Poll of the Day > I hate when women call me stuff like sweetie, hun, babe, etc.

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Not like pet names from a girlfriend, but cashiers I'm buying stuff from and whatnot. I totally get where women are coming from with unwanted compliments that men tend to think aren't a big deal (although this is kind of a different situation). It's not like I think they're hitting on me, but I find it so disrespectful. I'm a 26 year old man. Granted, I may not look 26, but I'm also obviously not ten years old, and I'm not sure it's acceptable to talk to somebody like that beyond that age.

Do any of the other guys here experience this? What do you think?

I don't like it when guys I don't know, guys working at the airport or car fix-it places, call me honey or put their arm around me to walk me out or something. I'm not a little girl.
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Doesn't both me, I get called all of those things by waitresses and cashiers, at this point in my life I barely even notice it. I did find it kind of odd when my 17 year old cousin called me "hun" though. I am twice your age, WTF?
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Just because it's common doesn't mean it's acceptable

Rockies posted...

Just because it's common doesn't mean it's acceptable

It's just a name, it's not like they are grabbing my crotch or anything like that.
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Calm down babe
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um sweety
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Not a fan, either... I hate it when anybody uses babe outside of a Bill & Ted usage.
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I don't tip them any more than I would, so I don't care. Makes my crotch tingle if she's a milf.

Okay, Rockies-kun.
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simmer down there, sugar tits, ok?
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Sorry shoog
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Just raise your voice and say "thanks...BABE"

Assert dominance

Or you know, tell them it makes you feel uncomfortable and ask them not to do it.
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Maybe next time I will but I'm always so non-confrontational about everything. I don't know why, it's not like these women are intimidating

Hun is a little ethnically insensitive. It should be something more specific, like Attila.

You don't realize it yet but you were being assaulted. It's time to contact your lawyer or tell your survivor story on your blog to empower others.

I gotta say I agree. I understand it is just their way of speech and they are not trying to be offensive, but it still irritates me, especially when it is your boss doing it and they don't stop after you ask them to.
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Doesn't bother me. Sometimes I'm called sweetheart or darling by both men and women. Also habibti (Arabic for "my love").
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mipond posted...

put their arm around me to walk me out or something

That would drive me insane- as a male I don't generally have to face this. Once in recent history I stepped into the volleyball court the substitute for a player that I didn't know. This player then immediately gave me a handsy pat of the back and rub on the neck. I can understand it was a comradery thing that I like in team sport, just a little odd that this was the first time I'd ever even seen this person in my life.
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i actually like it when strangers call me hun, etc... it makes me feel pretty, ok?
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This special snowflake, oh deary.
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I hate it too and I'm a woman. I hate it when women younger than me call me any pet name as well. I find it so condescending. It's really strange.
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Rockies posted...

Not like pet names from a girlfriend, but cashiers I'm buying stuff from and whatnot. I totally get where women are coming from with unwanted compliments that men tend to think aren't a big deal (although this is kind of a different situation). It's not like I think they're hitting on me, but I find it so disrespectful. I'm a 26 year old man. Granted, I may not look 26, but I'm also obviously not ten years old, and I'm not sure it's acceptable to talk to somebody like that beyond that age.

Do any of the other guys here experience this? What do you think?

You are obviously not 26 if you find those trivial compliments to be a serious matter. You are immature.

Are you like gonna punch the cashier if she calls you, "zebra" when you are wearing a striped t-shirt?
Seriously, if that's what you feel like doing or is actually gonna do, then you really gotta grow up dude.

Disrespectful? Where are you from? Which country?

In some countries, it is normal and a common thing for waiters or waitresses to call their restaurant customers names like "hey pretty girl" or "aunty" or "handsome guy" or "uncle" opposed to referring them to "mister" or "miss". And likewise, you call the waiters and waitresses, "pretty lady" and "handsome guy". They like it better than being called, "hey, get me something" or "dude, bring that over".

Certainly, I would be annoyed if my significant other calls the waiter "handsome guy". Likewise, if I call the waitress "pretty lady", my significant other would be pissed and shocked. I wouldn't do it and I do not like it when my significant other does it but I am aware that this is a common occurrence in some places and that I shouldn't over-react over trivial matters.

My relative often calls me "doggy" and I find it offensive because the political keyword "dog" in some countries refer the person as being an individual that commited treason and must be executed. Even when my relative denies it being political, it is no doubt derogatory. It is certainly disrespectful and offensive. And no doubt, this is different than you being called "sweetie, hun, babe".

I ofter refer male strangers as a "sir" and female strangers as a "miss". Formal and respectful. ^^
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Jen0125 posted...

I hate it too and I'm a woman. I hate it when women younger than me call me any pet name as well. I find it so condescending. It's really strange.

that's nice, honey. just sit there and look pretty, ok, baby?
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Just one more guy finding out that he doesn't like to be treated like men have been treating women and others for so, so long.

I don't mind when women do it but when guys do it it feels kinda awkward.
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Susanowo posted...

In some countries, it is normal and a common thing for waiters or waitresses to call their restaurant customers names like "hey pretty girl" or "aunty" or "handsome guy" or "uncle" opposed to referring them to "mister" or "miss". And likewise, you call the waiters and waitresses, "pretty lady" and "handsome guy". They like it better than being called, "hey, get me something" or "dude, bring that over".

Lol I don't know what countries you're talking about, but I'm American and it is not normal or common to say stuff like that here

Playsaver posted...

Just one more guy finding out that he doesn't like to be treated like men have been treating women and others for so, so long.

Yeah I guess, but I personally don't give women those kind of names

Cruddy_horse posted...

I don't mind when women do it but when guys do it it feels kinda awkward.

Not sure if I've really had guys do it to me. Maybe gay hairdressers, but that still doesn't feel like a come-on to me, more like them just being effeminate

That escalated quickly
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Playsaver posted...

Just one more guy finding out that he doesn't like to be treated like men have been treating women and others for so, so long.

Note how other men patronise him for being a baby, rather than pitying how "oppressed" he is.
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The only employees who ever seem to get too familiar with me are waitresses. It's a little off-putting, but not a huge deal.
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i'm from the south and talk like that is common out of both men and women. only thing that makes me feel uncomfortable is being called "boo" by anyone i'm not in a relationship with.
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_kYcEcgRWcw
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Rockies posted...

What do you think?

Oh you would hate Yorkshire in England then. We always say "love" or "duck" when it comes to members of the opposite sex. It's just others being friendly as far as I'm concerned and it doesn't bother me at all.

Cruddy_horse posted...

I don't mind when women do it but when guys do it it feels kinda awkward.

Guys tend to be like "mate" or "sir" when talking to the same sex. I admit I like the later.
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wwinterj25 posted...

Oh you would hate Yorkshire in England then. We always say "love" or "duck" when it comes to members of the opposite sex. It's just others being friendly as far as I'm concerned and it doesn't bother me at all.

lulz I just looked it up

Ay up mi duck
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darcandkharg31 posted...

Ay up mi duck

Ey up Duck. Ow do?
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