Poll of the Day > Micro-Aggressions?

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Good Lord... our Orwellian future is coming from the left...
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The world was a lot less PC 10 years ago
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Are you about 5 years late to the party?
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micro transactions are the real micro aggression
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why does people talking about this bother you so much?
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zang is the resident grumpy old man with nothing positive to say
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I just try to be macro aggressive.
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St_Kevin posted...

Good Lord... our Orwellian future is coming from the left...

It always was coming from the left. George Orwell was writing about Stalinism.
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DirtBasedSoap posted...

zang is the resident grumpy old man with nothing positive to say

Naw man... hes NEVER mad!

You joke about those, but I can't tell you how many old white people who specifically ask me "Oh, are you the first person to graduate high school and go to college?" when I'm in a whole group of people. And they only ever ask me.

Just as bad is the "Where are you from?" question that same demographic always asks me. What they really want to know is my ethnicity, but they know it's rude and weird to ask that but then essentially ask it anyway. I always lead those people around, because after I say I'm from PA, then they ask where my parents are from, then my grandparents, then my GREAT grandparents. It's funny how far they'll go just to find out I'm Hispanic.
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The idea of microsgessions is that a bunch of things which on their own, don't amount to much, when they happens a lot over time, it adds up.

DeathMagnetic80 posted...

The idea of microsgessions is that a bunch of things which on their own, don't amount to much, when they happens a lot over time, it adds up.

Actually it's about millenials trying to corrupt the youth. I should know, I used the twitter once.

micro-aggressions are how to break open lootboxes
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PK_Spam posted...

You joke about those, but I can't tell you how many old white people who specifically ask me "Oh, are you the first person to graduate high school and go to college?" when I'm in a whole group of people. And they only ever ask me.

Just as bad is the "Where are you from?" question that same demographic always asks me. What they really want to know is my ethnicity, but they know it's rude and weird to ask that but then essentially ask it anyway. I always lead those people around, because after I say I'm from PA, then they ask where my parents are from, then my grandparents, then my GREAT grandparents. It's funny how far they'll go just to find out I'm Hispanic.

Why do you care what old white people think of you dude?
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PK_Spam posted...

Just as bad is the "Where are you from?" question that same demographic always asks me. What they really want to know is my ethnicity, but they know it's rude and weird to ask that but then essentially ask it anyway. I always lead those people around, because after I say I'm from PA, then they ask where my parents are from, then my grandparents, then my GREAT grandparents. It's funny how far they'll go just to find out I'm Hispanic.

People are just curious about different, natives are going to be curious about people who aren't, it's not malicious.
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PK_Spam posted...

You joke about those, but I can't tell you how many old white people who specifically ask me "Oh, are you the first person to graduate high school and go to college?" when I'm in a whole group of people. And they only ever ask me.

Just as bad is the "Where are you from?" question that same demographic always asks me. What they really want to know is my ethnicity, but they know it's rude and weird to ask that but then essentially ask it anyway. I always lead those people around, because after I say I'm from PA, then they ask where my parents are from, then my grandparents, then my GREAT grandparents. It's funny how far they'll go just to find out I'm Hispanic.

Imagine having this much of a chip on your shoulder about being hispanic

Im like 99% sure that the term micro aggression is less than 10 years old. Maybe like 5 or 6. At least as far as it being used in pop culture all the time.

And what, are we not allowed to discuss old ideas?
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Kyuubi4269 posted...

PK_Spam posted...

Just as bad is the "Where are you from?" question that same demographic always asks me. What they really want to know is my ethnicity, but they know it's rude and weird to ask that but then essentially ask it anyway. I always lead those people around, because after I say I'm from PA, then they ask where my parents are from, then my grandparents, then my GREAT grandparents. It's funny how far they'll go just to find out I'm Hispanic.

People are just curious about different, natives are going to be curious about people who aren't, it's not malicious.

Then... why don't they just ask? Just ask me "What's your ethnicity," instead of holding me hostage for 2 minutes while trying to pry it out of me.

