Poll of the Day > I'm moving to Germany in 2 weeks

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For my woman. I'm 28 and from the US. I've been in a 4 year long distance relationship with this lady (it's been really tough) Shes visited the US 3 times and ive visited her 2. I tried everything in my power to convince her to move to the US but she does not want to because of our Health care system among other things. So I have caved in and have decided to move to Germany for her also because I feel I owe it to her for putting up with me for all of this time. I don't speak a lick of German I don't know what im going to do for a job over there but im going to give it my all to make it over there. You guys have any advice??

Dont heil Hitler ever!

Also have you done all the proper paperwork to legally move/work in Germany?
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Ogurisama posted...

Dont heil Hitler ever!

Also have you done all the proper paperwork to legally move/work in Germany?

Ive applied for an extended stay visa from the consulate's here in the US months ago and just barely got a call last week from the lady asking me if im still interested in persuing it. I said yes ofcourse and she just told me that I have to go to the local aliens office over there to get it.

Right now im also trying to put a cv together to able to apply for jobs.

I honestly just would not move to another country whose language is not my own.

So dump her and move on.
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Good timing, especially since "refugees" from God knows where have preferential treatment

Can't speak the language and no job prospects, a brilliant plan if I ever saw one. Hope your job skills are marketable at least and you have a decent chunk of savings. Should also be learning as much German as you can in these two weeks. This plan of yours smells like disaster though.
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GFqsGangster posted...

Shes visited the US 3 times and ive visited her 2.

How long were these visits for?
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dragon504 posted...

Can't speak the language and no job prospects, a brilliant plan if I ever saw one. Hope your job skills are marketable at least and you have a decent chunk of savings. Should also be learning as much German as you can in these two weeks. This plan of yours smells like disaster though.

To be fair, Germany and Switzerland are one of the few places where you can move there and just speak English, there's a bunch of people who speak it anyway.

You should give some amount of effort in learning the language though.

shadowsword87 posted...

You should give some amount of effort in learning the language though.

I heard Call of Duty: World War 2 as well as Battlefield 1 have tons of German in it.

German is a pretty easy language to learn IIRC.
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So you don't know the language of the country you're moving to but she won't move because 'muh healthcare'.

Sounds like a great relationship.
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go for it. you can become conversational in a year given total immersion. german health care and university are supposedly pretty good.
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wwinterj25 posted...

GFqsGangster posted...

Shes visited the US 3 times and ive visited her 2.

How long were these visits for?

Her first time was 2 weeks, 2nd time was a month, third was 2 weeks again.

Smarkil posted...

So you don't know the language of the country you're moving to but she won't move because 'muh healthcare'.

Sounds like a great relationship.

Been a really rocky one i'm not gonna lie we've been on and off a couple of times. But we love each other we just somehow keep coming back to each other. So I have to do this to see if it can work out for the long run.

She's a really headstrong person she loves her home, she doesn't want to leave it and she's not a big fan of how our country does some things. It's nuts I know I said the same thing why date someone from the country that you don't like or don't want to move to. But it happened.

She's cheating on you.
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Lonestar2000 posted...

She's cheating on you.

Don't know what would be the point of staying with me if she were

What exactly are your qualifications/job skills? Because your lack of German proficiency will hugely matter depending on what field you wanna work in. I work for a tech company in Munich, and everyone there speaks excellent English, but good luck getting by without speaking German in more menial jobs.

It's also gonna make a large difference which city you move to - Munich, Berlin and Frankfurt are great for people who aren't really familiar with the language, but your experience is gonna be vastly different in smaller cities or more rural areas.
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Watch the movie Eurotrip. That should prep you enough. It's a similar situation.
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Good luck. Not being able to speak German isn't a big deal. My good friend doesn't but travels there frequently for business. You should also consider looking for US based jobs that need people in Germany.

All the people telling "this is dumb" are afraid of change and don't like leaving their comfort zones.
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yolo and such

Get your CV in immaculate order and start using Duolingo. Have contingency plans in order just in case shit goes south (again) with your partner. Don't frame it as much as moving for/to her... Plan this move for you and what you'd need to have in place to live there.
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Download the Duolingo app on your phone. It does a decent job of teaching you the basics. German is really similar to English so it shouldn't be too hard if you try and immerse yourself and try to only speak German.
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SSJ4Bejita posted...

