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I may not have a beautiful wall o' text explaining how Board 8 changed my life for better or for worse, but obviously it has, and charon said it better than I ever could anyway so I'll keep this short: Planning a wedding is hard to do! So I thought why not let Board 8 help? I mean you guys have been instrumental to my life since I joined you during the Game of the Decade 2010 contest almost 10 whole years ago, so maybe B8 can keep on contributing in the future. I've already got vague ideas in mind for the dress, cake, wedding band, and color scheme, but nothing else aside from the time, date, and venue is concrete. A lot can change between now and April 17th, 2020 so if anyone has any suggestions, particularly if you've been down this road before or you want to share your experiences this can be the topic. Thanks in advance for any help, and I love you a-... I love almost all of you!
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Have a giant game of Disney Gauntlet with your guests.
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Yoooo I'm in the floral/decor industry, so any questions you got in that area, just hmu

General advice:
>stick to color instead of feeling the need to select specific flowers [which is an intimidating learning curve that too many clients think they need to master before they even call us]
>bring in a color swatch of bridesmaids' dresses/ribbon for the florist to keep on file
>use Pinterest to organize your preferences on general look and feel
>the better the vendor responds, the better the vendor. You don't want someone who will ghost you as your wedding date approaches.


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That is all great advice, thank you. I'll admit I did kind of want to do my favorite flower, but it doesn't even come in my favorite color so I'll stick with the theme instead.
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Oh I know wedding stuff! Let me know whatever you need help on!
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Cheap out on everything.

We spent hardly anything and had a fantastic day.
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^That's the plan! It's not about how much you spend, but how you spend it. I've already got a friend who has graciously agreed to DJ free of charge (of course we're going to compensate her for her time anyway), and on a similar note I'm working on the wedding playlist a bit today.

Does anyone have any suggestions? If it helps, both charon and I are huge Disney nerds, we love video games, particularly horror and RPG, and both of us like alternative music, though his tastes lean more goth, new age, and industrial, and mine lean more punk, techno, and soft rock.

He's going to help too, but so far we've only locked down 3 songs and I think we need about uh... gee I forget how long the ceremony will last, but let's aim for 50. Better too many than not enough because I'd rather we not have to loop the soundtrack.
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I received rave reviews for the playlist from our wedding 2 weeks ago. I'll post the playlist when I get home if I remember. It was super heavy on guilty pleasure songs and some B8 in jokes.

I had 93 songs on the playlist to cover from 6pm to midnight and used almost all.
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save my favorite wedding guest
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Oh God. Do a wedding guest gauntlet as a party game.

Make everyone hate each other.

HOW COULD YOU ELIMINATE GRANDMA FOR COUSIN SUAREZ!?
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As long as you have a killer cookie table then no one will have any complaints
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I DO make killer cookies...

RPGlord95 posted...

I received rave reviews for the playlist from our wedding 2 weeks ago. I'll post the playlist when I get home if I remember. It was super heavy on guilty pleasure songs and some B8 in jokes.

I had 93 songs on the playlist to cover from 6pm to midnight and used almost all.

Wait you just got married only two weeks ago!?

Pls share spotify or whatever thx
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Some things will not go according to plan or just be flat out wrong. Be prepared to be calm in the face of it and have at least one person by your side who is willing to be a point of contact for vendors on the wedding day to look into any potential issues should something arise. Ideally have it be somebody who is adept at cutting straight to the point of things so that you don't need to be pulled in.
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ZaziGuado posted...

Some things will not go according to plan or just be flat out wrong. Be prepared to be calm in the face of it and have at least one person by your side who is willing to be a point of contact for vendors on the wedding day to look into any potential issues should something arise. Ideally have it be somebody who is adept at cutting straight to the point of things so that you don't need to be pulled in.

This. Managing your expectations prior to your wedding day is the biggest struggle and greatest reward.

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Question: Did any of you guys go with a nice suit instead of a tuxedo for your wedding?

The reason I ask is because a suit seems like a much more practical option than a tux- something I feel like a man only wears 2 or 3 times in his entire life (and charon is too late to wear one for prom night). It's not like we're getting invited to any fancy balls any time soon, and even if we merely RENT the tux it's still bloody expensive. Whereas for roughly the same price I can just buy a nice black suit to have forever instead of just one night. Jason doesn't own a suit if that weighs into your decision. I feel like every man should own a formal black suit. What if someone close to him (god forbid) dies unexpectedly? We'd have to get one anyway eventually. You know... the more I think about it the more I think fuck that tux. We could probably have the suit for $60 or less, and have it tailor-made to fit for like $30 more.
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I wore a tux but my groomsman did not.

But honestly if you arent having a very formal ceremony I think a suit would be fine for the groom as well. You could always add a vest to dress it up more.
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Ooh, there's an idea
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We rented tuxes, but my parents were also paying. An investment in a good black suit is always a good idea.

