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DDirtyDastard
08/03/18 3:04:19 AM
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It's rather complicated, but basically I was being a scumbag. She kinda pushed me into it, then snooped through my emails and interrogated me until I spilled the beans. I couldn't even lie about it because she was quoting my emails without admitting that she snooped through them. Would've been a helluva coincidence otherwise.

Kinda relieved in the long run. She was too paranoid. Too accusatory. She drove me back toward one of my exes and now holds it against me. I never cheated. I may have emotionally, but damn. She was the one being a total fucking bitch. I think she wanted to get rid of me and she pulled some shit like this so I could look like the bad guy.

Now I'm stuck on a lease with this chick for another 8 months. Maybe I should sublet the extra room and get the fuck outta here.

Moral of the story:

When chicks are done with you, they'll find a way to make you the villain. Red pill yourselves brothers. Red pill.
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Doctor Foxx
08/03/18 3:09:52 AM
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you just admitted to emotionally cheating, how... is that not bad?

bad on both sides
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Jen0125
08/03/18 3:13:27 AM
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sounds like a whole lot of not taking responsibility for your actions in this post
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Bugmeat
08/03/18 3:22:19 AM
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If she was that bad you should have gotten out of the relationship before looking for comfort with another woman.
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Keebs05
08/03/18 3:24:14 AM
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I think the moral of the story is to lock your fucking phone/email and never admit to anything. Always deny. Name, rank and serial number only, man. Name, rank and serial number.
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CacciatoPart3
08/03/18 3:25:11 AM
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Honestly Im just surprised that anyone still communicates enough through email for it to be considered cheating.
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MrMelodramatic
08/03/18 3:50:08 AM
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Bugmeat posted...
If she was that bad you should have gotten out of the relationship before looking for comfort with another woman.

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Smarkil
08/03/18 10:46:07 AM
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CacciatoPart3 posted...
Honestly Im just surprised that anyone still communicates enough through email for it to be considered cheating.


Right? I don't think I've ever sent an email to another person outside of work or sending a file.
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SunWuKung420
08/03/18 10:50:41 AM
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That's some serious victim blaming.
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Firewood18
08/03/18 11:11:52 AM
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Huh. Sounds vaguely familiar. I had a year long relationship with a girl when I was in my late teens. A few months into the relationship I spent a non intimate evening with an ex and that became the bane of our couplehood. I was completely honest and up front about the incident but the insecurity just kept growing and made us both do hurtful things.

I always wondered if I should have just kept my too honest mouth shut. Oh well.
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Golden Road
08/03/18 11:48:09 AM
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DDirtyDastard posted...
When chicks are done with you, they'll find a way to make you the villain. Red pill yourselves brothers. Red pill.

You are the villain here. It's never a good sign when your own side of the story makes you the villain. Maybe she was only paranoid because she could tell you were cheating on her. Which you were.
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LinkPizza
08/03/18 11:52:50 AM
#13:


Golden Road posted...
DDirtyDastard posted...
When chicks are done with you, they'll find a way to make you the villain. Red pill yourselves brothers. Red pill.

You are the villain here. It's never a good sign when your own side of the story makes you the villain. Maybe she was only paranoid because she could tell you were cheating on her. Which you were.

I mean, according to him, he wasn't. I'm not saying it's good to be in a relationship when you are emotionally attracted to someone else. But I also can't say he cheated when he said he didn't. That being said, I still think that if I was in his GF place, I also would have broken up with him because I feel they have their own things to work out.
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GanglyKhan
08/03/18 12:22:25 PM
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DDirtyDastard posted...
Red pill yourselves brothers. Red pill.

Oh man, I might have given you about a 5% chance for myself playing devil's advocate for you, but not after this beta redditor incel tier closure right here. You deserve to feel like shit.
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Viking_Mudcrap
08/06/18 4:54:27 PM
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Why is there a slash between the G and F? Was she your friend and/or girl?
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YOUHAVENOHOPE
08/06/18 5:07:50 PM
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Doctor Foxx posted...
you just admitted to emotionally cheating, how... is that not bad?

bad on both sides

Lmfao what the hell is emotional cheating
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wwinterj25
08/06/18 5:37:50 PM
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DDirtyDastard posted...
She drove me back toward one of my exes and now holds it against me.


