colleagues tells me that she just wants me as a back up plan in case her current relationship fails. Mead posted... everyone has their own struggles and their own privileges in life, thats true of people from all backgrounds you seem to routinely decide to feel attacked regarding this though, which I dont think is a healthy mindset to maintain Yeah that tends to happen to you when you're not doing well. I guess I need to do something about that. FrozenBananas posted... bro what the fuck Yeah that happened because she was extremely self conscious about her body. She really didn't like her body and found faults in it everywhere. I constantly told her that wasn't true but she never believed me. She also commonly had stomach cramps and that usually killed her mood as well. She also had traces of HPV for many years and she didn't want me to get infected. Zeus posted... If that was the first time she'd done "the thing" with anybody, she might have been more open to it after you. That or the other guy was better at talking her into... idk, whatever hardcore kink you're probably referring to. What did you expect? If two women are best friends, you can't tell one something without it going to the other. And if it was just sex, you should have broken up with her that first year. At a certain point, a lot of that is on you. No she has had sex with others before me. She's just really awkward in bed. She asked me if she could tell her first though so it's not that she was just gossiping to her friend about me. I was just being respectful of her problems and didn't want her to feel uncomfortable : ( --- https://imgur.com/eQrRxik https://imgur.com/NC8itow <cite>LeetCheet posted [p:957596687] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>adjl posted...</cite> <quote>In a nutshell, you're a nice guy and they're upset that you were treated so poorly. I doubt you did anything specific, you're just a person that they genuinely like and they don't want to see bad things happen to you.</quote> Yeah they seemed to be quite insistent for me to just break off completely from her. The thing is that when I visited her the other day(to bring home more of my stuff from her), she seemed genuinely happy to see me and she straight up cried when I told her how disappointed my parents was with her. It really feels like she still wants to be friends with me(she constantly tells me this as well) but my female colleagues tells me that she just wants me as a back up plan in case her current relationship fails. Mead posted...</cite> <quote>everyone has their own struggles and their own privileges in life, thats true of people from all backgrounds you seem to routinely decide to feel attacked regarding this though, which I dont think is a healthy mindset to maintain </quote> Yeah that tends to happen to you when you're not doing well. I guess I need to do something about that. FrozenBananas posted...</cite> <quote>bro what the fuck </quote> Yeah that happened because she was extremely self conscious about her body. She really didn't like her body and found faults in it everywhere. I constantly told her that wasn't true but she never believed me. She also commonly had stomach cramps and that usually killed her mood as well. She also had traces of HPV for many years and she didn't want me to get infected. Zeus posted...</cite> <quote>If that was the first time she'd done "the thing" with anybody, she might have been more open to it after you. That or the other guy was better at talking her into... idk, whatever hardcore kink you're probably referring to. What did you expect? If two women are best friends, you can't tell one something without it going to the other. And if it was just sex, you should have broken up with her that first year. At a certain point, a lot of that is on you. </quote> No she has had sex with others before me. She's just really awkward in bed. She asked me if she could tell her first though so it's not that she was just gossiping to her friend about me. I was just being respectful of her problems and didn't want her to feel uncomfortable : (</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
streamofthesky 08/31/21 1:40:25 AM #12:	There's being respectful and being a doormat. Six years is insane, it wasn't even like you two were "saving it for marriage" since you say it wasn't her first time and you didn't wait till marriage... Were you providing her a place to live or financially supporting her during any of those six years? Sounds like she was just using you... You need to start having some standards and not be afraid to value your own needs. If she wasn't willing to sleep w/ you after a while, there's nothing wrong w/ ending things and walking away. You have needs, too. Also, I'm not sure why you said your "nice" co-workers "did this for me". Did what? Spread embarrassing gossip about your sex life? A lot of women might act disgusting that a nice guy like you could be treated like that. Even wish they could "find a guy like you". But yet....they never just date you. Has to be someone like you, but not you. Almost like it's empty words. Just value your time and attention more going forward. LeetCheet posted... No she has had sex with others before me. She's just really awkward in bed. And, assuming this wasn't just an excuse to string you along, I'll never understand that kind of reasoning. Ditto for women looking for a long term relationship and want a guy who's experienced. Like...you're going to be together for the long term. You'll have lots of practice. :) Just have some patience and learn together... <cite>streamofthesky posted [p:957598596] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>There's being respectful and being a doormat. Six years is insane, it wasn't even like you two were "saving it for marriage" since you say it wasn't her first time and you didn't wait till marriage... Were you providing her a place to live or financially supporting her during any of those six years? Sounds like she was just using you... You need to start having some standards and not be afraid to value your own needs. If she wasn't willing to sleep w/ you after a while, there's nothing wrong w/ ending things and walking away. You have needs, too. Also, I'm not sure why you said your "nice" co-workers "did this for me". Did what? Spread embarrassing gossip about your sex life? A lot of women might act disgusting that a nice guy like you could be treated like that. Even wish they could "find a guy like you". But yet....they never just date you. Has to be someone like you, but not you. Almost like it's empty words. Just value your time and attention more going forward. LeetCheet posted... </cite> <quote>No she has had sex with others before me. She's just really awkward in bed. </quote> And, assuming this wasn't just an excuse to string you along, I'll never understand that kind of reasoning. Ditto for women looking for a long term relationship and want a guy who's experienced. Like...you're going to be together for the long term. You'll have lots of practice. :) Just have some patience and learn together... </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Gaawa_chan 08/31/21 1:47:30 AM #13:	LeetCheet posted... Well long story short she didn't like how my ex treated me and she especially took issue with the fact that my ex made me wait six years to do the thing with her while this new guy managed to do it in a few weeks if that. I have a relative who has a sort of similar issue but worse. After they had one kid together, the wife refused to sleep with him at all... and they won't get divorced... and she won't let him see other people... it's been literal decades (their son just got out of Afghanistan). I don't get it. He should just leave her, but he doesn't. Makes no sense to me. --- Hi <cite>Gaawa_chan posted [p:957598683] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>LeetCheet posted... </cite> <quote>Well long story short she didn't like how my ex treated me and she especially took issue with the fact that my ex made me wait six years to do the thing with her while this new guy managed to do it in a few weeks if that.