Poll of the Day > Oh man, I think I'm depressed

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idk if there's a difference between "being depressed" and "having depression" and I've always been one to be like lol self diagnosis gtfo but honestly looking at the symptoms... low mood, low energy, struggling to get out of bed, apathy, not being interested in anything like I used to be all leads me to think I'm going through some nonsense

Like my sis is getting married, I'm happy for her but then again I sayI'm happy for her. I don't actually know if I feel happy for her you know what I mean?

Or when my gf says she loves me, I can say I love you too but that's more of just going through the motions, I don't really feel much emotion.

I've been in my job 6 months now and I've lost the buzz I had when I first started, it just doesn't excite me anymore. I just clock in and clock out.

Only thing that kind of gets me excited is the new car, but even that is starting to feel a bit meh.

Everything feels pretty meh. I don't even feel particularly sad.. I just don't feel particularly anything .__.

What the hell is going on here PotD? wat i gotta do yo

tl;dr am I bored or depressed? idk
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Yes, what you listed seems to be symptoms of depression (mild)

Should get a therapist to figure out the root of a problem

Sometimes there is no problem sadly, a lot of people just deal with it. A LOT

Recommend trying new things that can lessen the intensity but definitely do not ignore it
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mastermix3000 posted...

Recommend trying new things

I've thought of this, but when it comes to actually starting anything I lose interest (surprise surprise) if I even get round to it

Not really sure what the root of the problem would be either
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FatalAccident posted...

Everything feels pretty meh. I don't even feel particularly sad.. I just don't feel particularly anything .__.

Same here. I haven't got depression though. I simply just need/want more in my life than what I currently have. I'm not just talking about a job, a girlfriend and my own family. I'm talking about a break from the same, everyday routine. Life offers so much yet I've experienced so little. Perhaps a trip somewhere will help you?
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Sounds a lot like depression. however, you could be really bored, and getting stuck in your routine. That can feel like depression--and can contribute to a depressed state. The best thing to do is take some time for yourself to take care of yourself, and do what you can to try new things. get out. Talk with people face to face. go eat something really tasty. Find a cool park to walk in. Anything out of the norm that seems appealing, go for it.

I got into an awful funk this week where it was a real low. and had similar feelings about my partner. In my case i'm just pretty sure that he's not who I really want to be with and I'm going to have to break it off. Hurrf. Either way I am in no state to be a good partner for anyone.

now I'm planning and working towards doing something new--checking out a new country and meeting friends.

What kind of goals do you have right now, Fatal?
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I'm betting that you are in your mid 20's.
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A positive change in diet and regular healthy exercise can help. Try going for a run in the mornings.

Human nature screams at people in the first world that something is wrong and then people mistakingly look at themselves like something's wrong with them.

People try to lie to themselves and when they get that thing they think will make them happy they give up on life because it doesn't.

People live indoors more than ever before, they miss the sunlight more than ever before, they have less of a purpose than ever before, things are more bureaucratic than ever before, and people blend in with the crowd more than ever before. Just look at the starving tribes of Africa and tell me how many "depressed" people you see.
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It's likely boredom if it's not affecting your ability to perform everyday tasks.

Do you still care about getting to work (even if it's not exciting)? Do you actually get there & do the job?
Do you care that your GF is still with you (even though you might not be euphoric?)

If you're really worried, google your local mental health organizations. They'll usually have free drop in clinics, or a hotline you can call to see if it's something you should be addressing.

Doctor Foxx posted...

What kind of goals do you have right now, Fatal?

My only goal at the moment is getting a house though, that's either gonna be in December or June depending on what I find so I have that to look forward to, and I'm hoping I'll reset and get back to the old me. But who knows really

Part of me thought it was getting stuck in my routine. I'd get up at 5am to hit the gym, get back home and shower, get to work for 8am, and be out by 5pm. I'd normally go out for dinner, movies and whatever afterwards, and some mornings I'd "treat myself" to sleeping in if I didn't feel like going to the gym. Maybe that routine got mundane?

I feel the same way as you though cause I don't think I'm fit to be with anybody right now especially if I can't reciprocate any feelings. Ugh
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desuno-to posted...

Do you still care about getting to work (even if it's not exciting)? Do you actually get there & do the job?
Do you care that your GF is still with you (even though you might not be euphoric?)

