Poll of the Day > Could you have a girlfriend for 7 years and never have sex?

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Yes.

No.

If this happens then she isnt really into you, and I would be very weary of how you view her.

Yes, there are women that go 7 years without sex due to religious reasons. But generally you want your women to want you so bad that theyd risk the fiery pits of hell for your rod.

Furthermore, how sad would it be if you didnt have sex with your GF for 7 years and then she cheats on you with some dude she just met at a bar.

Futher Futhermore, my understanding is that at a certain age your dick breaks. If so, then why waste 7yrs of a functional dick!?

I guess it is possible but for me when I began dating a new woman, I get everything out in the open so we both know where we stand and sex is one of the things discussed.

Certainly, if one/both partners are asexual and/or just don't value sex that much, or if they have some reason to want to wait. That said, that doesn't mean you have to accept it. If you want a sexual relationship and your girlfriend doesn't, there's nothing wrong with breaking up with her to find somebody whose interests align better with yours. The point of a relationship is to be happy with another person. If one or both of you aren't happy, you should try to fix whatever issues are causing that, but if that's impossible, don't feel obligated to resign yourself to being unhappy for the sake of preserving the relationship.

It's possible but that's not my bag. I'm trying to get knee deep first chance I get. I'm a dirty dirty boy. That's just part of having a girlfriend to me. Might as well have a boyfriend if I'm not going to have secks. Probably have less fights. lol

I remember the first time I started trying to make out with girls. I was like 8 years old having just seen Risky Business with Tom Cruise. It was this scene that lit that fire. Fuck yeah. Man what I wouldn't give for a time machine.

https://youtu.be/D90YGaEU0G4

Nope. That would be a friend

Bf/Gf implies doing all sorts of things as a couple, including sex

It doesn't really feel like a relationship without sex imo, I'm sure some people could do it but it seems like pretty much just a friend at that point

Some people are just aroace

JixHedgehog posted...

Nope. That would be a friend

Bf/Gf implies doing all sorts of things as a couple, including sex

There are more things than sex.

I'm asexual. Boyfriend knew this before we got together.

Entity13 posted...

There are more things than sex.

Yeah, hence the "all sorts of things", but sex is an important part of a relationship (unless the couple mutually agree on abstinence)

There are exceptions but generally adults don't choose to go without sex in a relationship. If she ain't giving it to you she is most likely giving it to someone else.

JixHedgehog posted...

Yeah, hence the "all sorts of things", but sex is an important part of a relationship (unless the couple mutually agree on abstinence)

Sex is an important part of *most* relationships. There are exactly two criteria that matter in assessing whether or not a relationship is good: Whether you're happy in it, and whether your partner is happy in it. Nothing more, nothing less. If you're mutually happy, you're doing it right, no matter how unhappy somebody else thinks they'd be if they were in your shoes. It doesn't matter how you get there (obviously it's bad if you're hurting other people, but that's bad because it's a bad thing to do, not because the relationship isn't good).

waterdeepchu posted...

I'm asexual. Boyfriend knew this before we got together.

Unlucky dude...

Me personally? Absolutely not. Could work for people that are asexual or maybe one partner is in a coma or something.

BlackScythe0 posted...

If she ain't giving it to you she is most likely giving it to someone else.

exactly. If youre not having sex, its because youre not turning each other on. Someone will come along and turn on your SO and fuck up your relationship

Yes, there is more to relationships than sex. Further they could be waiting to get married first and there's other reasons why they aren't ready to get married.

Though I'm reminded of stories where the reason they haven't was unintentional. Like where sex ed absolutely failed them. A couple has been married for years and after going to a fertility clinic find out the reason they don't have children yet is because they never did anything that leads to having one.

There's another couple where, since they never tried to be intimate, the wife didn't realize her husband was a female living as a man. And only found out after decades of being married.

No. Ive dated asexual women before and learned that its not something Im particularly interested in maintaining. Nothing against their sexuality, but its not compatible with what Im looking for.

waterdeepchu posted...

I'm asexual. Boyfriend knew this before we got together.

Whats sad is that even though he knows this hes still holding out for a piece of the pie.

Bless his deprived little heart.

Nah. My libido is way too high.

If you're not getting it from her, odds are someone else is.

Cotton_Eye_Joe posted...

Could you have a girlfriend for 7 years and never have sex?

It's possible. But context is key.

If I'd started dating someone and we went more than 7 weeks without having sex, the relationship would probably have faltered. I'd view it as being indicative of a major problem - either she has a vastly different sex drive than I do (which would potentially cause problems), she has a very different view of what our relationship is going to be than I do (which would potentially cause problems), or she's not actually all that interested in me (which would potentially cause problems). I'd argue that sex is an incredibly important and almost necessary part of a healthy relationship (unless you're talking about two asexual people getting together), and neglecting that is one of the most common ways any given relationship can fall apart.

If my current girlfriend (who I've been with for more than 20 years) suddenly stopped having sex with me, it's something I could potentially cope with depending on why. Injury? Illness? That's more justifiable than if she simply woke up one day and her sex drive was entirely gone and she was utterly disinterested in doing anything with me. It might sour the relationship a bit, but decades worth of shared experience and assuming there's still other forms of physical affection it wouldn't be a complete deal-breaker, but the reason why we stopped definitely matters.

Personally, I've always had a pretty strong sex drive. I don't think I could be in a completely happy relationship with anyone who was fully asexual (and I definitely never would have started one if I knew that going in). At that point it's not really a dating relationship to me as much as it is just friendship (without benefits). Maybe if it was a totally open relationship where I could still date and have sex with other people (but again, at that point, is it even really a dating relationship?), but I don't think I could ever completely sacrifice my own sexual gratification to be with someone else who had no interest in it.

Yep. Honestly dont care about sex.

i honestly have no idea how you could have a real relationship with another person that youre not attracted enough to to not want to fuck. youre just good friends at that point.

If one/both are aces or the guy is passive as fuck. Or if one/both partners are gay and using the other as a beard (which is less common today, but it still happens). Or extreme cases of extremis.

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I have not had a partner in over a decade and have not had intercourse in closer to two; I may technically be a wizard.

DirtBasedSoap posted...

i honestly have no idea how you could have a real relationship with another person that youre not attracted enough to to not want to fuck. youre just good friends at that point.

Romantic attraction is distinct from both sexual and platonic attraction, as much as we tend to assume that romantic and sexual attraction are inextricably linked. From the outside, it doesn't look like there's a lot of difference between an asexual romantic relationship and a close friendship, but there is in fact a difference when it comes to the emotions involved.

Cotton_Eye_Joe posted...

Could you have a girlfriend for 7 years and never have sex?

Nope. At that point we would just be friends. While I wouldn't require sex a lot I'd certainly want some intimacy now and then from someone I'd be in a relationship with.

I'm asexual, but not sex adverse, so you could replace sex with really any fun activity and I would not notice it wasn't there

Would I stay with a partner that developed some sort of sexual dysfunction if we had an otherwise great relationship? Yes.

Would I start a relationship with someone who didn't want to have sex? No.

I have been with my wife for 20 years and never had sex once in my life

I just looked it up and I was wrong.

Is it possible? Of course.

Would I do it? Nope.