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Grimlyn posted...

turns out that really gdad NEEDED that fight to knock some fucking sense and remember what the situation was

Grimlyn posted...

but if they offer it's looking like gdad is fully prepared to bring hell back to his apartment

Maybe the sense knocking can still happen

Stay safe, this topic is here for you

lmao

on the phone with gsis, she's been trying to talk to gdad, apparently he thinks my texts were from gmom using my phone to get at him

fucking paranoid delusions

Hopefully the court takes into account he has broken the rules of his release 3 times in like 2 months and don't give him another chance.

I was googling and lolling

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he's got 2 failure to comply undertakings (july/august) and this now would be his 2nd failure to comply release order (the previous was the 2nd week of this month, for breaking the late september conditions). also this time gdad already submitted the text of gbro telling him to shut up and let him break compliance, making it clear that he still doesn't intend to comply. police/courts have that and there's no taking it back.

if they ever looked further back in his texts he'd be screwed, last week during keysgate he was threatening to leave the country lol (that was when he had my switch hostage =/)

but yeah there's plenty of reason for the judge tomorrow to just say no you don't get another chance and the sane part of the family is really hoping on that while gdad's brain seems to be entirely fried

https://comb.io/GfWRsa

literally but like from the year 2023 instead of 3000

also interesting difference is that last time his fail to comply release order was because he got caught for something else and the realized had a surety, as opposed to this time where his surety (gdad) is the one who outright reported him and supplied that text message of his specific intent to be non-compliant

honestly I'm pretty strongly biased against the idea of anyone being locked up for any reason. I think it's a really horrible punishment. but I also acknowledge there are some people so messed up in our society that I'm not sure what else you can really do about them to prevent them from hurting other people.

anyway, in much better news, I'm getting close to the point where I can start posting promotional materials for the most recent game I've been developing. unfortunately I've never been big on the idea of cross posting stuff to board 8, so I'm not sure if I will feel comfortable sharing anything here.

the last thing I need is someone trying to doxx me or ruin my career because I placed 1 position higher in UotY 2009 than they think I deserve, or because I said they had lettuce for brains 8 years ago.

you obviously don't have to answer this but I'm kinda wondering what the situation with gdad is with regards to like power of attorney and psych evals and such

over the course of this topic my perception of him has gone from "oh that guy sounds kinda like a pain" to "I'm not sure he's really mentally sound enough to be let loose like this"

like I hope for the best for all parties but if he gets my friend killed I'm going to be a bit peeved

I'm glad he's restrained for now. Hopefully maybe it'll give gdad more time to realize how fine his life is without gbro's toxicity.

gmom is kinda exploding over the stress now trying to wrap our brains around an update and it's certainly making her irate and giving me a headache

no specifics or anything coming from the courthouse, gdad is treating everybody as an enemy and his paranoia is keeping him from cooperation, we've been trying to get a hold of the psychologist's receptionist but no answer (apparently gdad's been blowing up her phone all day yesterday), we've done the best we've can to grasp the situation and the best we got for now is asking gsis to ask gdad for an update

ultimately, amidst all gdad's passive aggressive garbage, the new news we got is that gdad has given up and isn't getting involved anymore. part of this is because he's absolutely incapable of anything, he can't process information whether it's written or spoken to him, and he has too much anxiety to call anyone to find out himself. so all he's really been doing is sitting by his phone waiting for the arresting officer to tell him everything even though it's now all out of their hands. gmom was in communications with that officer the night before and she just directed gmom to the courthouse phone number who is actually in charge now

so whatever, the fear of gdad getting gbro out on bail appears to be out the window now because of gdad's pure incompetence so it doesn't even matter if he wants to or not. annoying as fuck because he's making up insane conspiracy theories that gmom is telling the cop not to talk to gdad when the entire reality is we're trying to ask him to figure out what the fuck is going on because we don't know and the last thing he said was about releasing gbro and then he went silent.

like with gbro, gdad can't accept his own fault. because that's all this is. he's too incompetent to do any of this so he's just gonna blame everyone else hiding it from him when he's literally putting in zero work to do anything himself. his own incompetence is making him estrange his relationships further and further which just makes it more and more impossible to try to help him. we WANT to share info, I WANT to be able to help my dad, but his delusions are pushing the opposite and it's entirely his own fault.

sounds like your dad is genuinely having a breakdown.