It's still a rude question (because how many white American people get asked "where are you from?") but I'd at least respect you more if you went out and said it. They could even phrase it slightly better like "You look like my friend from Guatamala. By any chance, you don't happen to also be there, right?" Like... even if they obviously lied about having that friend, the fact that they were conscious enough about it makes it less intrusive.

I dunno. @RCtheWSBC, I know we're not, like super good friends or anything, but you've spent more time in academia than I. Have you experienced something like this before? I'm not wrong to be pissed after the 10th time I get asked, right?
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OhhhJa posted...

Imagine having this much of a chip on your shoulder about being hispanic

It's not even about that. It's about this demographic (old white people) asking me where I'm from, and then not asking any of the white people around me that same question.

It's rude as shit. Same as the college thing I brought up earlier.

Like, this didn't even happen only once or twice through my college career. I experienced this shit once a month back in college.
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Lots of brown people, and hispanics can come from many places, maybe they were really interested in what country your ancestors came from.
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OhhhJa posted...

PK_Spam posted...

You joke about those, but I can't tell you how many old white people who specifically ask me "Oh, are you the first person to graduate high school and go to college?" when I'm in a whole group of people. And they only ever ask me.

Just as bad is the "Where are you from?" question that same demographic always asks me. What they really want to know is my ethnicity, but they know it's rude and weird to ask that but then essentially ask it anyway. I always lead those people around, because after I say I'm from PA, then they ask where my parents are from, then my grandparents, then my GREAT grandparents. It's funny how far they'll go just to find out I'm Hispanic.

Imagine having this much of a chip on your shoulder about being hispanic

If you can't understand his plight, you lack empathy or are a kkk/nazi.
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darcandkharg31 posted...

Lots of brown people, and hispanics can come from many places, maybe they were really interested in what country your ancestors came from.

White people come from different places too. They are deligitimizing him as an american
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darcandkharg31 posted...

Lots of brown people, and hispanics can come from many places, maybe they were really interested in what country your ancestors came from.

But then why didn't they ask any of the white people around me?

One of my friends is apparently something called Black Irish (he's half Hispanic but is pale as shit and actively presents himself as a white person, so you wouldn't know unless you looked at his mom's maiden name). That friend apparently has Viking ancestors and has some documentation backing it up. By all means he has a MUCH more interesting family history than me. Why didn't she say, "and you. What about you, tell me about YOUR family history."

It's a dumb thing old white people do to determine if you're Mexican/Arab/WHatever, and I literally experienced this TO MY FACE more than a dozen times, and you want to tell me that I interpreted it wrong? Gtfo
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People taking the Lord's name in vain is a microaggression against me, but you don't see me bitching and moaning about it and trying to get laws passed that forbid it.
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Kyuubi4269 posted...

People are just curious about different, natives are going to be curious about people who aren't, it's not malicious.

"natives"

darcandkharg31 posted...

Lots of brown people, and hispanics can come from many places, maybe they were really interested in what country your ancestors came from.

Then don't ask "Where are you from?" because from the gate it implies that individual isn't a "native", lol. The curiosity is fair, but how you communicate those ideas can come off either genuine or tone-deaf.

PK_Spam posted...

I know we're not, like super good friends or anything, but you've spent more time in academia than I. Have you experienced something like this before? I'm not wrong to be pissed after the 10th time I get asked, right?

I mean, whenever someone asks me where I'm from I say Florida. No one has ever followed up with, "no...where are you from?" or something like that. It's happened to colleagues of mine over the years, particularly if they do have international backgrounds--usually either they are first-generation born Americans or emigrated with their families at a young age.
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Oh wait, I just remembered this one time my coworkers were at a happy hour and this old guy sitting next to us straight up said: "look, we have so much diversity here...we have someone from Africa (points to me), someone from India (points to my coworker)"

I was like...no I'm not from Africa, I was born here. lol
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PK_Spam posted...

It's a dumb thing old white people do to determine if you're Mexican/Arab/WHatever

I'd be interested about it too, nice little small talk.

PK_Spam posted...

I literally experienced this TO MY FACE more than a dozen times, and you want to tell me that I interpreted it wrong? Gtfo

And this bugs you why? I like where I am and what race I am and not afraid to tell people it if they asked. Even if they try to do it in a sly way so they don't come off as racist for even suggesting it.
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RCtheWSBC posted...

