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adjl posted...

And in doing so, you create a condition that anyone who wants to change themselves has to meet before you approve of them changing. How hard do they have to try? What do they have to try? What do you think of them if they don't try hard enough?

It's a subtle difference in how you frame it, but it's one you need to be aware of because it completely changes how accepted you make people feel. Be concerned for people's well-being, certainly, but don't frame it as "you should try to like yourself as you are first." I can guarantee that anyone seriously considering invasive cosmetic surgery has already tried liking themselves as they are. It hasn't worked, which is why they're seriously considering invasive cosmetic surgery.

That's not a condition I'm putting on anyone, if you think I'm wrong and want to go straight into transitioning then I won't think less of you for it. There is no condition for me to accept a Trans person aside from who they are as individuals. If you are cool with me I'll be cool with you. If you are a dick to me (or my friends/family, or innocent people) I won't like you, and it will be for those reasons alone. Again this has less to do with Trans people in general and more to do with people like TC.