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| Topic | I need to vent about a relationship issue and cant talk to others [Blogfaqs] |
| davidponte 08/03/19 10:30:29 PM #29 | Got held up with something. ShatteredElysium posted... Obviously not the exact same as you as there's a language change and it seems she isn't willing to consider that possibility? I would say worst case it is worth trying the move over there. If you love her, you should probably be willing to try the unknown and see what happens. Seems silly to throw away a long term relationship over something that is unknown The language barrier is real for sure, and something that'd have to be addressed, but it feels like it's at the bottom of the list of priorities right now. In previous trips, her family has tried to engage me in what English they knew, so an effort was made at least. I think most of the replies here have agreed that it can't really hurt to try, and that has helped immensely to make me feel better about the idea of trying in the first place. For awhile there I thought it was crazy to even entertain the idea at all. banananor posted... you talk about patching things up, but it honestly sounds like there's nothing wrong with the relationship, just with geography. that's not common. as i've heard, the singular, deciding, tautological quality that predicts whether a relationship continues in the long run is the couple's unwillingness to break up. so, how unwilling to break up are you? I appreciate the kind words, definitely helped to calm me down a little. I do think there is an unwillingness to break up here, and to try to make things work. She has told me explicitly that if she didn't care so much and didn't want it to work so bad she wouldn't be going through all this and would have already made the decision to leave alone. Tom Bombadil posted... also I don't think I ever actually said it but good luck you are a good dude so I hope it works out well in the long run one way or another This means a lot. Thanks. --- I was the final Undisputed Champion in UCA history, however Advokaiser was the Guru Champion! |
| Topic | I need to vent about a relationship issue and cant talk to others [Blogfaqs] |
| davidponte 08/03/19 9:21:06 PM #27 | I'll be in front of a keyboard in 15 minutes to go through some of these replies and my thoughts. Thanks everyone, just hearing different opinions has helped me tremendously. --- Posted using GameFlux Get it now for Android from Google Play! |
| Topic | I need to vent about a relationship issue and cant talk to others [Blogfaqs] |
| davidponte 08/03/19 9:03:20 PM #22 | Drakeryn posted... For the record, I don't think either of you are being unreasonable. Wanting to live in the USA is reasonable. Wanting to live in Portugal is reasonable. They just don't work together. This is a solid point. Career wise it might actually be beneficial for me in the long run. I live in Canada also, but it doesn't make a difference. --- GameFlux: Unofficial GameFAQs board browser |
| Topic | I need to vent about a relationship issue and cant talk to others [Blogfaqs] |
| davidponte 08/03/19 9:00:50 PM #21 | Still on mobile: In response to Emerald, your two options were no joke the exact same hypotheticals I initially posed to her. It is where we came to the conclusion that we'd have to decide whether the risk of option 1 is better than option 2, which neither of us want. In response to Mzero and Corrik, I both didn't want to hear what you're saying and also glad to hear it, because in my mind I'm clinging to this hope that she'll change her mind, and even she says she might, but the reality is that she almost definitely won't and I now have to recognize and think that. In response to Tom, I have almost nothing to lose from going there for a year, but she has told me that time probably isn't a factor. Being there for 3 months doesn't make it less likely she changes her mind than a year does, as of now. I guess what it might do is ensure that I know for sure where I stand. --- Posted using GameFlux Get it now for Android from Google Play! |
| Topic | I need to vent about a relationship issue and cant talk to others [Blogfaqs] |
| davidponte 08/03/19 8:31:21 PM #13 | My biggest worry is that I try everything and nothing changes and it ends up ending poorly anyway. Would I regret the attempt to salvage it? --- GameFlux: Unofficial GameFAQs board browser |
| Topic | I need to vent about a relationship issue and cant talk to others [Blogfaqs] |
