Current Events > I'm depressed, and I've been drinking

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I don't even know what to say. It's all pretty much standard, I think. Depression sucks, it feels like I'm not going anywhere or doing anything, I don't have friends, etc

I started drinking Friday evening, and didn't stop for much except food and naps until late Sunday night. Today I've been in the bathroom vomiting and shaking on the floor.

At least it's almost bed time
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Damn dude. Get some help. Reach out to family.
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Nothing really seems to help, and I definitely don't want to bother my family with this. I've had depression and anxiety issues for a while now and I quit therapy a few years ago, telling my family I felt better.
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Yeah, man.

Get some food and water and get to bed, if you can.
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I can't stomach food right now but I've been drinking water.
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If you hate being depressed stop drinking.

Drinking is a depressant it'll only make things worse. Reach out for some help man it'll only do you good
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Water is the important port, so that's good.

Got any food to try when you wake up in the morning? Just like some cereal nearby or even bread. Or whatever fancy anti-hangover stuff you know of.
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I4NRulez posted...

If you hate being depressed stop drinking.

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Do you want to see a picture of a puppy sleeping?
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Just stop drinking CE says. Just call your mom and everything will be okay, CE says.

Jesus fucking Christ.
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I4NRulez posted...

If you hate being depressed stop drinking.

Drinking is a depressant it'll only make things worse. Reach out for some help man it'll only do you good

It's funny because I know this is true, but I can't seem to actually make myself fix it. That fuzzy feeling when I'm not worrying about anything is just so nice. Sometimes blacking out at home is nice because I don't have to be alone with myself while I fall asleep (or I don't remember it, anyway). I know I'd feel better if I stopped drinking, but here we are.

Dragon239 posted...

Water is the important port, so that's good.

Got any food to try when you wake up in the morning? Just like some cereal nearby or even bread. Or whatever fancy anti-hangover stuff you know of.

I have class tomorrow morning so I'll probably pick up some food at school.
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Zurkon posted...

nexigrams posted...

Just stop drinking CE says. Just call your mom and everything will be okay, CE says.

Jesus fucking Christ.

I'm not sure what you're trying to say, you don't think he should stop?

He's sacrastically saying "It's that easy..."

nexigrams posted...

Just stop drinking CE says. Just call your mom and everything will be okay, CE says.

Jesus f***ing Christ.

Thats exactly what he should do, its not going to make his depression go away but its the first step.

I have depression and what he's doing is one of the worst things he can be doing.
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I4NRulez posted...

nexigrams posted...

Just stop drinking CE says. Just call your mom and everything will be okay, CE says.

Jesus f***ing Christ.

Thats exactly what he should do, its not going to make his depression go away but its the first step.

I have depression and what he's doing is one of the worst things he can be doing.

It's that easy...

You guys should go to rehabs and AA meetings to spread the word. I think you have some very powerful insight that could really help the millions of people who suffer from devastating and debilitating addiction problems. Just stop drinking. It's so easy! Why has no one thought of this before!?!

You guys should write a book or something.
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Will you

Walk me

To the edge again

nexigrams posted...

You guys should go to rehabs and AA meetings to spread the word. I think you have some very powerful insight that could really help the millions of people who suffer from devastating and debilitating addiction problems. Just stop drinking. It's so easy! Why has no one thought of this before!?!

You guys should write a book or something.

dude, shut up you're not helping anything.
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I4NRulez posted...

nexigrams posted...

You guys should go to rehabs and AA meetings to spread the word. I think you have some very powerful insight that could really help the millions of people who suffer from devastating and debilitating addiction problems. Just stop drinking. It's so easy! Why has no one thought of this before!?!

You guys should write a book or something.

dude, shut up you're not helping anything.

But "just stop drinking" is sage advice.

take up an instrument!

Just ride it out man, don't suppress your feelings with alcohol, face them, this depression is only temporary. Things always come out right in the end. I don't know how but they do.

Godspeed.
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nexigrams posted...

Just stop drinking CE says. Just call your mom and everything will be okay, CE says.

Jesus fucking Christ.

It's a start. Like step one. Step two. Not saying it will instantly fix everything. I got depressed to the point of wanting to kill myself back in february. The road to recovery started with me telling my mom. No one knew before that, no one was going to help me. Because I didn't want people to know and worry about me. If I didn't reach out to my mom as a starting point, I probably would have killed myself.
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moms really are the best

MrMelodramatic posted...

Nothing really seems to help, and I definitely don't want to bother my family with this.

I think they'd rather you 'bother' them then be depressed and miserable. I use to think this same way. Reach out bro. You ARE NOT alone.
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SteelySchuel posted...

But "just stop drinking" is sage advice.

Where do you expect him to start? He got depressed and started drinking and is asking for help.

The first thing ANYONE is going to tell him to do is stop drinking. He's choosing to drink away the feeling and he has to choose to stop drinking
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Don't listen to nexi. He's our special little Mr Negativity.
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Zurkon posted...

tremain07 posted...

Do you want to see a picture of a puppy sleeping?

I kinda do.

Wish granted.


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I4NRulez posted...

SteelySchuel posted...

But "just stop drinking" is sage advice.

Where do you expect him to start? He got depressed and started drinking and is asking for help.

The first thing ANYONE is going to tell him to do is stop drinking. He's choosing to drink away the feeling and he has to choose to stop drinking

You're not going to turn anybody around from any self-destructive behavior by telling them "stop doing that self-destructive behavior."

That will almost always reinforce that exact same behavior.

Tell me what creates this desire. Who says what that triggers your actions.

