Poll of the Day > Why are so many women so slow to respond to texts?

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Most of them are almost glued to their phones every single day.
Most people have their phones on them at all times and surely they would've noticed if they received a message.

I mean, if I receive a text from someone I try to give a response as quickly as possible as that seems to be most sensible thing to do when someone messages you.

I find it so perplexing that people aren't responding as fast as possible when they get a text.
Are they assholes or something?

Ok I get it. Women tend to get way more texts and shit than men but it still shouldn't literally take hours or even days to send a response.

I almost never get a text or a call and I'd be thrilled to have at least half of the texts and calls my ex got every single day.

Whenever I get a text or someone calls me I'm literally ecstatic.
I get so happy because someone actually thought about me and tried to reach out to me.

Whenever my phone makes a noise, it's literally almost always some spam email/text or fake phone calls, so I'm always caught off-guard when I notice to my surprise that it was an actual person I know who called or texted me.

I feel so pathetic for becoming so excited for something so little as a simple text when many people are literally bombarded by them every single freaking day.

... God I'm so lonely.
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its because they dont like you that way

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FrozenBananas posted...

its because they dont like you that way

This is not true. Even when I was dating or flirting with people who for sure were into me, they'd sometimes take forever to text back. It could be anything from mind games, just being busy, etc...
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They are legitimately busy, "busy", or have like 50 people to text back because girls get flooded with attention

There could be more but the mostly covers it in my experience with dealing with female friends

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If you're not already, I think you should start considering talking with a therapist about this stuff.

Posting generalizations about women here isn't helping you out at all.

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Muscles posted...

They are legitimately busy

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give her something to be mad about shell be in your dms

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They're sharing it with the group chat and laughing at you

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LeetCheet posted...

Most of them are almost glued to their phones every single day.
Most people have their phones on them at all times and surely they would've noticed if they received a message.

This is true. So what does that tell you? When a girl is truly interested, shell respond. Shit, if youre a Chad, a girl will do ANYTHING just about.

LeetCheet posted...

I mean, if I receive a text from someone I try to give a response as quickly as possible as that seems to be most sensible thing to do when someone messages you.

This could be your problem right here. Do me a favor, buddy. From now on I want you to vary the time between when she texts you and you text back. Meaning that sometimes youll wait a couple of hours to responds. Sometimes 30min. Sometimes a day. Sometimes 15min. Make it seem like youre doing more than just sitting around and waiting for her response.

LeetCheet posted...

I feel so pathetic for becoming so excited for something so little as a simple text when many people are literally bombarded by them every single freaking day.

Welcome to manhood in 2021. But the key is NOT to show that youre so happy to get that text. If you make the girl think you have tons of options, even if you dont, youre in.

Options = non-scarcity mindset = relaxed = confidence = attractive to women = free unlimited pussy

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If it happens all the time, shes not into you

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I probably should've mentioned in the OP but the reason I made this topic is because of a female colleague.

I'm not trying to get together with her, I just asked her about this work thing were having tomorrow and if she was attending.

I sent her the text yesterday so I've been waiting for a response for over a day now.
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It's weird that you think everyone needs to instantly reply to you just because they have the ability to. This is a huge issue with having phones on us constantly. It's creates this type of entitled attitude.

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Jen0125 posted...

It's weird that you think everyone needs to instantly reply to you just because they have the ability to. This is a huge issue with having phones on us constantly. It's creates this type of entitled attitude.

This, no one owes you shit. This is a constant theme we keep trying to explain to you, dude.

I remember why I had you blocked now. I couldn't take this constant incel shit.

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Yeah this is weird man.

I don't think it's a "women" thing either lol

You don't know what the other person is doing at the moment. Maybe they're busy, or maybe they just don't feel like replying.

I think you need to chill tc


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It's not women, it's people in general.

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well i need to save my battery for all the other 50 chads who are messaging me at any given moment

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PK_Spam posted...

If it happens all the time, shes not into you

This. Or maybe you're straight up just texting too much and should give this some space. I know I get annoyed when someone texts or calls me a lot

I get a lot of texts that I won't respond to for a while because I'm just relaxing and don't feel like chatting at the moment

I hate rapid back-and-forth texting so I tend to take a while to respond back. It distracts me from watching silly videos on my phone

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Not sure why you specified women, I'm just as susceptible to this as anyone else.

Of course it's not only women who does this but it's something I've noticed that women seem to commonly do.

So you're considered as an incel just because you notice stuff?

And I barely text anyone whatsoever so I doubt I'm being clingy to this one person.
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Maybe people don't reply to your texts because you have little to no social skills

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LeetCheet posted...

