Poll of the Day > I hate that feeling that I just wasted a whole day.

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All day today, I've just chilled in the same room, browsed PotD, Youtube, instagram, facebook and other sites. These kind of days give me a little bit of minor anxiety/depression. Like what amazing things could I have done or could have happened to me if I just went outside? I usually feel fine as long as I go to the gym during these boring days but I can't do that because I'm injured. -_-

I feel like I've wasted the whole last six years

start jogging

The day wasn't wasted. You invested the day in updating your social awareness.

I sort of know what you mean though, other than the fact I feel like almost all my days are wastes. Sometimes particular days will certainly stand out. I try to just get small things done, bit-by-bit, but I'm too afraid to commit to a large project (or leave the house for a long period), out of fear of lost productivity, but I think in the long run it's just making my productivity worse.

SteamedHams posted...

I feel like I've wasted the whole last six years

That's rough. When was the last time you tried something new!? Get yourself out of your comfort zone!
FinalFantasyVII posted...

start jogging

I don't really do cardio. I thought about going to the gym to lift light but I figured I'd give myself one more rest day and go back tomorrow.
WastelandCowboy posted...

The day wasn't wasted. You invested the day in updating your social awareness.

But too much social awareness i.e. social media can lead to anxiety and depression! :0

GunslingerGunsl posted...

WastelandCowboy posted...

The day wasn't wasted. You invested the day in updating your social awareness.

But too much social awareness i.e. social media can lead to anxiety and depression! :0

And life stagnation.

GunslingerGunsl posted...

That's rough. When was the last time you tried something new!? Get yourself out of your comfort zone!

I don't know, what do you mean by trying "something new"? That could be almost anything, depending on your definition... and just doing little things doesn't really help me with the problems in my life.

WastelandCowboy posted...

GunslingerGunsl posted...

WastelandCowboy posted...

The day wasn't wasted. You invested the day in updating your social awareness.

But too much social awareness i.e. social media can lead to anxiety and depression! :0

And life stagnation.

True. I actually gave up social media and stopped coming to gamefaqs for a long while. I recently started up again with all of them and I feel like I can keep scrolling/browsing for hours on end.

SteamedHams posted...

GunslingerGunsl posted...

That's rough. When was the last time you tried something new!? Get yourself out of your comfort zone!

I don't know, what do you mean by trying "something new"? That could be almost anything, depending on your definition... and just doing little things doesn't really help me with the problems in my life.

What kind of problems are you dealing with?

I feel I've wasted most of my life on reflection and will probably continue to do so.
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GunslingerGunsl posted...

What kind of problems are you dealing with?

Mostly career/job problems. And lack of a social life, but a lot of that has stemmed from my career problems. Basically the last six years I've been in a combination of a bad job that totally killed my once-promising career prospects, and unemployed since I eventually couldn't stand it there anymore

wwinterj25 posted...

I feel I've wasted most of my life on reflection and will probably continue to do so.

Reflection as in thinking of all your past choices and where you're at now?

SteamedHams posted...

GunslingerGunsl posted...

What kind of problems are you dealing with?

Mostly career/job problems. And lack of a social life, but a lot of that has stemmed from my career problems. Basically the last six years I've been in a combination of a bad job that totally killed my once-promising career prospects, and unemployed since I eventually couldn't stand it there anymore

Do you have any career plans now? How did you lose your social life from career problems? Most of my closest friends aren't even connected to my career at all.

I've been wasting the past 10 years of my life because I'm traumatized by how I've been treated over the years, now I'm just going nowhere in life, and many days I can't even focus on video games because traumatic memories keep looping in my head over and over.
The memories mostly involve being sen as a creep by others, probably because of my appearance and I'm not as masculine or social butterfly like other guys are. One memory is as early as 2 years ago, being compared to others and seen as a creep by a girl I worked with.
I think I'm too far gone, don't wanna interact with anyone, but at the same time, starved for friendship and affection.
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GunslingerGunsl posted...

Do you have any career plans now? How did you lose your social life from career problems? Most of my closest friends aren't even connected to my career at all.

No career plans, I'm just continuously applying to jobs in my "field" without much luck. I rarely get any bites and it's rarer still to get past an initial phone interview.

I lost my social life because I've been spending like the last five years failing to get a better job, and most of my friends know this. I find it pretty embarrassing, but maybe I'm just too self-conscious and they don't care as much as I think. But it's painful to me to try and keep up with my friends over the years and either pretend that I was/am content in my shitty job/unemployment, or to keep having no progress in my life to report.

Ferarri619 posted...

I've been wasting the past 10 years of my life because I'm traumatized by how I've been treated over the years, now I'm just going nowhere in life, and many days I can't even focus on video games because traumatic memories keep looping in my head over and over.
The memories mostly involve being sen as a creep by others, probably because of my appearance and I'm not as masculine or social butterfly like other guys are. One memory is as early as 2 years ago, being compared to others and seen as a creep by a girl I worked with.
I think I'm too far gone, don't wanna interact with anyone, but at the same time, starved for friendship and affection.

