Poll of the Day > How old is too old to live with parents?

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I'm 33 and still live with my dad. I'm looking for work at the moment but also contribute to the household. Not only the bills but the chores too. I know it's not normal to be living at home at my age with with only me and my old man in this house and us both doing our own thing it's not that much different to living with a housemate as far as I'm concerned and it certainly costs less than living alone.

I'm aware of some countries cultures to move out of their parents house as son as they hit 18-20. Sometimes with or without a job and sometimes just to live alone. I personally would hate living alone but I have learned through my life that everyones situation is different so I made this poll.

Bonus question: What is your current living situation?

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Screw normal. If it works for you and it works for them, who's to say it's wrong?

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Seriously, be happy you have family, and even more, family you can stand enough to live with. If anyone gives you shit about it, screw them.

Most places it's extremely expensive to rent your own place now, so your choice is living with strangers (roomates), friends (if your lucky), or relatives.

You can hopefully trust your parents to not screw you over, so living with them seems like a good choice if it's an option.

For the bonus question I rent, well it's not a basement anymore, basically just a room with my own bathroom (used to have 2 rooms down here but they are using the other as storage since I wasn't using it). I didn't ask to pay less rent though. I'm paying $575, which is really too much for what I'm getting, but I'm not motivated enough to move during the pandemic. By the time this is over, it'll be winter again (to dark, to hard for me to move in winter here), which means i'm stuck here till next spring/summer at the earliest.

I WISH I was living with relatives (I do have a few uncles still alive), never knew my dad (he took off when I was 2 and even though I tried I could never find him), and my mom (who was never a mother to me) is dead, along with my brother.

My friends are all in either CA where I lived most of my life (but it's way to expensive to live there now), or Olympia which is too far for me to drive, so I'm basically all alone, in a basement for another 8 months or so I guess.

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I don't really think there's an age limit. If it works for you, it works for you. Why move out and have to pay more when it's easier if you two stay in the same place? That's why I didn't move out until I was in the Air Force. Though, dating may have been hard if I stayed much longer. Though, that depends. My brother is 21 and stills lives at home because there's no reason to really move out...

As for me, I currently live with a roommate. We rent. I'm hoping soon to buy a house. My roommate said he'll rent a room from me. And possibly my BF. Though, he did just move into a rental that's pretty cool. So maybe not. And I'm hoping to have 4 (or possibly 3) rooms. So I can rent out another room or two, as well...
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Shadowbird_RH posted...

Screw normal. If it works for you and it works for them, who's to say it's wrong?

You know, 10 years ago I would have said differently, and probably been a dick about it. I say go for what works and makes you and your dad happy, ok?

As for my current situation, I live with my wife and kid, but I think I might add my mother soon, because she's getting really old, ok?

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save money

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LinkPizza posted...

I don't really think there's an age limit. If it works for you, it works for you. Why move out and have to pay more when it's easier if you two stay in the same place?

The idea is first to get a job and then save enough to move out. Possibly with roommates. However in the meantime the setup I have just works and I'm certainly not a burden on my old man.

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Twelve

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I feel like in the US it's kinda considered bad during your twenties but then parents start reaching an age they need to be taken care of and it becomes normal again. I'm sick and living with my sick mother and grandma and not sick uncle and I'm 28. Feels somewhat embarassing sometimes but not that big of a deal.

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Never too old. So long as said parents are fine with it then i see no issue.

For the bonus question i am 25 and living with my adoptive mother. I would need to work 2 jobs to be able to afford living on my own and at that point theres no reason to live at all if you ask me. I already hate how much time i lose to one job two sounds like absolute hell.

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28. After that dating is impossible.
It starts getting tough around 23 but you can still make excuses for why you're at home.

Obviously there are exceptional circumstances like a parent being sick, divorce, unexpected job loss, yadda yadda.

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It's more life event than age. In the West, guys tend to move out when they're done with their education. In the East, supposedly it's not unusual for people to live with their parents until they get married.