What exactly are your qualifications/job skills? Because your lack of German proficiency will hugely matter depending on what field you wanna work in. I work for a tech company in Munich, and everyone there speaks excellent English, but good luck getting by without speaking German in more menial jobs.

It's also gonna make a large difference which city you move to - Munich, Berlin and Frankfurt are great for people who aren't really familiar with the language, but your experience is gonna be vastly different in smaller cities or more rural areas.

I am only a highschool graduate that has worked at a movie theaterbfor the past 7 years cleaning auditoriums and at a Best Buy store in the warehouse department for 3 years and at a game room for 3 years as well. For the past 3 years I have been juggling 3 part time jobs. That's it that's all ive been doing. I don't have a college education I dont have any qualifications or proffesional experience. Only the will to bust my ass for whatever job I can get.

GFqsGangster posted...

I am only a highschool graduate that has worked at a movie theaterbfor the past 7 years cleaning auditoriums and at a Best Buy store in the warehouse department for 3 years and at a game room for 3 years as well. For the past 3 years I have been juggling 3 part time jobs. That's it that's all ive been doing. I don't have a college education I dont have any qualifications or proffesional experience. Only the will to bust my ass for whatever job I can get.

Something tells me that they will not want you to move there if you are unskilled.

Steven010702 posted...

Download the Duolingo app on your phone. It does a decent job of teaching you the basics. German is really similar to English so it shouldn't be too hard if you try and immerse yourself and try to only speak German.

Never heard of that app I will thank you! I also bought a little phrasebook to carry around with me everywhere too

Smarkil posted...

So you don't know the language of the country you're moving to but she won't move because 'muh healthcare'.

Sounds like a great relationship.

Well, depending on your health situation, """"""muh healthcare"""""" is actually rather a significant factor.
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The way my gf sees it she thinks that if the non german speaking refugees can manage living her own country then I should be able to too. Her patients havetold her of english speaking places where I could try to apply to. So there may be a chance.

Thanks for the encouriging words guys im definetly trying to keep a positive outlook on it. Because people get around all over the world. I just feel there has to be a way for me to make it over there. We'll see how it works out.

Dude, you got this! Just keep a positive light on this and ignore the naysayers.
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GFqsGangster posted...

The way my gf sees it she thinks that if the non german speaking refugees can manage living her own country then I should be able to too. Her patients havetold her of english speaking places where I could try to apply to. So there may be a chance.

Are you a military aged Middle-Eastern man who they advertise as "women and orphans"? To the point where the German government evicted property owners from their own homes, to house these people? And to the point where Angela Merkel, in a sheer display of brilliance, against the wishes of the majority of Germans, is importing even more?

http://www.truthrevolt.org/news/huge-migrant-wave-set-hit-europe-german-intel-says

They don't want you there. You don't even want to be there. But Angela Merkel is trying to destroy Europe.

I don't like to shit on people's ideas, but this is a fucking terrible idea. You don't know German, have no advanced education, your only work experience is cleaning, and your relationship with this woman is rocky. Don't do this. At all. Don't even consider it.

No I'm not middle eastern lol

I'm Hispanic half Mexican and Salvadoran. From Texas.

SushiSquid posted...

I don't like to shit on people's ideas, but this is a fucking terrible idea. You don't know German, have no advanced education, your only work experience is cleaning, and your relationship with this woman is rocky. Don't do this. At all. Don't even consider it.

It may sound like one but f*** it ive got nothing else better going on right now in my life anyways nothing to lose.

GFqsGangster posted...

No I'm not middle eastern lol

I'm Hispanic half Mexican and Salvadoran. From Texas.

TheWorstPoster is the last person to listen to for relocation advice anyway, let alone to a new country. Been living with his parents his whole life.

The risk-averse side of me is leaning on SushiSquid's post though... You really, really should have your ducks in a row before going through with this. How much money do you have saved?
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GFqsGangster posted...

No I'm not middle eastern lol

I'm Hispanic half Mexican and Salvadoran. From Texas.

They don't care.

Do you know what the hell just happened in Spain?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hGw5UXmohUQ

RCtheWSBC posted...

GFqsGangster posted...

No I'm not middle eastern lol

I'm Hispanic half Mexican and Salvadoran. From Texas.

