Board 8 > In terms of romantic relationships, which of these two options do you prefer?

(+) Yeah! (+)

I'm leaning heavily toward option one.
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Flings aren't really honestly even that fun. I mean, they're more fun than a impulse buy video game or a trip to the beach, but they're so boring compared to having an eternal partner who knows all your flaws by heart, gets all your jokes and interests, has experienced first hand a lot of the trauma you've gone through since knowing them, has unconditional love for you, and gives you an excuse to make crepes every sunday morning.
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Long term for sure. Flings are like 8/10 video games, something fun to hold me over until a 10/10 comes along but not something I'd but in my favorite games list. Of course, some people like to play a lot of good games and some people like replaying their favorites. Just a matter of preference!
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how many ways can we compare relationships with romantic partners to relationships with video games?

go board 8
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What's the point of the first one? Do you live for temporary pleasures, or to grow as a person? Marriage to a girl you see eye-to-eye with is fundamental for personal growth.

Also, for life, my ass. Unless you are really rich.
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very little experience with either but the first one sounds less terrifying
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the first sounds incredibly boring (also lol thinking everyone voting option 1 is gonna pull beautiful women their entire life) and lonely. I can understand flings for a bit if you just came out of a rough relationship, but forever? yikes.

second is great as long as you find someone you are truly compatible with.

Being around any other human being as much as a healthy marriage demands is smothering to me.
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Bumpo.
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I have no idea what the hell a "Fling" is.
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LusterSoldier posted...

I have no idea what the hell a "Fling" is.

It's a Pokemon move.
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No Poka, I'm talking about the word "Fling" as it is used in yoblazer's poll.
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LusterSoldier posted...

No Poka, I'm talking about the word "Fling" as it is used in yoblazer's poll.

yoblazer was referring to playing competitive Pokemon with dates for the rest of your life.
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Ring on my finger says number 2
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1st
i get claustrophobic in a relationship after 2ish months every time. thats probably because im young and immature and gay but until that changes i cannot even come close to picturing myself in a marriage

I'm not into women, but in the hypothetical scenario where this used gender neutral language, I'd definitely go with Option B.
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C: Long term open relationship.
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The first one, of course. Getting married to a woman? Thanks but no thanks.
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I wish someone would make me crepes every Sunday morning
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At this point in my life, the second option without a doubt. Pushing 30, if I'm going to start dating someone at this point the long-term goal is marriage.
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whichever one is more interracial than the other
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MysticBrohan posted...

im young and immature and gay

I found my new sig
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Ryokles posted...

I wish someone would make me crepes every Sunday morning

you know my snapchat ; )
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Ryokles posted...

I wish someone would make me crepes every Sunday morning

FFS Ryoko. You are destined to get married and have children. Do it.
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That's not how destiny works.
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It's a figure of speech.
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Shes not just destined.

Shes digi-destined.

No wait thats tabiicat42
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Vlado posted...

It's a figure of speech.

"You're destined to get married and have children" is the dumbest figure of speech I've never heard before, then.
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I suppose it is not for small minds.
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Maybe only for people who talk like they're penning their school shooter manifesto, eh?
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That's like the worst prophecy in a YA book written by a right wing hardliner.
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I have already have close friends that I can share anything with so I'll take option 1 I guess
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@CaptainOfCrush

I summon you back to this topic to respond to the following message I made earlier:

LusterSoldier posted...

I have no idea what the hell a "Fling" is.

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@LusterSoldier have you tried Google.com ?

It might help you find the answer to any questions you have.
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no stop i'd much rather he learn this from yoblazer
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Vlado posted...

Ryokles posted...

I wish someone would make me crepes every Sunday morning

FFS Ryoko. You are destined to get married and have children. Do it.

I'm actually getting married at the end of the year! I just have a significant lack of crepes in my life haha
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Easily option 2.

Life is so much better when you don't have to put on airs.
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subtle tag
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Honestly surprised people are so deep into option 2. Is it because they are married and like it, or because they hope they will find happiness in marriage?

I like option 1. It's wayyyy more honest and casual to me. When you're with a "life partner", how often do you have to fake things just so you can maintain this relationship that you desperately don't want to lose? Pretty much constantly. With a casual relationship, you can be totally true and independent and the other person can choose to come or go as they please. It just makes sense.

That being said, it's not a choice between option 1 and 2 for me right now. It's option 1 or nothing. And nothing is pretty tempting tbh.
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I've been married for almost 2 years and don't need to fake anything!
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Ryokles posted...

I'm actually getting married at the end of the year! I just have a significant lack of crepes in my life haha

Haha, congratulations! I wish you lots of happiness. :)
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foolm0r0n posted...

Honestly surprised people are so deep into option 2. Is it because they are married and like it, or because they hope they will find happiness in marriage?

I'm sure it's that and because having and raising children seems much more doable with option 2, and I think most Board 8ers have indicated that they would like children at least one day.
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My biggest internal battle is how much I want children with also how much I don't like marriage.
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ChaosTonyV4 posted...

Easily option 2.

Life is so much better when you don't have to put on airs.

Uh...um...well now. I don't know if I have a response to this. You might as well have said "it's great when you finally find someone who truly loves you"
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For me option 2 is far less appealing unless you find the right person.

If i had not met my wife(or a woman just like her) I would be option 1 forever.
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Alright Yo are we gonna get that definition for Luster
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I basically hate casual dating. it feels designed to be as inconvenient as possible. maybe I'm just super ugly or weird but there are all these hoops you need to jump through just to get someone to agree to do one thing with you even if you both know that you want to do it.

the best thing about having a long term committed partner is that you always have a person you can invite to stuff whenever you want to go and do something. it's sort of like having a best friend who actually wants to hang out with you all the time. those were my favorite kind of relationships that I've been in. it's possible that this kind of feeling wears off over time and the long term commitment thing would become a pain but I never reached that point in any of my relationships. although I really don't like the idea of marriage either so I just didn't vote.
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@LusterSoldier

That one urbanized dictionary site has a pretty good definition:

deliberately short-term sexual relationship between two people. Longer than a one-night stand, not as serious-sounding as "affair", more frankly physical than the discreet or twee "dalliance", the word has the associations of a much-needed sexual relief from stress, worry or hangups. No deep personal involvement required, just the sex and a bit of attention.
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MariaTaylor posted...

it's sort of like having a best friend who actually wants to hang out with you all the time.

You have best friends that don't want to hang out all the time?
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