So you're considered as an incel just because you notice stuff?

no because of all the posts you make on here

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LeetCheet posted...

I mean, if I receive a text from someone I try to give a response as quickly as possible as that seems to be most sensible thing to do when someone messages you.

Same. I can understand if someone is busy and doesn't respond for a while but most the time it's just ignorance when someone ignores you. Even more so when I see they have read my message.


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Some people have terrible etiquette.

FrozenBananas posted...

its because they dont like you that way

P much this. Not even interested in women and never had this problem. And OP stop with the pity parties. Its why ya have this exact problem ffs. Change your behaviors dont expect others to for ya.

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tldr

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There is always someone who brings up that word in my topics.

Also it literally only takes seconds for a proper response that I'm looking for. A Yes or a no.

A word that has three or less letters shouldn't be too much to ask for.

My ex did the same thing to me when we were together. A couple of hours just to get an "OK" as a response. As annoying as it was to always get an ok back for almost any text I sent her, at least she eventually responded to me.

It's apparently too much to ask for to just be treated as a friend.

And this woman from work, she's very nice towards me but she has too much emotional baggage, I do not even want to be together with her(she has said it herself that we're just friendly colleagues).

I'm so lonely and I'm desperate to have more friends in my life. Even troubled ones that has their own issues.
I was kinda hoping that we could support each other with our own troubled lives.

I want friends but I'm not demanding people to be my friends.
And someone just wanting friends and be treated like one shouldn't be called an incel.

"Oh a guy said something about a woman that wasn't positive? He must be an incel and hate women."

Just because I find some of the women I've met in my life tend to do, in my opinion, questionable things, that doesn't mean I hate women.

I mean, I've said and done some questionable things too.
Like the first girl I've ever tried to get to know better, apparently I was being an asshole for hoping that she treats her future children well and not knowing that she was incapable of having children beforehand.

I mean, I know that could be a sensitive subject but how the fuck am I supposed to know that beforehand when we had barely even gotten to know each other?

So after that catastrophe I learned that it's easiest to just shut the hell up and never say anything to anyone IRL unless someone speaks with you first.

The side effect of that is all my thoughts and things I want to say are constantly taking up more space on my mind and it gets harder for me to focus on other stuff.

It's not healthy to bottle up everything for longer periods of time.
But that's what I learn from people every time I try to talk with them.
I learn that I shouldn't ever complain because when I do, people start to resent me.

Most humans need social interaction with other humans and even if I'm not a very sociable guy that doesn't mean I don't want to be around other people.

I just want to tell someone about my day.

Like if something funny happened at work one day or at the store or whatever.
I want to tell those things to someone but there aren't anyone around that can listen.

This post went on for too long.
Whatever, I don't really expect anyone to read my stupid posts anyway.
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tldr!

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Why would someone be expected to text back right away?

I don't carry my phone with me everywhere, so I typically don't get a text until the evening anyway.

Well, its certainly not because people are busy or anything.

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darcandkharg31 posted...

tldr!

I wonder why someone takes so long to respond to a text and I get told that I'm entitled to expect a response in a somewhat timely manner.

11110111011 posted...

Why would someone be expected to text back right away?

I don't carry my phone with me everywhere, so I typically don't get a text until the evening anyway.

I don't expect anyone to immediately respond to any text because sometimes you simply don't have time at the moment or that you don't notice it right away.

Even if I always seem to find the time to immediately respond to a text(even while I'm working) when I rarely get one.

But you'd think you'd eventually find time to respond after almost 48 hours.

And I've seen this woman at work, she's constantly on her phone. Even when she's supposed to be working.
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LeetCheet posted...

I get told that I'm entitled to expect a response in a somewhat timely manner.

because you are

you are being entitled about that. Whoever you are texting has their own shit to worry about and their world doesnt revolve around you.

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So you wouldn't start wondering why someone isn't responding to your text even after 48 hours?

It's not entitlement to expect common courtesy from someone.
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LeetCheet posted...

So you wouldn't start wondering why someone isn't responding to your text even after 48 hours?

It's not entitlement to expect common courtesy from someone.

nothing to do with common courtesy, if someone doesn't want to talk to you they don't have to, especially when it's a coworker. if anything you're probably creating an uncomfortable situation for her at this point

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11110111011 posted...

Why would someone be expected to text back right away?

I don't carry my phone with me everywhere, so I typically don't get a text until the evening anyway.

Nowadays, quick texts are expected by a lot of people because most people do carry their phones with them and look at them constantly. A lot of people do feel like you're ignoring them if you don't answer with a few hours

AWinterJ posted...