Then don't ask "Where are you from?" because from the gate it implies that individual isn't a "native", lol. The curiosity is fair, but how you communicate those ideas can come off either genuine or tone-deaf.

I could see that, but apparently it's not PC just to straight ask what race you are these days lulz.
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darcandkharg31 posted...

RCtheWSBC posted...

Then don't ask "Where are you from?" because from the gate it implies that individual isn't a "native", lol. The curiosity is fair, but how you communicate those ideas can come off either genuine or tone-deaf.

I could see that, but apparently it's not PC just to straight ask what race you are these days lulz.

I think that's a cringey-ass question, honestly. I've never thought to ask someone what race they were.
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RCtheWSBC posted...

darcandkharg31 posted...

RCtheWSBC posted...

Then don't ask "Where are you from?" because from the gate it implies that individual isn't a "native", lol. The curiosity is fair, but how you communicate those ideas can come off either genuine or tone-deaf.

I could see that, but apparently it's not PC just to straight ask what race you are these days lulz.

I think that's a cringey-ass question, honestly. I've never thought to ask someone what race they were.

He is tricking you... Notice his use of the word "lulz". That is top tier nazi troll lingo.
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darcandkharg31 posted...

RCtheWSBC posted...

Then don't ask "Where are you from?" because from the gate it implies that individual isn't a "native", lol. The curiosity is fair, but how you communicate those ideas can come off either genuine or tone-deaf.

I could see that, but apparently it's not PC just to straight ask what race you are these days lulz.

But, what do you get out of finding out I'm Puerto Rican and then nodding your head and going "Very nice!" Asking me what my heritage is isn't an ice breaker question and CERTIANLY shouldn't be the first thing you ask someone who isn't white. Especially when you don't try to at least attempt to save face by asking a white person next to me
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PK_Spam posted...

darcandkharg31 posted...

RCtheWSBC posted...

Then don't ask "Where are you from?" because from the gate it implies that individual isn't a "native", lol. The curiosity is fair, but how you communicate those ideas can come off either genuine or tone-deaf.

I could see that, but apparently it's not PC just to straight ask what race you are these days lulz.

But, what do you get out of finding out I'm Puerto Rican and then nodding your head and going "Very nice!" Asking me what my heritage is isn't an ice breaker question and CERTIANLY shouldn't be the first thing you ask someone who isn't white. Especially when you don't try to at least attempt to save face by asking a white person next to me

He is just trying to enrage you for his enjoyment... it is a trick. Do not let yourself be the victim of complex mental gymnastics
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RCtheWSBC posted...

I think that's a cringey-ass question, honestly. I've never thought to ask someone what race they were.

Meh, I asked a guy if he was Indian because I thought he was Native, he was like "Naw man, i'm Indian" and I was like "heh, thought you were native at first bro." and he was like "yeah, I get that."

This was in BC, pretty diverse that province.
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darcandkharg31 posted...

RCtheWSBC posted...

I think that's a cringey-ass question, honestly. I've never thought to ask someone what race they were.

Meh, I asked a guy if he was Indian because I thought he was Native, he was like "Naw man, i'm Indian" and I was like "heh, thought you were native at first bro." and he was like "yeah, I get that."

This was in BC, pretty diverse that province.

You better be pro diversity... I thought I caught a whiff of negativity in your post. I hope I am wrong.
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PK_Spam posted...

But, what do you get out of finding out I'm Puerto Rican and then nodding your head and going "Very nice!"

Idk, knowing something about you, having small talk, trying to remember if I know anything about Puerto Rico?

PK_Spam posted...

Asking me what my heritage is isn't an ice breaker question and CERTIANLY shouldn't be the first thing you ask someone who isn't white. Especially when you don't try to at least attempt to save face by asking a white person next to me

I guess i'm not bothered about people wondering what my race is very much.
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ImmortalityV posted...

OhhhJa posted...

PK_Spam posted...

You joke about those, but I can't tell you how many old white people who specifically ask me "Oh, are you the first person to graduate high school and go to college?" when I'm in a whole group of people. And they only ever ask me.

