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YOUHAVENOHOPE 07/11/18 2:45:14 AM #1: |
How much do you agree with the above quote? - Results (4 votes)
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Strongly disagree
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LinkPizza 07/11/18 2:46:11 AM #2: |
Explain...
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helIy 07/11/18 2:46:46 AM #3: |
your username is obnoxious
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Mead 07/11/18 5:15:26 AM #4: |
No not at all
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Kyuubi4269 07/11/18 5:19:23 AM #5: |
No, ass kissing is for unknowns.
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Keebs05 07/11/18 6:42:09 AM #6: |
I treat everyone like strangers.
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KJ StErOiDs 07/11/18 7:16:32 AM #7: |
That statement can be interpreted in many ways and I can't think of one that would make it correct.
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YOUHAVENOHOPE 07/11/18 7:46:18 AM #8: |
helIy posted...
your username is obnoxious YOUHAVENOH--**gets shot** --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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YOUHAVENOHOPE 07/11/18 7:47:35 AM #9: |
for reference
this is a sentiment oft expressed by Chinese visitors to the United States --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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demonfang178 07/11/18 8:00:44 AM #10: |
For reference but not clarity. Reminds me of the guy who makes topics but never includes the link.
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YOUHAVENOHOPE 07/11/18 8:03:36 AM #11: |
demonfang178 posted...
For reference but not clarity if it must be explained to you it is remarking on the difference in how Chinese (and many asians) behave for strangers as opposed to family In America it's not uncommon to be extra polite to strangers, whereas in many places in China being a stranger means you get the baseline level of polite. So the way Americans treat family, wanting to be away from them, openly hating in-laws, etc, is jarring to some because China has the Confucian-influenced social model, where elders and family are held in the highest esteem, and strangers don't need to be catered to *as much --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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adjl 07/11/18 8:38:03 AM #12: |
I think that's just capitalism at work. Strangers might give you money if you're polite to them. Family will give you the same amount of money regardless of your manners, up to a certain point.
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FatalAccident 07/11/18 9:01:48 AM #13: |
YOUHAVENOHOPE posted...
for reference How would they know what Americans treat their family like? Stop making up nonsense --- *walks away* ... Copied to Clipboard!
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YOUHAVENOHOPE 07/11/18 9:04:15 AM #14: |
FatalAccident posted...
How would they know what Americans treat their family like? im sorry are chinese nationals incapable of living in the US to work long enough to make observations about American family interactions --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Sarcasthma 07/11/18 9:07:09 AM #15: |
YOUHAVENOHOPE posted...
FatalAccident posted...How would they know what Americans treat their family like? I wouldn't call them visitors, though. --- What's the difference between a pickpocket and a peeping tom? A pickpocket snatches your watch. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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YOUHAVENOHOPE 07/11/18 9:08:35 AM #16: |
Sarcasthma posted...
I wouldn't call them visitors, though. It's a matter of semantics now I just wanted to see what PotD thought of the statement --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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aurick79 07/11/18 10:31:06 AM #17: |
If your in-laws/brother/aunt/etc. are horrible people, are they worthy of respect or politeness simply due to their relationship to you?
If I have a friend since childhood who would stand by me through thick or thin, but a brother who I only see once a year for holidays - should I prioritize my brother simply because of blood relationship? So I think the whole premise is bad to begin with - why should family get respect like that simply because they are family? For many of them, the only thing they did was have a common ancestry with me. Beyond that though... I think part of it is that its easy to fake being polite and show fake respect, especially if you follow the golden rule. I hold the door for a stranger because I would like them to hold one for me. I know nothing about that person, but being rude to them accomplishes nothing, it could actually backfire to basically treat them as nothing because then I cant expect them to do more than that in return. On the flip side, Im comfortable with my family. We joke around with each other and say pretty harsh things to each other, but we still love each other. I think having that level of comfort and honesty with family is a better sign of respect than simply faking it and following their orders simply because they are the elder. An abusive family member is not worthy of respect, regardless of their position, why should they be. People dont just hate their in-laws for no reason. People dont just break ties with their siblings without a reason. --- 3DS FC Scott 0533-5781-3558 Pokemon: Pidgey, Woobat, Rufflet ... Copied to Clipboard!
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CwebbMichSac4 07/11/18 10:47:47 AM #18: |
where did that quote come from tc? and how do you think it applies to most americans if it does?
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YOUHAVENOHOPE 07/11/18 10:51:23 AM #19: |
CwebbMichSac4 posted...
where did that quote come from tc? and how do you think it applies to most americans if it does? we don't extend the same courtesies that we do strangers often at least, in my observation a lot of americans seem more focused on being nice and courteous to strangers; etiquette and manners matter a whole lot less to some americans and their families also i've seen the quote in like three separate articles regarding foreigners visiting the US most recently one about why Chinese people "seem" rude compared to Americans --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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CwebbMichSac4 07/11/18 10:53:14 AM #20: |
chinese seem rude compared to most americans? you mean actual people in china? I've been to china and i don't notice a huge difference. Almost everybody treats those that they know and are related to better than strangers though.
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Kyuubi4269 07/11/18 10:54:00 AM #21: |
YOUHAVENOHOPE posted...
a lot of americans seem more focused on being nice and courteous to strangers; etiquette and manners matter a whole lot less to some americans and their families No shit? Family know what you mean, strangers don't. --- Scloud posted... Its like he wants two things at the same time. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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YOUHAVENOHOPE 07/11/18 10:54:26 AM #22: |
Im really confused as to where this hostility is coming from
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CwebbMichSac4 07/11/18 10:58:31 AM #23: |
YOUHAVENOHOPE posted...
