Poll of the Day > I am getting leg lengthening surgery, and going from 5'9 to 6'1.5

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height dysphoria

If they were okay with themselves, they wouldn't need to transition. Not being okay with yourself is what it means to be dysphoric (at least as regards a personal trait, since the term does more generally refer to any pervasive sense of unease, but we'll stick with the colloquial use).

I don't know how exactly what was obviously a low effort troll post went this direction but this is probably the first time in my life I've ever seen cosmetic surgery be defended this way. While there are definitely a variety of legitimate cosmetic surgeries (like dealing with excess skin after weight loss) I view the "non-legitimate" ones as predatory.

Wishing you were taller is not the same as a persons gender identity and I consider it to be transphobia that people are attempting to make this argument.

so is being ugly or short (not dwarfism) going to be a disability in a few years now cause i'm down for a little special treatment

can you give me uppies

Wishing you were taller is not the same as a persons gender identity and I consider it to be transphobia that people are attempting to make this argument.

my legs will be for show and completely unstable

my legs will be for show and completely unstable

So yeah, I think it's perfectly fine to say the way you were born is the way you were meant to be but with some exceptions.

but there's a reason that the first step in transitioning is talking to a professional

I don't know how exactly what was obviously a low effort troll post went this direction

this is probably the first time in my life I've ever seen cosmetic surgery be defended this way.

While there are definitely a variety of legitimate cosmetic surgeries (like dealing with excess skin after weight loss) I view the "non-legitimate" ones as predatory.

Wishing you were taller is not the same as a persons gender identity and I consider it to be transphobia that people are attempting to make this argument.

I don't disagree. Pretty much any surgery should be preceded by consultations with appropriate professionals to rule out less invasive alternatives for solving the problem. But, again, there's an important difference between expressing supportive concern that somebody might not have properly considered their decision, and a blanket statement of "however you turned out is how you should be and you're wrong to want to change that." The former accepts that they have a problem they want to solve, and is trying to provide alternatives that might be safer, which is accepting and supportive. The latter starts from the premise that they are wrong to want to change themselves and need to justify the decision to you, which is neither accepting nor supportive.

I'm just saying you should at least try to like yourself as you are before you do anything

And in doing so, you create a condition that anyone who wants to change themselves has to meet before you approve of them changing. How hard do they have to try? What do they have to try? What do you think of them if they don't try hard enough?

It's a subtle difference in how you frame it, but it's one you need to be aware of because it completely changes how accepted you make people feel. Be concerned for people's well-being, certainly, but don't frame it as "you should try to like yourself as you are first." I can guarantee that anyone seriously considering invasive cosmetic surgery has already tried liking themselves as they are. It hasn't worked, which is why they're seriously considering invasive cosmetic surgery.

That's not a condition I'm putting on anyone,

congrats! hope you enjoy your new height

what's the recovery period like for that surgery?