I've known people who basically ruined their entire life because their child did something really horrible and illegal, and they couldn't reconcile with this fact, so they just go into denial and keep defending the kid no matter what. I guess this is like the dark side of what a parent's natural protective instinct can manifest into...

p much

it's really sad for me because like... I'm your child too, and he's really throwing me away (and gsis) for this delusion about the 3rd child who's been making us all live in fear

you would THINK if he's this protective over his child he would also want me safe, even if that means me going away. but he doesn't see it that way and instead he's upset that I left to protect my safety

but the two parts in his mind is a) the protective delusion over gbro that he isn't a threat (even though gdad is clearly terrified himself), but also b) he wants to blame gmom as the enemy, so me staying here puts me on her "side", ignoring entirely the reason I'm here

I just caught up on all of this, this all sucks, sendin love to ya sister

had another update with gsis, gdad sent her a big ranting text this morning but whatever just gonna cliffnotes one actually important detail embedded into it - which is that it sounds like duty council contacted him and said that gdad likely wouldn't be allowed surety (which it sounds like WANTED to do because he's completely mind-wiped all the reasons that's a stupid idea)

gmom then got contacted (it sounds like referred to by gdad), they asked if we want surety, we said no and tried to put for the case of a mental health facility

so okay then as it sounds that gdad won't be allowed surety and gmom has specifically denied it, that should be the end of this chapter and he should remain confined for the time being

I'm not sure if rejoicing is appropriate for this situation but I'm really glad you're safe

another minor update is gbro's next hearing is next wednesday and gmom/partner set-up a defense lawyer to meet with him sunday (who knows still if gbro will accept), and well psychologist is sick for this week so there's no appointment to fight over anyways

so for the next few days things are pretty well set and there shouldn't be updates and the family can decompress for a bit... dunno what to expect from gdad, he really just obsesses and doesn't understand/accept anything so a period of not hearing anything can just make him more deranged and keep trying to blame others trying to sabotage him for some stupid reason whatever and now he has nothing in his life to do

honestly wish there was an appointment and gdad could take it because fuck he needs to get some sense and he won't listen to anyone

@GTM

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:o

damn as someone with pokealts thats a good get

I have seen this from pokejungle's twitter formerly known as x formerly known as twitter account

I havent washed my eyes since I love him

AriaOfBolo posted...

I'm not sure if rejoicing is appropriate for this situation but I'm really glad you're safe

yeah, this.

ultimately I'm just left feeling that it sucks that you have to go through all of this. I hope things get better soon.

trying to let more time pass between updates, also kinda staying in bed a lot because fuck it's cold here

thursday or friday gbro called gdad from prison but gdad didn't answer because it was listed as suspected spam. after a while gdad google the number and saw it was the prison so he went into a panic looking things up and coming to me to help which I obliged. found out how visitation works and gdad set up his first one yesterday (saturday)

called me after about a big sob story trying to paint gbro as so apologetic and asking for his mommy to say sorry - but unfortunately neither the primary nor secondary sources are reliable here - gbro knows to put on an act, and gdad desperately wants to paint as rosey a picture as possible and even without situations this dire gdad is known to completely make shit up that he claims other people said. but whatever he asked to pass the message gbro wants to see gmom so we did, and gmom rightfully doesn't want to because of all the absolutely heinous shit he's done/said to her & her partner