Fair, next.
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GanglyKhan
08/06/18 5:57:37 PM
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YOUHAVENOHOPE posted...
Doctor Foxx posted...
you just admitted to emotionally cheating, how... is that not bad?

bad on both sides

Lmfao what the hell is emotional cheating

If one partner starts to form a "more than friends" relationship with someone else. Often characterized by spending a disproportionate amount of time with the third person, constant messaging, and/or discussions that are considered too personal for friends to have.
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Revelation34
08/07/18 4:04:04 PM
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GanglyKhan posted...
If one partner starts to form a "more than friends" relationship with someone else. Often characterized by spending a disproportionate amount of time with the third person, constant messaging, and/or discussions that are considered too personal for friends to have.


So something that doesn't exist then.

Golden Road posted...
Which you were.


Citation needed.
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Jen0125
08/07/18 4:10:09 PM
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Revelation34 posted...
So something that doesn't exist then.


what

emotional cheating absolutely exists

if you're emotionally neglecting your partner and giving your romantic attention to another person instead that is emotional cheating.
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Kyuubi4269
08/07/18 4:21:29 PM
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Jen0125 posted...
if you're emotionally neglecting your partner and giving your romantic attention to another person instead that is emotional cheating.

The only important word there.

GanglyKhan posted...
discussions that are considered too personal for friends to have.

Those exist? If they're your friends, why do you not trust them with personal things?
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Revelation34
08/07/18 4:21:56 PM
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Jen0125 posted...
what

emotional cheating absolutely exists

if you're emotionally neglecting your partner and giving your romantic attention to another person instead that is emotional cheating.


If you're giving romantic attention to somebody else then that's literally cheating. Not emotionally.
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Jen0125
08/07/18 4:24:25 PM
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I guess it really depends on the boundaries of your relationship, Revelation.
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green dragon
08/07/18 4:42:21 PM
#24:


Revelation34 posted...

If you're giving romantic attention to somebody else then that's literally cheating. Not emotionally

Would you mind if I had non-romamtic sex with your s/o?
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Kyuubi4269
08/07/18 4:43:18 PM
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green dragon posted...
Revelation34 posted...

If you're giving romantic attention to somebody else then that's literally cheating. Not emotionally

Would you mind if I had non-romamtic sex with your s/o?

Do you even words?
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green dragon
08/07/18 4:44:56 PM
#26:


Kyuubi4269 posted...
green dragon posted...
Revelation34 posted...

If you're giving romantic attention to somebody else then that's literally cheating. Not emotionally

Would you mind if I had non-romamtic sex with your s/o?

Do you even words?

What's wrong with my sentence?
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Viking_Mudcrap
08/08/18 11:00:12 AM
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"emotional cheating"

lol, topic virgin af
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RoboXgp89
08/08/18 1:22:10 PM
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if you didn't live with your gf you'd probably get over it in a week or so
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Kyuubi4269
08/08/18 1:28:19 PM
#29:


green dragon posted...
Kyuubi4269 posted...
green dragon posted...
Revelation34 posted...

If you're giving romantic attention to somebody else then that's literally cheating. Not emotionally

Would you mind if I had non-romamtic sex with your s/o?

Do you even words?

What's wrong with my sentence?

You think that the expansion of romantic attention to be full-on cheating would ever mean that non-romantic attention wasn't cheating. Your brain failed.
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Star_Spirit
08/08/18 1:39:30 PM
#30:


When chicks are done with you, they'll find a way to make you the villain.


Oh shit. He has awareness.

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Zeus
08/08/18 10:32:34 PM
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DDirtyDastard posted...
Kinda relieved in the long run. She was too paranoid. Too accusatory. She drove me back toward one of my exes and now holds it against me. I never cheated. I may have emotionally, but damn. She was the one being a total fucking bitch. I think she wanted to get rid of me and she pulled some shit like this so I could look like the bad guy.


