Poll of the Day > Do you think you would ever put your parents in a nursing home?

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If and when that time comes what do you think you would?. Saw a story in my local news about great physical abuse going on in a local nursing home
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My dad gets a Navy pension. So fuck no. Gonna utilize that additional source of income.
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I don't think I could...
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No, we can afford private nurses.
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DoubleOSnake posted...

Saw a story in my local news about great physical abuse going on in a local nursing home

2nd amendment dat sheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeet... If your mom says a nurse is punching her, you break that nurse a new catheter
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DoubleOSnake posted...

If and when that time comes what do you think you would?. Saw a story in my local news about great physical abuse going on in a local nursing home

Thats exactly why I would send them to a home.
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Only if they developed a type of condition that would be especially burdensome, such as Alzheimer's.
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My grandma would've had a better quality of life towards the end if she'd gone into a home 2-3 years earlier and avoided a couple of bad falls. But she was capable enough and very stubborn, so it ended poorly. The lesson I took away from that is to just say "tough" and take them in if it's best for them, regardless of the impact on your relationship. The right thing to do is usually the harder one.

As for my parents, it'd be easy if they lost their minds but hard if they were with it upstairs and just debilitated physically. They're (hopefully) still another 20-30 years away from that point, but the discussion has happened and they're fine with it and don't expect me to look after them. When they're dead, I don't want to even live in my city anymore because I'm so close them that I'd just be reminded constantly and be miserable 24/7.
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Yeah but Ill make sure its a good one and visit them at least once a week
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Assuming they deteriorate to the point that they can't live by themselves, maybe. I know that my grandma lived with my aunt for some years (before going back to living independently?) and then lived with another aunt afterward before finally winding up in a home. Quite honestly, I doubt I'd be able to provide the level of care that either parent might need, and it would generally be a bad living situation *unless* I had young kids or something that they could watch while I was at work, although even then that's not a permanent solution.

I will note that I have a friend whose grandma has a lot of family in the area so everybody kinda takes turns watching her, etc, which I suppose is a decent enough solution unless there's a larger medical need.

DoubleOSnake posted...

Saw a story in my local news about great physical abuse going on in a local nursing home

Curious choice of words.
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If my sister and I are financially stable enough to have our mother taken care of at home that would be our first option. Barring that we would resort to a nursing home only in the most extreme cases.
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