It's hard to accept but what other people think about you should not matter to you, especially from people that don't mean anything to you. Everybody has embarrassing memories but I find the best way to deal with them is to have a sense of humor about it. I'm not sure what your traumatic memories are but you need to just accept that they happened and that is okay. You don't need to have many friends, just a couple of close dependable friendships. Do you have anyone that you consider a good friend?

Also a lot of my friends are from school, and I went to a very career-oriented university, so I feel like they may be more judgmental on that than average people. With my friends from last job, I kind of get the feeling they have some hints of resentment towards me for quitting.

GunslingerGunsl posted...

Reflection as in thinking of all your past choices and where you're at now?

The past as that made me reach this point. Still it's pointless as the past can't be changed. All that matters is what I do today in order to create a better tomorrow.
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SteamedHams posted...

GunslingerGunsl posted...

Do you have any career plans now? How did you lose your social life from career problems? Most of my closest friends aren't even connected to my career at all.

No career plans, I'm just continuously applying to jobs in my "field" without much luck. I rarely get any bites and it's rarer still to get past an initial phone interview.

I lost my social life because I've been spending like the last five years failing to get a better job, and most of my friends know this. I find it pretty embarrassing, but maybe I'm just too self-conscious and they don't care as much as I think. But it's painful to me to try and keep up with my friends over the years and either pretend that I was/am content in my shitty job/unemployment, or to keep having no progress in my life to report.

Have you tried any fields that may utilize similar job skills that your previous career did? This is partly what I meant by trying something new. Any job that you did gave you skills that would be useful in another field as well. I'm sure you have multiple interests. Try looking into new careers and how your skills and prior employment can be applicable towards applying. In the meantime, you can still apply to jobs of the same career but it doesn't hurt to keep your options open. Who knows, maybe you'll find something new that you're passionate about. I also doubt your friends care about your unemployment as much as you do. We are almost always our own biggest critics. :)

SteamedHams posted...

Also a lot of my friends are from school, and I went to a very career-oriented university, so I feel like they may be more judgmental on that than average people. With my friends from last job, I kind of get the feeling they have some hints of resentment towards me for quitting.

Have you talked to any of them about how you feel? You might be overthinking it and actually worrying about something that doesn't need to be worried about.

wwinterj25 posted...

GunslingerGunsl posted...

Reflection as in thinking of all your past choices and where you're at now?

The past as that made me reach this point. Still it's pointless as the past can't be changed. All that matters is what I do today in order to create a better tomorrow.

That's the right way to go about it. I was telling a friend of mine the other day who was talking about her regrets, that she shouldn't regret anything from her past. Even the bad things. All the good and bad make us who we are now.

Well I'm looking for careers in tech like software development, and I sort of have experience in that, but it's not very good. So I have applied to adjacent ones, like tech support jobs, which generally seems to be one of the lowest-skill tech jobs there is, but I haven't had any more luck there.

I should have applied to some crappy jobs in the meantime but with how long I've been unemployed at this point I don't know if they'll help me much anymore. Also, truth be told, I don't really even know how to apply to stuff like low-level retail. I know everyone has online apps right now, but those seem like they're designed just to reject people.

GunslingerGunsl posted...

That's the right way to go about it. I was telling a friend of mine the other day who was talking about her regrets, that she shouldn't regret anything from her past. Even the bad things. All the good and bad make us who we are now.

True that. I don't have any regrets just can't help but think "what if" now and then.
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No worries it all won't matter in the long run. Even before you die, the events of this day unless they were exceptionally rare, would fade. Even if you do something amazing every day, your level of amazing will raise, and you won't remember most days.

It's just the way it works.

More so as you get older, and then, eventually, you'll die and it'll all be gone.

So live for the day, do what you want, enjoy life and help those around you do the same. Don't worry if you don't do everything, just do what makes you happy.
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SteamedHams posted...

Well I'm looking for careers in tech like software development, and I sort of have experience in that, but it's not very good. So I have applied to adjacent ones, like tech support jobs, which generally seems to be one of the lowest-skill tech jobs there is, but I haven't had any more luck there.

I should have applied to some crappy jobs in the meantime but with how long I've been unemployed at this point I don't know if they'll help me much anymore. Also, truth be told, I don't really even know how to apply to stuff like low-level retail. I know everyone has online apps right now, but those seem like they're designed just to reject people.

I would rather go in person to apply to a job if I can. That way you can have the human interaction and maybe gain a connection. Use your connections from your past employment if you still have some. It might be a good idea to try and take a class related to software development at a community college too. Not necessarily to teach you something you already know, but colleges are always sending information about employment for entry level jobs in those fields. Getting yourself back into school part-time could also be a good way to gain new connections socially and is helpful for employment.

wolfy42 posted...

