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Topic	I was lectured about relationships by my two female coworkers today.
streamofthesky 08/31/21 3:03:55 AM #17:	LeetCheet posted... I guess I just didn't want to upset her by being pushy so I chose patience instead. I didn't financially support her and we each had a separate apartment. Pushing for it is being pushy. Moving on b/c you two have wildly different expectations / timetables is not. What you want matters, too. The vast, vast majority would say 6 years is crazy, though. Even 1 year is a long time to wait. If she wants that then fine, but most other people won't and it sounds like you didn't, but you were afraid to assert yourself on the matter. I'm glad you weren't being used financially, at least. No I just thought that they were so kind to me that they wasted precious work-time just to talk to me and the fact that they were worried about me. I don't think she'll spread the word around to everyone because she specifically asked for my consent that if she could discuss this with one of our coworkers. I don't mind because it's always hard for me to talk about these things with others. Maybe your workplace is super busy and efficient. Every one I've ever been to, there's been plenty of gossip, "water cooler" talk, etc... And if she asked for your consent to tell other people, that sounds at odds w/ your first post: LeetCheet posted... She even told that younger woman(which she's best friends with) about it all and she was also angered by it. Jeez now that really cute woman knows that I was c-blocked for half a decade. Made it sound like you were surprised and unhappy she told the 2nd person... But whatever. <cite>streamofthesky posted [p:957599594] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>LeetCheet posted... </cite> <quote>I guess I just didn't want to upset her by being pushy so I chose patience instead. I didn't financially support her and we each had a separate apartment.</quote>Pushing for it is being pushy. Moving on b/c you two have wildly different expectations / timetables is not. What you want matters, too. The vast, vast majority would say 6 years is crazy, though. Even 1 year is a long time to wait. If she wants that then fine, but most other people won't and it sounds like you didn't, but you were afraid to assert yourself on the matter. I'm glad you weren't being used financially, at least. <quote>No I just thought that they were so kind to me that they wasted precious work-time just to talk to me and the fact that they were worried about me. I don't think she'll spread the word around to everyone because she specifically asked for my consent that if she could discuss this with one of our coworkers. I don't mind because it's always hard for me to talk about these things with others.</quote> Maybe your workplace is super busy and efficient. Every one I've ever been to, there's been plenty of gossip, "water cooler" talk, etc... And if she asked for your consent to tell other people, that sounds at odds w/ your first post: LeetCheet posted... </cite> <quote>She even told that younger woman(which she's best friends with) about it all and she was also angered by it. Jeez now that really cute woman knows that I was c-blocked for half a decade.</quote>Made it sound like you were surprised and unhappy she told the 2nd person... But whatever. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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