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Topic | Having a rough day |
Sariana21 03/17/20 11:01:37 PM #484 | Call someone. IRL. And stop feeling guilty. (Unless you were Patient Zero--was that you?! No? Then stop feeling guilty.) Based on your responses to other posters here, you seem like a good person. Be kinder to yourself. Life sucks big donkey dicks sometimes, but things will get better. --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Having a rough day |
Sariana21 03/16/20 8:15:41 PM #481 | I'm so sorry. I realize I'm hearing only your side of the story, and I hate to badmouth your STBXW, but I really don't like her. :-( From your very first posts I thought she was a bitch. I'm a woman, BTW, and a wife. What she has done to you is terrible. The whole world is literally falling apart. She can't share the house for a weekend? With a man she once chose to marry? It's not you; it's HER. --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Having a rough day |
Sariana21 03/15/20 9:32:12 PM #476 | J03can posted... So this next few weeks is going to be something. My wife and i werent exactly together 24-7, but we spent lots of time together, and enjoyed that time - we could go days hanging out in the basement watching unsolved mysteries and enjoying each others company... Now i am 100% alone. Im not going to go stay with my parents - theyre old. Im not going see my friends because they are with their families and im not going to introduce myself to their environment.This is a really tough time for a lot of people. Reach out via social media--or even the good old telephone--and maintain your connections. The person at the other end may need it just as much as you do. Hang in there. We're all in for a wild ride. (And cats make amazing companions.) --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Having a rough day |
Sariana21 03/14/20 2:08:08 PM #473 | Checking in. To 500! --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Having a rough day |
Sariana21 03/09/20 9:25:06 PM #461 | Hey, congrats on the sale! --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Having a rough day |
Sariana21 03/04/20 8:04:04 PM #448 | J03can posted... Ive spent the better part of the past 4 days with my wife. We get along like we always did. We laughed and had some fun. There is no way well be getting back together. This is so fucked up and weird...Ask the landlord to change the locks. Congrats on the mulitple viewings. I hope the sale goes smoothly. --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Having a rough day |
Sariana21 03/02/20 12:35:35 AM #439 | I haven't checked in this weekend but wanted to post as the weekend comes to an end. Keep hagning in there, and you'll get through this. This topic won't last much longer (this is #439 unless I get ninja'd), but you can start a new one if you need to. --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Having a rough day |
Sariana21 02/27/20 11:04:02 PM #431 | J03can posted... Maybe, but we are going through this amicable divorce process. Both of our lawyers are a part of this. We are splitting everything down the middle so there isnt really anything to gain / lose... but who knows...I'm not saying there is anything WRONG with her being coached, or with her being nice. All I said was that you shouldn't read anything into it. Just do what you need to do for yourself. Keep it amicable, and everyone comes out better for it in the end. That doesn't mean it's not going to hurt like hell in the process, though. Only time will help with that. Sorry. :-( --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Having a rough day |
Sariana21 02/27/20 10:40:26 PM #429 | Dollars to dougnuts your wife was coached by her atttorney(s). Don't read anything into her demeanor at the meeting. I suppose you could be thankful she didn't come in with teeth bared. It's going to be hard. Be kind to yourself. --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Having a rough day |
Sariana21 02/26/20 8:24:15 PM #421 | Hope you're having a better day today. --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Having a rough day |
Sariana21 02/22/20 11:42:24 AM #400 | Mistere Man has good advice. Ignore the rumors; don't feed the rumors (even in your own mind). I hope your cat is doing better, too. --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Having a rough day |
Sariana21 02/20/20 8:08:49 AM #391 | Has your cat been checked for a UTI or diabetes? --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Having a rough day |
Sariana21 02/17/20 12:17:09 AM #374 | Bumping to check in on TC. Are you an emcee or something? What do you mean by "announced an amazing show"? --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Having a rough day |
Sariana21 02/12/20 12:54:09 AM #363 | She chose to leave. She can choose to find her own rent money. Sorry to hear about the sour turn. --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Having a rough day |
