Poll of the Day > would you date a racist person?

(+) Yeah! (+)

they are racist to other races, but not to your race.

How racist do you mean? Like blatantly racist or she says possibly racist things and you have to reassess everything she says?

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breaking news: most people are dating people with some implicit racial biases

I'd give her a chance at least.
If she said some questionable things then I'd try to correct her.
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I'd probably at least smash. But if I knew she was openly racist or something then that's a big red flag.

How racist and what kind of titty situation

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sodium-chloride posted...

I'd probably at least smash.

This. In fact I'm certain I've banged a few. A lot of racist white guys/girls have a thing for black men physically. But they still look down on you as a person or culturally etc. It matters not because in my situation we just using each other. It's not like I am gonna be friends with them or even bother talking to them afterwards. We just go our separate ways.

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No. Racism is disgusting. I have friends and coworkers who are PoC.

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I would date anyone, really.

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MeteoricBurst posted...

It's not like I am gonna be friends with them or even bother talking to them afterwards. We just go our separate ways.

y tho

I'm just curious

I don't get the whole idea, it's like you beat the game but you're saying you'd never pick it back up again?

Doesn't it still have replay value?

On topic, I really have no clue. I know I said what I said in the other topic about "are you racist", but that's not truly racism. I don't just go around calling/thinking "so and so is a this or that", and if someone does, well, that's kind of off putting. When I was younger, it was kind of a joke. Having a black friend who was older and "more intelligent", I was always "jackass" or "dumbass" so I could always resort to... hehehe

the easiest insult I could think of back

it wasn't actually serious, it was more like a thing that was either funny for shock value or to keep his ego in check

but anyway

It really depends, the funny part is, I didn't even know my grandpa was black for half my life

I just know that some people aren't always completely comfortable around other people 24/7, but some people choose to stay in/perpetuate that bubble, and it's not always an attractive bubble

Depends how big the bubble is, I guess.

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Most likely not, especially if they are really vocal about it. My dad was a bit racist, but he rarely showed it.

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Fam_Fam posted...

breaking news: most people are dating people with some implicit racial biases

That's not even comparable to actual racism.

No, and it surprises me how many people actually said yes.

GunslingerGunsl posted...

No, and it surprises me how many people actually said yes.

100% of people are racist so never date anyone!

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lmao why not vote for one either

Have I? Yes. Would I again? No.

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No, they would have an ugly personality and I wouldn't like them on a friend level.

These are bare minimum standards.

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No. I have friends of many different races. My friend group back home was like a melting pot. Here, too. I couldn't date them...

Soup_or_Science posted...

y tho

I'm just curious

I don't get the whole idea, it's like you beat the game but you're saying you'd never pick it back up again?

Doesn't it still have replay value?

I'm going to take a guess and say many go back home... Though it could also be one that doesn't have much replay value, anyway...
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People say yes because they're so starved for romantic affection they'll take whatever they can get

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Fam_Fam posted...

breaking news: most people are dating people with some implicit racial biases

That's not the same as being racist

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depends on the level of racism. If the level is low chances are they can open up/accept learn and not make it a big deal.

if its high and ignorant then no. I think every ethnic group that has come to america has had some form of racism in their time but not the at the same levels.

Nope why would I date a racist person. In my opinion I have never understood the mental illness that is racism. To dislike someone you probably do not know for nothing other than skin color is to me idiotic.

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Soup_or_Science posted...

y tho

I'm just curious

I don't get the whole idea, it's like you beat the game but you're saying you'd never pick it back up again?

Doesn't it still have replay value?

Replaying as you call it was never part of the equation. This was pre covid but most people I dealt with until last year were tourists. They would only be looking for hookups before they went back to whichever country they came from. A few I saw more than once if they were staying a while, but that wasn't often. Even with one offs it was still long enough for me to get a sense of the kind of people they were. Some were clearly no use. More than once I got compared "favourably" to other locals since I didn't act how they perceived us all to be (bad mannered, thuggish, only looking for money etc). I had my own issues with locals but those bad kinds were in the minority. You could say these visitors were ignorant since they didn't know much about us and were only here for fun. Others didn't have that excuse because they were expats living and working here.

Also your grandfather is black? Are you white? It seems a lot of white Americans have black extract and don't know. I mean it should be obvious why with the slave history and all.

