Current Events > Being a Christian is pretty alienating...

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Everywhere I go, I'm the guy that doesn't fit in. People talk about drinking, going to clubs, having sex, and when they find out that I don't do any of that stuff, I'm pretty much the freak. I've had several opportunities to be with girls who aren't Christian but never pursued them because we have conflicting beliefs. Even some girls who said they were Christian are okay with sex before marriage which is something that the Bible clearly speaks against.

I feel like I don't belong in this world.
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you don't
this world aint perfect
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You should have a Church that's comprised entirely of those who believe similarly to you. Get a grip.
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Try being a musician that doesn't drink or smoke.
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Jesus was an alien confirmed?

Try being a Muslim who is constantly stereotyped as doing shit which he doesnt.

The_Freecs posted...

Try being a Muslim who is constantly stereotyped as doing shit which he doesnt.

To be fair this is true for christians too, just in different ways.
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What do you do for fun TC?

ProtoManSPx posted...

What do you do for fun TC?

I don't really have fun. Or at least, not enough to say I have a regular output for having fun. Interacting with people at work is probably the only fun I have. When I'm not at work, I just sleep, make music, watch movies, or take walks.
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-GalacticBass- posted...

ProtoManSPx posted...

What do you do for fun TC?

I don't really have fun. Or at least, not enough to say I have a regular output for having fun. Interacting with people at work is probably the only fun I have. When I'm not at work, I just sleep, make music, watch movies, or take walks.

Yikes

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What's the deal
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It sounds like you are expecting people to conform to your way of living. That is not going to happen, so I would advise one of the following; Attend Christian mixers, they are fairly numerous and you will increase your social circle. Secondly, when going out with your friends clubbing, volunteer to be the designated driver. This way the social stigma of not drinking will be lessened, and you friends will appreciate the effort you would put in to the relationship.

As for sex, well... there are many definitions and loopholes in this regard.
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008Zulu posted...

It sounds like you are expecting people to conform to your way of living. That is not going to happen, so I would advise one of the following; Attend Christian mixers, they are fairly numerous and you will increase your social circle. Secondly, when going out with your friends clubbing, volunteer to be the designated driver. This way the social stigma of not drinking will be lessened, and you friends will appreciate the effort you would put in to the relationship.

As for sex, well... there are many definitions and loopholes in this regard.

Nah, that's not it at all. I don't expect people to conform to my way of living. I'm not even angry at anyone. I'm just stating how my beliefs are alienating in this society. Though I do think I'd feel much less alienated if I didn't have such a sheltered childhood.
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UnholyMudcrab posted...

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What's the deal

I'm a lurker.
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-GalacticBass- posted...

Though I do think I'd feel much less alienated if I didn't have such a sheltered childhood.

You are here, now, in CE consorting with all manner of people. It's never too late to find your own path in life.
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Eh drinking and clubs are overrated.
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Just do all those things and still be a Christian, like all the other Christians do.
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Giblet_Enjoyer posted...

Just do all those things and still be a Christian, like all the other Christians do.

Indeed. Although I gotta respect TC for following all the rules of the Bible, not just the ones he wants to. All my friends who identify as Christian still have sex with anyone and everyone despite not being married, without giving it a second thought
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That's like the opposite for me. I live in a hardcore Christian area. There are more churches here than all the local Starbucks and Subway stores combined and then tripled.
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religion should die off anyway. almost none of it is beneficial, except like Buddhism. but even that has violent extremists
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TheCyborgNinja posted...

That's like the opposite for me. I live in a hardcore Christian area. There are more churches here than all the local Starbucks and Subway stores combined and then tripled.

There are literally 7 churches on a single street near where I live but the people here are all degenerates. I'd much rather live around actual christians.
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0AbsoluteZero0 posted...

Giblet_Enjoyer posted...

Just do all those things and still be a Christian, like all the other Christians do.

Indeed. Although I gotta respect TC for following all the rules of the Bible, not just the ones he wants to. All my friends who identify as Christian still have sex with anyone and everyone despite not being married, without giving it a second thought

Well to be fair, I'm definitely not without sin. I haven't followed all the rules of the Bible. I've looked at things I shouldn't have and it's not something I'm proud of. I try to do well but I still fall short. But thank God for His grace.
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-GalacticBass- posted...

0AbsoluteZero0 posted...

Giblet_Enjoyer posted...

Just do all those things and still be a Christian, like all the other Christians do.

Indeed. Although I gotta respect TC for following all the rules of the Bible, not just the ones he wants to. All my friends who identify as Christian still have sex with anyone and everyone despite not being married, without giving it a second thought

Well to be fair, I'm definitely not without sin. I haven't followed all the rules of the Bible. I've looked at things I shouldn't have and it's not something I'm proud of. I try to do well but I still fall short. But thank God for His grace.

Well yeah, no one is without sin, thats something the Bible hammers home. But it sounds like youre actually trying to follow the Bible to the best of your ability. In contrast, like I said my Christian friends would completely disregard whatever they wanted to like premarital sex. I respect that you are truly doing your best to follow the tenets of Christianity
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I'm Christian and do plenty of that fun stuff. I don't feel out of place because I don't judge other people and they don't judge me back.

