Current Events > Anybody ever get a college girl to date them?

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I remember trying and having no success. I was about 25 at the time and had just gotten back to Tx from Nebraska where I had met the first girl I ever slept with. But she really screwed me over and I remember when I got home, everyone, including people on here, said "College is one of the best places to meet girls." "You might meet the love of your life there."

So I went in there very enthusiastic and open minded and positive, but I just kept getting turned down. All I was doing was making small talk, maybe a joke or two, and then asked them out for coffee... most common responses I got were:

"I would, but I'm busy."
"I have a boyfriend."
"Yeah we can go out!" Then I get a number and she either doesn't respond, or stops responding.

Anyone ever have success with that? It was really hard not to take it personally. I felt like my ex had just given me a big fuck you, then I get the same from all of the girls on campus. Really made me hate college. After a while, I just started wearing my shades everywhere and blasting my IPod so I could drown everyone out.
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Nope, no one here has ever dated a college girl.
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Master_Bass posted...

Nope, no one here has ever dated a college girl.

Lol well at least I'm not the only one.
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a college japanese girl in japan got my email address once but she never sent an email. I met her during a 2 week community college exchange thing in Nagoya. my group went to talk to an English class and each of us sat at a table with a group of Japanese. and my table was all girls except 1 guy. and this one girl was really friendly. but I never spoke to her again after that day.

I went to tag @NO_U_L7 but it isnt working . he must be suspended or something. or maybe i got his name wrong?

edit: oh wait it did work.
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I remember one time I was so frustrated that I actually thought about going up to some random guy with a hot girl and just being like, "Hey man, how did you get that fine ass woman to go out with you?"
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you need social circles.
i tried doing random approaches on campus as a student, it doesn't work that well, i got the same responses you got, the effort in does not match the reward out.
i go to a big campus too, 40,000+ students.

just join a student organization and make some friends

bob742omb posted...

you need social circles.
i tried doing random approaches on campus as a student, it doesn't work that well, i got the same responses you got, the effort in does not match the reward out.
i go to a big campus too, 40,000+ students.

just join student organization and make some friends

hmm well I'm out now. I remember trying to hang with the church group, but none of them ever wanted to date either, they just wanted to play with their friends.
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What if the college girl is 50?
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Medz1286 posted...

What if the college girl is 50?

still counts. also, most of them act the same anyways.
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I've dated multiple college girls. When I was in college. After you are mid 20s, forget it. 20-21 year olds are very aware that they aren't kids any more and they are going to have to enter the real world very soon and don't want to deal with somebody who already is who reminds them of that. ....unless you're going to provide for and subsidize them.
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r4X0r posted...

I've dated multiple college girls. When I was in college. After you are mid 20s, forget it. 20-21 year olds are very aware that they aren't kids any more and they are going to have to enter the real world very soon and don't want to deal with somebody who already is who reminds them of that. ....unless you're going to provide for and subsidize them.

True, closest I ever got was the one night fucked this 19 year old. I was 27, but she got really about a week later. Very annoying. I remember after I had gotten turned down about 30 times, I just gave up and went online.
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I mean.... when I was in college
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Nope, I could never get a college girl to show up on a date. I got one to agree to one. She was a cute blonde girl. But she flaked on me. College girls are basically impossible.
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Yes. Currently dating one right now. I look younger than I am, however. But I'm at the age where I have my life together, and college chicks seem to dig that as they figure out their own lives. It never really works long-term, but I surely enjoy the ride while it lasts.
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Sting posted...

I remember trying and having no success. I was about 25 at the time and had just gotten back to Tx from Nebraska where I had met the first girl I ever slept with. But she really screwed me over and I remember when I got home, everyone, including people on here, said "College is one of the best places to meet girls." "You might meet the love of your life there."

So I went in there very enthusiastic and open minded and positive, but I just kept getting turned down. All I was doing was making small talk, maybe a joke or two, and then asked them out for coffee... most common responses I got were:

"I would, but I'm busy."
"I have a boyfriend."
"Yeah we can go out!" Then I get a number and she either doesn't respond, or stops responding.

Anyone ever have success with that? It was really hard not to take it personally. I felt like my ex had just given me a big fuck you, then I get the same from all of the girls on campus. Really made me hate college. After a while, I just started wearing my shades everywhere and blasting my IPod so I could drown everyone out.

