Poll of the Day > what made you lose interest on your most beloved crush?

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never saw her in person for a long time then she got married, shes still super hot even after she became a mom, but i dont really care about her now, i dont even look at her facebook anymore. well, shes not really just a crush since we dated but i was still crazy for her even after we broke up.
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When she dumped me and barely a month later she already got a new bf, this was after she went through 3 other boyfriend in the past 4 months.
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A new girl, maybe?

There was always a new girl

I didn't lose interest.
I married him.
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I may be a functional sociopath so I don't get attached. There's just girls I'd really like to fuck who know better than to get with me, but it's all physical and nothing else. I don't understand how anyone can get hung up on the personality of a girl that badly.

My first crush was a girl in my high school, I never gathered the courage to tell her and I found out she already had a boyfriend so I set out to find another person of the woman-y persuasion
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She stopped talking to me :(
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Life.
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She invited me to marathon big bang theory with her and some friends.
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Got rejected
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She got some tattoos in her arms

I was too shy and socially-awkward to act on any of the various crushes I had from Kindergarten through twelve grade.

In college, I didn't have a job, driver's license, and was still living with mom. No girl would want any part of that.

Now, even with a job and license, I'm holding myself back in a never-ending circle of self-loathing and depression.

When she disappeared off the face of the earth for years, so I ended up going through grieving as though she was dead.

She returned eventually, but happily married.
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Past men I've fancied....Hm, well there are many reasons.

I grew up and/or grew more in maturity. So the things I used to find attractive aren't there anymore. It's like looking at him with a different pair of eyes.

I get so busy that I don't have time to indulge in those thoughts or warm and fuzzy feelings brought on by that man and it eventually fizzles out.

Also, the unavailability of a man is a turn off for me. I fancy him when he's single but when I find out he's involved in a relationship the attraction immediately evaporates.

Also, men with a different set of tradition or values is what shuts it off for me. Different opinions are fine. They can be discussed but core values cannot. They are almost impossible to change.

Anyway, I'm thinking of men I've only silently fancied or are casual acquaintances of mine.
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just a crush or someone you actually dated count?
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I'm low key not, but she's my best friend and she has a good boyfriend
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Common sense. Despite how well we got along or how much we had in common, nothing would change the fact that she was fucking married. Even if she did somehow go for me, I couldn't break up a marriage.

And I also came to the realization that she was Manic Pixie Dream Girl, which both made me feel better about liking her and helped confirm that it was a bad idea.
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funkyfritter posted...

She invited me to marathon big bang theory with her and some friends.

Fair, next.
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MoreRpgs posted...

She got some tattoos in her arms

Arguably, she dodged a bullet.
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keyblader1985 posted...

And I also came to the realization that she was Manic Pixie Dream Girl, which both made me feel better about liking her and helped confirm that it was a bad idea.

My favorite kind of dream girl.
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WastelandCowboy posted...

In college, I didn't have a job, driver's license, and was still living with mom. No girl would want any part of that.

Well, thank god I'm not the only one who has had to go through that. Now, I feel less self-conscious about not being able to befriend some girl.
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I moved. This was when I was 15. I had minor crushes since then, but I find that it never went anywhere when I crushed on a girl. Relationship spring from spontaneity and chance. The girl I dated for two years I met at a concert, and the girl I've been with for the past eight I met on a cruise ship 1000 miles from home and she happened to live a half hour from me. All my crushes ended up as either friends or people I grew to dislike as I learned more about them, but none turned into dating or even sex.
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I realized I was pathetic and had to move on. It was very hard though.

I haven't seen her in a few years and doubt I will either.

I still think she's incredibly attractive. I've seen a few recent pictures of her. But she was not interested in me and I don't think she's interested in dating at all.

But I'm in a much better place now. I've been interested in other girls.
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I never really did.

The terms of her parent's divorce were such that she spent most of her summers, Christmas, and various other long weekends with her father. During those periods we'd spend a lot of time together. Everyone could see that there was something special there. Things got progressively more awkward as we went from kids to teenagers to very nearly adults. She was turning into a very sharp young lady, and I was going down a very very dark path. She strongly disagreed with some of the life choices I was making, and I wasn't about to hear it from someone that had things relatively easy compared to me. Being around me was making her uncomfortable on a number of levels, and our interactions were getting more antagonistic. I took the hint and, gradually, stopped taking every single chance I could get to go visit her.

I was 17-ish last time I saw her, I'm now 36 and I still think about her from time to time.
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First one? I forgot. Second? She got a boyfriend. Third? I'm friends with and got over it. Fourth? I covered the dagger up with a disgusting infected band-aid.

I talked about it and certain posters rubbed salt all over it. Certain antisocial posters here. I didn't forget that.