Im really confused as to where this hostility is coming from your topic doesn't make much sense. Who treats strangers better than people they know and trust? ... Copied to Clipboard!
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ParanoidObsessive 07/11/18 11:02:25 AM #24: |
YOUHAVENOHOPE posted...
demonfang178 posted...For reference but not clarity So what you're saying is, the Chinese treat family like strangers, and strangers like family. --- "Wall of Text'D!" --- oldskoolplayr76 "POwned again." --- blight family ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Zeus 07/15/18 2:03:12 AM #25: |
YOUHAVENOHOPE posted...
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FatalAccident 07/15/18 3:44:09 AM #26: |
clearly u have no idea what on earth a visitor is
next time get your facts straight before making garbage topics --- *walks away* ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Conner4REAL 07/15/18 4:25:55 AM #27: |
Depends.
Family can fuck you up more than a stranger. So why shouldnt those types who do be kicked to the curb? family needs to act like family if they want to be respected as such. --- "Never be afraid to dream, if you can dream it you can make it come true" ~ Freddy Kruger ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Superrpgman 07/15/18 4:39:55 AM #28: |
My gramps is polite to everyone.
He's also a massive bigot who shouts racist, sexist, and homophobic expletives at most behind their backs. He's also stolen thousands of dollars from his family over the year, and he's amazing at making you feel sorry for him. My best friend is really uncomfortable around strangers. She'd also do just about anything for those she loves, and is a never ending supply of great advice and compassion, and just sorta leaves everyone else alone. Being polite only says so much about you. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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botsrule 07/15/18 1:45:46 PM #30: |
I've never heard that belief before. I treat some strangers better than my family but this is only because I know them all too well. lol
https://www.rw-3.com/blog/2014/01/why-the-chinese-dont-smile-at-strangers Today, it all comes down to in-groups and out-groups. The Chinese, in general, learn to see the world in these terms, with a trusted inner circle and everyone else on the outside. Westerners should also know that many Chinese find some of their behavior equally as puzzling. For example, many say that Americans, treat strangers like family and their families like strangers. http://www.china-mike.com/chinese-culture/understanding-chinese-mind/in-out-groups/ Many expats and longer-term residents complain that the Chinese have a Not in my backyard view of the world. The general attitude is It doesnt affect me or my family so why should I care? I remember reading a story told by an expat who was buying something on the street with his expat friend. There was a near-accident that somehow caused a manhole to come free. Everyone on the street watched as other cars almost got into accidents as they swerved to avoid the hole. Finally, the two expats walked over and replaced the manhole. When they returned, the vendor said that no Chinese wouldve gone to the trouble to do what they did. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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wwinterj25 07/15/18 1:51:49 PM #31: |
Some folk treat friends like family and and family like strangers but that's understandable. I wouldn't say many folk treat strangers as family.
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Superrpgman 07/15/18 5:04:02 PM #32: |
Here's another thing to think about.
My grandma is essentially a walking Texas stereotype. 5 seconds of her and I immediately want to hang up the phone. Meanwhile I run into someone outside of starbucks and strike up a conversation, and I find out that she's super sick of bigots too, and she comes off as a really kind person with similar interests. I've never seen her since, but that conversation we had meant a hell of a lot more than just about any time I've spent with my extended family on my moms side. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Relinquished 07/15/18 5:24:19 PM #33: |
Superrpgman posted...
Meanwhile I run into someone outside of starbucks and strike up a conversation, and I find out that she's super sick of bigots too, and she comes off as a really kind person with similar interests. Wow thats radical. And pretentious. And everyone clapped. The fact that its Starbucks too makes people uncertain. Was that the goal? --- EVERYBODY IS THEIR OWN GENIUS...and an alt. Remember that. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Superrpgman 07/15/18 7:06:24 PM #34: |
Relinquished posted...
And pretentious. I don't think you know what that word means. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Revelation34 07/16/18 4:58:32 AM #35: |
Superrpgman posted...
Here's another thing to think about. You should make an advertisement on Craigslist seeking her out. --- Gamertag: Kegfarms, BF code: 2033480226, Treasure Cruise code 318,374,355, Steam: Kegfarms ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Yellow 07/16/18 5:21:44 AM #36: |
I work in customer service. That's true.
The thing is, before I started being a smiley idiot at work I'd get a complaint a month from some idiot that didn't like my "attitude". If I'm not a smiling idiot, I can tell my intelligent customers actually appreciate it, but then I get that grown child drama queen once a month. I honestly do not care about those people anymore, nor should I have ever cared. I'm not your friend, I don't know you, I won't remember you, I shouldn't be more friendly to you than I am any member in my family. --- "Everyone knows the law doesn't matter if it's a little kid breaking it!" ~TheOrangeMisfit on 1 year olds ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Relinquished 07/16/18 11:25:16 AM #37: |
Superrpgman posted...
Relinquished posted...And pretentious. That means you dont know what it means, thanks for telling us. And deflections means I was right. Ciao. --- EVERYBODY IS THEIR OWN GENIUS...and an alt. Remember that. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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LinkPizza 07/16/18 12:24:46 PM #38: |
I don't see it as true. It doesn't make that much sense to me. And I'm usually nice to everyone. But, at the same time, I love my family. And like them, too. I've heard a lot of people seem to hate their family, or hate being around them, or avoid them, etc... Especially on this board. By family, I mean other than significant other & children. And it's not always everyone, but sometimes, lot of them.
When it comes to strangers, I do things like hold the door, or polite conversation at certain times, and stuff like that. But that's just being polite. But I don't treat them like friends or family. --- Official King of Kings Switch FC: 7216-4417-4511 Add Me because I'll probably add you. I'm probably the LinkPizza you'll see around. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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