Poll of the Day > Honest, serious question. What's wrong with having a crush on a teacher?

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Like seriously. Why do people get all grossed out when you say a you find a certain teacher attractive. I just never understood it. Sure it's taboo but sometimes they can be cute and sweet. You just gotta say the troof.
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There is nothing wrong with feeling things.
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Having a crush is totally fine.
Acting on it is bad.
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-Komaiko54- posted...

bitches

@Cacciato

There's nothing wrong with it-- in fact I think most people have had a crush on a teacher at some point in their lives. However if you're not of age and the teacher acts on it, then it becomes somewhat predatory in nature, potentially.
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I had a crush on two of my teachers. They both wore short skirts and stockings. Come on now.
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Nothing, I had a crush on my Social Studies teacher in high school (I mean she was a late 20's Italian woman, what red blooded straight man wouldn't?), just don't be a creep about it like my one friend who was obsessing over our Biology teacher at the same time (she was a 5 at best...)
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-Komaiko54- posted...

Honest, serious question. What's wrong with having a crush on a teacher?

Nothing. The problem is a teacher taking advantage of that crush.
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My first serious, major crush was on a teacher. Nothing wrong with having a crush -- let's face it, it makes sure you attend the classes, right? -- but the line between fantasy and reality is a yellow-and-black striped tape stencilled with POLICE LINE DO NOT CROSS. Acting upon it could ruin your teacher's career.

has anyone ever not had a teacher that they wanted to nail lol

All my teachers were old and not good looking. I did have some nice looking student teachers though.
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Wait a minute. Why would anyone consider this a taboo? Having a crush/being sexually attracted to people is natural.
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Nothing wrong with it, as long as you're not a creep about it.
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Chewster posted...

-Komaiko54- posted...

bitches

@Cacciato

He wonders why we call him cringey. Then hell denunciation ever even saying it
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I didn't. I knew other girls who had crushes on teachers and I was like, " Mr. Bell? He is so old!" Looking back some were just a few years older than us. One of my friends actually married one of our college professors and she told me "I wish you'd call my husband by his name instead of Mr. Mori," but I find it very difficult to do.
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Nothing wrong with a crush on your high school teacher.

Something is very wrong with a crush on your high school student.

twice. well one was a teacher's aide. in jr high. she might have still been in college and getting credit working with us. she was REALLY hot

and in high school my US History teacher was still in her 20's and had just started teaching within a couple years of me having her class. and I remember her being very cute. I paid alot of attention in her class.

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kind9 posted...

Wait a minute. Why would anyone consider this a taboo? Having a crush/being sexually attracted to people is natural.

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There is absolutely nothing wrong with it, and nothing wrong with teacher student relationships.

MirMiros posted...

There is absolutely nothing wrong with it, and nothing wrong with teacher student relationships.

First part yes. Second part, hail no (especially when the teacher is a dude, and the girl is under risk of getting preggyfied).
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-Komaiko54- posted...

Did you have a crush on your teacher?

Only two of them that I recall. My forum teacher at the age of around 11. She looked like a barbie doll and I bought her a newt once at her request. The other was my science teacher at the age of 14-16. She was 22- 24 during that time and her younger brother was actually in my younger sisters year at school. Still most guys at least found her attractive. She was slim, blonde hair, glasses and would laugh the most sexy laugh. Definitely a cock tease.
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MirMiros posted...

nothing wrong with teacher student relationships.

Aaaannnnnndddd time to make an appropriate tag for this dude
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Cacciato posted...

MirMiros posted...

nothing wrong with teacher student relationships.

Aaaannnnnndddd time to make an appropriate tag for this dude

But which way are you going to tag him? The teacher side or the student side?
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It never escalated to misconduct, but I had relationships with a couple of my teachers that I'd describe as "unproffesional".
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shipwreckers posted...

MirMiros posted...

There is absolutely nothing wrong with it, and nothing wrong with teacher student relationships.