</quote>I have a relative who has a sort of similar issue but worse. After they had one kid together, the wife refused to sleep with him at all... and they won't get divorced... and she won't let him see other people... it's been literal decades (their son just got out of Afghanistan). I don't get it. He should just leave her, but he doesn't. Makes no sense to me. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
DocDelicious 08/31/21 2:03:39 AM #14:	LeetCheet posted... she just wants me as a back up plan in case her current relationship fails. They're 100% correct and you should listen to them. --- o7 Let strength be granted so the world might be mended. <cite>DocDelicious posted [p:957598863] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>LeetCheet posted... </cite> <quote>she just wants me as a back up plan in case her current relationship fails.</quote> They're 100% correct and you should listen to them. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Zeus 08/31/21 2:52:11 AM #15:	Yeah they seemed to be quite insistent for me to just break off completely from her. Yeah, why the fuck haven't you done that already? Get out of there. It needs to be a clean break. You're just making this worse for yourself. --- (\/)(\/)\|-\| There are precious few at ease / With moral ambiguities / So we act as though they don't exist. <cite>Zeus posted [p:957599467] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote><quote>Yeah they seemed to be quite insistent for me to just break off completely from her.</quote> Yeah, why the fuck haven't you done that already? Get out of there. It needs to be a clean break. You're just making this worse for yourself. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
LeetCheet 08/31/21 2:52:25 AM #16:	streamofthesky posted... There's being respectful and being a doormat. Six years is insane, it wasn't even like you two were "saving it for marriage" since you say it wasn't her first time and you didn't wait till marriage... Were you providing her a place to live or financially supporting her during any of those six years? Sounds like she was just using you... You need to start having some standards and not be afraid to value your own needs. If she wasn't willing to sleep w/ you after a while, there's nothing wrong w/ ending things and walking away. You have needs, too. Also, I'm not sure why you said your "nice" co-workers "did this for me". Did what? Spread embarrassing gossip about your sex life? A lot of women might act disgusting that a nice guy like you could be treated like that. Even wish they could "find a guy like you". But yet....they never just date you. Has to be someone like you, but not you. Almost like it's empty words. Just value your time and attention more going forward. I guess I just didn't want to upset her by being pushy so I chose patience instead. I didn't financially support her and we each had a separate apartment. No I just thought that they were so kind to me that they wasted precious work-time just to talk to me and the fact that they were worried about me. I don't think she'll spread the word around to everyone because she specifically asked for my consent that if she could discuss this with one of our coworkers. I don't mind because it's always hard for me to talk about these things with others. I really appreciate her efforts and that she listens to me(and I listen to her in return about her issues). --- https://imgur.com/eQrRxik https://imgur.com/NC8itow <cite>LeetCheet posted [p:957599472] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>streamofthesky posted...</cite> <quote>There's being respectful and being a doormat. Six years is insane, it wasn't even like you two were "saving it for marriage" since you say it wasn't her first time and you didn't wait till marriage... Were you providing her a place to live or financially supporting her during any of those six years? Sounds like she was just using you... You need to start having some standards and not be afraid to value your own needs. If she wasn't willing to sleep w/ you after a while, there's nothing wrong w/ ending things and walking away. You have needs, too. Also, I'm not sure why you said your "nice" co-workers "did this for me". Did what? Spread embarrassing gossip about your sex life? A lot of women might act disgusting that a nice guy like you could be treated like that. Even wish they could "find a guy like you". But yet....they never just date you. Has to be someone like you, but not you. Almost like it's empty words. Just value your time and attention more going forward.</quote> I guess I just didn't want to upset her by being pushy so I chose patience instead. I didn't financially support her and we each had a separate apartment. No I just thought that they were so kind to me that they wasted precious work-time just to talk to me and the fact that they were worried about me. I don't think she'll spread the word around to everyone because she specifically asked for my consent that if she could discuss this with one of our coworkers. I don't mind because it's always hard for me to talk about these things with others. I really appreciate her efforts and that she listens to me(and I listen to her in return about her issues).</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
