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Mistere Man posted...

How much are you asking for the house? If you said already and I forgot I am sorry.

We paid 295000 in 2013, we are asking 475000 now and are expecting a bidding war and will probably get 550000.

Theres 20 showings booked over the next few days now

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I decided to go to my parents house tonight so i dont have to keep coming and going all weekend. Theres showings booked pretty much all day tomorrow

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20 people through todays open house on top of 5 showings today

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J03can posted...

20 people through todays open house on top of 5 showings today

Good luck, bro!

That money could definitely give you a fresh new start.

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We are going through offers today, we have 3 so far, hopefully more before 7pm when we meet with the realtor to discuss.

Im worried the offers will be too low.

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House sold for 550,000

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thats alot of money

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Yes thank god with the freefall of the economy i thought it would be bad timing.

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Hey, congrats on the sale!

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Thanks!

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Nice! That is a fast sale! Hopefully it goes through as my brother had one fall through, but thankfully they had a back up buyer that didnt.

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It should go through no problem. They have financing and there are no conditons on the sale.

Its weird because days arent that rough anymore. That might change with ups and downs and all that but im fine with this and am excited for the summer - regardless if i can go out and date or if i have to stay home in some sort of quarentine

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J03can posted...

It should go through no problem. They have financing and there are no conditons on the sale.

Its weird because days arent that rough anymore. That might change with ups and downs and all that but im fine with this and am excited for the summer - regardless if i can go out and date or if i have to stay home in some sort of quarentine

Great to hear!

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J03can posted...

days arent that rough anymore.

That is indeed great to hear, congrats on the fast house sale.

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powerman1426 posted...

That is indeed great to hear, congrats on the fast house sale.

Thanks! We were just lucky with how much our neighborhood became popular since we moved here. Also, with all the Corona concerns, i think if we waited a week, we'd have been fucked. Lots of things worked in our favor. Selfishly, i hope the housing market cools in the next year so i can buy again

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Hey. I haven't been keeping up with this but it sounds like a good thing happened for you. That is good.

How's everything else going?

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Dyinglegacy posted...

Hey. I haven't been keeping up with this but it sounds like a good thing happened for you. That is good.

How's everything else going?

Better. Days arent rough anymore, im good with all of this. Looking forward to moving into my new place next month and am very looking forward to starting dating soon after that.

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I hosted a wrestling show tonight. Quite a few people showed up. Im going to stay home for the next week or so though

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Sorry man, my wife of 7 years left with our two kids for her parents house in December of 2018 and then put a temporary restraining order on me and served me divorce papers, kicking me out of our house three days after Christmas (which I spent alone). She accused me of stealing drugs from my job and being a threat to her and the kids. I was forced to take drug tests and get a psych eval despite never having hit her or the kids, never having the cops called for anything and only testing positive for marijuana on a hair follicle test. She was mad I told her I didn't want to be a Christian and I didn't know how we were going to make it.

I am still fighting to see the kids, which is the worst part, but the pain, abandonment and embarrassment of it all really fucked me up. Its getting better, I am in a stable relationship now and I didn't lose my mind, but it blows my mind someone I was married to and had kids with could do something like this to me. It will get better for you, sometimes these things just don't work out like we thought they would and we end up better off.

Checking in.

To 500!

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Uglybass69 posted...

Sorry man, my wife of 7 years left with our two kids for her parents house in December of 2018 and then put a temporary restraining order on me and served me divorce papers, kicking me out of our house three days after Christmas (which I spent alone). She accused me of stealing drugs from my job and being a threat to her and the kids. I was forced to take drug tests and get a psych eval despite never having hit her or the kids, never having the cops called for anything and only testing positive for marijuana on a hair follicle test. She was mad I told her I didn't want to be a Christian and I didn't know how we were going to make it.

I am still fighting to see the kids, which is the worst part, but the pain, abandonment and embarrassment of it all really fucked me up. Its getting better, I am in a stable relationship now and I didn't lose my mind, but it blows my mind someone I was married to and had kids with could do something like this to me. It will get better for you, sometimes these things just don't work out like we thought they would and we end up better off.

Thanks man. Us not having kids and similar income will make this a pretty clean break. I dont see myself getting into a relationship this serious again... and i know everyone says that, but really, ill date then get to a point and cut it off...

Sariana21 posted...

Checking in.

To 500!

Getting there!

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So this next few weeks is going to be something. My wife and i werent exactly together 24-7, but we spent lots of time together, and enjoyed that time - we could go days hanging out in the basement watching unsolved mysteries and enjoying each others company... Now i am 100% alone. Im not going to go stay with my parents - theyre old. Im not going see my friends because they are with their families and im not going to introduce myself to their environment.
So for the forseeable future, its going to be just me and the cats... until my wife comes to move her stuff out to her new place at the beginning of april.