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My husband rented a suit for ours. It was relatively cheap!
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I wore a suit, all my groomsmen all just needed to match color. We didn't all have the same suit or anything.

I didn't spotify the playlist. I will post it gimme a sec

also yeah super just roll with the punches

Our entrance musics were a disaster and it made things more charming, speaker shut off and then wouldn't reconnect and then phone wasn't listening when the person in charge of that was hitting next and then Cokes swooped in to help

But also my wedding was like the most laid back wedding I have ever been to. I have been to too many where the bride and groom looked so busy. Did not want that.
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GenesisSaga posted...

Does anyone have any suggestions?

Suteki da ne
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I went music I liked, she liked and also just random stuff people would like because I realized if it was all my choice stuff, people would not enjoy themselves as much. Like I could have added a pile of video game music but only 8 people of the 100 would have liked it. So don't go to crazy on Disney etc, unless thats the feel of the room I guess.

Music for background while people are getting to the reception:

Jamiroquai - Virtual Insanity
Dexy's Midnight Runners - Come on Eileen
RHCP - By the way (Had to have The Show theme)
Duck Tales theme (the new version)
Guns N Roses - Sweet Child of Mine
Weird Al - White and Nerdy
Dire Straits - Money for Nothing
Culture Beat - Mr. Vain
Franz Ferdinand - Take Me Out
Jump Up Super Star - Mario Odyssey
Supertramp - Hide in your shell
Imagine Dragons - Monster
Ghostbusters theme
Lionel Richie - Hello
MC Hammer - Can't Touch This
Pokemon theme song
Shaggy - It wasn't me
Portal - Still alive
Zac Brown Band - Chicken Fried
RHCP - Snow
Simpsons - See My Vest
Lonely Island - YOLO
Tinie Tempah - Written in the Stars

Music for dancing etc:

John Legend - All of Me (our first dance)
Walk the Moon - Shut up and dance
Smash Mouth - All Star
Scatman - Scatman
Boston - Peace of Mind
ATC - All Around the World
Boney M - Rasputin
The Clash - I fought the law
Lonestar - Amazed
Billy Idol - Rebel Yell
Britney Spears - Oops I did it again
Biggie, Diddy etc - Mo money, mo problems
Kool and the Gang - Celebration
Bruno Mars - Uptown Funk
Backstreet Boys - Everybody
Spice Girls - Stop
Bryan Adams - Everything I do
Carly Rae Jepsen - Call me maybe
Earth Wind and Fire - September
Village People - YMCA
Bon Jovi - Livin on a prayer
Flo Rida - Low
Black Eyed Peas - I got a feeling
The Proclaimers - I'm gonna be (500 miles)
Haddaway - What is love
George Michael - Careless Whisper
House of Pain - Jump Around
The Beatles - Twist and Shout
Justin Bieber - Despacito
Fatboy Slim - Weapon of Choice
Justin Timberlake - Cant stop this feeling
Thin Lizzy - The boys are back in town
Lady Gaga - Bad Romance
Michael Jackson - Beat it
KC and Jojo - All my life
Lonely Island - Jack Sparrow
Katy Perry - Hot n Cold
Lou Bega - Mambo No 5
Hall and Oates - You make my dreams come true
Journey - Don't stop believing
Maroon 5 - Moves like jagger
Taylor Swift - Shake it off
Aqua - Barbie Girl
Joe Cocker - Up where we belong
Mario Odyssey - Break Free
Vengaboys - We like to party
Usher - Yeah
Outkast - Hey Ya
LMFAO - Party Rock Anthem
Rednex - Cotton Eye Joe
Rick Astley - Never gonna give you up
Ricky Martin - Livin la vida loca
Goofy Movie - Eye to Eye
Scotty McCreery - I love you this big
Billy Joel - We didn't start the fire
DJ Snake - Turn down for what
Lady Gaga - Poker Face
One Direction - What makes you beautiful
Britney Spears - Womanizer
Do the Mario
Chumbawumba - Tubthumping
Weird Al - The Saga Begins
4 Non Blondes - Whats up
Kenny loggins - Footloose
PSY - Gangnam Style
OZone - Dragosta Din Tei
Eiffel 65 - Blue
Grease - You're the one I want
Savage Garden - Truly Madly Deeply
Europe - Final Countdown
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Some of those are definitely some interesting choices. Jack Sparrow is a great choice though- literally just put a smile on my face. This is our day, we should be able to put whatever we want on the playlist regardless of how "traditional" or "appropriate" it is! Fuck appearances, I wanna have fun.

Man now I'm tempted to put a bunch of Lonely Island and ERB on the set list. Did totally blank on having a dance music section. Welp, guess I'd better add Feel Good, Inc.

Thanks Nick!
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Oh for sure it's your day. Do what you want to do 100%.

