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KogaSteelfang posted...

That's really great that you're sticking to it. I'm a Christian myself, and I always wanted to wait until marriage for sex. It just seems like a gesture of love, being willing to commit your life to someone because you love them, regardless of how they perform in bed.

Things have been wearing heavily on me the last few years though. I realized I'm almost certainly never going to get married, or even have a girlfriend. While I think I'd still be ok waiting until marriage if I can miraculously find someone who wants to marry me, I think I'd be just as ok having sex if I can manage to get a girlfriend at all. Although, I probably wouldn't want to jump straight to that at all. I'd definitely still prefer waiting rather than just have a fling or something. Idk, it's just stressful and confusing, and idk exactly how I'd react if someone actually showed me that kind of attention. I wish I had your strength to still be commited to that idea despite it looking hopeless.

Keep in God's word and in prayer, bro. We need all the strength we can get. I feel like marriage will never happen for me either. I'm pushing 29 and I've never had a girlfriend. The thought of dying alone without any family or kids of my own scares me. This is what is weighing on me the most. I have no desire to go drinking, partying, etc. But I really do want someone to share life with. I go everywhere and do most everything alone. It seems like it's equally difficult to find a girl in church as it is outside of church. There are certainly better, more spiritual, and eligible, single men than I and I'm not exactly someone a girl would choose over them. I have to keep pushing myself to get myself and my life together but there are times when everything seems hopeless and I get stuck in a rut.

I do know that if I do end up alone that at least I can put my hope in God. Even if in this life I live in loneliness, it will not compare to the glory and joy to be with God in Heaven.
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