Current Events > Been w/ wife for 11 years-tonight is my first "open relationship" date

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Deedice posted...

green butter posted...

what is even the point of getting married if youre going to do something like this

The answer is zero. There is zero point

Again, people assuming what works for them should be the standard for everyone else.

Free your mind, and your ass will follow

Some people jump right to the last page in a topic so a reminder that there is an update on the previous page.
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yup.....this guys fucked.

oh well, he'll learn over time i guess.
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The thinly veiled racism is strong in this topic, when Tyrone is the go to for a boogeyman that's gonna steal your wife
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DanHarenChamp posted...

yup.....this guys fucked.

oh well, he'll learn over time i guess.

So far..... so good. So good.
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MildMannerdPate posted...

DanHarenChamp posted...

yup.....this guys fucked.

oh well, he'll learn over time i guess.

So far..... so good. So good.

just wait :v
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MildMannerdPate posted...

The date went well. We had fun. Didn't take it any further than a hug as I think is appropriate for a first date.

My wife has yet to divorce me. In fact we had sex when I got home and it was great as usual.

you cucked your date
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Darkman124 posted...

MildMannerdPate posted...

The date went well. We had fun. Didn't take it any further than a hug as I think is appropriate for a first date.

My wife has yet to divorce me. In fact we had sex when I got home and it was great as usual.

you cucked your date

You keep using that word... I don't think it means what you think it means
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Divorce in a year after this
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MildMannerdPate posted...

You keep using that word... I don't think it means what you think it means

check username, is joke. very funny, now laugh.
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How were you twMildMannerdPate posted...

To all the people saying my wife will get more action than me... we have technically been in the "open relationship" phase for several years and this is literally the first time a date has occurred and it was on my half. And she's generally not interested in the vast majority of guys. Not to mention that after 11 years of a sexual relationship, safe to say I'm pretty confident that I'm a better lover to her than any random in the street. I have zero worries about this.

Darkman124 posted...

OP, subject to consider is whether you'll be OK if after a while she wants to close the relationship again at some point

if you're comfortable with all of this and not feeling uncontrollably jealous you do you, and good luck with the new girl.

my wife brought it up with me, i thought about it, and said no. i knew we were healthy because she accepted that.

I'm totally fine if she wants to close it again at some point. That was part of the boundaries we had previously set. She knows she comes first (literally and figuratively) at all times.

Even though she has yet to have an outside date I don't see myself getting jealous. I know how strong our relationship is and I'm not a hypocrite.

That's awesome about your relationship though. As long as you both are comfortable with being closed then that's great. We are still young and still experimenting a little bit. Who knows if it will stick or not but at this point we are content with trying new things.

How were you two in an open relationship for several years yet just now youre going in your first date and shes never done anything? Sounds like nonsense
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Deedice posted...

How were you two in an open relationship for several years yet just now youre going in your first date and shes never done anything? Sounds like nonsense

she's been getting dicked down on the side and not telling him. :v
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This whole topic just reeks of bullshit to me

Deedice posted...

How were you two in an open relationship for several years yet just now youre going in your first date and shes never done anything? Sounds like nonsense

We addressed the issue before it became an issue. We both knew something like this would happen at some point because people are naturally attracted to other people. But we are happy in our relationship so neither of us puts a lot of effort into actively seeking out other partners. This date only happened because the girl gave me her number out of the blue
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@Abyssea haha why is this so hard for you to believe / grasp? Are happy, strong relationships that can function outside of the "norm" just a fairy tale to you?
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MildMannerdPate posted...

@Abyssea haha why is this so hard for you to believe / grasp? Are happy, strong relationships that can function outside of the "norm" just a fairy tale to you?

the survival rate of those kinds of relationships are terrible, you know that right? :v like, they've done studies on this.
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If wild animals can get away with it why can't humans? Good luck TC.
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Isnt the purpose of these open relationships to just have lustful pleasure and flings? I thought the emotional aspect was to remain with your wife.

Your "first" date ended in a hug and you're pursuing more dates.

Seems like this has potential to lead to something you didnt expect.

What happens if you develop a strong emotional bond with this girl?

This

Abyssea posted...

the survival rate of those kinds of relationships are terrible, you know that right? :v like, they've done studies on this.

Sounds pretty accurate.
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*flips over giant hourglass*

I give the relationship 6 months at this point. :v
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Abyssea posted...

the survival rate of those kinds of relationships are terrible, you know that right? :v like, they've done studies on this.