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DMX99 posted...

they are racist to other races, but not to your race.

Well, I'm in New England, so the only race people are publicly racist against is my own (and generally their own). And if you had to worry about dating racists anywhere in the Northeast US (or probably the entirety of the US for that matter), you wouldn't be able to date at all. More generally, though, the question largely comes down to the nature of the racism and how that racism is expressed. If they're randomly claiming that white people ruined the world in your average conversation -- which is considered a socially acceptable form of racism, along with other anti-white racism that people who complain about racism don't even bat an eye at -- that's something I'm going to distance myself from. I don't run into a lot of WTF racism where it's something so outlandishly offensive you don't even want to stand near them.

As a general rule, if somebody is racially-virtue-signaling (or signalling their politics) on a dating profile, that's a hard pass right then and there because there's no reason to do that and if that's how they're choosing to present themselves, they're either insufferable or devoid of personality. Either way, I don't want anything to do with them. Usually I prefer to meet people offline, though, where unfortunately you might not spot a deal-breaker right away.

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I'm indifferent to race and would view the importance she places on it as foolishness. What are her other traits?

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That depends on a lot of factors. It's like asking if you'd date someone of the opposing political party without giving any further details. Do you two get along well otherwise outside of the area of contention? Any similar/shared interests or hobbies? How big of an aspect of their lives is the racism and how racist are they? There's a world of difference between 'I laughed at a jew joke once', 'Jews have funny noses', and 'HEIL MEIN FUROR!'

Assuming we're talking about someone who has some racist beliefs but recognizes them as a shortcoming, doesn't act on them (intentionally), and at least tries to be a decent person otherwise then yes. I would assuming we had compatibilities elsewhere. If we're talking about someone who advocates actively for the extermination of an inferior race then I'd likely stay faaaaaar away.

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Negative.

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Zeus: White people are the real victims of racism!!!

Depends how racist. Making the occasional racist joke? That's fine. Advocating for black people's vote to be taken away? All the nope.

I like how Zeus is acting like he can be at all choosy when it comes to dating >.>

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Zeus posted...

If they're randomly claiming that white people ruined the world in your average conversation -- which is considered a socially acceptable form of racism, along with other anti-white racism that people who complain about racism don't even bat an eye at -- that's something I'm going to distance myself from.

GrabASnickers posted...

Zeus: White people are the real victims of racism!!!

I mean, I literally used to harbor this kind of "racism"

I actually did chalk up most of the world's problems to selfish old white men

As it stands, I don't care what color you are, but if you are in a position where you can, or are supposed to be fixing the world, and aren't, then you suck

sorry Ted but I voted Beto

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Mead posted...

How racist and what kind of titty situation

Askin the real questions

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Zeus posted...

Well, I'm in New England, so the only race people are publicly racist against is my own (and generally their own). And if you had to worry about dating racists anywhere in the Northeast US (or probably the entirety of the US for that matter), you wouldn't be able to date at all. More generally, though, the question largely comes down to the nature of the racism and how that racism is expressed. If they're randomly claiming that white people ruined the world in your average conversation -- which is considered a socially acceptable form of racism, along with other anti-white racism that people who complain about racism don't even bat an eye at -- that's something I'm going to distance myself from. I don't run into a lot of WTF racism where it's something so outlandishly offensive you don't even want to stand near them.

Holy shit this post is a fucking lot lmfao

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no. race is a construct and only idiots are racist

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DMX99 posted...

Would you date a racist person?

Depends the extent of their racism. Much like any belief they have. If they go out of their way to victimise people of a different race on a daily bases and even cause physical hard to people then no. If however they say the odd racist joke or comment now and then it wouldn't be a major deal breaker for me. Most people have made a "racist" comment or two at some point in their lives and I'm not that fussy.


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adjl posted...

Depends how racist. Making the occasional racist joke? That's fine. Advocating for black people's vote to be taken away? All the nope.

I like how Zeus is acting like he can be at all choosy when it comes to dating >.>

that's very common in his community, sadly it's mostly men, ok?

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Maybe I can fix her.

Only if they're racist against white people.

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Sure if I liked them as a person as a whole and they didnt have a birthmark in an inconveniently hilarious location.

DirtBasedSoap posted...

no. race is a construct and only idiots are racist

I regularly see the common Mallard hanging out with the Eurasian Wigeon.