Yeah, that's what you're doing wrong. Small talk doesn't make girls attracted to you. Learn how to have more interesting, flirty conversations.
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to the last 3: explain
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Sting posted...

to the last 3: explain

everyone does small talk. it's called small talk for a reason. its bleh, doesn't do much for you one way or the other and is ultimately forgettable. when was the last time a girl though "damn, that was some great small talk, that guy sure knew a lot about the weather, i want to bang him so bad". learn to how to actually have good interesting conversations and mix in flirty banter.
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No_U_L7 posted...

Sting posted...

to the last 3: explain

everyone does small talk. it's called small talk for a reason. its bleh, doesn't do much for you one way or the other and is ultimately forgettable. when was the last time a girl though "damn, that was some great small talk, that guy sure knew a lot about the weather, i want to bang him so bad". learn to how to actually have good interesting conversations and mix in flirty banter.

Give me an example, since you're an expert
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I've had tons, what's the issue?
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nevershine posted...

I've had tons, what's the issue?

I just don't know what they wanted. Talking to them, being nice, even making some of them laugh at jokes, and then asking for coffee wasn't enough. I just gave up after a while because I was like, "What's the point, she is either going to turn me down or flake on me anyways."

That's why I hate college girls.
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Pepys Monster posted...

Nope, I could never get a college girl to show up on a date. I got one to agree to one. She was a cute blonde girl. But she flaked on me. College girls are basically impossible.

only if youre ugly

Sting posted...

I remember trying and having no success. I was about 25 at the time and had just gotten back to Tx from Nebraska where I had met the first girl I ever slept with. But she really screwed me over and I remember when I got home, everyone, including people on here, said "College is one of the best places to meet girls." "You might meet the love of your life there."

So I went in there very enthusiastic and open minded and positive, but I just kept getting turned down. All I was doing was making small talk, maybe a joke or two, and then asked them out for coffee... most common responses I got were:

"I would, but I'm busy."
"I have a boyfriend."
"Yeah we can go out!" Then I get a number and she either doesn't respond, or stops responding.

Anyone ever have success with that? It was really hard not to take it personally. I felt like my ex had just given me a big fuck you, then I get the same from all of the girls on campus. Really made me hate college. After a while, I just started wearing my shades everywhere and blasting my IPod so I could drown everyone out.

lmao youre 25 and think you can hit it with a college girl?

Sting posted...

I remember one time I was so frustrated that I actually thought about going up to some random guy with a hot girl and just being like, "Hey man, how did you get that fine ass woman to go out with you?"

are you socially inept? this is something someone with no social skills would do

College was my dating prime and I didn't even have to try.
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Sting posted...

nevershine posted...

I've had tons, what's the issue?

I just don't know what they wanted. Talking to them, being nice, even making some of them laugh at jokes, and then asking for coffee wasn't enough. I just gave up after a while because I was like, "What's the point, she is either going to turn me down or flake on me anyways."

That's why I hate college girls.

Well, I suppose a lot of it has to do with chemistry, like either they feel your vibe or they don't. That doesn't make it anyone's fault, it just means you gotta keep your chin up and keep trying. You can't strike out every time. My advice is, become friends first. That's step one. Gotta get to know em. Now, I haven't read this entire topic, so maybe I'm repeating what other posters have written.
You've got this in the bag if you play it right.
You don't have to be a chad if you've got personality.
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nevershine posted...

Sting posted...

nevershine posted...

I've had tons, what's the issue?

I just don't know what they wanted. Talking to them, being nice, even making some of them laugh at jokes, and then asking for coffee wasn't enough. I just gave up after a while because I was like, "What's the point, she is either going to turn me down or flake on me anyways."

That's why I hate college girls.

Well, I suppose a lot of it has to do with chemistry, like either they feel your vibe or they don't. That doesn't make it anyone's fault, it just means you gotta keep your chin up and keep trying. You can't strike out every time. My advice is, become friends first. That's step one. Gotta get to know em. Now, I haven't read this entire topic, so maybe I'm repeating what other posters have written.
You've got this in the bag if you play it right.
You don't have to be a chad if you've got personality.

That's a big issue I always had with college girls. Why is it that they can be picky about how they want guys to talk to them, yet we have to be on our best behavior and take what they give us? Fuck that. I was at a really shitty point in my life and had just been screwed over by the military and my ex girlfriend. So I went to college with my chin in the air and said 'ok, this is a fresh start.' But when I tried to ask them out, just kept getting rejected.

Cant stand that shit. They don't want to be treated as equals, they want to be treated better than guys are. Glad I'm done with college.
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