Same. I can understand if someone is busy and doesn't respond for a while but most the time it's just ignorance when someone ignores you. Even more so when I see they have read my message.

That's why I make sure not to open a message when I don't want to respond

LeetCheet posted...

So you wouldn't start wondering why someone isn't responding to your text even after 48 hours?

It's not entitlement to expect common courtesy from someone.

I might wonder but then Id let it go

sometimes people see a text but then something else in life needs their attention, or they dont think its a text that needs a response, or they arent sure what to say to you, or maybe they dont want to talk to you

Any of those things are possible and you could spend all your time being frustrated and obsessing about it or you could let go of it and worry about better things. Because the kind of desperation youre expressing is pretty much universally perceived as undesirable.

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Kanatteru posted...

LeetCheet posted...

So you wouldn't start wondering why someone isn't responding to your text even after 48 hours?

It's not entitlement to expect common courtesy from someone.

nothing to do with common courtesy, if someone doesn't want to talk to you they don't have to, especially when it's a coworker. if anything you're probably creating an uncomfortable situation for her at this point

Yes I'm probably making it uncomfortable for her just asking her if she was gonna attend an annual meeting at work in a few days.
Especially as she's also the safety representative at our workplace as well.

OhhhJa posted...

Nowadays, quick texts are expected by a lot of people because most people do carry their phones with them and look at them constantly. A lot of people do feel like you're ignoring them if you don't answer with a few hours

Exactly. That's why I always try to respond as quickly as possible. To make sure people don't think I'm ignoring them.
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LeetCheet posted...

Yes I'm probably making it uncomfortable for her just asking her if she was gonna attend an annual meeting at work in a few days.
Especially as she's also the safety representative at our workplace as well.

if it's a work-related matter then you could have just asked her in person honestly. if it's as you say and it's a simple yes or no, there was no need for it to be a text. it would just feel weird if someone was texting me about work personally. not everyone is looking for friends at their workplace

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Kanatteru posted...

LeetCheet posted...

Yes I'm probably making it uncomfortable for her just asking her if she was gonna attend an annual meeting at work in a few days.
Especially as she's also the safety representative at our workplace as well.

if it's a work-related matter then you could have just asked her in person honestly. if it's as you say and it's a simple yes or no, there was no need for it to be a text. it would just feel weird if someone was texting me about work personally. not everyone is looking for friends at their workplace

I didn't ask her at work this week because I chickened out and I thought I would just bother her if I walked up to her and started chatting.

I've also been busy at work this week and I stay away from the break room on the breaks because of Covid.

Just because you found it weird that people talk about work with eachother while not currently being at work, that doesn't mean it's weird for everyone.
Not everyone has the same job, y'know. Things differs depending on the place.

Just the other week a Polish coworker sent me a text and wondered where a certain tool was.

It never striked me as weird. In fact, I was just happy that I was able to help him.

Back to my female colleague though, she literally asked two of my other coworkers if they could help her move some furnitures after work this week.
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LeetCheet posted...

Just the other week a Polish coworker sent me a text and wondered where a certain tool was.

lmao

what is this, someone help

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LeetCheet posted...

Back to my female colleague though, she literally asked two of my other coworkers if they could help her move some furnitures after work this week.

So what????

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Why do you even know that? Why are you paying so much attention to this woman's interactions with other people and where she's going to be? That is so creepy.

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LeetCheet posted...

Just because you found it weird that people talk about work with eachother while not currently being at work, that doesn't mean it's weird for everyone.

well it doesn't really seem like it's working out for you either

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Why did you feel the need to let us know the coworker is Polish

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You want to know the truth?

One thing is women, especially college women have lots of guys trying to hit them up all the time

If you had a table full of different dishes and your stomach could only hold one or two you'd go for your favorite ones right?

Well it's the same principle here. Her plate is full, sorry my guy you're not the best dish. She's not interested.

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LeetCheet posted...

So you wouldn't start wondering why someone isn't responding to your text even after 48 hours?

It's not entitlement to expect common courtesy from someone.

Jesus Christ, dude. Shit happens. People forget. Grow up.

Cacciato posted...

Jesus Christ, dude. Shit happens. People forget. Grow up.

Well, even if they don't forget, you're not entitled to a response anyway. If someone isn't responding to you, just move on. Forgetting one message is one thing. But if someone is repeatedly "forgetting" to respond to you, it's because they don't want to and you have to move on

i have like 14 texts that i've gotten from various people that are sitting unread in my messaging app that i just cannot be bothered to spend the effort to look at them

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Mead posted...

Why did you feel the need to let us know the coworker is Polish

Same reason you need to let us know you had Pizza. It's important.

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