Sariana21 02/12/20 12:12:41 AM #360 | Nothing much to add, so just bumping. Hi, TC! --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Having a rough day |
Sariana21 02/08/20 3:58:57 PM #352 | Great update! Welcome home! --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Having a rough day |
Sariana21 02/06/20 9:05:16 AM #346 | Bump. --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Having a rough day |
Sariana21 02/04/20 12:10:05 AM #340 | What happens on the ship stays on the ship. --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Having a rough day |
Sariana21 02/01/20 4:48:25 PM #334 | Bumpity bump. And just in case, hope you're having fun! --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Having a rough day |
Sariana21 01/28/20 8:33:52 PM #303 | How are you today? Have fun on your cruise! --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Having a rough day |
Sariana21 01/25/20 11:37:10 AM #285 | KINDERFELD posted... I asked him to holdout for me. I'll be finished with school this year and have more time to dedicate to him.Whoa, whoa, no! No one is responsible for someone elses alcoholism. Your post has all kinds of red flags. Are you safe? Please do not let anyone convince you that it is your fault he makes bad choices! If this relationship is toxic, you need to leave. If not, then you need to address your own sense of misplaced guilt. @KINDERFELD --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Having a rough day |
Sariana21 01/24/20 10:01:39 PM #271 | I agree with powerman. Feel better soon! --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Having a rough day |
Sariana21 01/19/20 9:04:58 PM #244 | Checking in on TC (aka bumping). --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Having a rough day |
Sariana21 01/16/20 10:55:11 PM #232 | J03can posted... Good advice. I need to do that. I got 7 messages from her while i was having lunch today. It was about her having done something that i needed her to do, but 7 messages? I need to tell her to stop messaging me and to start sending shit via email.You really do need to do this, for legal reasons. Email leaves an electronic trail. --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Having a rough day |
Sariana21 01/13/20 12:34:29 AM #221 | Bumping for TC. Hang in there. --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Having a rough day |
Sariana21 01/11/20 2:26:06 PM #218 | Hold on to family and friends. --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Having a rough day |
Sariana21 01/09/20 9:04:18 PM #215 | We check in on you periodically. I hope things are starting to get better. Its going to be tough; dont give up on yourself. --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Having a rough day |
Sariana21 01/07/20 10:31:43 PM #209 | Mistere Man posted... Sounds really good. Will a normal gas stove work or do you need one of those adapters to hold the wok?It depends. Some newer woks have flat bottoms that will sit on any stove, but I don't know anything about their quality. A traditional round-bottomed wok will need a ring adapter in order to sit on a typical gas stove. These are easy to get, though (if your stove did not come with one). The wok itself may come with one (ours did). --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Having a rough day |
Sariana21 01/06/20 12:07:04 AM #199 | J03can posted... Back to normal work schedule tomorrow. Been having some rough feelings tonight. This really is the worst, like thinking about things well never do again... stuff as mundane as going to visit family and just going to the store..Yeah, that will happen for a while. Then it will happen less often. Then a few weeks from now, or a few months, WHAM, it will hit you again. Not trying to be negative, just warning you. But it will get better. The blow will be less devastating. The sick feelings will go away; the sadness will linger longer. My family had a devastating event last spring. The summer was awful. I lost 15 pounds becaue I couldn't eat. Doing "mundane" things, such as grocery shopping or just driving down the street, reminded me of how things used to be. But over time the feelings have subsided. Our situation hasn't changed; the blow is still there. But my mind and body couldn't stay in that mode forever. I had to move on. And you will too. Getting back to normal at work will help. And it will hurt. That's all normal. You'll get through this. Have fun on your cruise! --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Having a rough day |
Sariana21 01/04/20 7:35:09 PM #188 | Bumping to let TC know were still here for him. --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | I now realized that Hallmark is nothing, but white people |
Sariana21 01/01/20 1:19:33 PM #23 | DevsBro posted... The four plots:Lol at #2 (and so true!). --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Having a rough day |
