Current Events > She said she doesn't want to see me again, and called me a loser

(+) Yeah! (+)

Same girl from this topic
https://www.gamefaqs.com/boards/400-current-events/75922850

She said she didn't want to see me again because we didn't match. Which, is fine. If that's how she feels, that's how she feels. But then she called me a loser and said I must be. "either lonely or stupid" for thinking I ever had a chance with her. She was a super sweet, innocent girl, this came out of absolutely nowhere.

I'm going to get fucking plastered tonight because if I don't I'm going to be starring at my ceiling in bed for the next 12 hours tearing myself apart. Fuck. GOD DAMN IT. Why does everything have to be so hard? Tell me it's going to be okay, guys. I really can't take this right now.
---

It's going to be okay, buddy. She's just a dumb girl. You'll find someone better.
---

Pepys Monster posted...

She's just a dumb girl

---

deupd_u posted...

I'm going to get f***ing plastered tonight because if I don't I'm going to be starring at my ceiling in bed for the next 12 hours tearing myself apart. f***. GOD DAMN IT. Why does everything have to be so hard? Tell me it's going to be okay, guys. I really can't take this right now.

this would just be proving her right

she probably gets off on having the power to destroy you for several days

best thing you can do is not be upset by it

infact, find another girl and make sure she sees you with that girl between your arms

this is not to make her jealous but to regain your self-esteem
---

Life sucks and is difficult.

But its going to be okay.
---

darkphoenix181 posted...

this would just be proving her right

That's why it hurt, she probably is right.
---

Tbh you dodged a bullet it sounds like
---

deupd_u posted...

That's why it hurt, she probably is right.

then make her wrong
---

deupd_u posted...

darkphoenix181 posted...

this would just be proving her right

That's why it hurt, she probably is right.

No, she isn't.
---

"Sucks being abandoned by..."

Shut up. That is not abandonment. Quit playing the victim when you aren't one. Someone who you barely know, that isnt interested in having lunch with you, is not abandoning you.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pP33_uFlzTM
---

Youre looking at this the wrong way. Im guessing she got nasty because you were weird and emotionally dependent on someone you barely know. Early rejection can be disappointing, but it shouldnt consume you or destroy your sense of self worth.

So you know why its going to be okay? Because this girl ultimately doesnt matter. And this episode should be a wake up call that you have some personal issues to focus on. Pull your life together and get some confidence. Then itll be water on a ducks back when this happens. And even when harder stuff hits.
---

Couldnt happen to a nicer guy
---

EnragedSlith posted...

Youre looking at this the wrong way. Im guessing she got nasty because you were weird and emotionally dependent on someone you barely know. Early rejection can be disappointing, but it shouldnt consume you or destroy your sense of self worth.

So you know why its going to be okay? Because this girl ultimately doesnt matter. And this episode should be a wake up call that you have some personal issues to focus on. Pull your life together and get some confidence. Then itll be water on a ducks back when this happens. And even when harder stuff hits.

I know. But she just hit that button in me. I have nightmares about weird attitude shifts from people I know, like this. I'm going to go out and try my hardest to take some bitch home tonight. Fuck.

Cornmuffins posted...

Couldnt happen to a nicer guy

top kek. Using the immortal words of Hollywood Undead, in their smash hit "Party By Myself" to describe myself: "Never met someone so damn freaky, who at the same time is such a sweetie."
---

I wouldn't be worried about fucking girls, since in this present state, you would definitely fuck it up.

You should focus on bettering yourself and developing self worth somehow. You are seeking validation from women, that's dangerous. Won't end how you want, proly ever. They want you to come with all the parts assembled. That thought ,' I'll meet the right girl and then I'll be able to motivate and better myself!'

That'll blow up in your damn face.

Aaaand all the bars are closed off because of some fraternity event. I can't even drink my fucking problems away
---

deupd_u posted...

Aaaand all the bars are closed off because of some fraternity event. I can't even drink my fucking problems away

You should watch a cool action movie like John Wick or something. Do something manly that a boring GF wouldn't like.
---

The reason I've been on CE for the last 11 years is because you're the only ones who haven't abandoned me...because you can't, but still. I'm going to try my best to get some sleep, I guess.
---

I feel like this is an appropriate time to repost these.


