First part yes. Second part, hail no (especially when the teacher is a dude, and the girl is under risk of getting preggyfied).

But it would be perfectly fine if it was a female teacher and a male student? Double standard much?

MirMiros posted...

shipwreckers posted...

MirMiros posted...

There is absolutely nothing wrong with it, and nothing wrong with teacher student relationships.

First part yes. Second part, hail no (especially when the teacher is a dude, and the girl is under risk of getting preggyfied).

But it would be perfectly fine if it was a female teacher and a male student? Double standard much?

I don't want to speak for him, so shipwreckers can feel free to correct me if I am wrong, but FUCK NO!!!

What he is saying is that if a male teacher impregnates a female student that that is worse, but a female teacher seducing a male student is bad as well. However, the blame would solely fall on the teacher in both cases. They are the adults, no matter how much a student "wants it" you should still as the adult say "no".

Don't think that because we say "I wish teachers like that existed when I was in school" we are somehow excusing the teacher from being a child rapist.
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Kungfu Kenobi posted...

It never escalated to misconduct, but I had relationships with a couple of my teachers that I'd describe as "unproffesional".

With that spelling, I doubt it was ever professional.
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Dikitain posted...

MirMiros posted...

shipwreckers posted...

MirMiros posted...

There is absolutely nothing wrong with it, and nothing wrong with teacher student relationships.

First part yes. Second part, hail no (especially when the teacher is a dude, and the girl is under risk of getting preggyfied).

But it would be perfectly fine if it was a female teacher and a male student? Double standard much?

I don't want to speak for him, so shipwreckers can feel free to correct me if I am wrong, but FUCK NO!!!

What he is saying is that if a male teacher impregnates a female student that that is worse, but a female teacher seducing a male student is bad as well. However, the blame would solely fall on the teacher in both cases. They are the adults, no matter how much a student "wants it" you should still as the adult say "no".

Don't think that because we say "I wish teachers like that existed when I was in school" we are somehow excusing the teacher from being a child rapist.

One can't be worse than the other, they both have to be equally bad or it is a double standard.

The problem with student-teacher relationships isn't the legal age thing really. Some students, like college students, are of legal age. The problem is that it is a boss-subordinate relationship. You should never have a relationship with someone who is an authority figure over you or vice versa. It can easily become an abuse of power. It can lead to favoritism and all those associated problems. It's the same reason why an employee should never have a relationship with a boss. Boss-subordinate relationships are just a very bad idea.

rogerskg1979 posted...

relationship with someone who is an authority figure over you

Hot
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Wii3Kings posted...

All my teachers were old and not good looking. I did have some nice looking student teachers though.

i had a science teacher in her 20's when i was a freshman
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MirMiros posted...

Dikitain posted...

MirMiros posted...

shipwreckers posted...

MirMiros posted...

There is absolutely nothing wrong with it, and nothing wrong with teacher student relationships.

First part yes. Second part, hail no (especially when the teacher is a dude, and the girl is under risk of getting preggyfied).

But it would be perfectly fine if it was a female teacher and a male student? Double standard much?

I don't want to speak for him, so shipwreckers can feel free to correct me if I am wrong, but FUCK NO!!!

What he is saying is that if a male teacher impregnates a female student that that is worse, but a female teacher seducing a male student is bad as well. However, the blame would solely fall on the teacher in both cases. They are the adults, no matter how much a student "wants it" you should still as the adult say "no".

Don't think that because we say "I wish teachers like that existed when I was in school" we are somehow excusing the teacher from being a child rapist.

One can't be worse than the other, they both have to be equally bad or it is a double standard.

That is dumb (and sexist) beyond belief. Impregnating an underage kid is in no way "equally as bad" as just having sex with one, but both are deplorable. Quit excusing your child rape fantasies.
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OK I guess I should clarify that I used to have a serious crush on a teacher and I was pretty open about it. I'm over her now but people made fun of me for it. They're saying colleges are gonna track my social media and they are gonna look at me freakin sideways and reject me. I don't think that's true but now I have this new hot gilf teacher and Idk what to do. She recorded a video of me reciting Beowulf in Old English. I felt a connection
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Dikitain posted...