Im just afraid that im going to come out of this damaged...

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J03can posted...

So this next few weeks is going to be something. My wife and i werent exactly together 24-7, but we spent lots of time together, and enjoyed that time - we could go days hanging out in the basement watching unsolved mysteries and enjoying each others company... Now i am 100% alone. Im not going to go stay with my parents - theyre old. Im not going see my friends because they are with their families and im not going to introduce myself to their environment.
So for the forseeable future, its going to be just me and the cats... until my wife comes to move her stuff out to her new place at the beginning of april.

Im just afraid that im going to come out of this damaged...

This is a really tough time for a lot of people. Reach out via social media--or even the good old telephone--and maintain your connections. The person at the other end may need it just as much as you do.

Hang in there. We're all in for a wild ride.

(And cats make amazing companions.)

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Sariana21 posted...

This is a really tough time for a lot of people. Reach out via social media--or even the good old telephone--and maintain your connections. The person at the other end may need it just as much as you do.

Hang in there. We're all in for a wild ride.

(And cats make amazing companions.)

Thanks friend, as ive learned from this (and have known for what seemed to be forever) CE is always entertaining and thankfully can be supportive.

Animal Crossing and Doom Eternal will eat up some time. Also i have a couple books my buddy loaned me. Just not having someone around is shitty. Also i miss comfort hugs in times of stress.

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Hi guys. So im a beta cuck fucking loser.
Weve been alternating weekends staying at the house and this weekend is hers. Given that currently the entire planet is shut down, i thought that i could stay in my home. We had a meeting at the lawyers this morning and it came up and i said she is more than welcome to be at the house, but, i want to stay here given the circumstances of the fucking world.
She agrees.
Later she messages me asking if i can get a hotel or Airbnb. I say what the fuck? She says it was shitty of me to spring that on her in front of the lawyers. I say whatever it came up.
Of course at this time being a fucking loser who cant keep my emotions in check call her out for being so cold. She says im over reacting. I say what the fuck?
She then ices me out, responds "ok" to everything, then i agree to get other accommodations this weekend.
I have zero respect for myself at this moment. I am the ultimate beta male and honestly dont know how i will live with myself going forward. I have zero dignity, want to die, and the world is falling apart anyways so why the fuck not so it.
So yeah, rough day.

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No you are just scared an dont want to be alone it is understandable. Still she is not the best fall back as she doesnt care as much about you as you want her to deep down which is why you keep relapsing so much.

It is Understandable, but again you have to learn to snap yourself out of it as best you can. Like in the future every time this happens punch yourself in the balls ok maybe not that extreme a reaction but you have to find a way to remind yourself she=pain she isnt going to help only hurt you. I am not saying omg she is a threat just you need to learn she isnt an emotional support figure in your life anymore.

Deep Down you want that security you had before especially now in this scary time you want someone to support you and be there to tell you I am here for you everything is going to be ok. Bad news is you cant get that old security back, but you can work to find new security for the future. Heck if you have to I believe you can get strong enough to be your own security. Were you can say to yourself I know the world is a scary lonely place, butI am not afraid to face those terrors on my own and can overcome anything this crap show called life can throw at you.

Always remember you arent alone, and dont have to be alone as you have not only many friends here, but you can also make new connections in life that can be there for you aswell.


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I appreciate it. And you're right. And i dont know if i came off right in the post above but i dont care about "her". Im freaked out about this virus and dont want to spend time out of the house in an unknown place not knowing if theres germs everywhere. Im extremely mad at myself for giving up my dignity and agreeing to leave this weekend. Right now i hate her for that. I dont want her support, but i thought as a human being she wasnt going to throw me out into the gutter to catch a fucking virus that is tearing apart the planet. I couldnt be any more done with her emotionally at this point.

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I'm so sorry. I realize I'm hearing only your side of the story, and I hate to badmouth your STBXW, but I really don't like her. :-( From your very first posts I thought she was a bitch.

I'm a woman, BTW, and a wife. What she has done to you is terrible. The whole world is literally falling apart. She can't share the house for a weekend? With a man she once chose to marry?

It's not you; it's HER.

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Sariana21 posted...

I'm so sorry. I realize I'm hearing only your side of the story, and I hate to badmouth your STBXW, but I really don't like her. :-( From your very first posts I thought she was a bitch.

I'm a woman, BTW, and a wife. What she has done to you is terrible. The whole world is literally falling apart. She can't share the house for a weekend? With a man she once chose to marry?

It's not you; it's HER.