streamofthesky 08/31/21 3:03:55 AM #17:	LeetCheet posted... I guess I just didn't want to upset her by being pushy so I chose patience instead. I didn't financially support her and we each had a separate apartment. Pushing for it is being pushy. Moving on b/c you two have wildly different expectations / timetables is not. What you want matters, too. The vast, vast majority would say 6 years is crazy, though. Even 1 year is a long time to wait. If she wants that then fine, but most other people won't and it sounds like you didn't, but you were afraid to assert yourself on the matter. I'm glad you weren't being used financially, at least. No I just thought that they were so kind to me that they wasted precious work-time just to talk to me and the fact that they were worried about me. I don't think she'll spread the word around to everyone because she specifically asked for my consent that if she could discuss this with one of our coworkers. I don't mind because it's always hard for me to talk about these things with others. Maybe your workplace is super busy and efficient. Every one I've ever been to, there's been plenty of gossip, "water cooler" talk, etc... And if she asked for your consent to tell other people, that sounds at odds w/ your first post: LeetCheet posted... She even told that younger woman(which she's best friends with) about it all and she was also angered by it. Jeez now that really cute woman knows that I was c-blocked for half a decade. Made it sound like you were surprised and unhappy she told the 2nd person... But whatever. <cite>streamofthesky posted [p:957599594] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>LeetCheet posted... </cite> <quote>I guess I just didn't want to upset her by being pushy so I chose patience instead. I didn't financially support her and we each had a separate apartment.</quote>Pushing for it is being pushy. Moving on b/c you two have wildly different expectations / timetables is not. What you want matters, too. The vast, vast majority would say 6 years is crazy, though. Even 1 year is a long time to wait. If she wants that then fine, but most other people won't and it sounds like you didn't, but you were afraid to assert yourself on the matter. I'm glad you weren't being used financially, at least. <quote>No I just thought that they were so kind to me that they wasted precious work-time just to talk to me and the fact that they were worried about me. I don't think she'll spread the word around to everyone because she specifically asked for my consent that if she could discuss this with one of our coworkers. I don't mind because it's always hard for me to talk about these things with others.</quote> Maybe your workplace is super busy and efficient. Every one I've ever been to, there's been plenty of gossip, "water cooler" talk, etc... And if she asked for your consent to tell other people, that sounds at odds w/ your first post: LeetCheet posted... </cite> <quote>She even told that younger woman(which she's best friends with) about it all and she was also angered by it. Jeez now that really cute woman knows that I was c-blocked for half a decade.</quote>Made it sound like you were surprised and unhappy she told the 2nd person... But whatever. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Muscles 08/31/21 3:23:11 AM #18:	Listen to them, and cut the victim complex. You know I have always been cool with you and want to see you be happy, you can't with your mindset. Sorry if this sounds harsh but you have to stop feeling sorry for yourself. You are a good guy you just have to get a more positive mindset. --- Muscles Chicago Bears \| Chicago Blackhawks \| Chicago Bulls \| Chicago Cubs \| NIU Huskies <cite>Muscles posted [p:957599788] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>Listen to them, and cut the victim complex. You know I have always been cool with you and want to see you be happy, you can't with your mindset. Sorry if this sounds harsh but you have to stop feeling sorry for yourself. You are a good guy you just have to get a more positive mindset. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
LeetCheet 08/31/21 3:34:46 AM #19:	Yeah maybe I could've said it better in my first post. With English not being my first language and all that. But when I hear that people have talked about me, I'm always surprised because I've always thought of myself as a boring, uninteresting guy that doesn't leave any impression on anyone. Who even wants to talk about me? I'm boring and most of the time too afraid to start talking with people because I always think that I'll just annoy others with my presence anyway so why even bother. But apparently these two found something about me worth caring about. Muscles posted... Listen to them, and cut the victim complex. You know I have always been cool with you and want to see you be happy, you can't with your mindset. Sorry if this sounds harsh but you have to stop feeling sorry for yourself. You are a good guy you just have to get a more positive mindset. Yeah maybe I can start improving myself now when I'm not in that relationship anymore. --- https://imgur.com/eQrRxik https://imgur.com/NC8itow <cite>LeetCheet posted [p:957599913] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>Yeah maybe I could've said it better in my first post. With English not being my first language and all that. But when I hear that people have talked about me, I'm always surprised because I've always thought of myself as a boring, uninteresting guy that doesn't leave any impression on anyone. Who even wants to talk about me? I'm boring and most of the time too afraid to start talking with people because I always think that I'll just annoy others with my presence anyway so why even bother. But apparently these two found something about me worth caring about. Muscles posted...</cite> <quote>Listen to them, and cut the victim complex. You know I have always been cool with you and want to see you be happy, you can't with your mindset. Sorry if this sounds harsh but you have to stop feeling sorry for yourself. You are a good guy you just have to get a more positive mindset. </quote> Yeah maybe I can start improving myself now when I'm not in that relationship anymore.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Muscles 08/31/21 3:44:15 AM #20:	LeetCheet posted... I'm boring and most of the time too afraid to start talking with people because I always think that I'll just annoy others with my presence anyway so why even bother. People will get annoyed with you regardless of what you do, any mistake will annoy someone and having no mistakes will annoy them too. Some people even get annoyed by people that barely talk so you could still theoretically be annoying people with your current strategy. --- Muscles Chicago Bears \| Chicago Blackhawks \| Chicago Bulls \| Chicago Cubs \| NIU Huskies <cite>Muscles posted [p:957600022] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>LeetCheet posted... </cite> <quote>I'm boring and most of the time too afraid to start talking with people because I always think that I'll just annoy others with my presence anyway so why even bother.</quote>People will get annoyed with you regardless of what you do, any mistake will annoy someone and having no mistakes will annoy them too. Some people even get annoyed by people that barely talk so you could still theoretically be annoying people with your current strategy. