Poll of the Day > Anybody here prefer to live with their parents?

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Not now, but I wish I had the option when I was 12 and up through high school, maybe into my early 20s. Sometimes wonder how much different my life couldve turned out.
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Hmm....hard to say.

I grew up with a big family; 4 siblings with mum and dad.

Right now, I live alone and I love the independence. However I do miss living with my parents at times; my mum's cooking and great conversations with my dad. I miss waking up to a noisy home; always lively with buzzing activity and idle chatter! Also, I just miss being in that cocoon of protection and comfort. Reminiscing on how childhood life is; where there's no future but the afternoon. :))

Buuuuut.

I like my independence. When you live under your parents' roof, you must abide by their rules. You also can't show any form of aggression or sarcasm. By being under their roof, you basically revert back into a child. Different opinions will clash; discussions on how things are/should be managed at home can turn into an argument. And parents can be overbearing at times. They tend to lecture and sometimes pry into your personal and professional life which you may not be ready for (especially after a stressful day at work).

The opposite is also true. Living with loved ones can provide you the emotional support that everyone needs from time to time. You may gain some insight on how life is and how you'd want to live it from listening to there words of wisdom or just by idly chatting with them.

For me, though, I'd visit often and probably spend a weekend or two at their place, but I wouldn't want to live there.
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Anybody who has abusive parents never wants to live with them.
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Far-Queue posted...

Not now, but I wish I had the option when I was 12 and up through high school, maybe into my early 20s. Sometimes wonder how much different my life couldve turned out.

really? how bad could your life be right now? Look at the positives

Same as Alexandra I have a lot of siblings and love my mom's cooking. I visit often but I could never give up having my own place.

If my life goes to shit I wouldn't mind moving back in though
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Fuck yeah, I had no issue with my parents and I saved so much money.
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XBoner posted...

Far-Queue posted...

Not now, but I wish I had the option when I was 12 and up through high school, maybe into my early 20s. Sometimes wonder how much different my life couldve turned out.

really? how bad could your life be right now? Look at the positives

My life is great right now.

I dont think my life would be better or worse were my mother still alive, just different.
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XBoner posted...

Do you prefer it?

Well it's not a big deal living with my dad as we half bills, he does his thing I do mine and it's much cheaper however I'd much rather have my own place, my own independence and the freedom to do mostly whatever I want it said place. Not that I'm limited in what I can do at my dads. Not only that but if he dies I'd be screwed. Got to get myself a job before I move out though.
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^ How do you go halves on bills if you haven't got a job?
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FatalAccident posted...

^ How do you go halves on bills if you haven't got a job?

I would like to know this, too.

FellWolf posted...

Same as Alexandra I have a lot of siblings and love my mom's cooking. I visit often but I could never give up having my own place.

If my life goes to shit I wouldn't mind moving back in though

Pretty much the same.
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Hell no those people arent right
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Fuck no. My parents and I don't really agree on... well, life.

I'm glad that I was here because the last few years have been pretty rough for them financially, but I'm definitely looking to be on my own soon.

Zangulus posted...

I dont want to live in a cemetery half of the time.

Assuming you're living aboveground, a cemetery sounds kinda cool.... unless it's one for pets

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F3J0iwwsq-w
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I lived with my parents while I saved up money to buy a house.

We got along reasonably well and it meant I didn't have to pay rent while I was saving up, so it worked out pretty well.
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It doesn't matter. All our houses are more than big enough that we have plenty of privacy if we want. Plus I am Asian so it's traditions for families to live together.
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darkknight109 posted...

I lived with my parents while I saved up money to buy a house.

We got along reasonably well and it meant I didn't have to pay rent while I was saving up, so it worked out pretty well.

This is me currently... saving up for a house :) . Living with my parents is a breeze fortunately
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Alexandra_Trent posted...

When you live under your parents' roof, you must abide by their rules. You also can't show any form of aggression or sarcasm.

That sounds awful. Aggression too depending on how lenient the definition we're using, but no sarcasm is like living without the internet.

FatalAccident posted...

^ How do you go halves on bills if you haven't got a job?

LinkPizza posted...

I would like to know this, too.

Job Seekers Allowance. Although I suppose technically the government pays for my shit at this point but those who work don't say "my boss pays for everything I have" do they? So it's pointless nitpicking every minor detail.
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I would since it would save me money. But I would pay my parents rent anyways.

It would also help me help them, they call me often to help around the house 'cuz they're very old
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wwinterj25 posted...

FatalAccident posted...

^ How do you go halves on bills if you haven't got a job?

LinkPizza posted...

I would like to know this, too.

Job Seekers Allowance. Although I suppose technically the government pays for my shit at this point but those who work don't say "my boss pays for everything I have" do they? So it's pointless nitpicking every minor detail.

How long do you get job seekers allowance? In all the years you've been here you've had no job iirc
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Jen0125 posted...

How long do you get job seekers allowance? In all the years you've been here you've had no job iirc

For as long as your entitled to it. The government however does send you on
college courses(nothing noteworthy admittedly) and at times work placements for several months so while I have been unemployed for some time I've also been doing college during that time. My last job ended at the start of 2015.
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wwinterj25 posted...

For as long as your entitled to it. The government however does send you on
college courses(nothing noteworthy admittedly) and at times work placements for several months so while I have been unemployed for some time I've also been doing college during that time. My last job ended at the start of 2016.

interesting. and they pay for you to take those classes? is it something you'd actually be able to get a degree from?
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I didn't mind it in college, but that was probably because my dad was working 2 jobs at the time, so he was only home for a few hours a night before going to bed. Then on weekends he would be out in his workshop most of the day and only came in the house for food and sleep. So essentially I was living alone.