TheWorstPoster is the last person to listen to for relocation advice anyway, let alone to a new country. Been living with his parents his whole life.

The risk-averse side of me is leaning on SushiSquid's post though... You really, really should have your ducks in a row before going through with this. How much money do you have saved?

Nothing really i may be able to leave with like 600 bucks i barely managed to get the plane ticket not too long ago. I will be depending on her too. And im just really hoping that I can find something on time. I mean ill do anything. But yeah its a round trip ticket set for 3 months too so just incase.

My cousin lived in Germany for 2 years and never had a problem with the language. Granted, she lived on a military base, but she still managed.

I am sure if I asked I probably know more German then she does, and I only know the stuff my mother taught me (which is all of 5 words).
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GFqsGangster posted...

RCtheWSBC posted...

GFqsGangster posted...

No I'm not middle eastern lol

I'm Hispanic half Mexican and Salvadoran. From Texas.

TheWorstPoster is the last person to listen to for relocation advice anyway, let alone to a new country. Been living with his parents his whole life.

The risk-averse side of me is leaning on SushiSquid's post though... You really, really should have your ducks in a row before going through with this. How much money do you have saved?

Nothing really i may be able to leave with like 600 bucks i barely managed to get the plane ticket not too long ago. I will be depending on her too. And im just really hoping that I can find something on time. I mean ill do anything. But yeah its a round trip ticket set for 3 months too so just incase.

Dude, you are going to get turned around once you get off the plane. I hate to say it, only have $600 in your pocket, you can't legally work over there. All you applied for is an extended stay visa, that only allows you to stay and travel, not work. Plus $600 doesnt go far in Europe, so yeah I hate to be the one breaking this to you.
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Guys, he has sunny's blessing. Back off, okay? That's all he needs.
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You're going to blow the last tiny bit of money you have on this. Please get as much of a refund for your plane ticket as you can and don't do this. I know it sounds hard to break off a four-year relationship, but it's better than wasting even more time on it. Know when to hold 'em, and know when to fold 'em. It's time to fold before you go bust.

As for not having anything here, yes you do. I'm sure you do, and you'll see that once you get your head clear of this idea.

TheWorstPoster posted...

GFqsGangster posted...

The way my gf sees it she thinks that if the non german speaking refugees can manage living her own country then I should be able to too. Her patients havetold her of english speaking places where I could try to apply to. So there may be a chance.

Are you a military aged Middle-Eastern man who they advertise as "women and orphans"? To the point where the German government evicted property owners from their own homes, to house these people? And to the point where Angela Merkel, in a sheer display of brilliance, against the wishes of the majority of Germans, is importing even more?

http://www.truthrevolt.org/news/huge-migrant-wave-set-hit-europe-german-intel-says

They don't want you there. You don't even want to be there. But Angela Merkel is trying to destroy Europe.

You really have a weird fascination with that.

Let's assume the worst. You have a falling out in the first 2 weeks and she puts you out. You would be alone in Germany with no money and no job. What would you do?

Smarkil posted...

So you don't know the language of the country you're moving to but she won't move because 'muh healthcare'.

Sounds like a great relationship.

One problem is easy to fix, the other is not.
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Please be fake news
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So you have no skills, no ability to speak the native language, no prospects, no money, no plan. This will work out splendidly.
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XlaxJynx007 posted...

So you have no skills, no ability to speak the native language, no prospects, no money, no plan. This will work out splendidly.

I hope his girlfriend knows she is essentially signing up to be a sugar mamma for the next few years at least.

That or he is going to get dumped in a month or so and be completely up shit creek without a paddle.
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Dikitain posted...

That or he is going to get dumped in a month or so and be completely up shit creek without a paddle.

Makes me wonder, would that make a decent case for civil court?
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Under zero circumstances should you EVER do anything related to Nazi symbolism.
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Nichtcrawler X posted...

Dikitain posted...

That or he is going to get dumped in a month or so and be completely up shit creek without a paddle.

Makes me wonder, would that make a decent case for civil court?

Well I know in the states there are protections for people who come over from foreign counties and end up in abusive or unstable relationships later down the road without having anything to fall back on. Those typically deal with marriages though, not something like this.

Plus I have no idea how the court system in Germany works.
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What region in Germany ?
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