0AbsoluteZero0 posted...

-GalacticBass- posted...

0AbsoluteZero0 posted...

Giblet_Enjoyer posted...

Just do all those things and still be a Christian, like all the other Christians do.

Indeed. Although I gotta respect TC for following all the rules of the Bible, not just the ones he wants to. All my friends who identify as Christian still have sex with anyone and everyone despite not being married, without giving it a second thought

Well to be fair, I'm definitely not without sin. I haven't followed all the rules of the Bible. I've looked at things I shouldn't have and it's not something I'm proud of. I try to do well but I still fall short. But thank God for His grace.

Well yeah, no one is without sin, thats something the Bible hammers home. But it sounds like youre actually trying to follow the Bible to the best of your ability. In contrast, like I said my Christian friends would completely disregard whatever they wanted to like premarital sex. I respect that you are truly doing your best to follow the tenets of Christianity

Thanks, man. I appreciate that. Do your friends know scripture or have they just been to church a few times and just label themselves Christian? Also, are you a believer?
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CruorComa posted...

You should have a Church that's comprised entirely of those who believe similarly to you. Get a grip.

Dash_Harber posted...

CruorComa posted...

You should have a Church that's comprised entirely of those who believe similarly to you. Get a grip.

This isn't a wrong statement. I haven't been to church in the past few weeks. My family doesn't really go to church so I always go alone and it gets me down sometimes. I'm tired of being alone. But I'll be back in church next Sunday.
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-GalacticBass- posted...

Dash_Harber posted...

CruorComa posted...

You should have a Church that's comprised entirely of those who believe similarly to you. Get a grip.

This isn't a wrong statement. I haven't been to church in the past few weeks. My family doesn't really go to church so I always go alone and it gets me down sometimes. I'm tired of being alone. But I'll be back in church next Sunday.

As far as I know, a lot of church's have socials for this exact reason. You might want to check your church's board or asking around.

SpiralDrift posted...

Try being a musician that doesn't drink or smoke.

Try being just a person in general who doesnt drink or anything.
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knutjob posted...

I'm Christian and do plenty of that fun stuff. I don't feel out of place because I don't judge other people and they don't judge me back.

Exactly the same for me. I've broken every damn commandment, even the one that said "Thou shall not go to clubs".
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fuzzylittlbunny posted...

knutjob posted...

I'm Christian and do plenty of that fun stuff. I don't feel out of place because I don't judge other people and they don't judge me back.

Exactly the same for me. I've broken every damn commandment, even the one that said "Thou shall not go to clubs".

Hahaha I want to make it clear that I don't believe it's a sin to go to a club. It's moreso the lifestyle that it represents. Many people basically live for the party life. Which includes getting wasted, doing drugs, having sex, etc. And I'm not about that.
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In all fairness, it's quite easy to live a mostly Christian life that's fun, as long as you don't expect extreme hedonism. And let's be honest; you're going to break the rules everyday without even realizing it, but that's why it's great that God is forgiving, right :D

Or hell, maybe you do realize you're going against what the Bible says and just can't help yourself. I saw this super hot Asian chick today in booty shorts and God knows my eyes stayed glued to dat ass much longer than they should have...Still, I have no regrets :3
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Posting in topic where TC pretends to be religious tovmake religion look bad.

SpiralDrift posted...

TheCyborgNinja posted...

That's like the opposite for me. I live in a hardcore Christian area. There are more churches here than all the local Starbucks and Subway stores combined and then tripled.

There are literally 7 churches on a single street near where I live but the people here are all degenerates. I'd much rather live around actual christians.

Fair. I know a bit about religion and a couple of my friends were talking about how cool this one church they went to was, partly because it had an ATM. I just said "oh, like the money changers Jesus threw out?" They got all awkward defending it because it was "for collection" and I said "yeah, but there are definitely service charges..."

A while later I asked one of them how their new church was going and he looked down and said "we don't go there anymore" and then I heard him badmouthing it on and off for the next couple of years. It was funny.
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Look up Christian mingle, Christian meet me groups, and volunteer at church to meet new people your age who share the same interests. You simply don't fit in with those types of people you described and just need to find new friends.
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NibeIungsnarf posted...

Posting in topic where TC pretends to be religious tovmake religion look bad.

So what you're saying is that TC is merely pretending to be one of those rare Christians who's not a hypocrite in order to make Christianity look bad?

It's not working well if that's his game
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Im in an area where just about everyones a Christian, so I gotta keep it a secret that faith machine broke
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You dont have to drink or party to have fun.
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You should feel alienated TC we live in a world of sin. Just remember you are not alone, Jesus is always there
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-GalacticBass- posted...

I'm pretty much the freak.

The Jesus freak?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kbB0QrBIs9k
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That's really great that you're sticking to it. I'm a Christian myself, and I always wanted to wait until marriage for sex. It just seems like a gesture of love, being willing to commit your life to someone because you love them, regardless of how they perform in bed.

