Poll of the Day > Women actually terrify me

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Well... not in the "I'm too nervous/shy/timid to talk to them" terrify me as much as the "I'm legitimately afraid for my own safety and well being" sort of terrified. Yes.... I can feel you rolling your eyes into the back of you skull at the moment, so let me elaborate. Story time.

Fearless, but nervous.
Age 0-24
Never really had any legitimate reasons to be afraid, maybe nervous. But not full blown fear. During these times the closest I'd come to being afraid was when my older sister, and roommate at the time, threatened to call the police on me and lie and tell them I hit her if I didn't wash the dishes. I laughed at her and said "go ahead and try." and she did, and the police showed up and I did get arrested despite my younger brother [12 at the time, I was 21 at the time] saying no one hit anyone that entire time. I spent 3 days in jail because a girl told a cop that I hit her even though she had no marks on her and 2 witnesses at the scene [my older brother and younger brother] said that no one hit anyone, I was still arrested and still missed work and still lost money and still had my plans for those 3 days ruined.

And I had to go to court and prove that it never happened. I had to have my younger brother and older brother show up to testify, and the prosecution questions if they were just lying for me or not and still tried to get me locked up for that. It was very frustrating and eventually it was settled and I was found not guilty but it's still on my record that I was charged for it [which any employer can look up if I apply somewhere].

Since then I've been very on edge around any girl who seems to dislike me and seems the slightest bit shady or unethical. The idea that a girl can call the police and they'll show up and arrest me basically no matter what I have to say worries me a lot. I'm not the most charming of people, I have a monotone voice and can be long winded and tend to over explain things when I talk and people take it the wrong way, so sometimes people just think I'm being an asshole and get mad at me and just don't like me. So this worries me a bit... But I mean, at this point it was only my sister who'd done that and she's pretty horrible.

age 25.
The party and a visit to the E.R.

At this point, the worst thing that's been done to my by a girl was when my sister had called the police and lied to get me arrested because of a petty dispute over who's turn it was to clean the kitchen. So, I kinda just learned to avoid her and I'm feeling not so bad about other girls. That was 4 years ago.

I mean, I was rather nervous if I liked someone and didn't have the best self esteem. I was around people who weren't very nice about that either and quite a few made fun of me for being single and just straight up mocked me or if I was with someone said they didn't believe me or that she must be stupid or something along the lines where I was the butt of their jokes and the theme was that I was undateable and unattractive. I asked one girl if she wanted to hang out and grab lunch sometime and her response was extremely rude, she laughed at me and said she thought I was joking.

So, kinda was around a bunch or horrible people [who I don't talk to anymore]. I go to this party with a few friends. At the party I meet this girl and we start making out and she puts her hand down my pants and says we should go somewhere more private. So, we wander off to the basement. And we're making out and taking each others clothes off when she notices a couple in the corner of the room and says she doesn't feel comfortable and wants to stop. So, I help her put her bra back on and I put my clothes back on. We go back upstairs and continue to make out and cuddle a bit more and then mingle a bit and so on and then it's time for me to go cause my ride is leaving. But she asks me to stay and I said I couldn't cause I'd have no way home.

Sooo I'll do a 2nd post to finish this.
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Cuck

So, She tries to convince me to stay and suggests that we'll have more privacy if I do. I say I'd love to stay but I have to work and I need a ride home and my ride home is leaving.

Previously at the same party, unknown to me [but at the same time, sorta known to me]. I was on the porch not feeling so well and decided to sleep in my friend Ryan's car [my ride home]. Me and 2 other friends walk to the car to see some girl having sex with ryan in the car. I wasn't aware who it was, but it turns out with was the same girl who tried to get me to spend the night and almost had sex with me in the basement.... Except this is before all that happened.

Anyway, after the party I'm hanging out at this coffee shop where I know most of my friends and so on. And it's been 3 days after the party and a friend of mine comes up to me and tells me that there's a rumor going around that I raped some girl. I'm a bit shocked by this. It turns out there's a rumor that Ryan did as well and that it's the girl from the party. She's saying that Ryan raped her and that I did too in the basement of the party.

But, everyone who was actually at the party and saw what happened says she's lying and making this story up. People who are known to not like me at all are telling people "No, she was making out with him and tried to get him to stay and spend the night but then he left cause he had to be at work, she's lying and full of [censored]".

