Poll of the Day > I just found out I have an uncle, and he contacted me. Holy crap

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Backstory: both my parents were adopted. I did a DNA test with ancestry and so did my dad and that way I could figure out my mom's family too. I messaged the closest match that was listed as a cousin. Turned out to be my uncle

He told me that was the best she was waiting for his whole life. We're going to talk on the phone tonight. I'm super excited and nervous

He looks and smiles like my mom. It's so surreal. I only got my results a week ago!
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hopefully he doesn't fall asleep on the phone after the 8th fucking cat story, ok?
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What if he's the creepy uncle?
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Does he need to transfer some funds ASAP and needs your checking account routing number?
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Both your parents are adopted? That sounds unlikely but maybe that's what brought them together hmm
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Aculo posted...

hopefully he doesn't fall asleep on the phone after the 8th fucking cat story, ok?

He's going to hang up after the 3rd time she says she's vegan
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Andromicus posted...

Both your parents are adopted? That sounds unlikely but maybe that's what brought them together hmm

That they are

It is unlikely and so I've never met my extended biological family. Just my parents.

Firewood18 posted...

Does he need to transfer some funds ASAP and needs your checking account routing number?

No he just wants to meet his family too

He did the DNA testing in the hopes a family member would be matched
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SmokeMassTree posted...

Aculo posted...

hopefully he doesn't fall asleep on the phone after the 8th fucking cat story, ok?

He's going to hang up after the 3rd time she says she's vegan

Hardly need to mention that over everyone pointing it out for me
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Wow thats pretty wild. Not sure how Id feel finding some lost relative
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Does his name start with Darth?:)

Doctor Fox, I am your UNCLE!!!

Doctor Fox "Noooooooooooooooooooo"!!!!!
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Mead posted...

Wow thats pretty wild. Not sure how Id feel finding some lost relative

Mead, I have an older sister who I have never met that was adopted before I was born. I think you may be her, they just changed your gender so it would be hard to track you down.
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Guys he's getting weird again
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wolfy42 posted...

Mead posted...

Wow thats pretty wild. Not sure how Id feel finding some lost relative

Mead, I have an older sister who I have never met that was adopted before I was born. I think you may be her, they just changed your gender so it would be hard to track you down.

That sounds right
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That's great news, I suppose. I'm assuming he was also adopted so you aren't gaining more family with him (well, unless he has kids)?

Doctor Foxx posted...

Backstory: both my parents were adopted.

Kinda wonder how common that is, especially in regards to whether it's a preference.

Doctor Foxx posted...

He told me that was the best she was waiting for his whole life.

What?

Doctor Foxx posted...

He did the DNA testing in the hopes a family member would be matched

Which is a kinda neat perk for the technology, since in bygone eras it'd be a lot harder to track people down (well, I guess back then it might have been more common for a worker at an adoption center to walk out of the room for a minute)
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Zeus posted...

Doctor Foxx posted...
He told me that was the best she was waiting for his whole life.

What?

That was meant to be "he told me that was the message he was waiting for his whole life"

Zeus posted...

Kinda wonder how common that is, especially in regards to whether it's a preference.

I don't think that was the case for my parents. I don't even know if they each knew that about each other before my mom got knocked up

Zeus posted...

That's great news, I suppose. I'm assuming he was also adopted so you aren't gaining more family with him (well, unless he has kids)?

He wasn't adopted. My mom was the first born and given up for adoption and the rest stayed. He has 2 other siblings aside from my mom, and I've got cousins.
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About to call him
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Doctor Foxx posted...

He told me that was the best she was waiting for his whole life

...what?
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That's pretty cool.

He live nearby?
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That's awesome. I want to find some long lost relatives, too!

I remember when my cousin found his biological mother. She was really nice. And she also came to his wedding.
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Is he a Nigerian prince by any chance?
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McSame_as_Bush posted...

That's pretty cool.

He live nearby?

He lives the next province over. He plans to visit over Christmas
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Hey I might be your uncle too, come sit on my lap and tell all about you... <_<
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Violet_Blooded posted...

Hey I might be your uncle too, come sit on my lap and tell all about you... <_<

This isn't Game of Thrones

Gosh
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likehelly posted...

Doctor Foxx posted...

He told me that was the best she was waiting for his whole life

...what?