Yeah I care about getting there cause I'm less than a year in so I'm still trying to make a good impression, I don't think my work is suffering but lately I feel like my manager's been second guessing me and not giving me enough room to do my own thing, unless I'm being totally paranoid

idk about my girlfriend, she's around and that's fine and everything but if she left tomorrow I'd probably be okay. She's also talking about getting married and I'm thinking I don't have enough emotion nowadays to do/buy/say nice things for you let alone propose

I'll probably just go to a doctor and say hey I feel really tired and not myself lately and slowly eke out whether they think it's depression or not
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FatalAccident posted...

I'll probably just go to a doctor and say hey I feel really tired and not myself lately and slowly eke out whether they think it's depression or not

Do this for sure. It will put your mind at ease, which will go a long way if in fact you do have depression.

I dunno if it was depression but this year, after my GF broke up with me, i had no emotions for most things aswell

I mean i always loved wrestling but i went to a Raw episode, i bought the tickets for her because she loved it, and i felt nothing while watching it. I was literraly just spending time and quit because i had no desire to work where i worked. Went to Dublin and hated it.

As a former Judo fighter, wrestler, current Rugby player, metalhead it's weird how the thing that broke me was a 1.50m girl
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ninjabay posted...

I dunno if it was depression but this year, after my GF broke up with me, i had no emotions for most things aswell

I mean i always loved wrestling but i went to a Raw episode, i bought the tickets for her because she loved it, and i felt nothing while watching it. I was literraly just spending time and quit because i had no desire to work where i worked. Went to Dublin and hated it.

As a former Judo fighter, wrestler, current Rugby player, metalhead it's weird how the thing that broke me was a 1.50m girl

Hmm did you ever really get over it?
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When in doubt, see a professional.
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FatalAccident posted...

ninjabay posted...

I dunno if it was depression but this year, after my GF broke up with me, i had no emotions for most things aswell

I mean i always loved wrestling but i went to a Raw episode, i bought the tickets for her because she loved it, and i felt nothing while watching it. I was literraly just spending time and quit because i had no desire to work where i worked. Went to Dublin and hated it.

As a former Judo fighter, wrestler, current Rugby player, metalhead it's weird how the thing that broke me was a 1.50m girl

Hmm did you ever really get over it?

not yet but since i quit my job i improved a bit, at least had some determination to finish my master thesis but still most days i struggle to get out of bed
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ninjabay posted...

not yet but since i quit my job i improved a bit, at least had some determination to finish my master thesis but still most days i struggle to get out of bed

So did you actually seek professional help?

desuno-to posted...

ninjabay posted...

not yet but since i quit my job i improved a bit, at least had some determination to finish my master thesis but still most days i struggle to get out of bed

So did you actually seek professional help?

Nope I did not

I started working out again and it's slightly improving, that i kinda felt embarassed about the whole ordeal
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ninjabay posted...

that i kinda felt embarassed about the whole ordeal

Well you shouldn't. It affects more people than most people realize.

desuno-to posted...

ninjabay posted...

that i kinda felt embarassed about the whole ordeal

Well you shouldn't. It affects more people than most people realize.

Yeah i know and i always tell that to people just... well it's easier said than done
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desuno-to posted...

It affects more people than most people realize.

I hear this quite a bit is there any truth to it really?

Like you hear one in four people will feel this way to some degree, like really? that's a lot of people. Like out of my family of four, I'm the 1/4? Yeah okay I can buy that but that's still a pretty high number
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1 out of every 4 seems high but there different cases and levels
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FatalAccident posted...

I hear this quite a bit is there any truth to it really?

Look at OP. He was wondering if he was bored or depressed. The distinction can be subtle between depression and being bored/lethargic/apathetic/lacking energy etc.

I don't think it's an exaggeration to say almost everyone suffers from some form of mental illness. The difference is that it's at varying degrees, and for many people they are naturally able to keep it under check where they don't need to see a doctor. You could probably think of some instances where you (or those around you) are depressed, OCD or maybe have anger control issues.

I'm not a medical professional, and even if I were there's not enough information, but it does sound like depression. How long have you been feeling this way? Do you have any idea what may have prompted it? If you can't really identify anything specific, I would suggest you try exercising, probiotics, and improving your diet. Exercise is a natural mood lifter, and there's a strong connection between your gut health and your mental state. Try adding a quality probiotic and some fresh fruits and veggies to your diet, and see where that gets you. Also, I would suggest opening up to your girlfriend (and anyone else you really trust) about what's going on. Your partner should be a person who you can talk to honestly when you need help, and if you can't, you definitely shouldn't be getting married.
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