| davidponte 08/03/19 7:54:55 PM #9 | Also, and this is not really a factor at all, but I just don't know what I'd do being single at this point. 8 years, especially the 17-25 years. I don't even know what it's like to go on a first date I want to stress that this is absolutely a "I can't see myself without her" situation and not a "I don't want to have to find someone else" situation. But I'll be honest and say that I'd feel lost and very lonely if this didn't work out. --- GameFlux: Unofficial GameFAQs board browser |
| Topic | I need to vent about a relationship issue and cant talk to others [Blogfaqs] |
| davidponte 08/03/19 7:51:57 PM #7 | On mobile right now so I can't quote everyone effectively, but I'll try to respond generally. I am unwilling to do long distance relationships. I'm already a little depressed when she leaves, and it would only make me miserable in the long run. In terms of why I don't want to move there right now, I just don't think I'd be ready for something like that. I really enjoy the way my life is now. I live with and am close with family, and I know that isn't going to last forever and want to cherish it while I can. Maybe in 3 years I'd be open to it? But I can't make any promises and it's equally unfair to make her wait years for me to decide. --- GameFlux: Unofficial GameFAQs board browser |
| Topic | I need to vent about a relationship issue and cant talk to others [Blogfaqs] |
| davidponte 08/03/19 7:24:08 PM #3 | I'm excited about the prospect of living there for a few months, but am positive that I don't want to spend the rest of my life there. She's actually being reasonable in that she appreciates that I'm willing to try to see if her feelings change, but can't promise that they will and that it's unfair to me to put my life on pause for something that is uncertain. --- Posted using GameFlux |
| Topic | I need to vent about a relationship issue and cant talk to others [Blogfaqs] |
| davidponte 08/03/19 7:16:34 PM #1 | I don't think I've ever gone in-depth about my personal life on here, and I try to keep it light-hearted as much as possible, but I kind of need to talk at someone, or at least know that someone is listening even if no one responds. To set the scene: I've been with my girlfriend for nearly 8 years now. Definitely a high school sweetheart scenario, and we're both 25 now. We're both of Portuguese descent, but the difference is she identifies more with her Portuguese roots and 90% of her immediate family lives back in Portugal. This is important. Almost every year she has gone back to visit her family for anywhere from two weeks to a month, and that's cool. She's very close to them. Sometimes she goes alone, sometimes with her family, I've even gone twice and had a pretty good time, I barely speak the language but it's been good. When I'm not there we're in communication, there's no trust/jealousy issues, we never argue, it's all very "too good to be true" seeming. So here's the issue. Last year around this time after coming back she broke down and told me that she is the most happy there and her dream would be for the both of us to move there. She's always a little upset when she gets back, she's incredibly attached to her family (in a way that honestly might be unhealthy), so I consoled her and tabled the discussion. A few months later we had a serious talk and she understood that she wasn't realistic and we agreed that she'd go for a long period of time this year before settling down and starting our lives as we both just finished school. Everything seemed great. She went for 40 days, minimal issues, and just got back. Obviously she's in the very upset stage of her return, but she essentially said that going for longer only made it worse and now she's certain that the only thing that would truly make her happy is if at the very least we tried the living there thing, to see how we both felt about it. I was honest with her. I said I'd be excited to try to live there awhile, because I am, and because there are no teaching jobs here it wouldnt be the worst move to teach English abroad, but I also told her the truth, and that is that I don't think I could ever live there forever. I'm willing to compromise because I obviously love her and do want her to see her family as often as possible, but essentially drew the line at living there. Obviously she knows I'm being reasonable and already doing more than most would, and she appreciates that, but she doesn't know if that'll be "enough". Where I am willing to compromise, she is not moving an inch. So here's where i'm at. Do I spend another year of my life trying this idea out with the risk of feelings not changing, or does this relationship end here? I don't blame her, she feels strongly about something and I'm not here to hold her back, and we both also understand that she's the unreasonable one here. But neither of us want this to end badly. She's honestly more distraught than I am because she's got to make the decision here. We're both on opposite sides of the equation and there is no more potential comprimising, unless she somehow wants to come back after trying it out. I just don't know what to do and am unwilling to come to the understanding that the relationship I've spent my entire adult life in may be coming to an end. I've rambled here, and the answer might be a simple "let her go", but I just needed to get it all out. --- Brought to you by GameFlux Free GameFAQs app on Google Play! |
| Topic | NHL Discussion Topic - Part 6 - Screw the Bruins |
| davidponte 08/02/19 9:27:39 AM #317 | Chiarelli would get the Wild to tank then trade their first round pick for a bag of pucks. Be careful what you wish for. --- Brought to you by GameFlux Free GameFAQs app on Google Play! |
| Topic | PS+ August 2019 |
| davidponte 07/31/19 11:38:35 AM #2 | Neither of these interest me in the slightest. --- Posted using GameFlux Get it now for Android from Google Play! |
| Topic | MLB and Baseball Topic #2: Jeff Wilpon is an Embarrass-met |
| davidponte 07/29/19 12:42:58 PM #159 | Apparently there was a commotion in the Jays clubhouse after the game yesterday and it involved Stroman being pissed that he got traded to the bad New York team. --- Posted using GameFlux |
| Topic | MLB and Baseball Topic #2: Jeff Wilpon is an Embarrass-met |
| davidponte 07/28/19 6:54:26 PM #137 | So you're saying this is good for the Jays --- Posted using GameFlux |
| Topic | MLB and Baseball Topic #2: Jeff Wilpon is an Embarrass-met |
| davidponte 07/28/19 6:15:52 PM #130 | As much as Stroman embraced Toronto and was solid on the field, he was an incredibly unlikeable human being so I can't say I'm sad to see him go. --- Posted using GameFlux Get it now for Android from Google Play! |
| Topic | Which food is the craziest to dislike? |
| davidponte 07/27/19 1:51:15 PM #53 | When I was like 5 I refused to eat pizza because I hated vegetables and the idea of "tomato sauce" threw me off, but that's definitely the answer. I've never had a pizza I didn't at least think was okay (as long as it has had toppings I don't dislike). Of that list, Watermelon is the one I find the most mediocre. I don't dislike it, but it's pretty close to the bottom of my fruit rankings and I'd never actually go buy one just for me to eat. --- Posted using GameFlux Get it now for Android from Google Play! |
| Topic | NHL Discussion Topic - Part 6 - Screw the Bruins |
| davidponte 07/23/19 10:10:51 PM #308 | The prodigal son returns and Sparks leaves town. Dubas is a wizard. What a great day. --- Posted using GameFlux |
| Topic | NHL Discussion Topic - Part 6 - Screw the Bruins |
| davidponte 07/19/19 3:43:31 PM #294 | 1 for 1. You can't make this shit up. Somehow the Oilers come out on top because maybe Neal bounces back. Maybe. --- I was the final Undisputed Champion in UCA history, however Advokaiser was the Guru Champion! |
| Topic | NHL Discussion Topic - Part 6 - Screw the Bruins |
| davidponte 07/17/19 11:22:27 AM #292 | Leafs legend Ron Francis to be named the Seattle GM --- Posted using GameFlux |
| Topic | Have you heard of and do you use WhatsApp? |
| davidponte 07/17/19 8:10:29 AM #30 | I used to use it all the time for all of my group chats, but for the most part those have all migrated over to Instagram which I think is much better. The GIF selection on Instagram is great and it has the native ability to send people's posts to a group chat which is very convenient. --- Brought to you by GameFlux Free GameFAQs app on Google Play! |
| Topic | NHL Discussion Topic - Part 6 - Screw the Bruins |
| davidponte 07/15/19 9:13:37 PM #290 | Still can't comprehend what they were thinking with that one --- I was the final Undisputed Champion in UCA history, however Advokaiser was the Guru Champion! |
| Topic | NHL Discussion Topic - Part 6 - Screw the Bruins |
| davidponte 07/15/19 8:49:29 PM #288 | That Nylander deal is looking real good now after seeing what guys like Hayes signed for. --- Brought to you by GameFlux Free GameFAQs app on Google Play! |