---
<cite>YuriSakazaki0 posted [p:889240229] in She said s... [t:75923397]...</cite> <quote>wtf</quote>

deupd_u posted...

I'm going to get f***ing plastered tonight because if I don't I'm going to be starring at my ceiling in bed for the next 12 hours tearing myself apart.

it's just some chick, not anyone you had a meaningful relationship with. Don't take it too seriously.
---

deupd_u posted...

Same girl from this topic
https://www.gamefaqs.com/boards/400-current-events/75922850

She said she didn't want to see me again because we didn't match. Which, is fine. If that's how she feels, that's how she feels. But then she called me a loser and said I must be. "either lonely or stupid" for thinking I ever had a chance with her. She was a super sweet, innocent girl, this came out of absolutely nowhere.

I'm going to get fucking plastered tonight because if I don't I'm going to be starring at my ceiling in bed for the next 12 hours tearing myself apart. Fuck. GOD DAMN IT. Why does everything have to be so hard? Tell me it's going to be okay, guys. I really can't take this right now.

It will be ok. There's a reason for everything, and life never really turns out like we imagine it. So, just roll with it man.

deupd_u posted...

Tell me it's going to be okay, guys. I really can't take this right now.

It's going to be okay.


---

You should find a massive dong pic and send it to her. Then said you missed out on this bitch
---

giantblimpN7 posted...

Tbh you dodged a bullet it sounds like

This fr, she sounds like a mean bitch who's a little too into herself. I wouldn't feel bad about not being with someone like that.

Sucks, but you're gonna have to suck it up. I had this happen to me Wednesday, but I didn't let it get to me since she was the one that fucked up. I was upset about the fact that I thought she was worth my time in the first and her lack of class, but gave no fucks about the insults thrown my way.
---

deupd_u posted...

The reason I've been on CE for the last 11 years is because you're the only ones who haven't abandoned me...because you can't, but still. I'm going to try my best to get some sleep, I guess.

You've known you have this problem for 11 years and haven't done anything about it. This is on you. If you feel that you are constantly being abandoned, maybe you have something to do with that. People don't deal very well with clingy, needy, or otherwise toxic character traits. Alcohol isn't going to fix your problems. Figure out why you don't do well with relationships and work to fix it. How is your social life otherwise? Do you have any long term friends? Do you exercise regularly? How is your career? Relationships are great, but they are so much better when you have yourself together.

ok this topic got weird fast
---

C7D posted...

You've known you have this problem for 11 years and haven't done anything about it. This is on you. If you feel that you are constantly being abandoned, maybe you have something to do with that. People don't deal very well with clingy, needy, or otherwise toxic character traits. Alcohol isn't going to fix your problems. Figure out why you don't do well with relationships and work to fix it. How is your social life otherwise? Do you have any long term friends? Do you exercise regularly? How is your career? Relationships are great, but they are so much better when you have yourself together.

It's not just girls; everyone I've ever met hates me. And I'm really not clingy, I think it's a gross over-exaggeration to say my being upset she was flaky/rude is "clingy." It's an entire social problem, and there's really no fix other than exposure. I've gotten better, but I can't just wait 10 more years until I've learned the je ne sais quoi all the normies have, I have to try constantly. There is no horizon in which it will all magically get better because I have some career or something.

Conflict posted...

If this how you react to those words then I'm not even remotely shocked that she said that to you. Uninstall all the dating apps from your phone and go see a therapist.

Someone said hurtful things to me (for no reason) that happened to be my buttons. We all have buttons, and I guess I can't expect most of CE to understand talking to girls.
---

deanshow posted...

You should find a massive dong pic and send it to her. Then said you missed out on this bitch

Actually, you should take a picture of your own dong, but add a watermark at the bottom of some random url like randomdickpics.something.

Then, she'll think you sent a random dick pic to her, but in actuality, she just looked at your dick.

Trust me, it's funny.

deupd_u posted...

C7D posted...