Despite people who were actually there saying that it never happened some people still very much wanted to believe it happened anyway.

One day I was out and about and ran into her. I turned to go walk away and go somewhere else and then there was a crowd of people who were chasing me and they attacked me and beat me so badly I had to go to the emergency room. On the way there the guy in the back of the ambulance was telling me he'd heard what I did and that he thinks they shouldn't just left me there to die and tells me what a horrible human being I am. I spent a week in the hospital before I got out.

When I left, I barely left my house for anything other than to go to work or the grocery store or to pay my rent. I just didn't want to leave my house at all. I saved up and then I moved and got a new job. I didn't want to be anywhere near that neighborhood or those people anymore.

Too this day I'm very afraid of women.

I'm afraid because I had met someone who I though was interested in me, even if just in a superficial surface level kinda way where she was just horny. I still had the impression she was interested and I was respectful of her. The moment she said she felt uncomfortable and wanted to stop I did. But still she went and spread lies that resulted in a group of people attacking and hurting me so badly I had to go to the emergency room and on my ride there I was treated like I was the bad guy.

I'm still scared everytime I meet someone... just thinking of how they can lie and completely ruin my life so easily. This is probably my biggest hurdle in relationships, I have some extreme trust issues because of this
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Told ya you were gonna come out fam.
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Maybe going after 16 year old children for sex is not a good idea if you're worried about someone ruining your life just a thought
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I don't know if you're serious or not. You are known to troll.

Ya didn't make any try clearin your name bout a rape?
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Ok
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Do you feel better, now that you've said your peace, Tree?
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I_Abibde posted...

Do you feel better, now that you've said your peace, Tree?

He is right to be afraid though.

Although I don't have a phobia of women like Smoke does, I am overly cautious due to the stories that I've heard on the internet and in real life about women negatively effecting men.
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This all happened.
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You should be more afraid of your blood pressure and cholesterol

It's difficult to resolve such a thing when the experiences were that bad. I've had decent relationships with decent women after all of that before, but I'm still very afraid of most girls I meet. It's not as bad as it used to be.

The thing that makes it the toughest to deal with is that I feel like I have no where and no one to talk to about it. Also my facebook feed and plenty of other outlets occasionally have some rather misandric posts about rape culture and violence against women which almost always makes me feel extremely nervous and uncomfortable because of the rather generalized accusatory phrasing of these PSA's. That and how if I mention what I've been through and that I do respect that what they're saying is an issue I don't respect that it's overly generalized as if all men are guilty of this sort of thing because I've been beaten up and sent to the ER because people have the mentality that all men are potentially horrible human beings to such an extent they'll hospitalize you without question or due process or any facts or evidence you deserve what you've gotten.

Even after that I'm told I'm horrible for saying "not all men" or questioning the ramifications or acting as if all men are evil.

So, I sorta just try to avoid places that post things like that, cause it mostly just makes me feel more nervous and a lot worse. But I don't want to avoid those places because I very much am for their cause and reducing these things from happening. It's just a bit hard to be around a group of people when it feels like they're constantly saying you're a horrible person because you're a guy... I don't know. But that [censored] stresses me out a lot.
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Women are weak and easy to bully
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thedeerzord posted...

I_Abibde posted...

Do you feel better, now that you've said your peace, Tree?

He is right to be afraid though.

Although I don't have a phobia of women like Smoke does, I am overly cautious due to the stories that I've heard on the internet and in real life about women negatively effecting men.

Women only care about financial codependency.

... i feel as if i read this before
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someo ne post a tl;dr version

OP is prolly pussy
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https://www.gamefaqs.com/boards/1061-sex-sexuality/76028421

TC is a fraud, confirmed.
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That board is gold

Koga even has a few bait topics on it
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Blue_Thunder posted...

https://www.gamefaqs.com/boards/1061-sex-sexuality/76028421

TC is a fraud, confirmed.

Kinda figured.
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jNGZo5gn_tc
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i knew i read it before
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Well thats a weird board.
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Blue_Thunder posted...

https://www.gamefaqs.com/boards/1061-sex-sexuality/76028421

TC is a fraud, confirmed.

Ah. Not surprised.
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