Look on the bright side, at least she started to go crazy *before* you married her or had kids. Shame you couldn't have spotted it before signing a lease, though.

Doctor Foxx posted...
you just admitted to emotionally cheating, how... is that not bad?

bad on both sides


Given that "emotional cheating" is a cop-out and he's likely just parroting what she accused him of, there's clearly a lot more bad on one side.

Keebs05 posted...
I think the moral of the story is to lock your fucking phone/email and never admit to anything. Always deny. Name, rank and serial number only, man. Name, rank and serial number.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2g5Hz17C4is" data-time="


And yeah, you shouldn't be giving anybody access to your phone like that.
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ClarkDuke
08/09/18 5:11:56 AM
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Jen0125 posted...
sounds like a whole lot of not taking responsibility for your actions in this post

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DDirtyDastard
08/10/18 1:41:31 PM
#33:


We actually sorted everything out and things are good for now.

I left for the weekend to see some old friends (our mutual friend died recently). She cooled off and we aired all our concerns about the relationship.

She insists she never looked through my e-mails, so I'll give her the benefit of the doubt. I took the liberty of blocking the other chick on social media and her number as well.

ClarkDuke posted...
Jen0125 posted...
sounds like a whole lot of not taking responsibility for your actions in this post


Didn't I say in the beginning I was being a scumbag? How's that not taking responsibility? I simply explained myself. Never said I was right or justified.

But had she not interrogated me she wouldn't have ended up getting hurt the way she did. The little exchange I had with the other chick would've come and gone without anyone being the wiser to it. That may or may not have been a good thing, but there's no sense in thinking about the "ifs" at this point.

I guess the good thing about this whole scenario is that it pushed me into breaking ties with the ex. It needed to be done. My gf knew about my prior connection with this chick and had been concerned about it from the beginning. She was rightfully pissed, but seeing that I cut the cord with the other chick has given her a sense of relief. Hopefully her paranoia will subside.
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Jen0125
08/10/18 2:17:43 PM
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DDirtyDastard posted...
Didn't I say in the beginning I was being a scumbag? How's that not taking responsibility? I simply explained myself. Never said I was right or justified.


The part where you immediately turned around and blamed her for your actions.
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EvilMegas
08/10/18 3:46:33 PM
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What a dastard.
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ClarkDuke
08/10/18 5:40:05 PM
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Jen0125 posted...
DDirtyDastard posted...
Didn't I say in the beginning I was being a scumbag? How's that not taking responsibility? I simply explained myself. Never said I was right or justified.


The part where you immediately turned around and blamed her for your actions.

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Zeus
08/10/18 6:31:47 PM
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DDirtyDastard posted...
She insists she never looked through my e-mails, so I'll give her the benefit of the doubt. I took the liberty of blocking the other chick on social media and her number as well.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CQWAtviZ1I4" data-time="

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LinkPizza
08/10/18 11:57:02 PM
#38:


Kyuubi4269 posted...
GanglyKhan posted...
discussions that are considered too personal for friends to have.

Those exist? If they're your friends, why do you not trust them with personal things?

I agree with this. Usually, when you're friends with someone, you can trust them with things. How much info you give them depends on how close, though. I have 3 friends who know pretty much everything about me. And I know pretty much everything about them. And I have other very close friends who know a lot.
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EnvyFox
08/11/18 12:39:49 AM
#39:


Keebs05 posted...
I think the moral of the story is to lock your fucking phone/email and never admit to anything. Always deny. Name, rank and serial number only, man. Name, rank and serial number.

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DDirtyDastard
08/11/18 1:52:15 AM
#40:


She's being bitchy again tonight about all this shit. I'm not gonna argue with her. She can stew in her negativity til the morning. I'll probably have to deal with this a few more times before she finally chills. I'm not gonna throw gasoline on the fire. I didn't bite when she brought up all the nonsense, so fuck it man. She ruined our night and hopefully she has half a brain and can see that.

Subconsciously she wants out. I know it.

