Poll of the Day > How should I ask out this cute cashier? :3

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Shes too adorbs to ignore, and her facebook is full of romance posts about how shes waiting for "the right one", etc etc.

Should I just tell her my name, tel I I think shes cute and I like her and walk away. (to get her thinking about me first then drop by a few times after that, maybe just to smile or wave).

Idk I feel like she might be more resistant to a direct approach and I should kind of get her "used to" me first then ask to go out.
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Don't do it.
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Not while shes working.
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Stupid Pirate Guy posted...

Not while shes working.

Yeah, just wait outside the store until she gets off work and flirt with her then.
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darcandkharg31 posted...

Yeah, just wait outside the store until she gets off work and flirt with her then.

This, wait outside then run up to her and tell her she pretty innit.

What's the matter with you?!?!?!

Everyone knows you're supposed to put a love letter in her shoe locker!!!
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Forget about it. If it's something you have to plan, you've already failed.
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Bro this is my shtick gtfo
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No, you should assume you failed, go home, and sulk.
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Just go up to her after work, ask if she wants to help you find some schezuan sauce *burp*, and see if she is worth spending time with.
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All girls have that romantic fantasy, it's nothing special and it never works out for them.
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If you're reading things on her Facebook page, is it because you know and see her outside of her job? If so, ask her out then.

Is it instead because you're just looking her up online? If so, leave her alone.

Become a pizza delivery guy, bring a pizza over to her workplace, and say that it comes with extra sausage, while you wink and smile.

don't bother she already has tons of guys asking her out every single day if she likes you she'll ask you

I have had a crush on a Starbucks girl for like 4-5 years now, I still wouldnt ask he out though..
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She sounds like a weeb.
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Buy a box of magnum condoms to demonstrate that you have a monster dong

MICHALECOLE posted...

Buy a box of magnum condoms to demonstrate that you have a monster dong

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RH5EPDkmyFw
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MICHALECOLE posted...

Buy a box of magnum condoms to demonstrate that you have a monster dong

Twist is, she works as a cashier at a fast food place
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Unless she's college-aged and just doing this until she gets a degree, you probably shouldn't bother >_> Otherwise just chat her up a few times then ask what she does in her off-time, pretend to have a similar interest, and suggest doing that together sometime. Of course, depending on the activity, you might not want to do that.

Stupid Pirate Guy posted...

Not while shes working.

That honestly doesn't matter.

SushiSquid posted...

If you're reading things on her Facebook page, is it because you know and see her outside of her job? If so, ask her out then.

Is it instead because you're just looking her up online? If so, leave her alone.

He was probably just scouting to see if she was single or something. There's nothing terribly wrong about that. What's weird, though, is people who meet somebody IRL, barely talk to them, then try to add them on social. That's something that should be done IRL.
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Zeus posted...

pretend to have a similar interest,

Haha. Please don't pretend.
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do a mating dance
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Lol I knew I shouldnt have asked gamefaqs

I will do my own methods and report results if theres anything juicy
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how have you found her on facebook?
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There is no chance this is going to go well unless you're super smooth and handsome.
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You don't.

She probably has guys hitting on her all day long and is sick of it.
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lol at all the people saying dont even try XD
What defeatists

Smarkil posted...

how have you found her on facebook?

Her names on a employee's photo of her getting a certificate
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How should I make a move on this person that is literally being paid to be nice to me?
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deoxxys posted...

Her names on a employee's photo of her getting a certificate

Mad creepy.
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-Whip it out
-Assume she'll say no to you and wallow in self-pity
-Find out where she lives and ask her then
-Kidnap her
-"I deoxxys, son of *father's name here* wish to initiate a relationship of mutual understanding and happiness in pursuit of finding a meaningful significant other, will you be a fellow compatriot of such endeavour?"
-Make eye contact with her and wink, do this at least once a day until she wants to talk to you
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deoxxys posted...

lol at all the people saying dont even try XD
What defeatists

Smarkil posted...

how have you found her on facebook?

Her names on a employee's photo of her getting a certificate

No, it's a matter of reason. You'll put her in an awkward position by asking her out at work, and unless you're already across that "familiarity barrier" where you're kind of friends, the chance of it not causing problems is slim (and I mean objectively, not some weird stalker version of friendship). Nobody is trying to ruin your life, we are pointing out that you are doing something stupid in a creepy way.

It's hopefully a joke, but in case it's not: don't do it. You sound like you have an obsession. What is your current track record with the ladies? Unless it's "James Bond", I'd take the hint and assume other people may be onto something here, and it's not being negative as much as accurate...
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TheCyborgNinja posted...

There is no chance this is going to go well unless you're super smooth and handsome.

Honestly, what's the worst that can happen? Unless he leaves a creepy note or something, she'll just say no and everybody gets on with their lives. I think it's a stupid idea for another set of reasons, which have more to do with if he wants to make a permanent relationship of this.

rexcrk posted...

You don't.

She probably has guys hitting on her all day long and is sick of it.

Don't advocate for people to be pansies. Most guys are passive enough by nature. The last thing this nation needs is more herbivore men.

Mead posted...

How should I make a move on this person that is literally being paid to be nice to me?

Because apparently employees can't like you and women never look for men.

TheCyborgNinja posted...