There is so much more at play than what a lot of people actually know.

fenderbender321 posted...

Press against the pressures. Push back. Fight. Be strong. Be tough. Be a warrior. Warrior's are never depressed.

ya know what this is good advice, especially if you have underlying anger issues. Sometimes you just have to fight. Also exercise is good for your mental state too.
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Omnislasher posted...

take up an instrument!

I know how to play a few, actually
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Why in a forum full of pothead gamers do we have people so irrationally triggered by alcohol and/or tobacco use? I though you at least had to be 13 years old to post here.

And that's like Arnold Palmer's half lemonade half tea; half sarcasm half honest inquiry.
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SteelySchuel posted...

You're not going to turn anybody around from any self-destructive behavior by telling them "stop doing that self-destructive behavior."

That will almost always reinforce that exact same behavior.

Tell me what creates this desire. Who says what that triggers your actions.

There is so much more at play than what a lot of people actually know.

He's already identified why he is drinking, he didnt say im an alcoholic. He said he started drinking on friday because he felt depressed.

If he has a history of alcoholism then yes its a different recovery process but he says he just started. So if he's feeling depressed the first thing he has to do is stop drinking
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MrMelodramatic posted...

Omnislasher posted...

take up an instrument!

I know how to play a few, actually

wanna jam

I4NRulez posted...

SteelySchuel posted...

You're not going to turn anybody around from any self-destructive behavior by telling them "stop doing that self-destructive behavior."

That will almost always reinforce that exact same behavior.

Tell me what creates this desire. Who says what that triggers your actions.

There is so much more at play than what a lot of people actually know.

He's already identified why he is drinking, he didnt say im an alcoholic. He said he started drinking on friday because he felt depressed.

If he has a history of alcoholism then yes its a different recovery process but he says he just started. So if he's feeling depressed the first thing he has to do is stop drinking

You definitely have to approach alcoholism and going on a bender differently. I'm pretty much a daily drinker to some amount, but I've never drank non-stop for 4 days to the point of poisoning myself. They are indeed two very different things so their solutions will be different too.
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Zurkon posted...

@tremain07

:D Thank you!

You're welcome, don't let her cute demeanor full you that little ball of fluff's shit is amazingly big for how small she is
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I mean I'm sorry, but what I'm getting from TC's posts is that they have been a long term drinker and shit is hitting them harder than usual. And at a time like that, the last thing you want to hear is "just full on stop X action that gives you release."

As an alcoholic/addict myself, what I crave more than anything is for somebody to just listen to what is causing me to act the way that I do. To offer any more than "well don't do this".

How hard is to inquire as to what put them in that mindset? Into that routine? Who do they have to deal with that they don't know how to deal with?

Maybe I'm wrong because I'm in a vulnerable, set-off mood, but "just stop" or "express yourself to somebody" is the worst advice I have ever been given, given that I have never been offered the time of day to have my problems heard.

Screw them all TC. Drink if you must. I'm drinking myself slowly to death hoping nobody even realizes until it's too damn late.

Balls. I apologize for all of this...

SteelySchuel posted...

I mean I'm sorry, but what I'm getting from TC's posts is that they have been a long term drinker and shit is hitting them harder than usual. And at a time like that, the last thing you want to hear is "just full on stop X action that gives you release."

As an alcoholic/addict myself, what I crave more than anything is for somebody to just listen to what is causing me to act the way that I do. To offer any more than "well don't do this".

How hard is to inquire as to what put them in that mindset? Into that routine? Who do they have to deal with that they don't know how to deal with?

Maybe I'm wrong because I'm in a vulnerable, set-off mood, but "just stop" or "express yourself to somebody" is the worst advice I have ever been given, given that I have never been offered the time of day to have my problems heard.

Screw them all TC. Drink if you must. I'm drinking myself slowly to death hoping nobody even realizes until it's too damn late.

Balls. I apologize for all of this...

Hey man, you made the first step. You realize you have a problem. People are here for you man you just gotta make that step and reach out. Its hard and its going to be hard but it gets easier the longer you do it.

If you havent you should try AA or some type of online support group. Hell man if you wanna make a topic on here i'll jump in and talk with you about it. You're never alone your mind just tricks you into feeling that way
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There isn't always a solution unfortunately

People will tell you to do the right thing and things will get better but they don't always. Life is a lot about luck and it doesn't always end well. But that's hard to understand and accept when you've never been redpilled on how life really sucks.

...I'm assuming you're just starting drinking because nothing else has been working forever. If you'd started drinking first thing when your life started to go bad I'd agree with these guys that you're not helping yourself.

but sometimes you try and try and everything fails until you don't even have the energy to try anymore. Advice will do nothing here.

SteelySchuel posted...

I mean I'm sorry, but what I'm getting from TC's posts is that they have been a long term drinker and shit is hitting them harder than usual. And at a time like that, the last thing you want to hear is "just full on stop X action that gives you release."

As an alcoholic/addict myself, what I crave more than anything is for somebody to just listen to what is causing me to act the way that I do. To offer any more than "well don't do this".

How hard is to inquire as to what put them in that mindset? Into that routine? Who do they have to deal with that they don't know how to deal with?

Maybe I'm wrong because I'm in a vulnerable, set-off mood, but "just stop" or "express yourself to somebody" is the worst advice I have ever been given, given that I have never been offered the time of day to have my problems heard.

Screw them all TC. Drink if you must. I'm drinking myself slowly to death hoping nobody even realizes until it's too damn late.

Balls. I apologize for all of this...

This is the most relatable post in this whole thread.
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