Things have been wearing heavily on me the last few years though. I realized I'm almost certainly never going to get married, or even have a girlfriend. While I think I'd still be ok waiting until marriage if I can miraculously find someone who wants to marry me, I think I'd be just as ok having sex if I can manage to get a girlfriend at all. Although, I probably wouldn't want to jump straight to that at all. I'd definitely still prefer waiting rather than just have a fling or something. Idk, it's just stressful and confusing, and idk exactly how I'd react if someone actually showed me that kind of attention. I wish I had your strength to still be commited to that idea despite it looking hopeless.
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It really depends on where you live. I live in the suburbs of Houston, and everyone is a Christian.
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-GalacticBass- posted...

Well to be fair, I'm definitely not without sin. I haven't followed all the rules of the Bible. I've looked at things I shouldn't have and it's not something I'm proud of. I try to do well but I still fall short. But thank God for His grace.

Are you trying to follow rules or have you actually been saved? You don't become a Christian by "trying to do well" or "following all the rules of the Bible." And seeking approval and advice from the world is a bad place to start.

0AbsoluteZero0 posted...

Indeed. Although I gotta respect TC for following all the rules of the Bible, not just the ones he wants to. All my friends who identify as Christian still have sex with anyone and everyone despite not being married, without giving it a second thought

They may "identify" as Christians, but they certainly aren't. I Corinthians 6:9-10: "Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, 10nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God."
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All of those things are unbelievably overrated, and you shouldn't feel like you're missing out on them just because you aren't doing them.

The best times I've had with friends have been hanging out with friends and watching movies, going for walks, playing board games, eating good food, drinking soda, telling jokes, exploring the city, etc. None of these activities involved any of the things you mentioned.

I think you just need to find one or two phenomenal friends who you love hanging out with, and a girl that thinks the way you do.

But in any case, I definitely 100% can tell you that those things are extremely overrated by people who hype them up since they have nothing else to hype up. No relationships or hobbies worth mentioning, etc. The coolest people (including girls) I've hanged out didn't make those things a priority at all.
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Are you trying to follow rules or have you actually been saved? You don't become a Christian by "trying to do well" or "following all the rules of the Bible." And seeking approval and advice from the world is a bad place to start.

I am actually saved. The reason why I put emphasis on following the rules was to make it clear that I have fallen short as well. I didn't want to make it seem like just because I've never fornicated, got drunk, or done drugs, that I don't need God's grace and forgiveness.

I know full well that one doesn't become a Christian by trying to keep the commandments. Such a person will fail every time. It is not through works that we are saved. It is in Jesus Christ that we are saved. Salvation is a gift.
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I can't follow a 2000 year old out of date book that tells me people are going to hell for something completely out of there control. Religion needs to move out of the 12th century.
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KogaSteelfang posted...

That's really great that you're sticking to it. I'm a Christian myself, and I always wanted to wait until marriage for sex. It just seems like a gesture of love, being willing to commit your life to someone because you love them, regardless of how they perform in bed.

Things have been wearing heavily on me the last few years though. I realized I'm almost certainly never going to get married, or even have a girlfriend. While I think I'd still be ok waiting until marriage if I can miraculously find someone who wants to marry me, I think I'd be just as ok having sex if I can manage to get a girlfriend at all. Although, I probably wouldn't want to jump straight to that at all. I'd definitely still prefer waiting rather than just have a fling or something. Idk, it's just stressful and confusing, and idk exactly how I'd react if someone actually showed me that kind of attention. I wish I had your strength to still be commited to that idea despite it looking hopeless.

Keep in God's word and in prayer, bro. We need all the strength we can get. I feel like marriage will never happen for me either. I'm pushing 29 and I've never had a girlfriend. The thought of dying alone without any family or kids of my own scares me. This is what is weighing on me the most. I have no desire to go drinking, partying, etc. But I really do want someone to share life with. I go everywhere and do most everything alone. It seems like it's equally difficult to find a girl in church as it is outside of church. There are certainly better, more spiritual, and eligible, single men than I and I'm not exactly someone a girl would choose over them. I have to keep pushing myself to get myself and my life together but there are times when everything seems hopeless and I get stuck in a rut.

I do know that if I do end up alone that at least I can put my hope in God. Even if in this life I live in loneliness, it will not compare to the glory and joy to be with God in Heaven.
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At times like these you need to shift your focus away from yourself and what you want and towards living and serving Christ.

Galatians 2:20 - I have been crucified with Christ; and it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself up for me.

If, God forbid, you get hit by Truck-kun and die tomorrow, you will have to account to God for how you spent your life, whether you were married or not. It's not easy, but you should live your life in light of that. And along the way who knows who/what God will bring into your life?

Psalm 37:4 - Delight yourself in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart.

Matthew 6:33 - But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.


Psalm 84:11 - For the LORD God is a sun and shield; The LORD gives grace and glory; No good thing does He withhold from those who walk uprightly.

These are promises God Himself has made. The question is, do you believe Him?

Lastly, here are some Christian resources on singleness that you might like to listen to: https://illbehonest.com/topic/singleness Mason Vann's "Marriage and Gods Will For Young People" really struck a chord with me.

Hang in there!
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