Read the topic, helly
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It's a bit odd being the middle man for my mom and her brother

But they're both really happy and I can't imagine how hard it would be to reach out to a sibling vs a niece or uncle, it's good to help
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If you're looking for family do a DNA test

Both my father and my mother have found their siblings (and family) using ancestry in the last year. Though my mom found her brother by proxy from my test. I could rule out the paternal matches since my father did a test.

Both my parents exhausted all other avenues and this worked quickly. I'm really grateful for this technology. Can hardly believe it.

The story of my dad finding his brother is even more crazy but I'm tired maybe tomorrow
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That's awesome girl grats!
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My mom and her brother talked yesterday and it went well. I'm really happy for them!
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Why do uncles get such a bad rep? I've never personally been raped by one

minervo posted...

Why do uncles get such a bad rep? I've never personally been raped by one

Got cool uncles an the one who calls me the "f*****". Some aren't created equal.
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It turned out my grandma had my mom when she was only 13 (and was pregnant at 12), and the birth records were fudged to prevent the father from going to jail. Jeez. No wonder that paperwork was a dead end. The papers sometimes just lie.

My mom is going to meet her siblings tomorrow!
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This sounds very interesting. I'd love to track down my half brothers and sisters at some point in my life. Congrats on finding a lost family member!

Doctor Foxx posted...

If you're looking for family do a DNA test

Interesting....
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wwinterj25 posted...

This sounds very interesting. I'd love to track down my half brothers and sisters at some point in my life. Congrats on finding a lost family member!

Why don't you do it? Since you're still looking for a job, it would be easier now since you probably have more time. Once you find a job, you might not have as much time.
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LinkPizza posted...

Why don't you do it? Since you're still looking for a job, it would be easier now since you probably have more time. Once you find a job, you might not have as much time.

I honestly wouldn't know where to start but thanks tot his topic a DNA test probably would be the best place. Those cost money though so as I said maybe one day.
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wwinterj25 posted...

LinkPizza posted...

Why don't you do it? Since you're still looking for a job, it would be easier now since you probably have more time. Once you find a job, you might not have as much time.

I honestly wouldn't know where to start but thanks tot his topic a DNA test probably would be the best place. Those cost money though so as I said maybe one day.

That's true. I want to do it, as well. But I need to save up money first...
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wwinterj25 posted...

LinkPizza posted...

Why don't you do it? Since you're still looking for a job, it would be easier now since you probably have more time. Once you find a job, you might not have as much time.

I honestly wouldn't know where to start but thanks tot his topic a DNA test probably would be the best place. Those cost money though so as I said maybe one day.

They're often on sale. Ask for one as a gift if you can. I had both of mine gifted.

Ancestry has a much larger user pool. Keep that in mind. I was on 23andme for almost 5 years without making a solid match. Ancestry got matches on both sides of the family right away. Ancestry also has bullshit like needing a paid account to message people. But you can find names!
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LinkPizza posted...

That's true. I want to do it, as well. But I need to save up money first...

Besides I don't even know if my mum is alive or dead as I've no contact with her. All I know is my half siblings from her side have been put in the system although now they are probably all adults so I don't think that actually matters much.

I know of one half brother from my dads side but he's older than me and strange enough I've not been that bothered about tracking him down. Mostly because my dad tried to get in contact with him at my nans funeral after talking to his mum. He apparently wants nothing todo with my dad and has no desire to keep in contact with me or my siblings otherwise he would have. That's fair enough to be honest.

Doctor Foxx posted...

They're often on sale. Ask for one as a gift if you can. I had both of mine gifted.

Ancestry has a much larger user pool. Keep that in mind. I was on 23andme for almost 5 years without making a solid match. Ancestry got matches on both sides of the family right away. Ancestry also has bullshit like needing a paid account to message people. But you can find names!

I see. Well I'll certainly keep that in mind thanks.
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Doctor Foxx posted...

It turned out my grandma had my mom when she was only 13 (and was pregnant at 12)

No Game of Thrones you say?
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Good to hear.
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Violet_Blooded posted...

Doctor Foxx posted...

It turned out my grandma had my mom when she was only 13 (and was pregnant at 12)

No Game of Thrones you say?

No. Just different times
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Foxx, I'm so happy for you. I know what you must be feeling as I too was adopted. My Aunt adopted me from her sister at birth, but no one ever had the empathy to let me know who the father was. My adopted dad was such a good man to me it never really mattered. Just remember it's the people who raise you that matter not the sperm donors.
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