Poll of the Day > I'm really envious of people who have what I want

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I'm better than them and they know it.

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No, I just kill them and take it.
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Did someone just watch a contrapoints video

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I'll admit. i do get depressed sometimes knowing i dont have what others do.

Used to, not so much anymore tbh

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The one problem in America that Americans will not admit is that we have a "Keeping Up With The Joneses" mentality in that we all or at least most of us think we deserve a nice home, car, and lots of money and if we fail to achieve that, we think we have failed.

In a country that has produced so many millionaires and billionaires, it's only natural that people want to achieve success on that level but the cold reality is only a handful of people will ever reach that plateau.

Personally, I have never been a jealous person or a person who is envious of what others have so that sort of thing doesn't bother me as much as it does some people.

It's like seeing a guy with a hot girl and you think how can I get a hot girl. Just get the girl that makes you happy!

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BUMPED2002 posted... .

It's like seeing a guy with a hot girl and you think how can I get a hot girl. Just get the girl that makes you happy!

His hot girl could make me happy. :3


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I am not. The feelings of envy and jealousy do not exist in me. Envying or getting jealous is just blaming your mistakes and misfortunes on innocent people.

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Not unless it's one of a kind or something, although even then I'd have to really want it. Otherwise I see things as being aspirational. Most things in life are attainable if you're willing to work hard for them, and are willing to be a little creative.

Most people nowadays are soft, which is partly a fault of the entire system discouraging people from ever doing for themselves.

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Usually not material things. I am jealous of people who have secure and stable lives, but I don't end up bitterly wishing harm on them for it, mostly because I don't see comfort and stability as a zero sum game, and it obviously has nothing to do with individual actors for the most part on that level usually. There's a disconnect, to a point, between people's material objects which I may desire and the individual in question, so... *shrug*

I'm not envious of the wealthy; my issues with the wealthy have nothing to do with envy save that I resent that I resent how much damage they do with their financial practices, but that's not the same thing.

That said, I AM envious of neurotypical people and pretty much always have been, to the point where I struggled as a child to suppress bitter and/or vengeful impulses on people who gave me shit for my obvious divergence from the norm. It still comes up on rare occasion in the form of my older siblings whining about how I should "just be normal." If there had been any hope of that (and there wasn't), it was ruined with the non-stop shit they gave me as a child. You don't get to spend years thoroughly grinding a person's ego into the dust and then bitch and moan about how inconvenient it is that they aren't well-adjusted.

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I sometimes think "ohh that would be cool to have" but don't really get envious

There are many, many things in life that I'll never have or experience and that's fine

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Muscles posted...

There are many, many things in life that I'll never have or experience

Not with that attitude.

http://youtu.be/b6E682C7Jj4?t=98
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I have everything I want

I hope for a day where everyone gets to have a life as emotionally rich and joyful as mine has been so far

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i need a good job and 1.5 mil in retirement by the time im 60 or il be toast.

I have a buddy around my age 35 and he already has over 250k saved in his 401k/IRAs. hes well on his way to financial freedom

This topic made me realize why potd trolls seem to hate me so much. Should have been obvious I guess

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i pay the iron price for my happiness

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Not envious. I still have good friends and family, able to live a comfortable life, and working a job that I still enjoy despite being occasionally stressed about some projects.

There is that constant concern of whether or not I will be able to retire comfortably in my 60s without worrying about finances for the next 10-20 years after. I am been shifting more funds toward my 40k, mutual funds, IRA, etc. and can only hope in the next 30 years, I put in enough.

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Clench281 posted...

This topic made me realize why potd trolls seem to hate me so much. Should have been obvious I guess

Because you have a tendency to be an insufferable c***? Yeah, that's always been pretty obvious.
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ParanoidObsessive posted...

Because you have a tendency to be an insufferable c***? Yeah, that's always been pretty obvious.

you think that about MOST people as far as I can tell

clench is one of the better posters on this board

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Mead posted...

you think that about MOST people as far as I can tell

Nah. Insufferable really only applies to about three people here. Maybe four.