Just as bad is the "Where are you from?" question that same demographic always asks me. What they really want to know is my ethnicity, but they know it's rude and weird to ask that but then essentially ask it anyway. I always lead those people around, because after I say I'm from PA, then they ask where my parents are from, then my grandparents, then my GREAT grandparents. It's funny how far they'll go just to find out I'm Hispanic.

Imagine having this much of a chip on your shoulder about being hispanic

If you can't understand his plight, you lack empathy or are a kkk/nazi.

That poor baby and his unbearable plight of being asked where he's from... fucking grow a pair guys

JOExHIGASHI posted...

micro transactions are the real micro aggression

I would say micro transactions are far worse since they actually matter.

PK_Spam posted...

I can't tell you how many old white people who specifically ask me "Oh, are you the first person to graduate high school and go to college?" when I'm in a whole group of people.

You must look smarter than your friends. Do you hang out with people that would be mistaken for stoners or dropouts?

PK_Spam posted...

Just as bad is the "Where are you from?" question

I tend to get to get this one a lot. In person I tend to talk fast and run into difficulty with the letter R leading people to think I have some bizzare foreign accent.
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OhhhJa posted...

PK_Spam posted...

You joke about those, but I can't tell you how many old white people who specifically ask me "Oh, are you the first person to graduate high school and go to college?" when I'm in a whole group of people. And they only ever ask me.

Just as bad is the "Where are you from?" question that same demographic always asks me. What they really want to know is my ethnicity, but they know it's rude and weird to ask that but then essentially ask it anyway. I always lead those people around, because after I say I'm from PA, then they ask where my parents are from, then my grandparents, then my GREAT grandparents. It's funny how far they'll go just to find out I'm Hispanic.

Imagine having this much of a chip on your shoulder about being hispanic

Imagine not getting why dealing with wonky questions like that would get old after awhile.

PK_Spam posted...

"You look like my friend from Guatamala. By any chance, you don't happen to also be there, right?"

You definitely can't do that. People get super offended if you assume they're from a different country than they are. South American's included.

I've had people ask my Peruvian brother in law if he's from Guatemala and he'll flip his shit.
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St_Kevin posted...

The world was a lot less PC 10 years ago

It's cyclic. PC was a pretty big thing in the 90s.

In fact, a large part of why "PC" became such a dirty word that current day social progressives refuse to use it for themselves was because of how poorly received the movement was in the 90s.

But yeah, Internet social culture in general revived the idea with a vengeance over the last decade or so. That's what happens when you put a bunch of children in a sandbox without any adults to watch over them or spank them when they're naughty.


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RCtheWSBC posted...

"natives"

As in the majority for centuries.

PK_Spam posted...

Then... why don't they just ask? Just ask me "What's your ethnicity," instead of holding me hostage for 2 minutes while trying to pry it out of me.

It's still a rude question (because how many white American people get asked "where are you from?") but I'd at least respect you more if you went out and said it. They could even phrase it slightly better like "You look like my friend from Guatamala. By any chance, you don't happen to also be there, right?" Like... even if they obviously lied about having that friend, the fact that they were conscious enough about it makes it less intrusive.

Because they don't want to be labelled as a racist? Even in your example, you could very easy just say "You think all Guatamalans look alike?! Racist!". It's a fucking minefield so people choose to dance around the subject.
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DeathMagnetic80 posted...

OhhhJa posted...

PK_Spam posted...

You joke about those, but I can't tell you how many old white people who specifically ask me "Oh, are you the first person to graduate high school and go to college?" when I'm in a whole group of people. And they only ever ask me.

Just as bad is the "Where are you from?" question that same demographic always asks me. What they really want to know is my ethnicity, but they know it's rude and weird to ask that but then essentially ask it anyway. I always lead those people around, because after I say I'm from PA, then they ask where my parents are from, then my grandparents, then my GREAT grandparents. It's funny how far they'll go just to find out I'm Hispanic.

Imagine having this much of a chip on your shoulder about being hispanic

Imagine not getting why dealing with wonky questions like that would get old after awhile.

Waaaahhhh... life is hard!

Lmao
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Aww minorities think they are the only ones who are questioned on their ancestry . Lmao.