Sariana21 01/01/20 4:12:56 AM #172 | Heres to hoping 2020 is better. --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | So bored. |
Sariana21 12/31/19 12:58:01 AM #19 | Isnt that a good thing, though? I mean, dont you work in a hospital? --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Whats it like to actually bang a mature older woman |
Sariana21 12/30/19 11:15:08 PM #6 | I dunno, ask my husband. --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Having a rough day |
Sariana21 12/30/19 3:27:11 PM #162 | Keep seeing your therapist, TC. Depression is an ugly beast, and you need to fight it. Dont let this drag you down to a place you cant escape. Its okay to mourn you marriage. But its not okay to withdraw from life. Be sure to take care of yourself. --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Having a rough day |
Sariana21 12/28/19 8:54:54 AM #146 | Bumping to check in on TC. Keep hanging in there. Some days will be really hard. --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Having a rough day |
Sariana21 12/25/19 1:10:41 PM #132 | Merry Christmas, TC. Im glad youre with family. Feel better soon. --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Having a rough day |
Sariana21 12/24/19 12:53:34 PM #129 | Checking in on TC. Keep taking it one day at a time. Or one hour at a time. Take care of yourself. --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Having a rough day |
Sariana21 12/21/19 11:32:14 AM #114 | Dont stop going places just because your wife went there. If the topic comes up, express your sadness that things didnt work out. Dont badmouth your wife (doesnt seem as though you are) or yourself (you gotta work on this one). Things happen; people know that. No one has to be the bad guy here. You need your friends right now, even mutual friends. If you dont expect them to take sides, they will find their own ways to navigate the situation. Dont assume their thoughts on the matter. You will get through this. Let your friends help you through this. --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Rise of Skywalker is bombing hard in China. |
Sariana21 12/20/19 9:18:42 PM #2 | Star Wars never does well in China. --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Having a rough day |
Sariana21 12/20/19 9:16:05 PM #109 | Bumping to check in on TC. Hang in there, dude. Youll get through this. --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Having a rough day |
Sariana21 12/19/19 10:44:57 AM #103 | I know it probably doesnt help, but I still think your wife sounds like a needy baby. What does it mean that you neglected her? Is she not an adult with the ability to build her own life? (Just going off of what youve shared here. Im sure theres more to the story.) I dont expect my husband to cater to me. Heck, sometimes I WISH hed leave me alone more. And I know he has self-esteem issues, and that means I sometimes have to prop him up. If your wife wasnt able to do that, then I agree with PP that youre both better off without each other. She isnt the right one. Im sorry for the pain youre going through right now. It must be really hard. Continue to take care of yourself. --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Trump is the first president in US history to be impeached in 2019 |
Sariana21 12/18/19 11:43:41 PM #5 | Why didnt someone do this years ago? Good thing Trump stepped up to the plate. --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Having a rough day |
Sariana21 12/18/19 11:42:05 PM #99 | One day at a time. --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | What Disney movie had da best song? |
Sariana21 12/18/19 8:47:07 AM #32 | Tangles-At Last I See the Light --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Having a rough day |
Sariana21 12/16/19 7:30:10 PM #89 | At least youre eating. Take things one day at a time. There will be bad days. There will be worse days. But eventually things will get better. Just focus on getting up and about today. One day at a time. --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Harrison Ford cracks me up |
Sariana21 12/15/19 3:26:33 AM #10 | DrunkieBrewster posted... I just know he doesn't take kindly to unwanted passengers boarding his plane."No ticket!" (Last Crusade, though I assume you're referencing AFO.) --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | Kanye West's children are Saint West, Psalm West, North West, Chicago West |
Sariana21 12/14/19 10:26:21 PM #45 | Kantye Kanye or Kantye? BTW, whyd you put the girls last? Their birth order is North, Saint, Chicago, Psalm. --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
Topic | I don't believe in Kwanzaa. |
Sariana21 12/14/19 10:24:06 PM #18 | Its okay; Kwanzaa still believes in you. --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08); Pronouns: she/her/hers |
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