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Far-Queue 05/31/18 12:45:14 PM #1: |
Managed to avoid it for over 10 years, so I guess that's commendable.
tl;dr: I pointed out my MIL's hypocrisy when she started talking about how her daughter (my wife's sister) holds unreasonable grudges, since she does the same thing. Now, she says she can no longer view me as a son-in-law and friend. She says she has to regard our relationship as employer/employee since she babysits for my wife and I. She's pretty much proving my point. Some backstory (Names changed to protect the innocent): My mother-in-law (Cindy) has harbored a grudge against my wife's best friend (Becky), going on two decades now. This grudge predates my meeting my wife (Dave) by a considerable stretch of time. The catalyst for this grudge? In a moment of drunken stupidity, Becky mentioned that Cindy's boyfriend at the time was a lot younger than her. That's it. Later, this grudge would be exacerbated by Dave choosing to live with Becky while she went to college. Cindy took this personally, even though the decision made sense as both Dave and Becky went to the same college, and the college plus Dave's job were closer to Becky's house. Cindy saw this as Becky "stealing" her daughter away... This is far from Cindy's only grudge. Just the earliest example I'm aware of. Now, my sister-in-law (Fergie) dated Cindy's neighbor briefly a few years ago, but the neighbor ended it because, much like Cindy, Fergie is batshit insane. Couple weeks back, Cindy's father died, neighbor shows up at the funeral to press F, and Fergie loses her shit, at the church while they're wheeling the casket in, demands Cindy force the neighbor to leave. Yesterday, Cindy was venting to me about this, and I mentioned that she has this same personality trait, pointing out her issue with Becky as an example. I knew it was a mistake the moment the words left my mouth. In 10 years, I've never had an issue with Cindy. We had, by all accounts, a loving and respectful relationship. I knew she was in therapy and had some deep issues she was working through, but never imagined I'd be one of her grudges, but here I am. Mental illness can be a real bitch. Not sure how to play my cards now. --- https://imgur.com/ZwO4qO2 Bluer than velvet was the night... Softer than satin was the light... From the stars... ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Smarkil 05/31/18 12:47:17 PM #2: |
why dont you just fuck her
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Far-Queue 05/31/18 12:48:38 PM #3: |
Smarkil posted...
why dont you just fuck her Brilliant. I'll try that. Maybe I can swing it into a menage with Dave. --- https://imgur.com/ZwO4qO2 Bluer than velvet was the night... Softer than satin was the light... From the stars... ... Copied to Clipboard!
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SunWuKung420 05/31/18 12:50:57 PM #4: |
Why did you name your wife "Dave"?
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Ferarri619 05/31/18 12:55:05 PM #5: |
Smarkil posted...
why dont you just fuck her And also the sister-in-law and the friend Becky friend too! :D :D 4 women and one of them a MILF. Can't go wrong. --- ~Nintendo 64. Get N or Get out. Coming Fall 1996~ ... Copied to Clipboard!
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InfestedAdam 05/31/18 12:56:27 PM #6: |
Pity something as simple as a statement would make some folks snap like that, especially after a 10 some years positive relationship. Do you regret making that statement to your mother-in-law or feel at some point she needs to be made aware of it?
Not exactly on the same level but some of my friends have certain bad habits that I am not sure if they're aware of. One friend in particular I do question myself if/when I'll eventually point it out to him. --- "You must gather your party before venturing forth" "Go for the eyes Boo! Go for the eyes!" ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Far-Queue 05/31/18 1:05:15 PM #7: |
InfestedAdam posted...
Pity something as simple as a statement would make some folks snap like that, especially after a 10 some years positive relationship. Do you regret making that statement to your mother-in-law or feel at some point she needs to be made aware of it? I do regret it, because I was aware of her issues before we had this conversation and should have known it could have backfired like this. I don't know if she'll ever come around to being "okay" with me. This could be a life sentence. I've apologized for upsetting her, but I'm not going to beat myself up over it. If she doesn't accept my apology, things will be strained and awkward between us until she does. Be careful giving your friend advice. I told my old roommate about his bad breath and he really appreciated it. But we're thick as thieves. Gotta really know who you're talking to and if they can handle the criticism you're dishing out. Unfortunately, I forgot my MIL can't handle criticism. SunWuKung420 posted... Why did you name your wife "Dave"? She strikes me as a Dave --- https://imgur.com/ZwO4qO2 Bluer than velvet was the night... Softer than satin was the light... From the stars... ... Copied to Clipboard!
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mastermix3000 05/31/18 1:06:05 PM #8: |
Lol the fact that you knew it was a mistake the moment you said it indicates it was true and she needed another reminder
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helIy 05/31/18 1:12:37 PM #9: |
Ferarri619 posted...
Smarkil posted...why dont you just fuck her not... not the dead guy, though --- this norton product has been successfully uninstalled https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/boards/1448-helly-squad ... Copied to Clipboard!