today we set up for me to bring some stuff over to gdad's we've been trying to get for a while, I stuck around for a couple hours to watch some shows and try to help him get a glimpse of normal life again but ultimately with the intention to come back here again. which gdad was fine with, no comment, all cool and I got to grab some more things from my room I needed (including a space heater as per earlier mention that it's fucking cold here)

as I gdad was about to drop me back tho, gbro called from the prison so uh quickly went back inside. thankfully gdad didn't mention that I was sitting right there so I didn't have to get into it, but I mean he doesn't sound as apologetic as gdad tries to paint him. sure he says he wants to say sorry to gmom (for "being rude or whatever" lol) but that's preceded by him mentioning he needs her to offer him surety again (not a chance of happening). pushes gdad to tell me and gsis to convince her so that's obviously the context of his "apology" - he needs her for his hope to get out on bail.

gbro asked gdad what gsis said and gdad just plays along "oh she understands what you're going through!" which lol definitely isn't her position but gdad knows the truth would make gbro mad. gdad TRIES to tell gbro that if he gets out he has to be a good boy and not to go out and do drugs, as gdad says he didn't know he was doing that.... and gbro responds brushing that off and emphasizing that gdad messed up by calling the cops on him and highlighting THAT as the problem instead. to gdad's credit he tries to push back a bit (probably because I'm obviously right there and gdad knows I'm not buying his fantasy) but ultimately it falls to gbro saying "I'm not blaming it all on you but it's mostly your fault! you shouldn't have told the police!" gdad a says he just wants to help and gbro retorts "if you want to help you shouldn't call the police because they don't want to help!" so yeah I'm not at all getting the sense of any growth.

so yeah right now gbro is trying to pursue bail which means it may take a while for this to come to a head and we can start hoping for normalcy. I'm at least glad to have had a mostly-normal visit with gdad watching our shows together but yeah that's it for now.

unfortunately our psychologist caught covid last week so yeah that's been an unfortunately stumble

I'm really curious how differently he acts around the guards and other inmates, when he knows screaming and shouting won't get him his way (and will likely make things worse for him).

Grimlyn posted...

"I'm not blaming it all on you but it's mostly your fault! you shouldn't have told the police!" gdad a says he just wants to help and gbro retorts "if you want to help you shouldn't call the police because they don't want to help!" so yeah I'm not at all getting the sense of any growth.

Oh yeah, super apologetic.

When a jailbird makes a call to the outside, is there police there listening into what gbro is saying?

mnk posted...

I'm really curious how differently he acts around the guards and other inmates, when he knows screaming and shouting won't get him his way (and will likely make things worse for him).

listening to the convo and gbro says to gdad that he gets into physical altercations for not following the rules

of course still I can't tell how much is gbro playing up for gdads sympathies, but talking shit and getting hit wouldn't be a surprise to me

GTM posted...

When a jailbird makes a call to the outside, is there police there listening into what gbro is saying?

yeah this is what Ive been going over with gmom talking about it because uhhh police hearing "don't tell them about the worst texts I sent you" sounds like gift-wrapped probable cause

not to mention still having a hearing for the bail he's pursuing meanwhile laying all the blame of his arrest on his father calling it in.

also, one more thing about gbro asking gmom for surety

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not a chance in hell gbro can stay with gmom and gmoms partner (I dont even think I've mentioned gbros been hurling antisemitic slurs at the latter in recent weeks)

and yeah lol gdad is on the record now saging he would not do the 2nd highlight

me now realizing halloween resurrection and hellraiser hellworld are not only monumental disasters for their respective series

but they're also the same movie

gmom's gonna try to sign on as surety and she's going mad emotional about it

sigh

relying entirely on the courts to save me now

sigh, she's doing the exact same thing gdad does. she doesn't want to be told reality so she's just screaming not to hear it which includes PREEMPTIVELY refusing to even hear my voice whatsoever. she was screaming at her partner who was trying to communicate it to her (I'll admit he's not really good with the tact), he get tired of her just yelling at him so he asked what my thoughts are - before I could get open my mouth my mom says no. she starts saying she only wants her and her partner at the psychologist appointment today, before changing her mind to now wanting to be the only person in on it.