You've known you have this problem for 11 years and haven't done anything about it. This is on you. If you feel that you are constantly being abandoned, maybe you have something to do with that. People don't deal very well with clingy, needy, or otherwise toxic character traits. Alcohol isn't going to fix your problems. Figure out why you don't do well with relationships and work to fix it. How is your social life otherwise? Do you have any long term friends? Do you exercise regularly? How is your career? Relationships are great, but they are so much better when you have yourself together.

It's not just girls; everyone I've ever met hates me. And I'm really not clingy, I think it's a gross over-exaggeration to say my being upset she was flaky/rude is "clingy." It's an entire social problem, and there's really no fix other than exposure. I've gotten better, but I can't just wait 10 more years until I've learned the je ne sais quoi all the normies have, I have to try constantly. There is no horizon in which it will all magically get better because I have some career or something.

You are actually on the right track. Exposure is the sure fire way to fix your problem. I once suffered from social anxiety. I did not know how to talk to people. Furthermore, very few people understood the things I enjoyed speaking about. I was about 14 at the time.

My dad worked for a small business and my mom was suffering from PTSD and some other more severe mental problems. I used to go sit in the office at his work. His boss saw that I was having some problems and offered me a job answering calls. I had a difficult time with this in the beginning but gradually increased my conversational skills. Before long, I was taking care of behind the counter technical sales. It took some time to look people in the face, but gradually I built confidence. Now, I can meet strangers and just shoot the breeze on command. I'll never be a used car salesman or a pastor, but I do okay.

I still have some trouble today. My wife thinks I may have Asperger's. That being said, I got much better because I got an opportunity to put myself out there. Seek out your opportunity. I know you said this isn't about a career, but getting a job is how I made it work for me. Today, I have a wife and children, pets, a graduate degree, and a job in my career field. Don't lose hope. The light is at the end of the tunnel if you travel along the right path. Finding that path is up to you!

NeoShadowhen posted...

deanshow posted...

You should find a massive dong pic and send it to her. Then said you missed out on this bitch

Actually, you should take a picture of your own dong, but add a watermark at the bottom of some random url like randomdickpics.something.

Then, she'll think you sent a random dick pic to her, but in actuality, she just looked at your dick.

Trust me, it's funny.

That's actually pretty funny hahahagah
---

Conflict posted...

You're literally posting a bunch of dumb and sappy pictures on an online message board because some girl called you a loser. Don't act like that reflects on anybody other than yourself.

I think they're funny, which makes me feel good.
---

Its true that effort is not proportional to results with women. Its a rigged game. Some men dont have to try. Others have to try very, very hard. But you can do it. Dont get hung up on one girl. Its a numbers game.
---

Pepys Monster posted...

Its true that effort is not proportional to results with women. Its a rigged game. Some men dont have to try. Others have to try very, very hard. But you can do it. Dont get hung up on one girl. Its a numbers game.

It's really not. I'm not good looking, but I have women hit on me almost every day, even though I'm married. You don't need to put in effort to get a girl to like you. Put your effort into yourself and all will work itself out. Numbers are not a good game in the relationship department. No way would I have ever dated someone I didn't see myself with long term.

Pepys Monster posted...

Its true that effort is not proportional to results with women. Its a rigged game. Some men dont have to try. Others have to try very, very hard. But you can do it. Dont get hung up on one girl. Its a numbers game.

The girl I lost my virginity to asked me out. It happens.

If you're pretty good looking with personality, just put yourself out there in an actual social situation. It's so much easier to be appreciated by women in person.
---

C7D posted...

Numbers are not a good game in the relationship department.

Yeah, but that's obvious. Monogamous relationships are a huge coin toss if you're a millennial, even if you get good vibes early on.
---

C7D posted...

Pepys Monster posted...

Its true that effort is not proportional to results with women. Its a rigged game. Some men dont have to try. Others have to try very, very hard. But you can do it. Dont get hung up on one girl. Its a numbers game.

It's really not. I'm not good looking, but I have women hit on me almost every day, even though I'm married. You don't need to put in effort to get a girl to like you. Put your effort into yourself and all will work itself out. Numbers are not a good game in the relationship department. No way would I have ever dated someone I didn't see myself with long term.

You misunderstood. You have to meet lots of women until you can find one who will accept you.
---

On a semi-related note because C7D was talking about careers, I did get a call for a job interview, so I feel somewhat slightly less shitty.
---