| Topic | NHL Discussion Topic - Part 6 - Screw the Bruins |
| davidponte 07/15/19 7:19:16 PM #285 | Anyone who has an issue with Nylander wearing 88 is a terrible non-fan anyway. The number isn't retired, firstly. Also, Lindros was so awful as a Leaf that it doesn't even matter. This isn't "Nylander chooses number of Leafs legend", it's "Nylander chooses number of guy who played for the Leafs at the end of his career, who probably couldn't even count to 88 by then". --- Posted using GameFlux |
| Topic | Best Disgaea Game Day 7 FINALS |
| davidponte 07/13/19 9:33:26 PM #4 | The two correct games in the final imo --- Posted using GameFlux |
| Topic | Hearthstone Discussion Topic 519 - The Rise of the Mech |
| davidponte 07/13/19 2:29:02 PM #162 | Oh and also a bunch of cards got censored? I saw the Hearthstone subreddit making fun of that for a little while EDIT: Damn the same Control Warrior list I was previously using is the top deck on HSreplay. Literally nothing has changed. --- I was the final Undisputed Champion in UCA history, however Advokaiser was the Guru Champion! |
| Topic | Hearthstone Discussion Topic 519 - The Rise of the Mech |
| davidponte 07/13/19 2:26:12 PM #161 | Alright I'm back from my month or two self-imposed Hearthstone exile. New expansion looks to be coming up, and it'll be the first one I don't pre-order in over a year. I'm not ready to commit back to this game and I'll have 4k gold and 26k dust by the time it gets here. I remember seeing the new classic cards and the Mind Blast/Vanish HOF while I was gone, those are cool. This Fire Festival thing seems to have solid rewards if I'm not confusing it with something else I might have missed, and apparently there's something to do with speedrunning? Have I missed anything else? --- I was the final Undisputed Champion in UCA history, however Advokaiser was the Guru Champion! |
| Topic | MLB and Baseball Topic #2: Jeff Wilpon is an Embarrass-met |
| davidponte 07/12/19 6:30:35 PM #65 | I have 4/6 pitchers you mentioned as Cy Young candidates on my fantasy team in what has surely been a historic year for me. I also have Scherzer! --- Brought to you by GameFlux Free GameFAQs app on Google Play! |
| Topic | NBA Draft Topic: In Which You Convince Yourself RJ Barrett is Actually Good. |
| davidponte 07/11/19 8:32:01 PM #224 | Westbrook to the Rockets for Chris Paul and 2 firsts What? --- GameFlux: Unofficial GameFAQs board browser |
| Topic | Where do you get a haircut, a barber or a salon? |
| davidponte 07/09/19 4:51:30 PM #14 | My barber is great and super cheap but the only issue with that is because he's great and super cheap you have to get in super early in the morning or you'll be waiting hours for a haircut. --- GameFlux: Unofficial GameFAQs board browser |
| Topic | NHL Discussion Topic - Part 6 - Screw the Bruins |
| davidponte 07/09/19 4:48:35 PM #280 | Damn, I'm trying to think how that trade is anything but a steal for the Sabres --- Brought to you by GameFlux Free GameFAQs app on Google Play! |
| Topic | NHL Discussion Topic - Part 6 - Screw the Bruins |
| davidponte 07/07/19 10:50:46 PM #274 | So Grapes himself just tweeted that he'll he back next year and that Steve Simmons is essentially a clown. Considering Simmons is the worst reporter on the planet I'd say we already knew the latter. --- Brought to you by GameFlux Free GameFAQs app on Google Play! |
| Topic | Post a DC Comics character and I'll tell you what makes them great |
| davidponte 07/07/19 1:23:15 PM #39 | John Constantine --- Posted using GameFlux |
| Topic | NHL Discussion Topic - Part 6 - Screw the Bruins |
| davidponte 07/07/19 1:21:25 PM #271 | I can't wait to see him on a TSN panel with Duthie and O Dog --- GameFlux: Unofficial GameFAQs board browser |
| Topic | NHL Discussion Topic - Part 6 - Screw the Bruins |
| davidponte 07/07/19 8:52:00 AM #267 | Sportsnet has been cutting people across the board after they realized that they paid too much for the hockey rights and their show is inferior in almost every way to TSN. The issue is instead of getting rid of guys like Kypreos who is a bargain bin Stephen A, they're letting go of the guys who have been there for years in Grapes and Bob Mccown. --- Brought to you by GameFlux Free GameFAQs app on Google Play! |
| Topic | NHL Discussion Topic - Part 6 - Screw the Bruins |