I got frustrated that she's trying to refuse my voice so I just left to my room because what the fuck else am I standing around for, and gmom uses my frustration with her actions as a weapon against her - "now you've turned my kid against me"

like seriously fuck off, you don't get to treat me like shit and then act the victim that I'm upset with you treating me like shit

literally doing a repeat of the most deeply impactful trauma I took from gdad the other week, now from my other parent who adamantly does not want to listen to my feelings. and they fucking dare wonder why I'm so quiet

Have you talked with her partner 1 on 1?

me and him I pretty well in an understanding about everything but we also know that none of it is really our decision. the best he can do is put his foot down that gbro absolutely can not leave here with them, but whether gmom does joint surety with gdad where gbro lives there, that's out of anybody's hands

back from the psychologists now and well I'm glad she's at least underlining the importance to not let gbro get away with empty apologies, that he has to actually see the wrong he is doing and his own blame for his conditions, and that he can't just expect a guaranteed bail-out to go back and do the same things

gmom buying a rug which got me interested in the idea of modelling the apartment in blender. done for the night so here's current progress (the room i'm staying in)

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just about home from visiting gbro in prison

lmfao he literally isnt the slightest bit different, he cant even PRETEND to be apologetic just for the purposes of getting gmom on his side to help with lawyers or hearings

truly astounding, I honestly did not expect to go as bad as it did. I expected him to at least try to put on an act but nope it's literally just him whining about how nobody let him break the rules and blaming everyone but himself

Sigh

the wild part is all the build-up gdad's set us on trying to convince us that gbro is all apologetic and wants his mommy to say sorry

which yeah I always knew gdad was hamming it up but wow it's like the classic trope skit of two kids trying to get their fighting parents back together the write little notes to each one saying the other is sorry so they come together expecting an apology from and it just blows up

because in hindsight not only was gdad hamming it up about how gbro wants to talk to gmom (he really didn't have anything to say at all), but realizing that gdad was probably telling gbro that the rest of the family is all on his side and wants to take care of him and we're all working on it

you can tell from this visitation that gbro was expecting to just rant off and blame others because that's probably what he's been doing for gdad's visits and gdad's just been going along with it and becoming his lapdog, so gbro just assumed being an asshole should work on everybody!

and yeah after talking with gsis about it she called gdad about what went on and he basically just said we shouldn't have argued with him, that would should just sit there and take his abuse and "if you're gonna be too sensitive you shouldn't have gone!" lmfao, as if he wasn't literally pleading us to go under the impression that it would be all about gbro apologizing

gdad and gbro are both so ridiculous thinking you can just deny reality and everything will all work out.

Amityville watchthrough progress: 1 > 2 > 3 > 4

1 as always a (modest) classic
2 takes different turn, more into an uncomfortable disturbing direction young teen incest, but then climax snap into the spree killing is real strong
3 more like the first... straight copying the first death, a lot of failed scares that just look goofy, although i like the susan bit
4 zzzzzzzzzzzzzz i can't, it's just a really bad parody version

*edit* okay i didn't actually let 4 finish before i posted this but the movie ends with a cat walking up to the evil lamp that was thrown out of the house (the source of the curse apparently), and then the image freezes on the cat and gives them red eyes - cue credits lmfaooooooooooo THIS CAN'T BE A REAL HORROR MOVIE

Amityville Curse (90s) beated after a number of rewinds because it really isn't engaging

it's like if you removed everything funny about 4 and filled the cast with even less likeable characters (the main is fine but whatever)

anyways gbro called me from jail during it, asking mom to sign-on as surety with gdad lol. the shamelessness would be amazing if it wasn't really what I'd expect from him, but wow after he was just an asshole to gmom during the visit tuesday to then crawl back and ask for her help again lol

