Poll of the Day > Girlfriend may of lied to me about a past sexual encounter. Should I mention it?

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We matched on Tinder in November. I asked her out and she soft rejected me: sounds fun! Soon! She contacts me in late December on Snapchat and we talk. I ask her out again and she accepts. Things have been good, we spend every day with each other. She tells her friends she plans on moving away with me and getting married.

When she rejected me, there was this super buff college football player she was talking to and went out with, though I didnt know at the time. They went on one date, then a month late hooked up in his car. Not after a date, just hooking up. He rejects her, she goes out with me a week later, sleeps with me a couple days after. She tells me he was in October, lasted 20 seconds and he didnt text her back for three weeks and she felt bad about someone hooking up with her and not texting back which is why she rejected me initially. Later she says it was a week before seeing me in December, and she genuinely thought it was October.

It doesnt bug me she slept with him so close to me. I get it. It bugs me I feel she lied to me about the date it happens (because I did ask her about an STD test before we slept together), about why she initially rejected me, and about the reason for meeting up. I wouldve been okay with all of these if she told the truth, Ive met up with someone on Tinder for sex too.

She also says she just misremembered the dates and shell go get an STD test. I believe she feels terrible, but she hasnt said she lied yet. All shes told me is the updated dates it happened and met up to make out in car with no intention of having sex, wouldnt have done it but felt awkward for not making out on first date and didnt because it was daylight. But they kept talking about choosing the car with the most tinted windows before hand. I just want her to be honest.

Thanks for letting me vent PotD. You guys are great for that. Dont really need to read my posts.

blu posted...

Thanks for letting me vent PotD. You guys are great for that. Dont really need to read my posts.

Thanks for the heads up. I got lost reading that OP.

classic blu
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this guy is still around? holy crap, after having some(aparently) of his accounts on ignore its almost like he died because he doesnt have the kind of presence an erik did where you couldnt escape them no matter how hard ya tried.

well, i liked it better when i thought tc was dead

How could she lie about something that happened earlier if she didn't exist until you made her up?
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Real or not I'd just sit her down, talk about it, ask her to be 100% honest and take whatever she says as the truth until proven otherwise if it ever does get proven to be false. Don't go out of your way to "investigate" a issue that's not even worth investigating.

This is the problem with jumping into bed with someone after knowing them for a short period though. The trust simply isn't there. She doesn't feel the need to be honest with you for whatever reason and you don't feel like she's telling the truth no matter what she says.

This of course is just a observation on my part on how these things tend to work out. Many times I see "relationship problems" posted here that have very simple solutions when you cut all the drama out of it. Mind you I'm a 'down to earth' guy and direct with things so perhaps that's one of the reasons I have very little drama in my life.
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wwinterj25 posted...

Real or not I'd just sit her down, talk about it, ask her to be 100% honest and take whatever she says as the truth until proven otherwise if it ever does get proven to be false. Don't go out of your way to "investigate" a issue that's not even worth investigating.

I do remember liking your posts.

Yeah, I feel this is a good idea. It's not something that matters, but it's been clogging my head since I found out yesterday. I'm on vacation now and she's flying in tomorrow to meet me. I think I'll bring it up while on a walk, take her word, and call it good. It's the best thing for the relationship.

She's been very honest about me with everything else, I feel there was just an entire story here and none of it was true.

may of

lol gtfo
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It obviously bugs you. Man up.

blu posted...

Yeah, I feel this is a good idea. It's not something that matters, but it's been clogging my head since I found out yesterday. I'm on vacation now and she's flying in tomorrow to meet me. I think I'll bring it up while on a walk, take her word, and call it good. It's the best thing for the relationship.

Probably for the best. Good luck anyhow.
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Chances are it's going to bother you forever. Get it out of the way for better or worse.
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this is why I never have a gf I don't care about petty details
but until you've hung out with her a year or two marriage should be the last thing on your mind

RoboXgp89 posted...

this is why I never have a gf I don't care about petty details
but until you've hung out with her a year or two marriage should be the last thing on your mind

As soon as a lay eyes on someone I already have the names of our 50 kids all planned out.
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wwinterj25 posted...

RoboXgp89 posted...

this is why I never have a gf I don't care about petty details
but until you've hung out with her a year or two marriage should be the last thing on your mind

As soon as a lay eyes on someone I already have the names of our 50 kids all planned out.

that's a lot of goat milk

imo this happened before your relationship even started and you shouldn't be sweating it too much. nonetheless if it's bothering you, it's best to be open and communicative and get it resolved in a healthy manner.
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FatalAccident posted...

may of

lol gtfo

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Blightzkrieg posted...

How could she lie about something that happened earlier if she didn't exist until you made her up?

even imaginary people have imaginary backstories

like how some ult accounts here have imaginary backstories
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blu posted...

Ive met up with someone on Tinder for sex to

No you havent.
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dragon504 posted...

FatalAccident posted...

may of

lol gtfo

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What happened to Indian girl?
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shadowSEXil posted...

imo this happened before your relationship even started and you shouldn't be sweating it too much. nonetheless if it's bothering you, it's best to be open and communicative and get it resolved in a healthy manner.

Its more the dishonesty that bothers me.

I was fine with how it was presented before. Im going to bring it up tomorrow.

Andromicus posted...

What happened to Indian girl?

She got married in court to Florida Guy in February. Her wedding is in May. Im invited to come with my girlfriend, but I have to work that weekend. They live about five hours apart, but he will move into her place in May most likely. We talk most days. My girlfriend is slightly bothered by it, but Im very open and honest about it.

FatalAccident posted...

may of

lol gtfo

I didn't even bother reading his post after seeing that.
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Lol effiminate male feminists marrying/dating women who've slept with multiple men in the past. It's hilarious, if it weren't so sad. In fact there are several studies that show that such women can't pair bond correctly.
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The problem with things bothering you is you'll either get over it and not have to deal with it or it'll eat away at you from the inside out and ruin the relationship. Which one it'll be is anyone's guess. She sounds like an impulsive mess though, so you're probably doomed and she'll probably be that weird single old lady at the bar buying college boys drinks.

and I'm jumping on the "lol may of" bandwagon.
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JanwayDaahl posted...

Lol effiminate male feminists marrying/dating women who've slept with multiple men in the past. It's hilarious, if it weren't so sad. In fact there are several studies that show that such women can't pair bond correctly.

I've read that before too, it's like some women never want highschool to end so they fuck up your life at the kids expense

JanwayDaahl posted...

Lol effiminate male feminists marrying/dating women who've slept with multiple men in the past. It's hilarious, if it weren't so sad. In fact there are several studies that show that such women can't pair bond correctly.

A fake person is laughing at a fake person
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Blightzkrieg posted...

JanwayDaahl posted...

Lol effiminate male feminists marrying/dating women who've slept with multiple men in the past. It's hilarious, if it weren't so sad. In fact there are several studies that show that such women can't pair bond correctly.

A fake person is laughing at a fake person

Say it 100 times if you want, doesn't make it true.
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