But part of your day is giving your friends and family a fun event. At least I took it as that. For the reception anyway.

I wouldn't wanna put people through an event they are gonna not enjoy, especially since chances are you will be so busy with social stuff that you won't get as much out of it as they will. I missed a bunch of songs because of thanking people for coming and people coming up and congratulating us. I didn't even really eat because it was non stop lol. I have watched enough of that show on TLC four weddings to see how miserable people look and are at some of the really personal unique weddings.
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If you want to incorporate your love of horror video games into your set list, you could do worse than the Silent Hill soundtrack.

Our background music was the Lord of the Rings soundtrack.

And my wife came down the aisle to Arwens Vigil played by The Piano Guys.

My best friend actually used a symphony recording playing FFX for a lot of their background music. Another friend used legend of zelda.

Music is definitely an area where you can make it your own.
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Oh our entrance music's were like wrestling themes and sports or TV, like Wigs used Meet the Mets

Our song for the end of the ceremony was from Chrono Trigger
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Two must-haves for me: open bar and a good DJ/playlist. Probably third is the cake. My ex and I had three tiered cake, each one a different flavor. The photographer was a quirky newbie so it wasn't super expensive and we had all of the usual photos and some fun ones too. That was before everyone had an amazing camera in their pockets.
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I don't know if wedding favors/souvenirs are common in the US of A, but as a guest I like those that are useful instead of purely decorative like a mini notebook or comb. But after Googling, something like hot cocoa packet is cute.
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Congrats on the wedding!
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Maniac64 posted...

My best friend actually used a symphony recording playing FFX

A+ best friend choice
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I went with a suit, albeit it was mainly because the wedding was a bit last minute due to some complications of sorts
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neonreaper posted...

Two must-haves for me: open bar and a good DJ/playlist. Probably third is the cake. My ex and I had three tiered cake, each one a different flavor. The photographer was a quirky newbie so it wasn't super expensive and we had all of the usual photos and some fun ones too. That was before everyone had an amazing camera in their pockets.

Oh man the cake is huge. We got this crazy awesome one with four different layers and everyone still tells me how great it was. That and the food! Family style/buffet are super awesome alternatives to a plated dinner that can cost less. We had family style and people loooved it. Oh and dont forget to eat! I ended up spending too much time greeting guests and barely touched my food. So sad
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We definitely made sure to eat.

And family style/buffet is definitely my preferred!
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We've started to check out the catering options. I know she had her heart set on a certain type of theme but I don't think we're going to find a service that offers that specific thing.
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Raka_Putra posted...

I don't know if wedding favors/souvenirs are common in the US of A, but as a guest I like those that are useful instead of purely decorative like a mini notebook or comb. But after Googling, something like hot cocoa packet is cute.

Our venue tacked on cookies with a monogram/initial of our family name as part of the dessert bar, which is edible. Best way to go if you can't settle on a useful item, and a lot of American wedding guests just leave favors behind.

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GenesisSaga posted...

This is our day, we should be able to put whatever we want on the playlist regardless of how "traditional" or "appropriate" it is!

Whiskey_Nick posted...

Like I could have added a pile of video game music but only 8 people of the 100 would have liked it. So don't go to crazy on Disney etc, unless thats the feel of the room I guess.

For dinner/bgm, we created a selection of instrumental music or adaptations from anime and video games [e.g., Smooth McGroove, Walt Ribeiro, HarpTwins]. The result was that most people enjoyed but didn't recognize the music. The table and a half that did were laughing when they recognized the different tracks.

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We gave out koozies as our wedding favor. People loved them
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Like beer koozies? That's awesome, Ryokles. I dunno, I might not have wedding favors. Depends on how much budget we have left over after the absolutely essential stuff. Not everyone bothers with favors.
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This is so effin' rad, Gen. <3

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GenesisSaga posted...

Like beer koozies? That's awesome, Ryokles. I dunno, I might not have wedding favors. Depends on how much budget we have left over after the absolutely essential stuff. Not everyone bothers with favors.

My cousin gave away microwave popcorn and a note saying, Thanks for popping in! It was cute and didnt cost much.

Up to about 40 songs on the playlist, starting to think outside the box. One of my favorites so far is Toxic, the cover by Yael Naim. Sounds so good
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Almost at 70 now.
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Honestly as long as you have Shout its a good playlist

like yes its a cheesy song but it works really well and everyone gets into it

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Hi.
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v_charon posted...

Hi.

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Hi, work sucks sometimes and I wish I had more time to plan things.
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I know we've had our run-ins in the past, and are almost always on the opposite end of the opinion spectrums...

...but I wish you two all the best moving forward.
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Oh you must be talking to charon not to me
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Yeah. We've only had minor opinion run-ins, nothing major. We're cool.

Me and charon go way too way back.

But still, all the well wishes.
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