No, it's a matter of reason. You'll put her in an awkward position by asking her out at work, and unless you're already across that "familiarity barrier" where you're kind of friends, the chance of it not causing problems is slim (and I mean objectively, not some weird stalker version of friendship). Nobody is trying to ruin your life, we are pointing out that you are doing something stupid in a creepy way.

That's a pathetic rationale. First off, whenever somebody asks out another person there's the potential for awkwardness because feelings aren't always reciprocated. Second, unless there's a huge age gap or something, there's nothing inherently creepy in doing it. Literally the only knock here is on the girl herself because she's a cashier and, unless Deoxxys is a high school dropout, he can probably do better. And, even if he is a high school dropout, he probably can do better.

TheCyborgNinja posted...

It's hopefully a joke, but in case it's not: don't do it. You sound like you have an obsession. What is your current track record with the ladies? Unless it's "James Bond", I'd take the hint and assume other people may be onto something here, and it's not being negative as much as accurate...

What does he lose by doing it? Nothing. Worst case scenario is feeling so awkward he doesn't come back for a while. Unless it's some place he goes all the time, there's no real loss.

Is it going to work? Probably not, because if she was all that interested she'd likely to be giving strong signals or writing her number down on his receipt. (Speaking of, way back when I worked retail, one of my female co-workers got written up for leaving her number and a note in a package of photos she developed for a guy she liked.)
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You don't.
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I wrote her a letter of confession, took like an hour and half to write up.

Either way I'm happy.

I've lived my life fearing rejection for far too long, and I have many regrets from not even trying when I liked someone. Who knows, I may have lost my potential soul mate by not even trying and that is why I find these comments about not even trying, disgusting.
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deoxxys posted...

I wrote her a letter of confession, took like an hour and half to write up.

Please tell me that's a joke. That's exactly the shit that Starbucks guy did that not only got him banned from that restaurant but he made headlines over the incident.
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deoxxys posted...

I wrote her a letter of confession, took like an hour and half to write up.

holy shit I hope this isn't real.
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In honor of this topic, I might ask out the next cute cashier I see. Granted, since I live and work in CT, that might take months.
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no what

You haven't even shared why it is you know her last name... but if you want to be a martyr that badly, ok

*tracks topic 3 times*
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deoxxys posted...

I wrote her a letter of confession, took like an hour and half to write up.

Either way I'm happy.

Well you stalk her Facebook so this is the next logical step.
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darcandkharg31 posted...

deoxxys posted...

I wrote her a letter of confession, took like an hour and half to write up.

holy shit I hope this isn't real.

Oh god I'm switching between this and desperately hoping he posts a screenshot of it so hard I'm getting whiplash
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RIP_Supa posted...

no what

You haven't even shared why it is you know her last name... but if you want to be a martyr that badly, ok

He already said he looked her up on Facebook.
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please post screenshot of letter
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Yellow posted...

*tracks topic 3 times*

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Wait

You like internet stalked her? Bit creepy my guy

Just ask for her number next time she checks you out. She'll either say no, she "has a boyfriend", she'll give you a fake number, or she'll give you the real thing.

Be aware that 3/4 answers mean you can never return to that store.
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Didn't read the entire topic

Bruh don't give her a letter and walk away like some beta cuck. Walk right up to her, tell her she looks nice today, ask her for her number.
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For reference I also have a "crush" on a cute cashier

She works at the vape store I go to. Tight little body with a massive ass, and I mean MASSIVE. Always wearing tight yoga pants and bending over right in front of me to get the coils. She knows what she's doing.

Haven't asked her out yet since I already have a couple fuck toys, but mostly because I can't afford to not be able to go to that store. Best one around.
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How do you have her Facebook? If you're some orbiter that already hits Like on every profile pic she uploads you've got 0 chance of her seeing you as anything other than furniture. If you're just stalking her and know her from some other venue then ask her in a more normal situation.

If you only ever see her at her job then just go up, make a quick comment or two to show her you're actually talking to her and not just auto-pilot buying coffee and then ask for her number. Don't overdo it and waste her time if there's people behind you. Wait until it's not busy, spend one or two minutes warming her up and then pull the trigger asap and leave.

SmokeMassTree posted...

Didn't read the entire topic

Bruh don't give her a letter and walk away like some beta cuck. Walk right up to her, tell her she looks nice today, ask her for her number.

Look, I've not had that much success with asking girls out, but how you do it is really not that hard. If you just compliment her and ask her out for a date (coffee, drinks, whatever), or go for her number if you feel confident enough, that's all you can do. If she says no then you did nothing wrong. You don't need to spend 90 mins writing a letter confessing your feelings...she's going to be totally freaked out. Imagine a random girl came up to you and did the same, whom you hardly know.

That said, don't take the advice of other guys here who worry about all possible circumstances and make all possible excuses. I've done that before, and you just end up not asking out anyone. Better to approach more people and make mistakes than never approach anyone. You learn from the mistakes, and there's a chance they will say yes anyway. It's great that you managed to overcome your fear of approaching her, and although you probably made a mistake, you'll learn from it and will get it right next time. Sometimes it's right for the circumstances to put you off, but it should be rare. Whenever I'm trying to make excuses, I justify it to myself as best as possible, and if it doesn't add up (it usually doesn't) I go for it.

In my experience (and I've done both), it's much more appropriate to ask, "I'd like to take you out on a date" when you have strong feelings for someone than confessing everything. Then see how the date goes.
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