Poll of the Day > Do you personally know anyone who regrets having children?

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do you? seems most people don't
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They won't admit it.

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I do, actually. He does his best... but his wife has ended up as a drug addict that just sits in bed all day. He works 10 hours from 9pm-7am then has to come home and take care of his kids until his mom comes over so he can sleep.

He told me he loves his kids but if he had the option to go back and put a condom on (they thought he was shooting blanks. Bad excuse but ) he would.

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I dont

I feel bad for any kids being raised by parents that feel that way though
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Yes. And they are all men. I am sure some women feel like that too but it wouldn't want to admit it. Mothers get judged much harsher.
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I know a few. Typically they were young and foolish, making terrible choices.

All parents regret having kids, they just wont admit it

Yellow posted...

They won't admit it.

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Yeah because ruining whatever life you had before than, to yourself is now devoted to this offspring you likely didn't want. Very few sick tickets plan for kids now a days, weird women in their 40's...
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ParanoidObsessive posted...

Yellow posted...

They won't admit it.

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Maybe one guy who left his wife and kids for his secretary. However, even the single parents I know talk about how happy they are to have their kids (although I'm sure some of their exes might regret it, considering they have little or no interaction).
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I regret that my mother did.
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Nope.
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wolfy42 posted...

I regret that my mother did.

Yeah I fuckin hate your brother

I've heard from more than one guy: "I love my wife and kids, but if I had to do it again, no way."
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No.
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More than likely do but they are probably people I don't care for.

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I'm sure there are people out there who do but none that openly voice it to me.

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Yes, I know a dude who had like four kids with three different women. He has nothing to do with any of them except for paying child support. He's kind of a piece of shit.
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I regret on their behalf.

People always act like having kids ruins your life but I know multiple people with more than one kid that still manage to play in bands, go on vacations, play video games, etc

ferko420 posted...

Yeah because ruining whatever life you had before than, to yourself is now devoted to this offspring you likely didn't want. Very few sick tickets plan for kids now a days, weird women in their 40's...

What an incredibly poorly worded statement. Can you try again?

And no, I dont know anyone who regrets their kids. I have a kid and it is the most wonderful thing Ive ever done with my life.

My parents
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OhhhJa posted...

People always act like having kids ruins your life but I know multiple people with more than one kid that still manage to play in bands, go on vacations, play video games, etc

I think people who act like this are either lazy or they treat their children as an external accessory instead of their family. Or they lose their entire identity once they become parents and become resentful they willingly gave up their hobbies just because they had a kid.
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I'm glad most the people that think others regret having kids, won't have kids.
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I know a dude who had twins and one of them got a rather severe vaccine injury. The kid wakes up screaming in the middle of the night even 5 years later. His life is a living hell now with that sick kid. He was one of the most liberal people I've ever known, but after his kid got fucked up by big pharma, he became super conservative, anti-vaxx and a Jehova's witness.

TLDR; don't have kids.

SunWuKung420 posted...

I'm glad most the people that think others regret having kids, won't have kids.

That makes no sense. Just because people know other who regret having kids doesn't mean that they would.
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Jen0125 posted...

I think people who act like this are either lazy or they treat their children as an external accessory instead of their family. Or they lose their entire identity once they become parents and become resentful they willingly gave up their hobbies just because they had a kid.

That's about what I think. A lot of people are just really lazy and wanna sit on their ass. But you can be a devoted parent and still do things you enjoy

OhhhJa posted...

Jen0125 posted...

I think people who act like this are either lazy or they treat their children as an external accessory instead of their family. Or they lose their entire identity once they become parents and become resentful they willingly gave up their hobbies just because they had a kid.

That's about what I think. A lot of people are just really lazy and wanna sit on their ass. But you can be a devoted parent and still do things you enjoy

While I agree you can, that really depends on how much free time you have. And whether you're a single parent, or part of a couple. Those can actually give you more time. You can still find a baby sitter, though those can cost money. And it's hard for some to trust other people. It's better if you have family. Though some people just... don't... Eh. Like I said, I believe you can still have a life. But it still depends on a lot of other things to determine if you really have the time too. Or if it's safe to do. Whether around the kid, or for your own so the child doesn't lose a parent (or the only parent)... So it also depends on what the hobby is/hobbies are...
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LinkPizza posted...

While I agree you can, that really depends on how much free time you have. And whether you're a single parent, or part of a couple. Those can actually give you more time. You can still find a baby sitter, though those can cost money. And it's hard for some to trust other people. It's better if you have family. Though some people just... don't... Eh. Like I said, I believe you can still have a life. But it still depends on a lot of other things to determine if you really have the time too. Or if it's safe to do. Whether around the kid, or for your own so the child doesn't lose a parent (or the only parent)...

Oh yeah, its definitely different for everyone. Some people have a shitty support system. But most people at least have some family who can help out on occasion

OhhhJa posted...

LinkPizza posted...

While I agree you can, that really depends on how much free time you have. And whether you're a single parent, or part of a couple. Those can actually give you more time. You can still find a baby sitter, though those can cost money. And it's hard for some to trust other people. It's better if you have family. Though some people just... don't... Eh. Like I said, I believe you can still have a life. But it still depends on a lot of other things to determine if you really have the time too. Or if it's safe to do. Whether around the kid, or for your own so the child doesn't lose a parent (or the only parent)...

Oh yeah, its definitely different for everyone. Some people have a shitty support system. But most people at least have some family who can help out on occasion

Yeah. And if you do have family who can help, its definitely better. But I do understand that it can be very difficult for some. Especially if they became a single parent quickly (whether the other person left without wanting the kid, or a death).
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LinkPizza posted...

Yeah. And if you do have family who can help, its definitely better. But I do understand that it can be very difficult for some. Especially if they became a single parent quickly (whether the other person left without wanting the kid, or a death).

I appreciated my in laws alot more after having kids.

And now my parents are even looking at buying an apartment in our building so they can be around easily without impeding on our personal space by living with us (phew).

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My mom