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Mead 08/31/21 4:39:00 AM #21:	Muscles posted... People will get annoyed with you regardless of what you do, any mistake will annoy someone and having no mistakes will annoy them too. Some people even get annoyed by people that barely talk so you could still theoretically be annoying people with your current strategy. everyone gets annoyed sometimes try not to take it personally if people do --- my resting temp can easily be in the 90's -Krazy_Kirby <cite>Mead posted [p:957600516] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>Muscles posted... </cite> <quote>People will get annoyed with you regardless of what you do, any mistake will annoy someone and having no mistakes will annoy them too. Some people even get annoyed by people that barely talk so you could still theoretically be annoying people with your current strategy.</quote> everyone gets annoyed sometimes try not to take it personally if people do </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Jen0125 08/31/21 8:44:33 AM #22:	I'm so relieved honestly I really thought you could go the incel route after your breakup and I thought this topic was going to be about what bitches your female coworkers are for being women or something --- https://imgur.com/4ihiyS2 <cite>Jen0125 posted [p:957603356] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>I'm so relieved honestly I really thought you could go the incel route after your breakup and I thought this topic was going to be about what bitches your female coworkers are for being women or something </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
EvilMegas 08/31/21 8:44:58 AM #23:	With your posting history; I'm sure all of this really, truly happened and is not fabricated. At all. --- The first person to be fully vaccinated on GameFaQs. Boobs are life, ass is hometown Kenichiro Takaki. <cite>EvilMegas posted [p:957603363] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>With your posting history; I'm sure all of this really, truly happened and is not fabricated. At all. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
LeetCheet 08/31/21 9:56:25 AM #24:	Jen0125 posted... I'm so relieved honestly I really thought you could go the incel route after your breakup and I thought this topic was going to be about what bitches your female coworkers are for being women or something No I'm not bitter for my relationship failing and I'm certainly not lashing out on someone because of it. I've decided to just shift my focus on acquiring more friends. Hanging out with some coworkers outside of work is something I'd love to do someday. Sucks that there's that stupid pandemic happening right now which limits my chances of that happening though. I'm imagining my favourite coworkers coming to my apartment for my birthday. That would feel so awesome. EvilMegas posted... With your posting history; I'm sure all of this really, truly happened and is not fabricated. At all. What part of my posting history are you thinking about? I've made a lot of topics/posts about my awkward antics, why does this topic seem so unbelievable? I guess hearing about women talking to me about relationships might seem kinda hard to believe but I can assure you that I'm telling the truth. --- https://imgur.com/eQrRxik https://imgur.com/NC8itow <cite>LeetCheet posted [p:957604630] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>Jen0125 posted...</cite> <quote>I'm so relieved honestly I really thought you could go the incel route after your breakup and I thought this topic was going to be about what bitches your female coworkers are for being women or something </quote> No I'm not bitter for my relationship failing and I'm certainly not lashing out on someone because of it. I've decided to just shift my focus on acquiring more friends. Hanging out with some coworkers outside of work is something I'd love to do someday. Sucks that there's that stupid pandemic happening right now which limits my chances of that happening though. I'm imagining my favourite coworkers coming to my apartment for my birthday. That would feel so awesome. EvilMegas posted...</cite> <quote>With your posting history; I'm sure all of this really, truly happened and is not fabricated. At all. </quote> What part of my posting history are you thinking about? I've made a lot of topics/posts about my awkward antics, why does this topic seem so unbelievable? I guess hearing about women talking to me about relationships might seem kinda hard to believe but I can assure you that I'm telling the truth.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
DirtBasedSoap 08/31/21 10:43:08 AM #25:	streamofthesky posted... Were you providing her a place to live or financially supporting her during any of those six years? wondering this as well --- weiners and farts??? idk lol <cite>DirtBasedSoap posted [p:957605716] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>streamofthesky posted... </cite> <quote>Were you providing her a place to live or financially supporting her during any of those six years?</quote>wondering this as well </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Jen0125 08/31/21 10:52:59 AM #26:	LeetCheet posted... I'm imagining my favourite coworkers coming to my apartment for my birthday. That would feel so awesome. Aw, you can achieve that goal. --- https://imgur.com/4ihiyS2 <cite>Jen0125 posted [p:957605950] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>LeetCheet posted... </cite> <quote>I'm imagining my favourite coworkers coming to my apartment for my birthday. That would feel so awesome.</quote> Aw, you can achieve that goal. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
LeetCheet 08/31/21 1:07:09 PM #27:	DirtBasedSoap posted... streamofthesky posted... Were you providing her a place to live or financially supporting her during any of those six years? wondering this as well Post #16 I didn't financially support her and we each had a separate apartment. Jen0125 posted... Aw, you can achieve that goal. Hey man, don't make fun of my dreams. --- https://imgur.com/eQrRxik https://imgur.com/NC8itow <cite>LeetCheet posted [p:957609437] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>DirtBasedSoap posted...</cite> <quote> streamofthesky posted... </cite> <quote> Were you providing her a place to live or financially supporting her during any of those six years? </quote>wondering this as well </quote> Post #16<quote> I didn't financially support her and we each had a separate apartment.</quote> Jen0125 posted...</cite> <quote> Aw, you can achieve that goal. </quote> Hey man, don't make fun of my dreams.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Revelation34 08/31/21 1:23:40 PM #28:	LeetCheet posted... I told one of them about my relationship issues and how it all ended. Well long story short she didn't like how my ex treated me and she especially took issue with the fact that my ex made me wait six years to do the thing with her while this new guy managed to do it in a few weeks if that. She even told that younger woman(which she's best friends with) about it all and she was also angered by it. Jeez now that really cute woman knows that I was c-blocked for half a decade. I don't quite know if I should be embarrassed or flattered about the fact that these two women actually cared about my wellbeing. What the heck? What did I do to make these two really nice women to do this for me? Not that I mind, I'm just so surprised that this is even happening. Date one of them. --- Gamertag: Kegfarms, BF code: 2033480226, Treasure Cruise code 318,374,355, Steam: Kegfarms <cite>Revelation34 posted [p:957609919] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>LeetCheet posted...