If somebody is still living with their folks when they're in their late 20s and everybody involved is able-bodied, sound mind, etc, then usually something has gone wrong in their lives. Either they can't find good-paying, steady employment or lack the capacity for independence. Which isn't to say that short-term life events can't necessarily bring somebody back. My cousin and his wife moved in with his in-laws for a few months while they were in the process of buying a house because it made more sense than doing a short-term rental. (Personally, I would have gone for the short-term rental.)

Even if somebody is best friends with one of their parents, it's still kinda weird. Hell, even if the parents own a mansion, it'd be a little weird.

Granted, this is one of those questions where if you have to ask, you probably already know the answer.

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Really depends on the situation. I moved out to halls for uni, then moved to Kent for my first job, then moved back with the parents for a year when I got a job back in London. Now I live alone in my flat.

Ultimately depends on the persons own situation really. I know first hand its hard enough to move out of the parents house especially down south cos rent is crazy and buying a place is even crazier. Long as you have a plan then just do whatever works for you .

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You're 33 now, but what happens when you're 43, or 53? Who's going to take care of your father then? Many brave, honorable and economically productive children live at home. It's not unusual at all.

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I'm 33 and moved out when I was 21. I live with my wife and our son. I only moved out because she got pregnant, so we needed our own place. Otherwise I would have probably stayed longer and saved more money.

Whenever you get your first pocket monster.

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If you're living in the basement at 30, mooching off your parents, you're too old to comport yourself like a teenager.

If you're an adult, helping support the household or caring for your parents, there's no age limit.

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Depends on the context:

Mooching, as long as your parents can tolerate you... whether that be 18~22
Loving economic relationship... as long as you like, your money is their money!
Parents are old and you're living with them to help change their adult diapers... please love your parents.

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Depends entirely on the situation. I moved out at 18 to attend university, moved back after I graduated, then moved out for good in my mid-20s after I bought a house for myself. I could have rented in those interim years, but the folks were willing to have me and that let me save up for the house faster, so why wouldn't I take advantage?

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If everyone is happy with the situation then you're never too old.


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It is really nobody's concern except the family involved. My home will always be open for my kids to come back to if they need to for any amount of time. Right now I also am living with my mother but I have moved her into my home because of a terminal illness.

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KopeofOnrac posted...

You're 33 now, but what happens when you're 43, or 53? Who's going to take care of your father then? Many brave, honorable and economically productive children live at home. It's not unusual at all.

To add to this, different cultures have different views on this.

In some cultures it's not unusual to have multiple generations living in the same home, sharing a bed with someone who isn't your partner, kissing to say "hello", etc.
In other cultures those things are viewed as taboo.

Sometimes life throws us a curveball and we do what we have to do til things get better. Good luck to you and keep your head up.

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Zeus posted...

If somebody is still living with their folks when they're in their late 20s and everybody involved is able-bodied, sound mind, etc, then usually something has gone wrong in their lives.

Unemployment is the bane of my existence.

KopeofOnrac posted...

You're 33 now, but what happens when you're 43, or 53? Who's going to take care of your father then? Many brave, honorable and economically productive children live at home. It's not unusual at all.

My dad is 65 and can look after himself. However if I reach 43 or even 53 I certainly hope to have moved out by then. AT that point I guess just me and my siblings will visit him as will his "gf".

Xfma100 posted...

To add to this, different cultures have different views on this.

Indeed. I find it interesting how the rest of the world works most the time.

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Xfma100 posted...

To add to this, different cultures have different views on this.

In some cultures it's not unusual to have multiple generations living in the same home, sharing a bed with someone who isn't your partner, kissing to say "hello", etc.
In other cultures those things are viewed as taboo.

I would say the same thing. And I would add that even if you live within a culture that is less tolerant towards it then it doesn't mean you can't do what works for you if it's something that doesn't hurt anyone.