| davidponte 07/06/19 11:50:53 PM #263 | Apparently Rogers just fired Don Cherry. I have spent nearly every winter Saturday of the last 20 years listening to the guy speak on Hockey Night in Canada. It won't be the same without him. --- Brought to you by GameFlux Free GameFAQs app on Google Play! |
| Topic | NBA Draft Topic: In Which You Convince Yourself RJ Barrett is Actually Good. |
| davidponte 07/06/19 1:48:49 PM #190 | At the very least we can all take solace in the fact that he both stayed away from the super team, meaning the league is still interesting, and fucked over Lebron and the Lakers at the same time. The hero we deserve. --- Brought to you by GameFlux Free GameFAQs app on Google Play! |
| Topic | NBA Draft Topic: In Which You Convince Yourself RJ Barrett is Actually Good. |
| davidponte 07/06/19 3:19:15 AM #184 | Well fuck. We'll always have that championship! Time to burn it all down and start over. --- Posted using GameFlux |
| Topic | NBA Draft Topic: In Which You Convince Yourself RJ Barrett is Actually Good. |
| davidponte 07/03/19 2:58:54 PM #164 | I agree that this is awful and the media are idiots. --- Brought to you by GameFlux Free GameFAQs app on Google Play! |
| Topic | NBA Draft Topic: In Which You Convince Yourself RJ Barrett is Actually Good. |
| davidponte 07/03/19 2:09:29 PM #160 | Canadian national news is live streaming a helicopter following two SUVs that may potentially have Kawhi in one of them downtown. Serious business over here. --- Posted using GameFlux |
| Topic | Board 8 June 2019 Trophy Summary |
| davidponte 07/02/19 12:20:15 PM #2 | And I rounded out the top 3! --- I was the final Undisputed Champion in UCA history, however Advokaiser was the Guru Champion! |
| Topic | NHL Discussion Topic - Part 6 - Screw the Bruins |
| davidponte 07/01/19 10:45:20 PM #261 | This is on the Isles, not Lehner. https://twitter.com/MarkLazerus/status/1145839913302200320?s=19 His thoughts are there. He was also looking for term and didn't get it. I'm sure he thinks he can play for a longer contract in Chicago. --- Brought to you by GameFlux Free GameFAQs app on Google Play! |
| Topic | NBA Draft Topic: In Which You Convince Yourself RJ Barrett is Actually Good. |
| davidponte 07/01/19 10:43:30 PM #157 | A bad day for Canada, and therefore the world --- Posted using GameFlux |
| Topic | NBA Draft Topic: In Which You Convince Yourself RJ Barrett is Actually Good. |
| davidponte 07/01/19 9:45:06 PM #154 | KommunistKoala posted... davidponte posted...Kawhi to the Lakers The anti-jinx at work. But actually he's going to the Lakers --- Posted using GameFlux |
| Topic | NBA Draft Topic: In Which You Convince Yourself RJ Barrett is Actually Good. |
| davidponte 07/01/19 7:45:24 PM #149 | Source isn't the most credible, or credible at all actually, but in the last 30 minutes Twitter has been rumbling with the potential news --- Posted using GameFlux Get it now for Android from Google Play! |
| Topic | NBA Draft Topic: In Which You Convince Yourself RJ Barrett is Actually Good. |
| davidponte 07/01/19 7:39:34 PM #148 | Kawhi to the Lakers It was a good run --- Posted using GameFlux Get it now for Android from Google Play! |
| Topic | NHL Discussion Topic - Part 6 - Screw the Bruins |
| davidponte 07/01/19 7:25:11 PM #253 | I would assume Muzzin walks and the Leafs try to re-sign Barrie. They'll have an extra 4.5 after they send Ceci packing at the end of the year too --- Posted using GameFlux |
| Topic | NHL Discussion Topic - Part 6 - Screw the Bruins |
| davidponte 07/01/19 7:23:03 PM #252 | Fuck I'm amped --- GameFlux: Unofficial GameFAQs board browser |
| Topic | NHL Discussion Topic - Part 6 - Screw the Bruins |
| davidponte 07/01/19 7:15:00 PM #250 | Tavares Matthews Kerfoot Spezza Down the middle. I think Barrie is better than Gardiner???? --- Posted using GameFlux |
| Topic | NHL Discussion Topic - Part 6 - Screw the Bruins |
| davidponte 07/01/19 7:10:28 PM #248 | The Avs also retained half Barrie's salary. This is a win for the Leafs what the fuck is going on --- Posted using GameFlux Get it now for Android from Google Play! |
| Topic | NHL Discussion Topic - Part 6 - Screw the Bruins |
| davidponte 07/01/19 7:08:43 PM #247 | Holy fuck Kadri just got traded Kadri + Rosen for Barrie + Kerfoot I'm shook --- Brought to you by GameFlux Free GameFAQs app on Google Play! |
| Topic | NHL Discussion Topic - Part 6 - Screw the Bruins |
| davidponte 07/01/19 6:04:05 PM #242 | Maybe because they know they would take the 4 1st round picks --- GameFlux: Unofficial GameFAQs board browser |
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