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Topic	Could you have a girlfriend for 7 years and never have sex?
CynicalZealot 08/06/22 7:45:18 PM #24:	Cotton_Eye_Joe posted... Could you have a girlfriend for 7 years and never have sex? It's possible. But context is key. If I'd started dating someone and we went more than 7 weeks without having sex, the relationship would probably have faltered. I'd view it as being indicative of a major problem - either she has a vastly different sex drive than I do (which would potentially cause problems), she has a very different view of what our relationship is going to be than I do (which would potentially cause problems), or she's not actually all that interested in me (which would potentially cause problems). I'd argue that sex is an incredibly important and almost necessary part of a healthy relationship (unless you're talking about two asexual people getting together), and neglecting that is one of the most common ways any given relationship can fall apart. If my current girlfriend (who I've been with for more than 20 years) suddenly stopped having sex with me, it's something I could potentially cope with depending on why. Injury? Illness? That's more justifiable than if she simply woke up one day and her sex drive was entirely gone and she was utterly disinterested in doing anything with me. It might sour the relationship a bit, but decades worth of shared experience and assuming there's still other forms of physical affection it wouldn't be a complete deal-breaker, but the reason why we stopped definitely matters. Personally, I've always had a pretty strong sex drive. I don't think I could be in a completely happy relationship with anyone who was fully asexual (and I definitely never would have started one if I knew that going in). At that point it's not really a dating relationship to me as much as it is just friendship (without benefits). Maybe if it was a totally open relationship where I could still date and have sex with other people (but again, at that point, is it even really a dating relationship?), but I don't think I could ever completely sacrifice my own sexual gratification to be with someone else who had no interest in it. --- "This calls for a particularly subtle blend of psychology and extreme violence." --- Vyvyan, The Young Ones <cite>CynicalZealot posted [p:967124492] in Could you ... [t:80120370]...</cite> <quote><cite>Cotton_Eye_Joe posted...</cite><quote>Could you have a girlfriend for 7 years and never have sex? </quote>It's possible. But context is key.If I'd started dating someone and we went more than 7 weeks without having sex, the relationship would probably have faltered. I'd view it as being indicative of a major problem - either she has a vastly different sex drive than I do (which would potentially cause problems), she has a very different view of what our relationship is going to be than I do (which would potentially cause problems), or she's not actually all that interested in me (which would potentially cause problems). I'd argue that sex is an incredibly important and almost necessary part of a healthy relationship (unless you're talking about two asexual people getting together), and neglecting that is one of the most common ways any given relationship can fall apart.If my current girlfriend (who I've been with for more than 20 years) suddenly stopped having sex with me, it's something I could potentially cope with depending on why. Injury? Illness? That's more justifiable than if she simply woke up one day and her sex drive was entirely gone and she was utterly disinterested in doing anything with me. It might sour the relationship a bit, but decades worth of shared experience and assuming there's still other forms of physical affection it wouldn't be a complete deal-breaker, but the reason why we stopped definitely matters.Personally, I've always had a pretty strong sex drive. I don't think I could be in a completely happy relationship with anyone who was fully asexual (and I definitely never would have started one if I knew that going in). At that point it's not really a dating relationship to me as much as it is just friendship (without benefits). Maybe if it was a totally open relationship where I could still date and have sex with other people (but again, at that point, is it even really a dating relationship?), but I don't think I could ever completely sacrifice my own sexual gratification to be with someone else who had no interest in it. --- "This calls for a particularly subtle blend of psychology and extreme violence."--- Vyvyan, The Young Ones</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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