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Collat posted...

Maybe I can fix her.

I'm not sure I'd date someone in the hope they change their ways. Over time perhaps they will but hypnotically the person I see when dating is the person I'm going to continue to date or not.

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Like might make an offensive joke behind closed doors but that's the worst? Sure but any thing that will actively draw attention to them as a racist fuck no.

I cant let offensive jokes be a deal breaker though. I make more offensive jokes about my race/sexuality than any other though

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GunslingerGunsl posted...

No, and it surprises me how many people actually said yes.

Seriously though.

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MeteoricBurst posted...

Replaying as you call it was never part of the equation. This was pre covid but most people I dealt with until last year were tourists. They would only be looking for hookups before they went back to whichever country they came from. A few I saw more than once if they were staying a while, but that wasn't often. Even with one offs it was still long enough for me to get a sense of the kind of people they were. Some were clearly no use. More than once I got compared "favourably" to other locals since I didn't act how they perceived us all to be (bad mannered, thuggish, only looking for money etc). I had my own issues with locals but those bad kinds were in the minority. You could say these visitors were ignorant since they didn't know much about us and were only here for fun. Others didn't have that excuse because they were expats living and working here.

Also your grandfather is black? Are you white? It seems a lot of white Americans have black extract and don't know. I mean it should be obvious why with the slave history and all.

I see... I actually missed this post

I am very white skinned, quite pale, but as far as ethnicity goes - and forgive me if I explain it sloppily for lack of extensive knowledge - My mom's side of the family is Puerto Rican. Her grandparents (my great grandparents) both from Puerto Rico. Her father I believe is what one refers to as Louisiana French? Or Creole? I don't know, I always get confused about it - But he is a lighter skinned black man from Louisiana - who was not in her, or my own life, for the greater part of it. We had to "rediscover" him after she finally came around and told the story - I faintly remember her finally coming forward about the origins, she kind of paused and she was like "and he, is actually...." and i was like

"black?"

"Yes"

Which I mean is kind of a "DUH." thing since I grew up with a black cousin/uncle.

So anyway, she came out light skinned (i just figured we were white people with Puerto Rican origins), and her brother came out dark ("black"), and then she has another brother from a different guy (same mom) who was German but that's another branch.

So my dad's side is whatever flavor of Caucasian they happen to be, white people country folks, I hear maybe his dad has Polish, there are even stories about pirates and I'm not really sure, but his mom is also from Louisiana I believe. And we are from Texas.

I did some of that ancestry.com digging stuff and to no surprise (but a bit of a revelation), there were slave owners on my dad's side of the family

And with another thing to note, his grandpa, my great grandpa, they say, was a Freemason! Which might have something to do with why my life is so weird, but I would have no idea because obviously, I don't know much about it/them, except for the fact that the idea of secret societies weirds me the hell out.

So the roots are kind of all over the place, but that's the gist of it

Hispanic, black, white, it's kind of a tossup

Oh right, those weren't the only children, she has at least two other black siblings, by her dad, but not by her mom, as far as I can remember.

I've told all this stuff at least once before, but here it is again

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kind9 posted...

I would date anyone, really.

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mooreandrew58 posted...

I cant let offensive jokes be a deal breaker though. I make more offensive jokes about my race/sexuality than any other though

I'm all for offensive jokes. I even make jokes about myself. I don't take life seriously.


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wwinterj25 posted...

I'm all for offensive jokes. I even make jokes about myself. I don't take life seriously.

Part of being a mature adult is being able to tell the difference between a joke and reality (as well as being able to laugh at yourself).

I do sort of feel like people now-a-days can't tell the difference between someone just trying to be funny and someone who actually means and/or believes what they say.

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Unbridled9 posted...

Part of being a mature adult is being able to tell the difference between a joke and reality (as well as being able to laugh at yourself).

I do sort of feel like people now-a-days can't tell the difference between someone just trying to be funny and someone who actually means and/or believes what they say.

For me i mean jokes that start off like "who gets to the airport quicker? Gays or lesbians?" Not gonna finish it cause surely someone will take offense

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The absolute only circumstance I can see myself dating a racist is if they have unwavering deep passion to defeat Zareth in mortal combat. In that case I could probably make an exception and get behind them. But normally, no.

I am against racism, so no.

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