MirMiros posted...

Dikitain posted...

MirMiros posted...

shipwreckers posted...

MirMiros posted...

There is absolutely nothing wrong with it, and nothing wrong with teacher student relationships.

First part yes. Second part, hail no (especially when the teacher is a dude, and the girl is under risk of getting preggyfied).

But it would be perfectly fine if it was a female teacher and a male student? Double standard much?

I don't want to speak for him, so shipwreckers can feel free to correct me if I am wrong, but FUCK NO!!!

What he is saying is that if a male teacher impregnates a female student that that is worse, but a female teacher seducing a male student is bad as well. However, the blame would solely fall on the teacher in both cases. They are the adults, no matter how much a student "wants it" you should still as the adult say "no".

Don't think that because we say "I wish teachers like that existed when I was in school" we are somehow excusing the teacher from being a child rapist.

One can't be worse than the other, they both have to be equally bad or it is a double standard.

That is dumb (and sexist) beyond belief. Impregnating an underage kid is in no way "equally as bad" as just having sex with one, but both are deplorable. Quit excusing your child rape fantasies.

Its actually the opposite that is dumb and sexist. You're saying male victims of rape don't matter as much.

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MirMiros posted...

Dikitain posted...

MirMiros posted...

Dikitain posted...

MirMiros posted...

shipwreckers posted...

MirMiros posted...

There is absolutely nothing wrong with it, and nothing wrong with teacher student relationships.

First part yes. Second part, hail no (especially when the teacher is a dude, and the girl is under risk of getting preggyfied).

But it would be perfectly fine if it was a female teacher and a male student? Double standard much?

I don't want to speak for him, so shipwreckers can feel free to correct me if I am wrong, but FUCK NO!!!

What he is saying is that if a male teacher impregnates a female student that that is worse, but a female teacher seducing a male student is bad as well. However, the blame would solely fall on the teacher in both cases. They are the adults, no matter how much a student "wants it" you should still as the adult say "no".

Don't think that because we say "I wish teachers like that existed when I was in school" we are somehow excusing the teacher from being a child rapist.

One can't be worse than the other, they both have to be equally bad or it is a double standard.

That is dumb (and sexist) beyond belief. Impregnating an underage kid is in no way "equally as bad" as just having sex with one, but both are deplorable. Quit excusing your child rape fantasies.

Its actually the opposite that is dumb and sexist. Your saying male victims of rape don't matter as much.

No I am not, I am saying that both are victims and matter, but to deny that childbirth or abortion (which believe it or not is traumatizing for the person going through it) is somehow a non-issue is what you are saying. It is like saying that a person who lost their spouse in a car accident is equal to a person who lost their spouse and child. It just is not true, and nothing you say is going to make it true. Doesn't mean both aren't going to go through some tough shit though.
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MirMiros posted...

It is equal, numbers don't mean anything.

Uhh, no it absolutely does. Denying that is just moronic.

Your'e telling the person who "only" lost their spouse that they aren't allowed to feel as much pain as the other.

Have you never heard of "at least you still have your child"? Of course that person is not allowed to feel as much pain, that is not a "double standard", that is common fucking sense!
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I don't see the problem with someone having a crush on a teacher - hell, I couldn't care less if a student and a teacher ends up dating - but I do wonder HOW can someone feel like that. I remember hating all of my teachers to death.

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Dikitain posted...

Have you never heard of "at least you still have your child"? Of course that person is not allowed to feel as much pain, that is not a "double standard", that is common fucking sense!

Terrible comparison guys. And bad choice of words. No one is "not allowed" to not fell X amount of pain for the loss of Y members of their family.

MirMiros posted...

Dikitain posted...

MirMiros posted...

shipwreckers posted...