So live for the day, do what you want, enjoy life and help those around you do the same. Don't worry if you don't do everything, just do what makes you happy.

While it's true most days you won't remember and nothing really matters when you're dead I'd hate to be in my 60's having regrets of things I never did. More importantly having my own family one day. Still I suppose that's the end game. I need to push start first.
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wwinterj25 posted...

GunslingerGunsl posted...

That's the right way to go about it. I was telling a friend of mine the other day who was talking about her regrets, that she shouldn't regret anything from her past. Even the bad things. All the good and bad make us who we are now.

True that. I don't have any regrets just can't help but think "what if" now and then.

Yeah I know what you mean. I sometimes fantasize about where my life could be if something may have happened how I had hoped it would. I like to think that things happened the way they did because there is something better in store for me. I also feel like I will appreciate it more when it happens because of the things I've already dealt with.
wolfy42 posted...

No worries it all won't matter in the long run. Even before you die, the events of this day unless they were exceptionally rare, would fade. Even if you do something amazing every day, your level of amazing will raise, and you won't remember most days.

It's just the way it works.

More so as you get older, and then, eventually, you'll die and it'll all be gone.

So live for the day, do what you want, enjoy life and help those around you do the same. Don't worry if you don't do everything, just do what makes you happy.

Thanks! :) Good advice. The thing that keeps me going is that tomorrow is another day and I don't know whats in store for then.

Like when you sleep in too late and you lose half the day.
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wolfy42 posted...

No worries it all won't matter in the long run. Even before you die, the events of this day unless they were exceptionally rare, would fade. Even if you do something amazing every day, your level of amazing will raise, and you won't remember most days.

It's just the way it works.

More so as you get older, and then, eventually, you'll die and it'll all be gone.

So live for the day, do what you want, enjoy life and help those around you do the same. Don't worry if you don't do everything, just do what makes you happy.

I've thought about this before. Once a human being dies, all memories of existence are erased from them.
I could take comfort in knowing death is the one thing that happens to everybody eventually, and everything eventually becomes nothing. I guess that's one reason I'm thankful to be an Atheist.
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GunslingerGunsl posted...

It's hard to accept but what other people think about you should not matter to you, especially from people that don't mean anything to you. Everybody has embarrassing memories but I find the best way to deal with them is to have a sense of humor about it. I'm not sure what your traumatic memories are but you need to just accept that they happened and that is okay. You don't need to have many friends, just a couple of close dependable friendships. Do you have anyone that you consider a good friend?

Yes, I do. They're all online friends. One girl I know from London, UK has experienced similar problems that I do and I'm thankful to have her as a friend. I've recently started playing Guild Wars. was able to connect to people on there as well.
Trying to connect with people in my city is useless though. I live in a rougher city. I don't want to be a part of the alcohol/drug culture you have to be a part of to be accepted here. I still can't help but get emotionally attached to people who just end up degrading and manipulating me.
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GunslingerGunsl posted...

I hate that feeling that I just wasted a whole day.

I call that feeling "Sunday."

SteamedHams posted...

I feel like I've wasted the whole last six years

SteamedHams posted...

I lost my social life because I've been spending like the last five years failing to get a better job, and most of my friends know this. I find it pretty embarrassing, but maybe I'm just too self-conscious and they don't care as much as I think. But it's painful to me to try and keep up with my friends over the years and either pretend that I was/am content in my shitty job/unemployment, or to keep having no progress in my life to report.

Really shouldn't let shit like that alienate you. Nor should you feel an expectation that you should be content although, in all honesty, this is starting to sound like depression.

SteamedHams posted...

I should have applied to some crappy jobs in the meantime but with how long I've been unemployed at this point I don't know if they'll help me much anymore. Also, truth be told, I don't really even know how to apply to stuff like low-level retail. I know everyone has online apps right now, but those seem like they're designed just to reject people.

Because those things are designed to reject people. Automation exists to pare down applicants and the simple act of having online applications is going to weed out people. For stuff like retail, food service, etc, you're probably best off just going down to meet the manager before doing anything (as well as talking to the employees to figure out if you even want to work there). However, even if you're looking to settle for a junk job, you're probably better off looking at better paying low-wage opportunities in your area.
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Don't feel bad dude, its okay to take a break especially if your day to day life is pretty full on. I often find I really miss those kinds of days when I'm back at work, so its best to make the most of them when they do come.

its okay to just wanna do you

just do what you feel, if you feel like going out and solving world hunger do it

if you feel like staying in bed for 12 hours and endlessly scrolling down instagram then do that

that's ultimately not gonna make a difference to achieving whatever your long term goals are
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life is to short for regrets, feel like doing something- do it, try anything once- twice if you like it, and most important, do not give a good goddamn about what anyone at anytime thinks about you.

you cannot begin to care about others until you care about yourself.
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ferko420 posted...

you cannot begin to care about others until you care about yourself.

Like when the oxygen mask comes down on an airplane and they tell you to put yours on first before assisting others.
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