But I've mostly though that about Clench since 2004.

Like Jen, he has days where he's not so bad. And then he has days when he's even worse.
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FatalAccident posted...

Used to, not so much anymore tbh

Same. I used to get kinda envious about other people that seemed to have everything go right for them in life but as I've gotten older I've learned that you should be satisfied with what you got and realize that there are many things that are simply out of your control. But I guess it also helps that things are better for me now than they used to be. It's just not worth it to be envious of others though. Things aren't always as great as they may seem for others as well

ParanoidObsessive posted...

Because you have a tendency to be an insufferable c***? Yeah, that's always been pretty obvious.

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I don't think badly about people who have something I don't, I self-deprecate myself for not having it to begin with.


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How can you be content with anything if you spend all your time comparing yourself with others?

Stop taking count of what you don't have and start taking count of what you do have.

I can guarantee it is a whole lot more than what a lot of people in this world have access to.

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tc, what kind of stuff are you jealous of that other people have that you don't?

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teddy241 posted...

i need a good job and 1.5 mil in retirement by the time im 60 or il be toast.

InfestedAdam posted...

There is that constant concern of whether or not I will be able to retire comfortably in my 60s without worrying about finances for the next 10-20 years after. I am been shifting more funds toward my 40k, mutual funds, IRA, etc. and can only hope in the next 30 years, I put in enough.

I don't know why everybody is so obsessed with retiring at 60. If you're looking forward to retirement, it's probably time to find a different career.

ParanoidObsessive posted...

Because you have a tendency to be an [--]? Yeah, that's always been pretty obvious.

Almost certain the guy is just working a gimmick either way.

ParanoidObsessive posted...

But I've mostly though that about Clench since 2004.

I don't know why you haven't blocked him. I'm embarrassed it took me so long to block him.

ParanoidObsessive posted...

Like Jen, he has days where he's not so bad. And then he has days when he's even worse.

tbh, all of her topics and posts are just awful, even she's not being toxic or abusive. I once went to remove her from my ignore list and she cursed me out for it. I finally upgraded her to a block. Honestly, I've liked PotD a lot more since I started using my block list more last month.


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Zeus got kicked out of a CVS for calling the people working at the pharmacy trolls

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Zeus posted...

I finally upgraded her to a block

She did that to me herself because Alexa Bliss isn't a porn star.

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Zeus posted...

I don't know why everybody is so obsessed with retiring at 60. If you're looking forward to retirement, it's probably time to find a different career.

Theres no guarantee your mind or body will be capable to perform at a high enough level in whatever field you're in. you dont wanna struggling at 60 trying to make it

Zeus posted...

I don't know why everybody is so obsessed with retiring at 60. If you're looking forward to retirement, it's probably time to find a different career.

I work as an engineer. I would imagine I would keep working until I mentally cannot handle it anymore. I just mentioned 60s as that is the range when retirement benefits can be withdrawn without penalty.

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Llamachama posted...

How can you be content with anything if you spend all your time comparing yourself with others?

Stop taking count of what you don't have and start taking count of what you do have.

I can guarantee it is a whole lot more than what a lot of people in this world have access to.

Whenever I need to be humbled I watch informative videos about space and shit. Reminds me how small we are...

And it's a wonderful quality to be grateful for what you have, but it's also okay to have aspirations to make things even better. There's nothing wrong with having dreams. It's when people lose sight of what's really important that creates problems.

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wwinterj25 posted...

She did that to me herself because Alexa Bliss isn't a porn star.

Yeah, I remember you mentioning that story. Wtf?

teddy241 posted...

Theres no guarantee your mind or body will be capable to perform at a high enough level in whatever field you're in. you dont wanna struggling at 60 trying to make it

Considering that the average life expectancy is around 80 now, 60 is still relatively young. Unless you're involved in something overly physical that does long-term damage to your body, I should think you'd still be in good shape. And honestly, most of the deterioration tends to happen *after* people retire. That's one reason why most high-performers try to delay retirement as much as possible.