MirMiros posted...

There is absolutely nothing wrong with it, and nothing wrong with teacher student relationships.

First part yes. Second part, hail no (especially when the teacher is a dude, and the girl is under risk of getting preggyfied).

But it would be perfectly fine if it was a female teacher and a male student? Double standard much?

I don't want to speak for him, so shipwreckers can feel free to correct me if I am wrong, but FUCK NO!!!

What he is saying is that if a male teacher impregnates a female student that that is worse, but a female teacher seducing a male student is bad as well. However, the blame would solely fall on the teacher in both cases. They are the adults, no matter how much a student "wants it" you should still as the adult say "no".

Don't think that because we say "I wish teachers like that existed when I was in school" we are somehow excusing the teacher from being a child rapist.

One can't be worse than the other, they both have to be equally bad or it is a double standard.

I'm late to your party with Dikitain, but good LORD this is a dumb statement. We're not talking in terms of legality (both are equally illegal). We're talking in terms of natural consequences, and you can most definitely have an action that has differing levels of consequences depending upon the victim.

Boys that have relationships with teachers get high fives at parties. Girls that have relationships with teachers can end up pregnant and forced to decide between abortion or painfully enduring pregnancy in front of all your friends only to then be burdened with the responsibility of caring for a child before you've even received a diploma.

So yeah..., the risked consequences of girls getting in relationships are dreadfully higher than the risked consequences of boys getting in relationships (unless you've found a way to get a boy pregnant).

If you want to state that the consequences are somehow equal, it's your right to do so, but just be aware that others may consider that an outright denial of reality.
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Well it depends...

Technically there is nothing 'wrong' with such a thing. After all, there is a healthy market for the fantasy of the sexy teacher in porn and, assuming it's between two consenting adults, it's... let's go with 'not bad'.

But here's the problem; that isn't the case most of the time.

First off most teachers are adults while most students are children or teens at most. This means that any acting upon the relationship would constitute pedophilia. Why this is unacceptable should be self-evident. The teacher would have no choice but to reject the advances of the student or risk a serious moral violation.

However, even that's not the 'real' issue. The issue is that teachers hold a position of authority and it's very easy to abuse that position of authority in order to solicit sexual favors. Things like 'I might be willing to up your grade from an F to a B+ if you take your top off' or 'you have detention for ignoring me last night' or other such things. Even if you have an adult student and teacher of similar enough age ranges it constitutes an abuse of authority and breach of trust.

Course it's entirely different if you're merely dating A teacher and aren't a student or roleplaying it out for the fantasy, but that's not what people usually refer to when they talk about this sort of situation.
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shadowsword87 posted...

Having a crush is totally fine.
Acting on it is bad.

This.
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Unbridled9 posted...

Well it depends...

Technically there is nothing 'wrong' with such a thing. After all, there is a healthy market for the fantasy of the sexy teacher in porn and, assuming it's between two consenting adults, it's... let's go with 'not bad'.

But here's the problem; that isn't the case most of the time.

First off most teachers are adults while most students are children or teens at most. This means that any acting upon the relationship would constitute pedophilia. Why this is unacceptable should be self-evident. The teacher would have no choice but to reject the advances of the student or risk a serious moral violation.

However, even that's not the 'real' issue. The issue is that teachers hold a position of authority and it's very easy to abuse that position of authority in order to solicit sexual favors. Things like 'I might be willing to up your grade from an F to a B+ if you take your top off' or 'you have detention for ignoring me last night' or other such things. Even if you have an adult student and teacher of similar enough age ranges it constitutes an abuse of authority and breach of trust.

Course it's entirely different if you're merely dating A teacher and aren't a student or roleplaying it out for the fantasy, but that's not what people usually refer to when they talk about this sort of situation.

Think you mean ephebophillia the sexual attraction to the age group 15-17

But your point still stands regardless.