I had too many crushes to keep track of, honestly, but one of them that I got closer to turned out to be sort of trampy and it scared me away. I was 13 and super tame... a couple years later and I doubt Id have been bothered.
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I guess I wasn't good enough for them.
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I don't have a "most beloved crush".
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Lying to me all the time.
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VioletMassacre posted...

It just faded out eventually.

Wish these things would 'fade out' faster, but yeah this
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I haven't had many, and they've all been fairly minor and one sided anyway.

First was a girl I went to school with, she was always really heavy, even as a little kid. Despite that, she had a an adorable face and personality, and was one if the few people in school that didn't actively make my life worse. She's the one I saw on okcupid, messaged her to catch up, and she deleted her profile the next day.., >_>
I think it's safe to say she doesn't care for me much.

Next was a girl who sat at my table in my science class(I also liked the teacher of that class too lol). This girl must've sensed I was building up to ask her out, because just before I did she interrupted to say she just had started dating someone else that day. I thought it was a lie, and she was letting me down easy, but a few months later she was pregnant by him. So yeah, no more interest.

Then there was a girl who moved here and acted bizarrely. She was an outcast like me, and we grew close. This was probably the closest I've come to actually having feelings for someone. We both liked each other, and clicked, it just felt right. However, she hated everything else about the area and she moved again. That ended that.

Next was a manager at my old job, she was engaged, so I never entertained the idea and it eventually faded. She's really let herself go now and looks awful, she was so cute before too. :/

And finally, the most recent one, my current co-worker. She's sweet, kind, beautiful, and always goes out of her way to talk with me. A bunch of the other female employees apparently are saying she and I should get together and make "beautiful babies" lol.
I kind of sorta thought I might have a shot with her, but I didn't really want to ask since she was being sexually harassed by another co-worker. Felt really wrong to ask while she was dealing with that.
I can't imagine being with her now because... my dad tried having sex with her. She's the one he was trying to cheat with and caused a bunch more drama here and at work. She showed my mom the messages he'd been sending, I don't know what they were, but apparently it was more than enough for them both to be super pissed.
Now I can only imagine she doesn't want anything to do with me or my family, and when I think of her, I just think her and my dad instead. Makes me sick.
I'm pretty sure he knew I liked her, even though I never told anyone but you guys. But ehhh, not like I'd have ever had a shot myself.
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KogaSteelfang posted...

And finally, the most recent one, my current co-worker. She's sweet, kind, beautiful, and always goes out of her way to talk with me. A bunch of the other female employees apparently are saying she and I should get together and make "beautiful babies" lol.
I kind of sorta thought I might have a shot with her, but I didn't really want to ask since she was being sexually harassed by another co-worker. Felt really wrong to ask while she was dealing with that.
I can't imagine being with her now because... my dad tried having sex with her. She's the one he was trying to cheat with and caused a bunch more drama here and at work. She showed my mom the messages he'd been sending, I don't know what they were, but apparently it was more than enough for them both to be super pissed.
Now I can only imagine she doesn't want anything to do with me or my family, and when I think of her, I just think her and my dad instead. Makes me sick.
I'm pretty sure he knew I liked her, even though I never told anyone but you guys. But ehhh, not like I'd have ever had a shot myself.

Wow that's messed up. I wonder if she really lumps you in with your dad or not. But either way now that that happened it would likely be really hard to talk to her about something like that
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We grew up together kinda, her parents knew my folks.. she was my first kiss.

I tried for years, went to this Sunday school thing with her for a year because she asked me to tag along, we became penpals, visited her which meant a 30 minute train trip and a 30 minute walk.. eventually asked her out, got stood up. Things got weird and I didnt see her for years.
Only after I split from my gf did I look her up and visit her family. Found out she was seeing someone .. saw her for 5 minutes when she got back from work.. it was extremely awkward. Fast forward 13 years, shes married with a kid etc

Meh.. we had squat in common anyway.. but I occasionally have dreams with her in it .. I couldnt have done more than I did.. and I did ask her out, so no regrets there
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GhostGiblet posted...

Wow that's messed up. I wonder if she really lumps you in with your dad or not. But either way now that that happened it would likely be really hard to talk to her about something like that

I'm not really concerned about if she lumps us together like that, anyone who knows us knows I'm nothing like him. Just I feel she wouldn't be interested in dating the son of the man who tried something like that. I can't blame her at all if she feels that way, just kinda sucks that the one time I feel that I might just maybe have a chance, he ruins it. lol
I'm just going to give it up and let the feelings fade. It really feels like I'm just not meant to ever be with anyone.

Edit: That "other co-worker" I mentioned was actually someone else, my dad was the second to try. From what she posts on Facebook, it seems like there's even another guy making remarks about her. I think she's probably sick of that kind of attention, and I'd rather let her have some peace rather than just be another guy in line trying to get with her.
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