Current Events > PSA - you DO NOT have an obligation to financially support your parents

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obviously if you decide to that's fine your money your choice

Problem is I see so damn many people acting and saying things like "well they raised me so I need to return the favor"

Uh nooo THEY chose to have kids bruh. did they ask you before they had you if you were cool with it? Nah. They had kids, that's on them. It's by no means now "required" of you to turn around and support them

It is absolutely NOT your responsibility to take them in, it's your choice.

I love my parents and if I was rich sure I guess I'd help them out IF they were sick and couldn't work.

But I'm not, and the hell with them ever just coming to live in my house cause they are old like tf hows that my bad. I'm not letting yall have free room and board for the next 1 - 20 years and ruin my peaceful home life cause yall dont wanna live in a home.

Not. My. Problemo.

If you are unable to support yourself then sure let's talk but just being old and bitter and poor isnt my problem I cant like find sympathy there. That why we got the old folks homes.

Like yall have/will have like 40 years of kids having not lived at home be financially responsible if you want a nicer home or to have expendable cash into your 70s.

Of course now if I'm getting some big inheritance like you got a 500k life insurance policy coming my way welcome come on in marmalade on the counter
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I agree. My parents expect me to take care of them...but jokes on them

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I mean, if you don't love your parents, sure.
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You wouldn't even be on this Earth, you need to take care of them UNTIL LAST SECONDS

money comes and goes fool, ask them they know more they spend it raising you.
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Kolibri X posted...

I mean, if you don't love your parents, sure.

I love mine but doesnt make their choice to have me and also be financially irresponsible now MY problem
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Millennials hates their parents. More at 10.
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But, being obligated to support everyone's parents is just fine, huh?

Joeydollaz posted...

You wouldn't even be on this Earth, you need to take care of them UNTIL LAST SECONDS

money comes and goes fool, ask them they know more they spend it raising you.

So I somehow "owe" them for creating me without even asking me if I wanted to be here then just EXPECTING I'll be a cash cow for their last 10+ years here since they dont wanna work anymore.

Ya. No.
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DBZFlGHTEH posted...

Kolibri X posted...

I mean, if you don't love your parents, sure.

I love mine but doesnt make their choice to have me and also be financially irresponsible now MY problem

Really sounds like you don't but ok. Maybe you're just selfish. Who knows.
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Kolibri X posted...

DBZFlGHTEH posted...

Kolibri X posted...

I mean, if you don't love your parents, sure.

I love mine but doesnt make their choice to have me and also be financially irresponsible now MY problem

Really sounds like you don't but ok. Maybe you're just selfish. Who knows.

So showing love is supporting financial irresponsibility?
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They brought you into this world

And they can take you out of it

darkphoenix181 posted...

They brought you into this world

And they can take you out of it

That's called murder

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Veggeta X posted...

Millennials hates their parents. More at 10.

This. I am so about tired of hearing people cry with this "I didn't ask to be born" bullshit. No wonder suicide jokes are funny to millennials too.

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Kolibri X posted...

I mean, if you don't love your parents, sure.

This. I love my family...

Joeydollaz posted...

money comes and goes

Also, this. Plus, my family helps me out when I need it. Sometimes, things come up. They help. And I help when they have problems come up, as well...

I see nothing wrong with helping your family. Especially if they were good to you. Like giving you money for thing or to do things. Even if it was more than what was required by law and such...
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You think it's cheaper to pay for a nursing home spot than to just let them with you?

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DBZFlGHTEH posted...

Kolibri X posted...

DBZFlGHTEH posted...

Kolibri X posted...

I mean, if you don't love your parents, sure.

I love mine but doesnt make their choice to have me and also be financially irresponsible now MY problem

Really sounds like you don't but ok. Maybe you're just selfish. Who knows.

So showing love is supporting financial irresponsibility?

It's not always because of financial irresponsibility. Sometimes, things just happen...
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If dey were good parents, den why not help em out if dey need it?

