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Topic	I was lectured about relationships by my two female coworkers today.
streamofthesky 08/31/21 10:50:57 PM #34:	LeetCheet posted... But I don't think I should even try it with either of them. Probably for the best. Dating co-workers is a minefield, especially in the current twitter climate... Right now I'd much rather get some new friends and begin healing my mental wounds Yup. A lot of people could use more platonic real life friends. It's why there's so many "blog FAQs" on here, b/c they have no one offline to talk to about personal stuff. before even thinking about finding a new girlfriend. eh... don't waste a lot of effort on it, but I don't see the harm in keeping an open mind. Not like you're going to find another GF that fast after you start looking anyway. LeetCheet posted... I've seen the guy. He's not exactly Chad material. He's not exactly fit and has three kids from a previous failed relationship. I mean, looks matter and all. But "bad boys" don't need to be attractive. They don't give out attention and validation, and cause lots of drama. Which unfortunately is attractive to a lot of women. And just in general, girls and guys are attracted by different things. A girl w/ a checkered past and a bunch of kids is unappealing to most guys. But women might see a guy like that as "mysterious" and the fact he's got kids kicks in their pre-selection bias ("other women wanted to have kids with him...."). Don't worry about it, you can't "save" women like that, you need to just be prepared to move on from them until you find one that's sensible. I kinda doubt the relationship's gonna last considering her mother tendencies. My ex herself has a few certain antics that I think is eventually gonna go on his nerves as well. So yeah, I see a few red flags that might be potential reasons for the relationship not working. The future will tell. Ok... You're starting to worry me that you're hoping it doesn't work out so you have a 2nd chance w/ her or something. Please never take her back. Don't get "one-itis". Kinda why I don't think swearing off dating entirely is such a good idea. The sooner you realize there's other, better options out there, the sooner you'll be able to resist the temptation to go back to her. You're focusing on "red flags" that will doom their relationship when you need to learn to recognize them better in your own relationships... <cite>streamofthesky posted [p:957626067] in I was lect... [t:79638375]...</cite> <quote>LeetCheet posted... </cite> <quote>But I don't think I should even try it with either of them.</quote>Probably for the best. Dating co-workers is a minefield, especially in the current twitter climate... <quote>Right now I'd much rather get some new friends and begin healing my mental wounds</quote>Yup. A lot of people could use more platonic real life friends. It's why there's so many "blog FAQs" on here, b/c they have no one offline to talk to about personal stuff. <quote>before even thinking about finding a new girlfriend.</quote>eh... don't waste a lot of effort on it, but I don't see the harm in keeping an open mind. Not like you're going to find another GF that fast after you start looking anyway. LeetCheet posted... </cite> <quote>I've seen the guy. He's not exactly Chad material. He's not exactly fit and has three kids from a previous failed relationship.</quote>I mean, looks matter and all. But "bad boys" don't need to be attractive. They don't give out attention and validation, and cause lots of drama. Which unfortunately is attractive to a lot of women. And just in general, girls and guys are attracted by different things. A girl w/ a checkered past and a bunch of kids is unappealing to most guys. But women might see a guy like that as "mysterious" and the fact he's got kids kicks in their pre-selection bias ("other women wanted to have kids with him...."). Don't worry about it, you can't "save" women like that, you need to just be prepared to move on from them until you find one that's sensible. <quote>I kinda doubt the relationship's gonna last considering her mother tendencies. My ex herself has a few certain antics that I think is eventually gonna go on his nerves as well. So yeah, I see a few red flags that might be potential reasons for the relationship not working. The future will tell.</quote>Ok... You're starting to worry me that you're hoping it doesn't work out so you have a 2nd chance w/ her or something. Please never take her back. Don't get "one-itis". Kinda why I don't think swearing off dating entirely is such a good idea. The sooner you realize there's other, better options out there, the sooner you'll be able to resist the temptation to go back to her. You're focusing on "red flags" that will doom their relationship when you need to learn to recognize them better in your own relationships... </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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