If these "conclusive" studies showed a failure rate of 100% I might be worried but they don't. I don't know a single person in my life (including mine and her parents) that has as strong a relationship as ours. I'm not worried and if last night post-date was any indication, neither is my wife. Not to mention that last night was the first instance... if my wife is uncomfortable with it she will tell me and that will be the end of it.

chrono625 posted...

Isnt the purpose of these open relationships to just have lustful pleasure and flings? I thought the emotional aspect was to remain with your wife.

Your "first" date ended in a hug and you're pursuing more dates.

Seems like this has potential to lead to something you didnt expect.

What happens if you develop a strong emotional bond with this girl?

Forming a strong emotional bond with a person is going to take more than a couple dates. And I would be surprised if I have more than 5 dates with this girl. Either way its not going to match up to 11 years of foundation with my wife.
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MildMannerdPate posted...

If these "conclusive" studies showed a failure rate of 100% I might be worried but they don't. I don't know a single person in my life (including mine and her parents) that has as strong a relationship as ours. I'm not worried and if last night post-date was any indication, neither is my wife. Not to mention that last night was the first instance... if my wife is uncomfortable with it she will tell me and that will be the end of it.

I'm sure most of the people who went into these open relationships only for them to fail said the exact same thing you are. "Oh, that won't happen to us!" and then it all goes to shit.

:v if you wanna throw away 11 years of marriage over some bimbo who gave you her number, go ahead. Like I said, 6 months!
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MildMannerdPate posted...

If these "conclusive" studies showed a failure rate of 100% I might be worried but they don't. I don't know a single person in my life (including mine and her parents) that has as strong a relationship as ours

Your relationship is not strong because you both are seeking out other people. Your relationship is weak because you are both weak. You will look back at yourself with utter disdain for this

Haha you are quite delusional. If my wife has a problem with it she will tell me and that's the end of it. I can even reverse what you just said-

Abyssea posted...

:v if your wife wanna throw away 11 years of marriage over some bimbo who gave you your number, go ahead.

Yeah. My wife's not that conceited / jealous / stupid.
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Dude, I just got out of an open relationship.

Do not do it.

Close this one, then make a follow up topic in a couple years.
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MildMannerdPate posted...

Haha you are quite delusional. If my wife has a problem with it she will tell me and that's the end of it. I can even reverse what you just said-

Abyssea posted...

:v if your wife wanna throw away 11 years of marriage over some bimbo who gave you your number, go ahead.

Yeah. My wife's not that conceited / jealous / stupid.

like I said, just wait and see. :v 6 months. Keep us updated, okay?
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SpinKirby posted...

Close this one, then make a follow up topic in a couple years.

Months*
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I just set a reminder in my phone for 6 months from now. I will keep everyone posted :)
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MildMannerdPate posted...

I just set a reminder in my phone for 6 months from now. I will keep everyone posted :)

I can see it going one of two ways:

1. One of you gets jealous and it drives a wedge into the relationship, cripplingly it over time.

2. Your wife's boyfriend ends up buying you a switch and you guys all play Mario party together while he's hitting it from behind.
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Abyssea posted...

I can see it going one of two ways:

1. One of you gets jealous and it drives a wedge into the relationship, cripplingly it over time.

2. Your wife's boyfriend ends up buying you a switch and you guys all play Mario party together while he's hitting it from behind.

Its sad that your closed mind can only foresee bad outcomes and bad memes, but whatever helps you deal with your own insecurities.
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Abyssea posted...

MildMannerdPate posted...

I just set a reminder in my phone for 6 months from now. I will keep everyone posted :)

I can see it going one of two ways:

1. One of you gets jealous and it drives a wedge into the relationship, cripplingly it over time.

2. Your wife's boyfriend ends up buying you a switch and you guys all play Mario party together while he's hitting it from behind.

Ignore this OP, this guy's gimmick is framing all his posts so that his own sexuality comes up

MildMannerdPate posted...

Abyssea posted...

I can see it going one of two ways:

1. One of you gets jealous and it drives a wedge into the relationship, cripplingly it over time.

2. Your wife's boyfriend ends up buying you a switch and you guys all play Mario party together while he's hitting it from behind.

Its sad that your closed mind can only foresee bad outcomes and bad memes, but whatever helps you deal with your own insecurities.

well, do you like Mario party?
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So do you not wear a wedding ring? Have you told your date that youre married and are just using them?
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MildMannerdPate posted...

But we are happy in our relationship so neither of us puts a lot of effort into actively seeking out other partners. This date only happened because the girl gave me her number out of the blue

So what made this a date instead of a 1v1 getting to know you/hanging out? Do you have romantic and/or sexual interest in her? Is she aware that you're married?