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i'm 24 and live with my mom. we have a good relationship and given that i'm attending uni literally right down the road from my place, it just wouldn't make financial or practical sense to move out. i have my own space, feed myself and do my own chores, so we function more as roommates than anything. i come and go as i please.

i don't think it's forever though, i would definitely be looking at finding my own place once i've graduated and established my career. while my current situation is ideal, it does kinda make dating and socializing slightly more difficult

i don't think you're ever too old though. everyone's life situation is different

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I moved out when I was 23. It felt really shitty still living at home at 23.

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Xfma100 posted...

In some cultures it's not unusual to have multiple generations living in the same home

Yup. It's pretty normal in the Philippines.

Always found it weird when I moved to the US and found out that some parents basically kick their child out of the house once they could.

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We barely have any family left. My dad died two years ago and if I wasnt here then mom wouldnt have anyone to help her around the house. Ill stay in this house for the rest of my life.

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I moved out at 18. Never went back.
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in todays economical times there no too old.

save every dollar you can maybr try investing but the way the markets been lately just hunker down

wwinterj25 posted...

I'm aware of some countries cultures to move out of their parents house as son as they hit 18-20

I dont think this has really been a thing for a couple decades now. Its pretty much impossible for an 18 year old to afford to moving out nowadays without several roommates

Xfma100 posted...

In some cultures it's not unusual to have multiple generations living in the same home, sharing a bed with someone who isn't your partner, kissing to say "hello", etc.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EsE-E4OPZ84

Took me forever to find that clip. I've never seen the movie and thought that DeNiro played Jack Nicholson's role... and also was Adam Sandler's character was played by Ben Stiller.

Thankfully the name of the movie had popped into my head by then. Although first searching "DeNiro bed" gave me some interesting results >_> Oh, and apparently he's claiming to be broke now

https://pagesix.com/2020/07/09/robert-de-niro-says-coronavirus-decimated-his-finances/

Apparently his estranged wife -- who, in the article's photo, looks fucking awful -- had been getting a $100k/month allowance and was going to court because DeNiro had lowered it to $50k (wtf is wrong with these people?)

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nobody knows what youre talking about zues


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TheWitchMorgana posted...

i'm 24 and live with my mom. we have a good relationship and given that i'm attending uni literally right down the road from my place, it just wouldn't make financial or practical sense to move out. i have my own space, feed myself and do my own chores, so we function more as roommates than anything. i come and go as i please.

I approve of this.

OhhhJa posted...

I dont think this has really been a thing for a couple decades now. Its pretty much impossible for an 18 year old to afford to moving out nowadays without several roommates

I live and learn.

Zeus posted...

-snip-

Give me a reason to care about this as I didn't click your video.

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This is painful and sad to read.

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YoukaiSlayer posted...

I feel like in the US it's kinda considered bad during your twenties but then parents start reaching an age they need to be taken care of and it becomes normal again.

This. It's like what was the point? I was gone for all of 5 years. >_> Could have saved 10 grand at least.

anyone can live with their parents. ages 9 to 99

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Depends. If you truly want to stay home then by all means. If you're always complaining about living with them in your late 20s yet haven't taken actions to move out then....

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I think it depends on the situation. I currently live at home. I'm single, my work is nearby, but I contribute to the household by buying groceries, paying for cable, and other things.
I was looking to get another job that was out of state, but Covid striked. lol

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OniRonin posted...

anyone can live with their parents. ages 9 to 99

Wait...so you shouldn't live with parents until you turn 9?

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5nesta posted...

This is painful and sad to read.

How so?

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wwinterj25 posted...

How so?

He's trolling.
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Revelation34 posted...

He's trolling.

I like logical trolling.

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wwinterj25 posted...

Give me a reason to care about this as I didn't click your video.

If you clicked the video, you'd already know. If you don't click the video, you won't. Either way it's something specific to xmfa's comment.

Then the rest is just stuff related to me finding the clip. I thought the DeNiro court case was interesting, but YMMV.

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Teens.

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These day its never. The rental market and AirBNB has jacked up realty prices in some areas so much its impossible for the average person to own. Instead its mostly rentals.

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Veedrock- posted...

Teens.

Fuck I'm old.

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