Hope gmom doesn't have the same denial of reality gdad has

impossible to match gdad's, but she does have some she gets touchy about, but she also has different calculations than gdad does

gdad I mean he's signing up for gbro to stay at his place which will doubtlessly result in a miserable 24/7. for gmom, if gbro gets out... she's still gets to stay detached, she doesn't have to put up with his daily monstrosity... *maybe*. he was previously harassing her with threats and shit over the phone because she gave up his apartment he wasn't paying for and by now almost a month later even he has to understand there's literally nothing that can be done about that anymore - the apartment is gone

so IF that's over with, gmom wouldn't actually have to be putting up with anything. although it would still be bailing him out and it would be a worthy lesson to teach him he can't abuse people and expect them to cater to your needs anymore, but that's also why gmom isn't decided yet and wants to do one more visit attempt.... if he continues to do the same dumb shit of the woe is me, nothing is my fault speech then he can kiss her support goodbye

ideally both parents want gbro out of prison because a) prison is tough and it hurts have their son in there, and b) being in jail makes it more difficult to prepare your case for the coming trial, and it looks worse as a defendant - so along with point a), this means to protect gbro from getting a harsher sentence it would mean a lot for him to be out - not getting into the feasibility of would he actually be good and obey the rules because lol of course he won't

there's also a depressing c) though... which is IF gmom doesn't help, that'll be a vendetta he'll hold against her for who knows how long and what he does about it. because none of this is a life sentence of course, he WILL get out, so when he does, what then? it's insidious, but unfortunately a real concern

outcome #1 best-case scenario, wednesday comes and the crown doesn't allow bail. possible! he's got 4 failure to complys on his record now and they have a text message of him trying to coach gdad to cover for him! this is the reason gbro wants joint-sureties of both gmom & gdad to both cover for him to do what he can to make his case for yet another release. unfortunately the only way to get this is to first ATTEMPT a bail hearing which could be granted and welp then he's out terrorizing again, at least until he fucks up and goes back in, again (previous attempt he lasted a grand total of 5 days at gdads).

outcome #2 "hope" is kinda that saturday comes, me and gmom visiting again... and it goes exactly like tuesday's visit went, he obviously shows no remorse or bears any responsibility for his situation which would just solidify gmom's decision to not get involved and she can say "welp i tried and he's still insane".

outcome #3 gbro accomplishes a good-guy act, gmom's on-board for the joint surety, and the crown allows it....... at that point gdad's will become unlivable for an indeterminate amount of time, either until he gets caught doing more shit, or if he threatens gmom &/or her partner again and her partner is fully prepared to just call the cops for a 2nd criminal harassment charge on him then.

no matter what any of these outcomes are, it's hard to imagine he doesn't see a guilty verdict with jail sentencing for any of his charges - failure to comply he's completely busted on multiple times, criminal harassment...... while I don't know this situation, as someone who knows him and can 100% confirm he has harassed people in the past even if he was never charged for those times, I wouldn't be the slightest bit shocked if there was a strong case against him there. if gbro can stay out of trouble til trial then wow but in the end it may not matter if he's found guilty and gets sentenced.

wouldnt hold my breath personally, it does sound like from your previous posts he is just as likely to flip back on a whim

yeah gsis is of the same mind, but it's nonetheless a drastic change of tune from the 200% denial he's been in and honestly it reinforces the fact that gdad very well COULD snap and call it in again - which is how gbro's in his recent predicament in the first place

like yeah I wouldn't be surprised for gdad to still cover for him in the days to come, but having been there, gbro at gdads place is just days of torture that does pile onto him and when gdad feels disrespected enough he very much can make impulsive actions for both better or worse

welp, gbro getting released on joint-surety by gmom & gdad

new condition: ankle monitor. apparently something about it being traceable through an app gmom & gdad can get. so yeah.... see how this shit goes

so I'm obviously not jumping back home yet still

sigh