You're free to make friends of the opposite sex while in a relationship and free to have friends outside of the relationship in general, but is the goal "more than friends?"
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I can't imagine doing this. You get home from a long day and you're wife is smiling cause she just got plowed and swallowed and kisses you. Hey if that works for you have at it, but in an open relationship the man gets the short end of the stick cause the woman will obviously get more potential suitors. The option of dumping your ass after falling for Mr ten inch will get more and more likely as time goes on.
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This dude is about to give up half his pay check in alimony for the rest of his life so he could go on a date with one bitch and get a hug out of it lmao
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Deedice posted...

So do you not wear a wedding ring? Have you told your date that youre married and are just using them?

I actually do not have a wedding ring. We got married at the courthouse, didn't make a big deal of it. She has a diamond engagement ring but no band either.

I haven't told her but if she wants to hang out again I will for sure. Not intending to play games or anything. How am I using them exactly? I'm an available guy and she's an available girl. We went on a no-strings-attached date. How is that using someone? If I had a one night stand with her then I could see that but it was just a slice of pizza, two drinks, and a concert.

philsov posted...

So what made this a date instead of a 1v1 getting to know you/hanging out? Do you have romantic and/or sexual interest in her? Is she aware that you're married?

You're free to make friends of the opposite sex while in a relationship and free to have friends outside of the relationship in general, but is the goal "more than friends?"

I guess it technically was more of a 1v1 getting to know each other. I call it a date because it's two interested people getting some food / drinks and doing something fun, but I guess that's a pretty broad definition. If she wants to do it again I would for sure call it a date.

I don't really have a goal here. If it ended right here I would be satisfied. If it turns into something intimate, cool, but not without talking to my wife about it first. If I just made a female friend out of the deal, also cool. If I never see her again, I at least had fun last night. So also cool.
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TheBiggerWiggle posted...

This dude is about to give up half his pay check in alimony for the rest of his life so he could go on a date with one bitch and get a hug out of it lmao

either that or he turns into a cuck. :v
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TC is about to end his marriage emotionally and mentally.
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Abyssea posted...

TheBiggerWiggle posted...

This dude is about to give up half his pay check in alimony for the rest of his life so he could go on a date with one bitch and get a hug out of it lmao

either that or he turns into a cuck. :v

Probably already an unknowing cuck

TC in 6 months:

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@Abyssea CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!

You have now earned the prestigious award for "Most Posts Saying the Same Basic Thing"!

Get a new gimmick.
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MildMannerdPate posted...

@Abyssea CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!

You have now earned the prestigious award for "Most Posts Saying the Same Basic Thing"!

Get a new gimmick.

sounding a little defensive over there Pate. :v maybe this open relationship idea wasn't very smart after all?
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Abyssea posted...

sounding a little defensive over there Pate. :v maybe this open relationship idea wasn't very smart after all?

Not seeing the correlation between my relationship and your outstanding ability to say so much and yet so little at the same time, but sure
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MarqueeSeries posted...

The thinly veiled racism is strong in this topic, when Tyrone is the go to for a boogeyman that's gonna steal your wife

Except "Chad" has been used way more already in this topic.
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I just don't understand. You say your wife is gorgeous, has an awesome personality, and you have a great sex life. So why pursue other people? Why wouldn't you just take your wife out for pizza, drinks and a concert? It sounds like you just want or need an ego boost.

Whatever works for you, though.
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Frostshock posted...

Your marriage is over.

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MildMannerdPate posted...

Abyssea posted...

sounding a little defensive over there Pate. :v maybe this open relationship idea wasn't very smart after all?

Not seeing the correlation between my relationship and your outstanding ability to say so much and yet so little at the same time, but sure

when you get your switch though, I have some game recommendations for you. :o Splatoon is a lot of fun.
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Youre being deceptive because her idea of available and yours may be quite different.
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I used to be the side piece in an open relationship. Her boyfriend was bi and he knew about me. She never got romantic with me though. Just sex, pizza, and Luke Cage. It worked for them far as I could tell so it is possible.

Just be sure TC that it's something that both you and your wife are comfortable with. Sounds like you are but still. Don't wanna ruin a good thing.
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PoopPotato posted...

I just don't understand. You say your wife is gorgeous, has an awesome personality, and you have a great sex life. So why pursue other people? Why wouldn't you just take your wife out for pizza, drinks and a concert? It sounds like you just want or need an ego boost.

Whatever works for you, though.

You're right.

TC just sounds like a greedy dick, just wants his cake and then some.
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