I appreciate that. But yeah its just my side youve been hearing. We were miserable for a while - it had happened in the past - i said some ugly things when wed fight - no excuses there.
But shes putting the whole thing on me. And yeah this whole making me leave this weekend is bullshit... i wouldnt do that to her if our roles were reversed. Im glad this is over and am looking forward to moving on.

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Rough day my dudes. Im stuck in my head. Dignity and confidence is in the toilet. Im not leaving the house this weekend. I feel guilty about it.
In a dark place. And its only day 3 of isolation.

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Call someone. IRL. And stop feeling guilty. (Unless you were Patient Zero--was that you?! No? Then stop feeling guilty.)

Based on your responses to other posters here, you seem like a good person. Be kinder to yourself. Life sucks big donkey dicks sometimes, but things will get better.

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Ive talked to a couple people today and im kind of awful. I dont listen to reason and pop off about my insecurities. I think i just need to read and think and figure myself out. I dont actually, rationally believe the things im saying about myself, but i keep irrationally saying them. All stuff for the therapist really...

I appreciate the support. Ill get through it.

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Here maybe you can find some funny to lift your spirits a bit.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NSUjXhWuGSc

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Haha
Youre eating other peoples lunches!?!

Im better today, but better alone. I was shitty when i talked to my mom. It really bums me out that i do that... another thing to tackle with my therapist i guess.

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After massive guilt tripping and being reminded that "im not the victim here", ive booked a hotel for tomorrow and saturday nights.

Im going to take my switch and ps4 and just game in the hotel room.

Im very distraught.

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J03can posted...

After massive guilt tripping and being reminded that "im not the victim here", ive booked a hotel for tomorrow and saturday nights.

What does that mean? Is your wife implying that she is a victim?

Personally, I wouldnt frame the situation as either of you being victims, but she is also literally the person who initiated the divorce. I would remind her of that every time she chooses to play the blame game.

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Lorenzo_2003 posted...

What does that mean? Is your wife implying that she is a victim?

Personally, I wouldnt frame the situation as either of you being victims, but she is also literally the person who initiated the divorce. I would remind her of that every time she chooses to play the blame game.

Shes implying that since she hasnt been in the house for 4 months, that she is in fact the victim. Youre right, but its not worth it. I just want to finalize this seperation agreement and get my half of the house money and be done with it. Im so done with this.
Im in a hotel tonight and tomorrow and am actually happy to be here

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J03can posted...

I just want to finalize this seperation agreement and get my half of the house money and be done with it. Im so done with this.
Im in a hotel tonight and tomorrow and am actually happy to be here

Good for you, bro. Better to keep your sanity by just moving on with your life. I hope the hotel treats you well.

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Lorenzo_2003 posted...

Good for you, bro. Better to keep your sanity by just moving on with your life. I hope the hotel treats you well.

Thanks man, it is treating me good. Im totally not feeling stressed. My realtor who is helping me get my apartment had an update that the current tennant is saying they are leaving at the end of the month forsure, so i should be good there.
I played animal crossing all day and played undertale through to the end tonight (i played about 3 hours last night). Wow, i needed that kind of game right now - it was on my backlog for so long.

I was off of social media all day and it was great.

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J03can posted...

Thanks man, it is treating me good. Im totally not feeling stressed. My realtor who is helping me get my apartment had an update that the current tennant is saying they are leaving at the end of the month forsure, so i should be good there.
I played animal crossing all day and played undertale through to the end tonight (i played about 3 hours last night). Wow, i needed that kind of game right now - it was on my backlog for so long.

I was off of social media all day and it was great.

Sounds good. To be honest, Im kinda jealous of the hotel stay, Lol.

Ive got to get Animal Crossing. Im not the only one in the family who wants to play it, which is uncommon. But Ive got a backlog like you, so maybe I should get through those first before buying a new title.

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Lorenzo_2003 posted...

Sounds good. To be honest, Im kinda jealous of the hotel stay, Lol.

Ive got to get Animal Crossing. Im not the only one in the family who wants to play it, which is uncommon. But Ive got a backlog like you, so maybe I should get through those first before buying a new title.

It was a good stay, back home now and back to feeling bummed out. Today is my wifes birthday so i see a lot of pictures of her from our mutual friends wishing her a bappy birthday... sucks... fuck i miss her sometimes... but i know this is for the best, because i absolutely dont miss her most of the time.

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Topic is close to closing just remember we are here for you if you need us.


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Mistere Man posted...

Topic is close to closing just remember we are here for you if you need us.

<3 i didnt see how close it was.
Ill probably start a new one. Im going to spend some quarentine time tomorrow archiving this topic for myself.

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Brandy

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You're a fine girl

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What a good wife you would be

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Hey
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