</cite> <quote>I told one of them about my relationship issues and how it all ended. Well long story short she didn't like how my ex treated me and she especially took issue with the fact that my ex made me wait six years to do the thing with her while this new guy managed to do it in a few weeks if that. She even told that younger woman(which she's best friends with) about it all and she was also angered by it. Jeez now that really cute woman knows that I was c-blocked for half a decade. I don't quite know if I should be embarrassed or flattered about the fact that these two women actually cared about my wellbeing. What the heck? What did I do to make these two really nice women to do this for me? Not that I mind, I'm just so surprised that this is even happening.</quote> Date one of them.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
deoxxys 08/31/21 4:09:42 PM #29:	wwinterj25 posted... Anyone would think that when you had to wait six years for sex in a relationship but chad gets it right away when you split is weird. Still it does show that you're respectful of others wishes. Sounds more like he didn't have self respect for himself. No one should be in a relationship with somebody for 6 years and not get laid. Eros relationships need to stimulate both partners emotionally and physically, lacking half of that is unhealthy. --- twylite sprinkle http://tinyurl.com/jeqyas3 https://tinyurl.com/mgvx7h2 <cite>deoxxys posted [p:957614741] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>wwinterj25 posted... </cite> <quote>Anyone would think that when you had to wait six years for sex in a relationship but chad gets it right away when you split is weird. Still it does show that you're respectful of others wishes.</quote>Sounds more like he didn't have self respect for himself. No one should be in a relationship with somebody for 6 years and not get laid. Eros relationships need to stimulate both partners emotionally and physically, lacking half of that is unhealthy. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
LeetCheet 08/31/21 4:16:12 PM #30:	Revelation34 posted... Date one of them. The one I've spoken most with is already in a relationship I think(not sure if it's a serious relationship) and she has a slew of other personal problems as well(ADHD, troubled childhood, has a kid with a father who got into an accident and became a vegetable IIRC). Her friend is definitely in a relationship and she's like 22 years old(eight years younger than me). Yesterday was the first time I've ever told her about my ex's crazy mother. I dunno how much she actually listened but I was rambling for quite a while because there was so much I wanted to tell her. I even asked her if it was awkward to listen to all my woes. I don't remember exactly what she said but she told me it wasn't. Dunno if it was just a lie to not make me feel bad but I choose to believe her. But I don't think I should even try it with either of them. Right now I'd much rather get some new friends and begin healing my mental wounds before even thinking about finding a new girlfriend. --- https://imgur.com/eQrRxik https://imgur.com/NC8itow <cite>LeetCheet posted [p:957614942] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>Revelation34 posted...</cite> <quote>Date one of them.</quote> The one I've spoken most with is already in a relationship I think(not sure if it's a serious relationship) and she has a slew of other personal problems as well(ADHD, troubled childhood, has a kid with a father who got into an accident and became a vegetable IIRC). Her friend is definitely in a relationship and she's like 22 years old(eight years younger than me). Yesterday was the first time I've ever told her about my ex's crazy mother. I dunno how much she actually listened but I was rambling for quite a while because there was so much I wanted to tell her. I even asked her if it was awkward to listen to all my woes. I don't remember exactly what she said but she told me it wasn't. Dunno if it was just a lie to not make me feel bad but I choose to believe her. But I don't think I should even try it with either of them. Right now I'd much rather get some new friends and begin healing my mental wounds before even thinking about finding a new girlfriend.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
HornedLion 08/31/21 4:21:42 PM #31:	LeetCheet posted... made me wait six years to do the thing with her while this new guy managed to do it in a few weeks if that. Sounds like the new guy was a Chad. Dont hate the player. Hate the game. Hit the gym, read self help books, and be ruthless. When you learn more about how a females brain works when it comes to attraction you will gain a lot of respect for them~~, and also lose quite a bit of respect for them too.~~ --- I'm actually really enjoying GodFall. <cite>HornedLion posted [p:957615153] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>LeetCheet posted... </cite> <quote>made me wait six years to do the thing with her while this new guy managed to do it in a few weeks if that.</quote> Sounds like the new guy was a Chad. Dont hate the player. Hate the game. Hit the gym, read self help books, and be ruthless. When you learn more about how a females brain works when it comes to attraction you will gain a lot of respect for them, and also lose quite a bit of respect for them too. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Revelation34 08/31/21 6:35:21 PM #32:	HornedLion posted... Sounds like the new guy was a Chad. Dont hate the player. Hate the game. Hit the gym, read self help books, and be ruthless. When you learn more about how a females brain works when it comes to attraction you will gain a lot of respect for them~~, and also lose quite a bit of respect for them too.~~ You mean like how you have 37 wives and girlfriends? --- Gamertag: Kegfarms, BF code: 2033480226, Treasure Cruise code 318,374,355, Steam: Kegfarms <cite>Revelation34 posted [p:957619262] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>HornedLion posted...</cite> <quote> Sounds like the new guy was a Chad. Dont hate the player. Hate the game. Hit the gym, read self help books, and be ruthless. When you learn more about how a females brain works when it comes to attraction you will gain a lot of respect for them, and also lose quite a bit of respect for them too. </quote> You mean like how you have 37 wives and girlfriends?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