Only reason I bring it up is because even though it still iffy say a 19 year old with a 17 year old ain't that bad to get labeled a pedo over it is a bit harsh imo
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shipwreckers posted...

Boys that have relationships with teachers get high fives at parties. Girls that have relationships with teachers can end up pregnant and forced to decide between abortion or painfully enduring pregnancy in front of all your friends only to then be burdened with the responsibility of caring for a child before you've even received a diploma.

This is a weak argument from a neutral point of view. The same could be applied to any relationship a girl of this age could have. Being it with a teacher or anyone else wouldn't matter in this case.

VixYW posted...

shipwreckers posted...

Boys that have relationships with teachers get high fives at parties. Girls that have relationships with teachers can end up pregnant and forced to decide between abortion or painfully enduring pregnancy in front of all your friends only to then be burdened with the responsibility of caring for a child before you've even received a diploma.

This is a weak argument from a neutral point of view. The same could be applied to any relationship a girl of this age could have. Being it with a teacher or anyone else wouldn't matter in this case.

It is because the teacher should know better. The girl being with a boy the same age as her and getting pregnant can be chalked up to youthful ignorance. With the teacher it is just plain negligence on the teacher's part. That is why age of consent laws are a thing.
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Dikitain posted...

VixYW posted...

shipwreckers posted...

Boys that have relationships with teachers get high fives at parties. Girls that have relationships with teachers can end up pregnant and forced to decide between abortion or painfully enduring pregnancy in front of all your friends only to then be burdened with the responsibility of caring for a child before you've even received a diploma.

This is a weak argument from a neutral point of view. The same could be applied to any relationship a girl of this age could have. Being it with a teacher or anyone else wouldn't matter in this case.

It is because the teacher should know better. The girl being with a boy the same age as her and getting pregnant can be chalked up to youthful ignorance. With the teacher it is just plain negligence on the teacher's part. That is why age of consent laws are a thing.

Ignorance? Only if they are younger than 13 or something. Otherwise everyone should know better, specially if they're attending school.

VixYW posted...

Dikitain posted...

VixYW posted...

shipwreckers posted...

Boys that have relationships with teachers get high fives at parties. Girls that have relationships with teachers can end up pregnant and forced to decide between abortion or painfully enduring pregnancy in front of all your friends only to then be burdened with the responsibility of caring for a child before you've even received a diploma.

This is a weak argument from a neutral point of view. The same could be applied to any relationship a girl of this age could have. Being it with a teacher or anyone else wouldn't matter in this case.

It is because the teacher should know better. The girl being with a boy the same age as her and getting pregnant can be chalked up to youthful ignorance. With the teacher it is just plain negligence on the teacher's part. That is why age of consent laws are a thing.

Ignorance? Only if they are younger than 13 or something. Otherwise everyone should know better, specially if they're attending school.

Law says 18 (federally at least, depends on the state).
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Dikitain posted...

VixYW posted...

Dikitain posted...

VixYW posted...

shipwreckers posted...

Boys that have relationships with teachers get high fives at parties. Girls that have relationships with teachers can end up pregnant and forced to decide between abortion or painfully enduring pregnancy in front of all your friends only to then be burdened with the responsibility of caring for a child before you've even received a diploma.

This is a weak argument from a neutral point of view. The same could be applied to any relationship a girl of this age could have. Being it with a teacher or anyone else wouldn't matter in this case.

It is because the teacher should know better. The girl being with a boy the same age as her and getting pregnant can be chalked up to youthful ignorance. With the teacher it is just plain negligence on the teacher's part. That is why age of consent laws are a thing.

Ignorance? Only if they are younger than 13 or something. Otherwise everyone should know better, specially if they're attending school.

Law says 18 (federally at least, depends on the state).

The law is stupid, and treat minors like stupid people.

... okay, thinking about it, there are plenty of stupid minors out there, but still, the gray zone between 15 and 17 should be treated legally different in a bunch of cases imho. Tho that's derailing the topic's discussion so I'll stop this line of thought here.