Instead of arguing, I went down to the store for another beer. The new (cute) chick at the counter has been there for about a week or two. She asked me how my night was going, I told her the truth. I told her it was shitty and that my girlfriend was flipping out and she was all like, "Oh you have a girlfriend?" and we flirted around and she couldn't figure out why my card wasn't reading and went on to tell me how she lived just a couple blocks away and was single and blah-blah-blah.

The devil in me wants to go back and find out when she gets off work.

I must not be cut out for this relationship shit. Not an exclusive one anyway.
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LinkPizza
08/11/18 1:55:00 AM
#41:


DDirtyDastard posted...
I must not be cut out for this relationship shit. Not an exclusive one anyway.

Probably not, by the sounds of it.

Also, I think the saying is like, "Don't go to bed angry" or something...
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DDirtyDastard
08/11/18 1:58:38 AM
#42:


LinkPizza posted...
DDirtyDastard posted...
I must not be cut out for this relationship shit. Not an exclusive one anyway.

Probably not, by the sounds of it.

Also, I think the saying is like, "Don't go to bed angry" or something...

I won't. She is.
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wwinterj25
08/11/18 2:09:21 AM
#43:


DDirtyDastard posted...
Subconsciously she wants out. I know it.


I would too.
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Revelation34
08/11/18 2:45:11 PM
#44:


DDirtyDastard posted...
She's being bitchy again tonight about all this shit. I'm not gonna argue with her. She can stew in her negativity til the morning. I'll probably have to deal with this a few more times before she finally chills. I'm not gonna throw gasoline on the fire. I didn't bite when she brought up all the nonsense, so fuck it man. She ruined our night and hopefully she has half a brain and can see that.

Subconsciously she wants out. I know it.

Instead of arguing, I went down to the store for another beer. The new (cute) chick at the counter has been there for about a week or two. She asked me how my night was going, I told her the truth. I told her it was shitty and that my girlfriend was flipping out and she was all like, "Oh you have a girlfriend?" and we flirted around and she couldn't figure out why my card wasn't reading and went on to tell me how she lived just a couple blocks away and was single and blah-blah-blah.

The devil in me wants to go back and find out when she gets off work.

I must not be cut out for this relationship shit. Not an exclusive one anyway.


This didn't happen.
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MrMelodramatic
08/11/18 3:04:19 PM
#45:


How is emotional cheating not a real thing
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The_tall_midget
08/11/18 3:17:26 PM
#46:


DDirtyDastard posted...
It's rather complicated, but basically I was being a scumbag. She kinda pushed me into it, then snooped through my emails and interrogated me until I spilled the beans. I couldn't even lie about it because she was quoting my emails without admitting that she snooped through them. Would've been a helluva coincidence otherwise.

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When chicks are done with you, they'll find a way to make you the villain. Red pill yourselves brothers. Red pill.


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Revelation34
08/11/18 3:24:29 PM
#47:


MrMelodramatic posted...
How is emotional cheating not a real thing


Because in order for something to be cheating it actually needs to be cheating.
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wwinterj25
08/11/18 5:38:36 PM
#48:


MrMelodramatic posted...
How is emotional cheating not a real thing

I mean this is a real thing sure but hardly a big deal in most situations. For example you're with a girl and she finds another guy hot. That would be "emotionally cheating" right? As she's showing feelings towards another guy. Would you break up with her over that? Probably not as it's natural to find more than one person attractive single or not.
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MrMelodramatic
08/11/18 5:47:34 PM
#49:


wwinterj25 posted...
MrMelodramatic posted...
How is emotional cheating not a real thing

I mean this is a real thing sure but hardly a big deal in most situations. For example you're with a girl and she finds another guy hot. That would be "emotionally cheating" right? As she's showing feelings towards another guy. Would you break up with her over that? Probably not as it's natural to find more than one person attractive single or not.

Finding someone else attractive is not emotional cheating.
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wwinterj25
08/11/18 5:52:11 PM
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MrMelodramatic posted...
Finding someone else attractive is not emotional cheating.


I said finding someone hot as in sexually attractive. Still I thought anything todo with sexual feelings towards another person when you're in a exclusive relationship is "emotionally cheating".
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