LeetCheet 08/31/21 10:15:26 PM #33:	I've seen the guy. He's not exactly Chad material. He's not exactly fit and has three kids from a previous failed relationship. I kinda doubt the relationship's gonna last considering her mother tendencies. My ex herself has a few certain antics that I think is eventually gonna go on his nerves as well. So yeah, I see a few red flags that might be potential reasons for the relationship not working. The future will tell. --- https://imgur.com/eQrRxik https://imgur.com/NC8itow <cite>LeetCheet posted [p:957625176] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>I've seen the guy. He's not exactly Chad material. He's not exactly fit and has three kids from a previous failed relationship. I kinda doubt the relationship's gonna last considering her mother tendencies. My ex herself has a few certain antics that I think is eventually gonna go on his nerves as well. So yeah, I see a few red flags that might be potential reasons for the relationship not working. The future will tell.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
streamofthesky 08/31/21 10:50:57 PM #34:	LeetCheet posted... But I don't think I should even try it with either of them. Probably for the best. Dating co-workers is a minefield, especially in the current twitter climate... Right now I'd much rather get some new friends and begin healing my mental wounds Yup. A lot of people could use more platonic real life friends. It's why there's so many "blog FAQs" on here, b/c they have no one offline to talk to about personal stuff. before even thinking about finding a new girlfriend. eh... don't waste a lot of effort on it, but I don't see the harm in keeping an open mind. Not like you're going to find another GF that fast after you start looking anyway. LeetCheet posted... I've seen the guy. He's not exactly Chad material. He's not exactly fit and has three kids from a previous failed relationship. I mean, looks matter and all. But "bad boys" don't need to be attractive. They don't give out attention and validation, and cause lots of drama. Which unfortunately is attractive to a lot of women. And just in general, girls and guys are attracted by different things. A girl w/ a checkered past and a bunch of kids is unappealing to most guys. But women might see a guy like that as "mysterious" and the fact he's got kids kicks in their pre-selection bias ("other women wanted to have kids with him...."). Don't worry about it, you can't "save" women like that, you need to just be prepared to move on from them until you find one that's sensible. I kinda doubt the relationship's gonna last considering her mother tendencies. My ex herself has a few certain antics that I think is eventually gonna go on his nerves as well. So yeah, I see a few red flags that might be potential reasons for the relationship not working. The future will tell. Ok... You're starting to worry me that you're hoping it doesn't work out so you have a 2nd chance w/ her or something. Please never take her back. Don't get "one-itis". Kinda why I don't think swearing off dating entirely is such a good idea. The sooner you realize there's other, better options out there, the sooner you'll be able to resist the temptation to go back to her. You're focusing on "red flags" that will doom their relationship when you need to learn to recognize them better in your own relationships... <cite>streamofthesky posted [p:957626067] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>LeetCheet posted... </cite> <quote>But I don't think I should even try it with either of them.</quote>Probably for the best. Dating co-workers is a minefield, especially in the current twitter climate... <quote>Right now I'd much rather get some new friends and begin healing my mental wounds</quote>Yup. A lot of people could use more platonic real life friends. It's why there's so many "blog FAQs" on here, b/c they have no one offline to talk to about personal stuff. <quote>before even thinking about finding a new girlfriend.</quote>eh... don't waste a lot of effort on it, but I don't see the harm in keeping an open mind. Not like you're going to find another GF that fast after you start looking anyway. LeetCheet posted... </cite> <quote>I've seen the guy. He's not exactly Chad material. He's not exactly fit and has three kids from a previous failed relationship.</quote>I mean, looks matter and all. But "bad boys" don't need to be attractive. They don't give out attention and validation, and cause lots of drama. Which unfortunately is attractive to a lot of women. And just in general, girls and guys are attracted by different things. A girl w/ a checkered past and a bunch of kids is unappealing to most guys. But women might see a guy like that as "mysterious" and the fact he's got kids kicks in their pre-selection bias ("other women wanted to have kids with him...."). Don't worry about it, you can't "save" women like that, you need to just be prepared to move on from them until you find one that's sensible. <quote>I kinda doubt the relationship's gonna last considering her mother tendencies. My ex herself has a few certain antics that I think is eventually gonna go on his nerves as well. So yeah, I see a few red flags that might be potential reasons for the relationship not working. The future will tell.</quote>Ok... You're starting to worry me that you're hoping it doesn't work out so you have a 2nd chance w/ her or something. Please never take her back. Don't get "one-itis". Kinda why I don't think swearing off dating entirely is such a good idea. The sooner you realize there's other, better options out there, the sooner you'll be able to resist the temptation to go back to her. You're focusing on "red flags" that will doom their relationship when you need to learn to recognize them better in your own relationships... </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
LeetCheet 08/31/21 11:22:17 PM #35:	Well, she did still kinda cheat on me with him so of course there's a part of me who still secretly want their relationship to fail. But I'm not gonna actively try to ruin that. That would've been such a dick move. We probably shouldn't ever get back together though. Her mother was such a pain in the ass I'd rather not ever deal with that hag anymore. It also happens to be her birthday today so I'm gonna ask her if I could come over to her and celebrate it maybe today or tomorrow or later this week whenever she has the time. I'm just thinking about giving her a birthdaycard and some money that she can use to buy something she wants. --- https://imgur.com/eQrRxik https://imgur.com/NC8itow <cite>LeetCheet posted [p:957626745] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>Well, she did still kinda cheat on me with him so of course there's a part of me who still secretly want their relationship to fail. But I'm not gonna actively try to ruin that. That would've been such a dick move. We probably shouldn't ever get back together though. Her mother was such a pain in the ass I'd rather not ever deal with that hag anymore. It also happens to be her birthday today so I'm gonna ask her if I could come over to her and celebrate it maybe today or tomorrow or later this week whenever she has the time. I'm just thinking about giving her a birthdaycard and some money that she can use to buy something she wants.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Mead 08/31/21 11:34:50 PM #36:	Why give her money? Let her new dude worry about getting a gift for her thats not on you anymore --- my resting temp can easily be in the 90's -Krazy_Kirby <cite>Mead posted [p:957626982] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>Why give her money? Let her new dude worry about getting a gift for her thats not on you anymore </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
