Poll of the Day > Have you ever managed to become "just friends" with an ex?

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Asking for a friend
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I believe it's possible, but it hasn't personally happened.
Besides that my only real ex was barely my friend when we were together. Complicated dramatic story.
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Sure

Not all of them tho
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What ex?
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Sure, but only because their worth as a gf was garbage so breaking up didn't mean dick to me.

In my mind, if you are in a mindset that you want to break up with somebody then they've exhausted all value they'd have as a friend too, and if they want to break up with you then you've exhausted all value to them so they can go fuck themselves.
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I'm friends with most of my exes. Although friendship at this point is pretty much just being friends on Facebook. I haven't hung out with an ex in years.

I'm on good terms with a majority of them, though.
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ZBug_ posted...

I believe it's possible, but it hasn't personally happened.

I prefer to not talk to my exes at all
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Yeah.
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For a while, yes. But usually around the time they get married we just stop talking to each other.

I am still Facebook friends with one of them, but that is it.
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Nah. I've stayed friends with people I've had sex with though.

yep

she kind of took advantage of my kindness a lot at first (mostly having me ferry her everywhere and ALWAYS being hours late when I'm doing her a favor....) and when i got fed up with it she accused me of only being friends for sex, but other than that it's been pretty cool
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usui88 posted...

Asking for a friend

If you can be friends, why are you broken up?
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Hell no
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Syntheticon posted...

usui88 posted...

Asking for a friend

If you can be friends, why are you broken up?

Well it's sort of a weird situation. We only broke up because I moved, otherwise we might not have. We still talked for a while but after a few months we stopped. It's been a long time and then he added me on Facebook and started talking about how he just got divorced and where was I living now and it's been so long since we talked.

We only dated for about six months, but were friends for a year and a half before then so

:/
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Nah. Never had a relationship end where we didn't fucking despise each other

Well, I've only ever had one committed official girlfriend, and we've never broke up (though there's been a handful of close calls - it's been a stressful 17 years). As for the 'she's-not-my-girlfriend' girls that have come and gone, I've never stayed friends with them because we just drifted apart. But those relationships can't be understood through the lens of serial monogamy either, so that's complicated.

I know that I couldn't stay friends with my GF if something did happen because the trajectory of our relationship was always romantic, even when we were friends. As friends our relationship was/is a disaster of unmet emotional needs from each other that can't really be resolved within the framework of friendship. We needed framework for physical intimacy beyond just sex, emotional support, a stable home life with some accountability to each other, and assurances that we wouldn't flake out on each other when things got difficult, also sex. I've never been a big fan of the institution of marriage, I think it carries a lot of unnecessary social and legal baggage, but I understand it from a practical standpoint.

The reverse was true of the person my GF broke up with when getting into a relationship with me (or more accurately, realizing she had already been in one for some time, something that really needed to be made official). As a couple they were a disaster, neither one able to meet or entirely understand the needs of the other, but staying within a framework that obligated them to do so. Their relationship actually improved a great deal after.
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RCtheWSBC posted...

ZBug_ posted...

I believe it's possible, but it hasn't personally happened.

I prefer to not talk to my exes at all

I agree with RC, but then again, I don't know if a future relationship will end and then I stay friends with them.
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well not friends in the proper sense, but some of my exes and I are not on bad terms and would be able to talk without problems. Others, not so much.
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I'm not against it and ironically - though not quite the same thing - my best friends are guys/girls I've crushed on at one point or another. The feelings eventually faded though and before they did so there were usually reasons we didn't date.

Only one serious relationship​ was actually a thing for me though. That piece of shit cheated on me so I wouldn't give him the time of day.,
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Yep! My first girlfriend and I are still good friends. Granted we broke up years ago and our relationship had no meaning, but we're friends.
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