Once my dad started his own business and was in the house most of the time though, then I was ready to leave. Considering I have a nicer home then my dad does I don't think I would be moving back in with him.
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Jen0125 posted...

interesting. and they pay for you to take those classes? is it something you'd actually be able to get a degree from?

Not a degree no but it does improve your skills and you get a certificate. Nothing fancy but better than nothing. It's not like actually attending real college and being able to pick something that'll benefit you however some folk that claim JSA are less skilled for the lack of a better term so eh I guess it helps some people. I've actually found myself helping some folk who are less skilled use computers and the like too.

The government probably does pay the college for use of the building, equipment and whatnot. I don't know the specifics.
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hm neat. thanks for the info!
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No problem.
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Hell yeah

I wish I still lived with my dad. This mortgage and bills thing isn't fun.
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wwinterj25 posted...

FatalAccident posted...

^ How do you go halves on bills if you haven't got a job?

LinkPizza posted...

I would like to know this, too.

Job Seekers Allowance. Although I suppose technically the government pays for my shit at this point but those who work don't say "my boss pays for everything I have" do they? So it's pointless nitpicking every minor detail.

what country? in america you can only collect unemployment for 6 weeks before they throw you out in the street and cut off your food stamps

With my mother? Sure, if she were still alive I might happily live with her, for a while at least, as she and I were nearly best friends throughout my teens and I miss her very much.

With my father? Not a cat in hell's chance of that. He was abusive in various ways when my sister and I did live with him, and I can barely tolerate visiting him in his own home for 3 days at a time, even with my really nice stepmother around. He's in the process of gradually drinking himself to death no matter what anybody who actually gives a damn about him says to him about it, but he always was selfish.

My stepmother's planning to move closer to me (with my younger brother) when she's able, so I might be up for living with her again for a few months, if she needed me to.

In general though, I tend to do better living by myself and having someplace I can retreat when I get overwhelmed or excessively wound up. Well, by myself without other humans at least. I like having cats around. (I miss my little tortoiseshell lady terribly still: she died of cancer in March and I am not at all adjusted to her absence yet.)
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Good heavens no. I like both of my parents, but I like them more when I'm not constantly around them.
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I am indifferent. I live wherever it is convenient for work and my other activities. My mom's place is relatively centralized between work, Boy Scouts, and all my other friends.

Would I move out if money was not an issue? No. Some of the house maintenance can only be done by me and being 75 years old, my mother occasionally need my help with some stuff. My mother and I have had our differences and arguments in the past but more often than not it is just due to some misunderstanding and me being an idiotic son.
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Both my parents are dead.

Besides three aunts and two sisters the rest of my family is also dead.
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CharlesBronson posted...

what country? in america you can only collect unemployment for 6 weeks before they throw you out in the street and cut off your food stamps

UK. Seems more harsh over in the USA but then again maybe not.
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wwinterj25 posted...

Job Seekers Allowance. Although I suppose technically the government pays for my s*** at this point but those who work don't say "my boss pays for everything I have" do they? So it's pointless nitpicking every minor detail.

Ah thought so

thought it might be JSA or EMA

that helped me out massively when I left uni with no job

60 quid a week or something isn't it
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I think my mom just moved back in with my grandma. Mostly to help alleviate bills for both of them. Also, I know the person I'm now dating moved back in with his grandma to take care of her. Or loves in two places for a while when we first met.
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FatalAccident posted...

60 quid a week or something isn't it

Around 73 now but yeah. It certainly helps but despite what a lot of peoples views are on the unemployed it's certainly not a lifestyle I'd prefer. I can understand somewhat those who claim others benefits and get more than they would working but JSA alone is about a day and half of work so really nothing to write home about nor should it be otherwise nobody would work.
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wwinterj25 posted...

CharlesBronson posted...

what country? in america you can only collect unemployment for 6 weeks before they throw you out in the street and cut off your food stamps

UK. Seems more harsh over in the USA but then again maybe not.

don't encourage people to come over here.
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BlazeAndBlade posted...

don't encourage people to come over here.

Good point. The UK is terrible so avoid it. I think that'll do it.
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Yeah, the houses around here are 700k to 2M... I live in a nice 2000 sq/f private suite in a house with two jacuzzi tubs and stuff. Its way fucking better than the trailer park or crappy apartment I would otherwise be relegated to.
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are you the next iteration of the guy that makes weird poll topics all the time?
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demonfang178 posted...

Alexandra_Trent posted...

When you live under your parents' roof, you must abide by their rules. You also can't show any form of aggression or sarcasm.

That sounds awful. Aggression too depending on how lenient the definition we're using, but no sarcasm is like living without the internet.

Agreed. Haha.....But it really depends on the people one lives with. There are some who are soooooooo attuned to sarcasm they can hear it in their sleep. My dad's like that; unfortunately. So I need to be neutral and chirpy at all times or risk offending him or upsetting him. Especially true as he got older.

EDIT: At times, petty arguments aren't worth it. It only serves to aggravate and strain relationships. As my parents got older (I as well), I learned to be more patient with them. It's not about winning every discussion or proving oneself as all-knowing. It's all about enjoying their company while we can.
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Pretty easily. Its really only the attack on the so called lower classes that pressures you to move out and pay those extra rents/mortgages, utilities, that are financially crippling divided households.

If it wasn't such a negative impact on social life... and if my parents weren't terrible... then, honestly yes. I'd take advantage of free rent for a while. Sadly, I got some of my mothers cheap side in my blood.

I don't think I'll leave anytime soon, if ever. My mom prefers to have me around. What we have talked about doing though is renting like two attached townhomes, or even just two townhomes, so that I'm very close but I still have my own space. That's a bit later down the road though.
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