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SunWuKung420 05/31/18 1:13:34 PM #10: |
Do you call your wife "Dave" in bed?
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RedPixel 05/31/18 1:38:53 PM #11: |
SunWuKung420 posted...
Do you call your wife "Dave" in bed? Mmm Dave. --- Working in a team is great! It always helps to have someone else to blame. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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LeetCheet 05/31/18 3:12:38 PM #12: |
My mother in law hates me too.
She's a huge hypocrite. She thinks her opinions are the only ones that matter. She's stupid as a brick. She outright Refuses to listen to others. And she judges people on really dumb things such as their names despite the fact that she has never even met or even seen a picture of said person. She is just impossible to reason with and has the most toxic personality. She also dresses like a 20 year old even though she's well over 60. She also does really stupid shit like never wear any hats even when it's really fucking cold outside. The reason for that? She doesn't want to her hair to get messed up by the headwear even though she has very short hair which means the probability of her hair getting messed up is Very low. I guess she'd rather get hypothermia than get a slightly messy hair *shrugs* --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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SunWuKung420 05/31/18 4:43:35 PM #13: |
LeetCheet posted...
My mother in law hates me too. When did you get married? --- PSN - SunWuKung420 ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Mead 05/31/18 4:44:42 PM #14: |
She sounds maximum petty
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Firewood18 05/31/18 4:50:04 PM #15: |
My MIL snorts randomly.
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Yellow 05/31/18 4:57:39 PM #16: |
The sad part is she's still less petty than people who accept abusive people.
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Monopoman 05/31/18 8:19:47 PM #17: |
Dave's not here man!
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ParanoidObsessive 05/31/18 8:23:06 PM #18: |
Monopoman posted...
Dave's not here man! No, -I'M- Dave! --- "Wall of Text'D!" --- oldskoolplayr76 "POwned again." --- blight family ... Copied to Clipboard!
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SunWuKung420 05/31/18 8:24:38 PM #19: |
Why am I holding Dave's pants?
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wwinterj25 05/31/18 8:37:46 PM #20: |
Far-Queue posted...
In 10 years, I've never had an issue with Cindy. We had, by all accounts, a loving and respectful relationship. I knew she was in therapy and had some deep issues she was working through, but never imagined I'd be one of her grudges, but here I am. Given her condition I suppose all you can really do is let her know that you hold no hard feelings and when she's ready perhaps she'll come round. Not sure what more you can do. SunWuKung420 posted... LeetCheet posted...My mother in law hates me too. --- One who knows nothing can understand nothing. http://psnprofiles.com/wwinterj - https://imgur.com/kDysIcd ... Copied to Clipboard!
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helIy 05/31/18 8:39:12 PM #21: |
my mother in law won't stop trying to feed my animals junk food.
fucking brings my dogs whole cheeseburgers from mcdonald's, like what the fuck. --- this norton product has been successfully uninstalled https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/boards/1448-helly-squad ... Copied to Clipboard!
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LinkPizza 05/31/18 9:05:22 PM #22: |
helIy posted...
my mother in law won't stop trying to feed my animals junk food. My dogs woukd probably love her. Haha. --- Official King of Kings Switch FC: 7216-4417-4511 Add Me because I'll probably add you. I'm probably the LinkPizza you'll see around. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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LeetCheet 05/31/18 11:15:53 PM #23: |
SunWuKung420 posted...
LeetCheet posted...My mother in law hates me too. Sorry. I didn't know that was a particular phrase used when you're married. To be honest, I have never been that knowledgeable in marriages and stuff like that. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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wwinterj25 05/31/18 11:26:44 PM #24: |
LeetCheet posted...
Sorry. I didn't know that was a particular phrase used when you're married. How is that even possible? Just curious. --- One who knows nothing can understand nothing. http://psnprofiles.com/wwinterj - https://imgur.com/kDysIcd ... Copied to Clipboard!
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LeetCheet 05/31/18 11:32:38 PM #25: |
wwinterj25 posted...
LeetCheet posted...Sorry. I didn't know that was a particular phrase used when you're married. It simply never occurred to me that that word was only used when you're married. Either that or I'm just really stupid as usual. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Fierce_Deity_08 06/04/18 6:50:05 PM #26: |
LinkPizza posted...
helIy posted...my mother in law won't stop trying to feed my animals junk food. Mine too, mom brings them McMuffins once in awhile. --- Official Fierce Deity in my own mind. GT: OnikaraStar, PSN: Onikara, NNID: OnikaraStar ... Copied to Clipboard!
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green dragon 06/04/18 6:59:03 PM #27: |
LeetCheet posted...
wwinterj25 posted...LeetCheet posted...Sorry. I didn't know that was a particular phrase used when you're married. Lmao Maybe it's because you're sweedish or whatever? You know, a phrase that isn't used over there or something ... Copied to Clipboard!
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