Luckily my parents are well on deir own, but if an emergency came up den I'll be dere to help
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You also don't have an obligation to not be an asshole. We live in a free country
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Anyways, as a serious answee, if your parents aren't deadbeats, supporting them hekps your interests assuming you decided to have a family.

1. They can babysit your kids
2. They can impart wisdom to your kids and help you when hard issues come up
3. Your wife will probably not feel good about you abandoning your parents
4. It shows your kids an example you will be thankful. You help out your dad, your kid us more likely to help you out.

Ofc, if you wanna be single all your life and just have one night stands, I guess you can throw away your family ez pz.

codey posted...

You think it's cheaper to pay for a nursing home spot than to just let them with you?

That's what retirement savings are for.
Retirement savings arent supposed to be for trips and crap then be broke at 75 and expect your family to pay your way til the wooden box.

darkphoenix181 posted...

Ofc, if you wanna be single all your life and just have one night stands, I guess you can throw away your family ez pz.

If you do this it's the best of both worlds. You probably got kids out there but you dont have to support em
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what your parents do to you bud? come on, let it out.
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BuckVanHammer posted...

what your parents do to you bud? come on, let it out.

Nothing really but I'm sure as hell not fucking up my home life for 20 years cause they wanna mooch
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If you abandon your parents you are in 99% of cases a giant piece of shit.

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DBZFlGHTEH posted...

Retirement savings arent supposed to be for trips and crap then be broke at 75 and expect your family to pay your way til the wooden box.

I think retirement savings are actually so they can live without working until death. They can use it any way they want. Whichi s usually on their family. Like grandchildren (if you or your siblings have any) and stuff. I don't think I've ever heard of anybody using to to pay to stay at a nursing home (unless it was one of those rich people's ones, where it's more like a vacation. I don't think they'd want to use their hard earn retirement money to be put in a place and forgotten by their families... They'd probably rather live at home and pay a live in nurse if they needed one. Or, people can just be nice and help their family. Financially, they never really seem to need a lot. A lot of older people usually already live in a house that's paid for and probably don't need much help. But I don't really see an issue when they do. My mom calls me to borrow money often. And always pays me back. I do the same. We help each other out because that's what families should do...
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DBZFlGHTEH posted...

BuckVanHammer posted...

what your parents do to you bud? come on, let it out.

Nothing really but I'm sure as hell not fucking up my home life for 20 years cause they wanna mooch

How does helping them fuck up your home life?
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DBZFlGHTEH posted...

BuckVanHammer posted...

what your parents do to you bud? come on, let it out.

Nothing really but I'm sure as hell not fucking up my home life for 20 years cause they wanna mooch

you think they would take you in if shit hit the fan in your life?
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darkphoenix181 posted...

Ofc, if you wanna be single all your life and just have one night stands, I guess you can throw away your family ez pz

I resent the implication that you cant have a fulfilling life w.o a wife and kids

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LinkPizza posted...

DBZFlGHTEH posted...

BuckVanHammer posted...

what your parents do to you bud? come on, let it out.

Nothing really but I'm sure as hell not fucking up my home life for 20 years cause they wanna mooch

How does helping them fuck up your home life?

Oh so you wanna move in and just watch price is right al day for 15 years while doing nothing and complaining about everything. Why would I bother even owning a house I'll just sell it and get a 1 bedroom apartment then

BuckVanHammer posted...

DBZFlGHTEH posted...

BuckVanHammer posted...

what your parents do to you bud? come on, let it out.

Nothing really but I'm sure as hell not fucking up my home life for 20 years cause they wanna mooch

you think they would take you in if shit hit the fan in your life?

I did say if something like illness happened then that's a different story and I see no problem there.

If they just wanna mooch for a decade cause they blew retirement money at the casino then hell no
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TC is right, doing things because you feel obligated to is an easy way to end up miserable

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Outside of monetary reasons, how much of a dick do you have to be to not help your parents if they might be in need? The world is against a majority of the elderly. The least a child could do is to at least ensure they live a comfortable enough life.
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codey posted...