BlackScythe0 08/31/21 11:36:39 PM #37:	LeetCheet posted... Well, she did still kinda cheat on me with him so of course there's a part of me who still secretly want their relationship to fail. But I'm not gonna actively try to ruin that. That would've been such a dick move. We probably shouldn't ever get back together though. Her mother was such a pain in the ass I'd rather not ever deal with that hag anymore. It also happens to be her birthday today so I'm gonna ask her if I could come over to her and celebrate it maybe today or tomorrow or later this week whenever she has the time. I'm just thinking about giving her a birthdaycard and some money that she can use to buy something she wants. Why? You were in an abusive relationship your thought process here isn't healthy. <cite>BlackScythe0 posted [p:957627014] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>LeetCheet posted... </cite> <quote>Well, she did still kinda cheat on me with him so of course there's a part of me who still secretly want their relationship to fail. But I'm not gonna actively try to ruin that. That would've been such a dick move. We probably shouldn't ever get back together though. Her mother was such a pain in the ass I'd rather not ever deal with that hag anymore. It also happens to be her birthday today so I'm gonna ask her if I could come over to her and celebrate it maybe today or tomorrow or later this week whenever she has the time. I'm just thinking about giving her a birthdaycard and some money that she can use to buy something she wants.</quote> Why? You were in an abusive relationship your thought process here isn't healthy. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
streamofthesky 08/31/21 11:41:16 PM #38:	LeetCheet posted... Well, she did still kinda cheat on me with him so of course there's a part of me who still secretly want their relationship to fail. It also happens to be her birthday today so I'm gonna ask her if I could come over to her and celebrate it maybe today or tomorrow or later this week whenever she has the time. I'm just thinking about giving her a birthdaycard and some money that she can use to buy something she wants. No! Absolutely don't do that! Have some damn self respect. Go no contact and learn to move on. Do not try to go see her or give her gifts. Even if you did want her back (which you should't), that will just make you look pathetic in her eyes. <cite>streamofthesky posted [p:957627121] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>LeetCheet posted... </cite> <quote>Well, she did still kinda cheat on me with him so of course there's a part of me who still secretly want their relationship to fail.</quote> <quote>It also happens to be her birthday today so I'm gonna ask her if I could come over to her and celebrate it maybe today or tomorrow or later this week whenever she has the time. I'm just thinking about giving her a birthdaycard and some money that she can use to buy something she wants.</quote>No! Absolutely don't do that! Have some damn self respect. Go no contact and learn to move on. Do not try to go see her or give her gifts. Even if you did want her back (which you should't), that will just make you look pathetic in her eyes. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Sarcasthma 09/01/21 1:42:23 AM #39:	LeetCheet posted... It also happens to be her birthday today so I'm gonna ask her if I could come over to her and celebrate it maybe today or tomorrow or later this week whenever she has the time. I'm just thinking about giving her a birthdaycard and some money that she can use to buy something she wants. Oof. --- What's the difference between a pickpocket and a peeping tom? A pickpocket snatches your watch. <cite>Sarcasthma posted [p:957629263] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>LeetCheet posted... </cite> <quote>It also happens to be her birthday today so I'm gonna ask her if I could come over to her and celebrate it maybe today or tomorrow or later this week whenever she has the time. I'm just thinking about giving her a birthdaycard and some money that she can use to buy something she wants.</quote>Oof. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
LeetCheet 09/01/21 1:53:43 AM #40:	But she told me she wanted to stay friends? And friends visits eachother on their birthdays, right? --- https://imgur.com/eQrRxik https://imgur.com/NC8itow <cite>LeetCheet posted [p:957629429] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>But she told me she wanted to stay friends? And friends visits eachother on their birthdays, right?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Zeus 09/01/21 2:03:07 AM #41:	LeetCheet posted... But she told me she wanted to stay friends? And friends visits eachother on their birthdays, right? Don't visit her ever. --- (\/)(\/)\|-\| There are precious few at ease / With moral ambiguities / So we act as though they don't exist. <cite>Zeus posted [p:957629560] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>LeetCheet posted... </cite> <quote>But she told me she wanted to stay friends? And friends visits eachother on their birthdays, right?</quote> Don't visit her ever. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
DocDelicious 09/01/21 2:09:35 AM #42:	LeetCheet posted... But she told me she wanted to stay friends? And friends visits eachother on their birthdays, right? Generally you send a text that says "Happy Birthday!" and leave it at that. --- o7 Let strength be granted so the world might be mended. <cite>DocDelicious posted [p:957629643] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>LeetCheet posted... </cite> <quote>But she told me she wanted to stay friends? And friends visits eachother on their birthdays, right?</quote> Generally you send a text that says "Happy Birthday!" and leave it at that. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
LeetCheet 09/01/21 2:12:33 AM #43:	But she wanted me to leave one of my coffee cups when I picked up my things from her last week? --- https://imgur.com/eQrRxik https://imgur.com/NC8itow <cite>LeetCheet posted [p:957629687] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>But she wanted me to leave one of my coffee cups when I picked up my things from her last week?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