I can understand wanting the financial security so if you can't work anymore you'd be covered, but that's a largely separate issue.

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A little and then I just am grateful I live in a developed country and can use the internet

Zeus posted...

Yeah, I remember you mentioning that story. Wtf?

It was a fun topic.

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I mean kind of, but there's a tradeoff for everything in life. If I was envious of someone's relationship then if I get that relationship I'd have to sacrifice my chill otaku (yeah I'm just gonna use that word unironically because it fits) lifestyle because I'd have to work EXTRA hard and invest a lot of boring and suffering time to 'be worthy' of that girlfriend and put on a fake personality to be interesting to them potentially and no doubt you'll have to deal with their day to day *****ing. Same thing with getting a better job and more money. You gotta think about the time invested. Sure there are some people who get free rides on stuff and EZmode in life but those people have got to be few and far between. There's usually a breaking point on where the effort just isn't worth the time invested for you personally. That doesn't mean to just not try at all, but to know where the ideal medium is that's worth it for your life. I mean they do say happiness peaks off with money at X amount of wealth too.

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Nope. I have everything I want.

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https://youtu.be/Q1VDxMe54Og

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Zedonra posted...

because I'd have to work EXTRA hard and invest a lot of boring and suffering time to 'be worthy' of that girlfriend and put on a fake personality to be interesting to them potentially and no doubt you'll have to deal with their day to day *****ing.

...or you could just try to find a chick who shares your interests, or... well, you're basically trying to make excuses for things not working out so you don't have to try. That's sad, mostly.

Zedonra posted...

Same thing with getting a better job and more money. You gotta think about the time invested. Sure there are some people who get free rides on stuff and EZmode in life but those people have got to be few and far between. There's usually a breaking point on where the effort just isn't worth the time invested for you personally. That doesn't mean to just not try at all, but to know where the ideal medium is that's worth it for your life. I mean they do say happiness peaks off with money at X amount of wealth too.

That's why it helps to do things that interest you.

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SunWuKung420 posted...

Nope. I have everything I want.

Save for ruffles.

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UT1999 posted...

tc, what kind of stuff are you jealous of that other people have that you don't?

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UT1999 posted...

tc, what kind of stuff are you jealous of that other people have that you don't?

Let me see:

1. Folk who have a job
2. Folk who have a relationship
3. Folk who have kids

I said I envy folk with this I'm not jealous.

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Just because you dont have those things yet, doesnt mean you wont have them ever

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Mead posted...

Just because you dont have those things yet, doesnt mean you wont have them ever

I live in hope however I still feel envy towards folk who have what I want when I deserve better.

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wwinterj25 posted...

I live in hope however I still feel envy towards folk who have what I want when I deserve better.

Im not sure that deserve ever has much to do with the kind of life people have, but feeling envy is natural, thats just being human. Chances are a lot of the people youre envious of are miserable or are envious of other people themselves

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I only care about my problems.

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wwinterj25 posted...

I said I envy folk with this I'm not jealous.

From a semantic standpoint, the two words seem almost alike. The difference is less about meaning than context in most cases >_>

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/envy#note-1

Jealousy vs. Envy
Depending on who you ask, jealousy and envy are either exact synonyms, totally different words, or near-synonyms with some degree of semantic overlap and some differences. It is difficult to make the case, based on the evidence of usage that we have, for either of the first two possibilities. Both jealousy and envy are often used to indicate that a person is covetous of something that someone else has, but jealousy carries the particular sense of zealous vigilance and tends to be applied more exclusively to feelings of protectiveness regarding ones own advantages or attachments. In the domain of romance, it is more commonly found than envy. If you were to say your salt-shaker collection fills me with jealousy, most people would take it to mean much the same thing as your salt-shaker collection fills me with envy. But if someone made a flirtatious comment to your partner, you would likely say that it caused you jealousy, not envy.

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Zeus posted...

From a semantic standpoint, the two words seem almost alike. The difference is less about meaning than context in most cases >_>

Zeus has enlightened me like a wet fart in a church.

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