You think it's cheaper to pay for a nursing home spot than to just let them with you?

No but its far less draining on yourtime and mental health.

Caring for a severely physically or mentally disabled parent is difficult and can effectively be a full time job you dont get paid for.
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No_U_L7 posted...

I resent the implication that you cant have a fulfilling life w.o a wife and kids

You implied it yourself.
My statement jad no such clause.

Rather, I was saying if you take the family route, abandoning your parents is bad idea unless they are bad people.

DBZFlGHTEH posted...

Kolibri X posted...

I mean, if you don't love your parents, sure.

I love mine but doesnt make their choice to have me and also be financially irresponsible now MY problem

One could argue that you taking care of them being seen as a problem in of itself illustrates your lack of love for your parents.

Not being able to live comfortably into your old age doesn't always equate to financial irresponsibility. We're social creatures that thrive from having access to varying networks that care about us in varying degrees. One's family should, ideally, be one of the most nurturing, sympathetic, and affectionate networks one has. I would personally expect the attitude you're displaying to be reflected from someone who did not grow up in a good house hold with nurturing parents. If they gave you what you needed to not only survive, but thrive, then honestly you're an asshole to want to have nothing to do with them in their last stage of their lives.

But you're totally correct. You're not lawfully required to take care of your parents at all. You don't even need to feel obligated to ever speak to them ever again if you truly don't want to. Whether or not you should is completely up to the individual and what they experienced.
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darkphoenix181 posted...

You implied it yourself.
My statement jad no such clause.

Rather, I was saying if you take the family route, abandoning your parents is bad idea unless they are bad people.

You implied it via a false choice that life either ends with a family or with meaningless one night stands

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No_U_L7 posted...

You implied it via a false choice that life either ends with a family or with meaningless one night stands

Where

Theres no law against selfishness.
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legendarylemur posted...

Outside of monetary reasons, how much of a dick do you have to be to not help your parents if they might be in need? The world is against a majority of the elderly. The least a child could do is to at least ensure they live a comfortable enough life.

You're turning it into an emotional issue. It's not a kids responsibility to support parents
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pikachupwnage posted...

No but its far less draining on yourtime and mental health.

Caring for a severely physically or mentally disabled parent is difficult and can effectively be a full time job you dont get paid for.

That's not even what were talking about here, though.

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darkphoenix181 posted...

Where

Ofc, if you wanna be single all your life and just have one night stands, I guess you can throw away your family ez pz.

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Boomers stole Millennials' future. Maybe Millennials can steal their present?

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No_U_L7 posted...

Ofc, if you wanna be single all your life and just have one night stands, I guess you can throw away your family ez pz.

I didn't say you have to throw away your family. But it is much easier to do when that is the route you take

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DirkDiggles posted...

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Tc is no_u_l7 methinks.

I mean, he made an almost identical topic.

darkphoenix181 posted...

Tc is no_u_l7 methinks.

I mean, he made an almost identical topic.

I agree with TC but it isnt me

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Probably from the same generation that would cry at the thought of kids being on their own at 18 and parents aren't legally required anymore.
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Not having a legal obligation to do something doesnt mean that you dont have a moral obligation to do it.
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southcoast09 posted...

Not having a legal obligation to do something doesnt mean that you dont have a moral obligation to do it. If your parents beat and abused you and threw you out of the house, then I wouldnt expect you to pay for them, but if they treated you right then you should do the same thing.

What about a lifetime of emotional abuse

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darkphoenix181 posted...

Tc is no_u_l7 methinks.

I mean, he made an almost identical topic.

Yeah, I was thinking the same thing. no_u_l7 is in here parroting the TC pretty hard.
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I don't think the average person who would help their parents does it out of perceived obligation. I love my mom and dad and I would do anything I can to help them if they needed it, that said they're doing just fine financially so they don't need my help lol
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Imagine thinking what TC thinks and then also believing that children should be able to stay on their parents health insurance until age 26

LMAO
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