BlackScythe0 09/01/21 2:17:15 AM #44:	LeetCheet posted... But she told me she wanted to stay friends? And friends visits eachother on their birthdays, right? She cheated on you didn't she? You say she wants to be friends? I am aware there are people who are capable of having friendships after a relationship but I would say the majority of the time it doesn't work. That sounds pretty selfish on her part to expect to be able to have a friendship with you. I haven't followed your stories as much as other people have but she sounds manipulative and emotionally abusive. <cite>BlackScythe0 posted [p:957629748] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>LeetCheet posted... </cite> <quote>But she told me she wanted to stay friends? And friends visits eachother on their birthdays, right?</quote> She cheated on you didn't she? You say she wants to be friends? I am aware there are people who are capable of having friendships after a relationship but I would say the majority of the time it doesn't work. That sounds pretty selfish on her part to expect to be able to have a friendship with you. I haven't followed your stories as much as other people have but she sounds manipulative and emotionally abusive. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
LeetCheet 09/01/21 2:20:13 AM #45:	Well she's still friends with the bf she had before me though. I see that as a sign of staying friends with her being possible. --- https://imgur.com/eQrRxik https://imgur.com/NC8itow <cite>LeetCheet posted [p:957629802] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>Well she's still friends with the bf she had before me though. I see that as a sign of staying friends with her being possible.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
DocDelicious 09/01/21 2:53:54 AM #46:	LeetCheet posted... Well she's still friends with the bf she had before me though. I see that as a sign of staying friends with her being possible. Oh you poor thing. Go rub one out, clear your head, and think about why she might have kept him around too. --- o7 Let strength be granted so the world might be mended. <cite>DocDelicious posted [p:957630215] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>LeetCheet posted... </cite> <quote>Well she's still friends with the bf she had before me though. I see that as a sign of staying friends with her being possible.</quote> Oh you poor thing. Go rub one out, clear your head, and think about why she might have kept him around too. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
LeetCheet 09/01/21 3:29:55 AM #47:	Nah its different with him. I dunno how they broke up but they're still acting professionally at work at least. And I don't think they're really texting eachother either. They're pretty much just treating eachother like coworkers. --- https://imgur.com/eQrRxik https://imgur.com/NC8itow <cite>LeetCheet posted [p:957630599] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>Nah its different with him. I dunno how they broke up but they're still acting professionally at work at least. And I don't think they're really texting eachother either. They're pretty much just treating eachother like coworkers.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
streamofthesky 09/01/21 8:32:43 AM #48:	LeetCheet posted... Nah its different with him. I dunno how they broke up but they're still acting professionally at work at least. And I don't think they're really texting eachother either. They're pretty much just treating eachother like coworkers. Ok, you're either the most naive and innocent person I've ever encountered, or you're just spinning a story for fun to see who bites... In case it is the former... Yeah, no kidding at work they acted professionally and any time you saw them together. You may not have been getting any for 6 years, but don't be so sure about her... Once again... learn some self respect, cut or minimize communications with her, and date new people. Don't be her backup plan, don't fixate on her like she's the only woman for you. Move on. Get some friends like you said, too. <cite>streamofthesky posted [p:957633694] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>LeetCheet posted... </cite> <quote>Nah its different with him. I dunno how they broke up but they're still acting professionally at work at least. And I don't think they're really texting eachother either. They're pretty much just treating eachother like coworkers.</quote>Ok, you're either the most naive and innocent person I've ever encountered, or you're just spinning a story for fun to see who bites... In case it is the former... Yeah, no kidding at work they acted professionally and any time you saw them together. You may not have been getting any for 6 years, but don't be so sure about her... Once again... learn some self respect, cut or minimize communications with her, and date new people. Don't be her backup plan, don't fixate on her like she's the only woman for you. Move on. Get some friends like you said, too. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
LeetCheet 09/01/21 12:02:38 PM #49:	They were friends on Facebook but they weren't thatfriendly because when we got home, she usually complained about him and the guy he worked with being so annoying and being difficult to co operate efficiently with. I doubt that they did anything behind my back. --- https://imgur.com/eQrRxik https://imgur.com/NC8itow <cite>LeetCheet posted [p:957638309] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>They were friends on Facebook but they weren't thatfriendly because when we got home, she usually complained about him and the guy he worked with being so annoying and being difficult to co operate efficiently with. I doubt that they did anything behind my back.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Cruddy_horse 09/01/21 12:22:09 PM #50:	Man I thought you were on the right track after I talked to you in the last topic but I see you followed none of my advice and are still making excuses. So once again, if you don't cut off this bitch of an ex she's going to destroy your mental health further than she already has, stop believing she wants to be friends, she is quite clearly from everyone else's pov that she is trying to keep you around because she's realized she lost a good man. Even if she doesn't want you as a backup partner she might want you as a friend to assuage her guilt, assuming she has any, that's what cheaters do. Stop thinking about her or her relationships, they are not your problem anymore and you should feel liberated not having to deal with this bitch. <cite>Cruddy_horse posted [p:957638800] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>Man I thought you were on the right track after I talked to you in the last topic but I see you followed none of my advice and are still making excuses. So once again, if you don't cut off this bitch of an ex she's going to destroy your mental health further than she already has, stop believing she wants to be friends, she is quite clearly from everyone else's pov that she is trying to keep you around because she's realized she lost a good man. Even if she doesn't want you as a backup partner she might want you as a friend to assuage her guilt, assuming she has any, that's what cheaters do. Stop thinking about her or her relationships, they are not your problem anymore and you should feel liberated not having to deal with this bitch. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Poll of the Day > I was lectured about relationships by my two female coworkers today.